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Not that I can really recall, at least regarding my Nstepdad. And whatever "playing" we did was just his idea of fun. Sports of some kind. I hated sports, I still hate them, I've never been an athleti…

The algorithm doesn’t hate you — Started working with a TikTok shop client who thought they were ***shadowbanned*** and we reversed that in 60 days. Views were at less than 200 per video. Sales? Even worse. It dropped from 30k to be…

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…

Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…

Is AI Applicable Everywhere? — Currently working in the tech space for the mining industry. Core product I work on focuses on workflows and tasks for ground and office staff to complete. Such as verifying CAD drawing, sign offs and…

What to do about poor performing team member that isn't contributing? — I've got a very full roadmap and a team member that is openly working on a "skunk works" that provides limited value and is deprecated by the next version of one of our vendors. However this person is…

How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

Physically Reacting to Jealousy — My first post was about my deep attachment to a former friend who cut things off because she is now my employee. I'm actually making a lot of progress with that. Well my stress level is very manageabl…

I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…

DA Downplaying friendship — I have a self-confessed avoidant friend (I am secure). We dated very briefly but ended it because he said he couldn’t do serious relationships and I didn’t want to continue something ambiguous, catch …

how to be "chill" in early stages of dating? — hi everyone! something i struggle with in the early stages of dating is obsessing over/thinking about the other person constantly. i know this is not a healthy habit, but i have trouble getting myself…

Quick question on recorded affirmations vs verbal/mental affirmations — I've been thinking about recording my affirmations and just playing them on loop during alpha state (or using TTS) instead of doing mental or verbal affirmations. When I try to do them myself, I lose …

Avoidant wins! 🎉🎊 — Meant to put this in thr weekly vent but it's kind of late now. It's amazing what consistency of safety can do to your nervous system. So the main reason I have no real friends is because I fear the e…

Has anyone here just gotten back with their ex after seeing what’s out there? Lol — Ok, so, I know there’s a lot of “hey she/he is back what do I do” posts on here. But, I just wanted to field a question about simply getting back with your ex by choice after playing the field in yo…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

I just did something weird before bed and I'm curious if it works — 've tried every habit people recommend for adulting better. Journaling. Meditation. Gratitude lists. Morning pages. I quit all of them within two weeks because they felt like homework. Tonight I trie…

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

I’m the problem. — My husband is perfect; amazing Dad who does half if not more than half of the school runs. He cooks every night, he brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning. He is supportive of my job (I’m C Suite…

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

I manifested a PS5, after a month it met me in the 3D — for the longest I've had the desire for a PS5, and I noticed I wasn't manifested the kind of experiences I wanted, so I had to test my power and test time. About a month ago, I decided to order a blue…

I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …

I manifested a PS5, after a month it met me in the 3D — for the longest I've had the desire for a PS5, and I noticed I wasn't manifested the kind of experiences I wanted, so I had to test my power and test time. About a month ago, I decided to order a blue…

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

Song banned from Casinos cause 'it makes you win more' — There's a song trending back on TikTok videos and people claim Ring My Bell by Anita Ward is banned in casinos because the frequencies supposedly make slot machines pay out more the story going aroun…

Become Indifferent Neville says. But it's easier said than done. My Tips. — If you want to be in charge of your creations you have to become indifferent to your own reactions. And it sounds easy until someone triggers the bejeezus out of you. Politics, your mother in law, pe…

Does anyone else just not tell their mother anything — I have too much trauma to write here but in short I stopped telling my mum anything from about the age of 16 (now 31) because I learnt the hard way that anytime I was brave enough to share my true tho…

Friend said something that shocked me and explained everything... — Edit: added an extra story to the bottom since this post seemed to resonate with people so much. Be strong folks, you're no one's NPC. You can go back and find a lot of my story on my page, but essen…

How do you stop your brain from replaying the same relationship memories? — A year after a breakup I still catch my mind replaying certain moments over and over. Things like: * conversations * the breakup night * comparing myself to the person she’s with now Logically I kn…

Getting married soon help me pls — We met in high school and I have spent my entire adult life loving her. I’ve (30m) moved across the country for her (28f) career 4 times, leaving all my friends and family behind. I’ve worked 60-70 ho…

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

how do I stop being codependent with my bestfriend? — I think I might be dealing with codependency and I want to work on it before it damages my friendship. I have a bestfriend who I’m extremely close with. We’ve built a really deep emotional bond and …

A simple 3-minute journaling method that helped me reduce overthinking at night — I used to struggle a lot with overthinking, especially at night. My mind would keep replaying conversations, worrying about tomorrow, or thinking about things I couldn’t control. I tried different thi…

I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…

I feel it is very hard to make "permanent" progress, like this is a mind virus that keeps coming back — I'm 39M. I met my partner when I was 36. Dated for 2 years, now we have lived together for 1 year. I've made progress over these 3 years but I feel like it's very easy to "reset" and get back down int…

Something I noticed after my breakup that nobody warned me about — Something I didn’t expect after a bad breakup was how confusing the memories become. When you're in a relationship, certain moments feel clearly wrong! But after it ended, my brain started replaying…

I think I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend — I’m 21 F and my boyfriend is 23 M, we’ve been together for three and a half years. Hoping to get some advice, but I know it’s a really complicated situation, I just don’t know how to wrap my head arou…

Something surprising happened when I stopped trying to be productive all the time — For years I thought the key to improving my focus was becoming more disciplined. Better routines. More productivity systems. Trying harder. But recently I noticed something strange. The moments…

Beware of taking back the ex that broke up with you and wanted to rekindle with you — Let this be your testimony that you are much better without them. My ex of 7 years and I rekindled after a couple months of no contact. She broke up with me cause she said she relied on me too much an…

Related advice from Alan Watts — In this short talk, I learned a lot. Mainly regarding one of my frustrations with trying to " achieve focus 12" he discusses how meditation is not meant to be goal driven. He relates it to music when …

I wanted to be recognized as an artist — (Non native English speaker, sorry for mistakes) I had 1 dream. Im an artist, i do art. Ok, this is ego talking, but anyway, art is all I do Since i’m a Little girl. I’ve been told I was good at it, …

How do I tell my boyfriend he is wasting my time? — I, 21F have been dating my boyfriend, 24M for almost 3 years now. Recently more than ever it seems as though he never wants to do things I want to do... like, not even consider it. We always end up pl…

Ex confronted me, then broke down. — About a month ago, my ex broke up with me because she said she was "confused." I immediately went No Contact. didn’t beg, didn’t text, just started focusing on myself and moving on. Last night, we bo…

(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …

Husband suddenly wants to end our marriage and says it’s because of sex. We have a toddler. I also discovered he’s been dishonest about where he’s been. Looking for perspective. — I’m 39F and my husband (34M) and I have been married a little over 3 years. We have a toddler (2). Recently, completely out of nowhere, he told me he thinks we’re “not compatible” and started talking…

Don’t know what jusr happened — So I just had a lucid dream and in the lucid dream I thought (for some reason) that I will astral project if I go to sleep in the lucid dream. So in the dream I went to my bed and let me tell you, th…

Some recent examples of my manifestations. Very convincing for skeptics. — Ever since I learnt about manifesting, which has been only few months, I manifest every single day, so much that I dont even keep track of it, and no its not some god mode, I manifest cryptic shit mos…

All (That I Can Think Of) Asian Performers Currently Playing A Principal Role In a Broadway Musical! — Nathan Levy, Francois du Bois, “&Juliet,” Filipino 🇵🇭 Sonya Balsara, Jasmine, “Aladdin,” Indian 🇮🇳 Hannah Cruz, Svetlana, “Chess,” Filipina 🇵🇭 Shea Renne, Fate 1, “Hadestown,” Filipina 🇵🇭 …

Went to my first party sober last night — Quit flower months ago but recently decided to give alcohol a break as well because I get so anxious the next day and feel like garbage. I also make terrible decisions while drunk. Drank a few NA beer…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

I would agree as well. But sometimes they try to keep you as a backup option by being hot and cold. They are playing with you, while they may not even realize it, but you are getting false hope. Espec…

Thank you I am sorry for you as well. It makes you feel as though our whole relationship was a lie and he was just playing pretend to look good for his family.

Shut up ew that's so loser energy. He needs to get over his loser ex, idc if he's a man, he needs to get out there, because his pathetic ex loves playing head games with him. Stop discouraging ppl fro…

Daydreaming can give result, but rarely. And most of the times wether you THINK it during or not, you know it's just bullshit playing out and or wishful thinking. Your subconconcious knows. It always …

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

Work - it was my first mission. Daily routine as in the index, in three months I missed maybe 3-4 days due to travel. The result - work in a profession for which I had no qualifications.  On the oth…

I’m not playing the “Oh yeah, you’re a fan? Name five of their songs, then” game. As adults, we know when we’re taking responsibility and doing the work, and when we’re not. I don’t have to prove an…

I don't think it's hate, it's just a 'ok that's done now' door close moved on. Heidi Priebe on YT (video: avoidant blindspot) talks about the idea in her videos about avoidant behavior of having the …

Agreed. I also dated a guy like this and things got progressively worse and worse- no amount of ‘*understanding*’ would have fixed it because ultimately he wasn’t fit to be in a relationship. On refle…

- criticism, being called out - playing on their individual insecurities, but that’s literally anyone in the world. A lot of the times is them getting discarded the same way they would do to someone …

I think it comes down to when those comments are brought up. If someone is assessing you this way without a conflict thats really cruel. I feel on reddit it appears only in connection with a breakup …

>wanted to stay casual  Idk what that means, exactly. Dating someone... but not really ? The specific rules or the framework of this concept are unclear because "casual" can mean anything, including:…

I'm a neuroscientist and I know a conditioned puppy when I see one. I will continue to meet what I sense being 110% wrapped up in classical conditioning and subjective emotions with 110% mental clar…

Tbh I look for someone who is able to understand my POV when I tell a story, means show empathy not dismissing/judging, someone who is able to reassure me when I have my doubts, someone who doesnt tre…

That's playing therapist. Insecure people need to communicate when they’re struggling.

I’m not down playing what you are saying. I’m saying it’s more nuanced than reducing people’s behaviour solely to their attachment style which varies according to relationship.

>Whatever the actual proportion is, I bet there is definitely a rise in non-secure attachment overall.  Yeah, agreed. People keep citing these dated and dubious "statistics" that 50% of the populati…

Getting to know each other before brining up more serious matters isn't playing cool. So what if she wants kids too if she won't like for example how you dress or your lack of tact. There's time and p…

You claimed that the most toxic things APs do is “have too much empathy,” which amusingly points to one of the primary hurdles APs have to overcome in order to heal.  I claim that the most toxic shit …

she seems like she’s playing games.

On our date I was getting the vibe she was nervous around me and our goals seemed to line up. Also not really threatened by the friend. It seemed like he has poor Soical skill I was more worried abou…

I’m giving her the benefit of doubt because I’ve jump to conclusions in the past, and the guy was some socially awkward tech nerd. I was more concerned about her playing games than the possibility she…

My ex came back 4 times in 2 years. Every time the cycles were the same but condensed, like at first it was long nights of processing our breakup over text and finally meeting up and saying I love yo…

My first question is, are you really satisfied with the fact you’ve been dating her for 6 months and still aren’t her official boyfriend? And now she wants time apart? This is playing right into the a…

No, it’s not normal to ask for that much space. The idea that dismissive avoidants “need space” gets thrown around a lot, but here’s the truth: that need for space usually comes from emotional overwhe…

This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…

I became quick best friends with an avoidant attachment; and she cut me off one day. No fight. Nothing. Just a straight up don’t want to be friends anymore, have a nice life. She never reached out aga…

I just broke up with an FA 3 weeks ago. After 4 years of a hard pattern playing on repeat. The only difference is improvements were being made but mostly because I was working really hard to heal my o…

Yikes I definitely understand. Also pretty similar to me. Mine wouldn't really 'blow up' but would just let it leak out as resentment during a fight. When I tried to ask him to lean in and share the t…

This was such a thoughtful reply that helped me so much - thank you! I think an important piece of what you said is ruminating, I feel like I’m playing everything back in my mind of when and how the…

I've been on the other end of this.. the push and pull was exactly my ex-girlfriend.. thank you for explaining your side. It's like you're speaking for her. She will never admit any of that in the day…

This is a great question. I was in therapy for 10 years and also went to countless coaches and therapists. There are a handful of things that actually helped me significantly: 1. Creating deep, meani…

Yes that could be a good interpretation of it! It could also be that maybe this woman in the example had a good story about relationships in general but just not her current partner for whatever reaso…

He might be regretting it? [Disclaimer: I’m not at all an expert this is all just my opinion and experience as a former anxious] In my experience, avoidants work in the formula of “feelings minus fe…

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

I would like to share my story too. An FA myself, I got into a relationship 4 years ago, and that too with an anxious type. I got highly triggered by her needy behaviour and fear of abanoment. She wou…

I think you need to do the work to dig into the root of why you would even want to go back to someone that treats you like that. How does that not turn you off to that person? Is your self worth that …

Already started therapy a couple weeks after breakup.  As far as engagement I thought that's what she may have wanted...I think she did in the moment, but it triggered something in her.  I was there f…

I definitely suffer from the two questions you asked. And yeah, I think I tend to ignore all the other obvious ways that points to a person caring about me and cherishing me in their life just becau…

What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…

28M and I’ve dated a decent number of women over the last 10 years. I’ve noticed a pattern that always seems to repeat itself. When I meet someone I’m attracted to but not *that* into at first, I sta…

I'm struggling with what is realistic to ask/expect regarding texting. I spent the entire weekend with my boyfriend, he left for work this morning and we texted throughout the day while he was at work…

I totally get what you mean, like when we’re anxiously attached, it often feels like our whole sense of self depends on the other person’s attention. Being aware of it is already a huge first step, …

Lol! That's a great example, thanks for sharing. There are times where I wish he was around more for quality time, like when he's busy/traveling for work/helping fix his mom's house/playing golf and …

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

You are abandoning yourself in this relationship and the longer you keep doing that, the more this will keep happening. There is a very limited way to feel connected to someone long distance. The more…

I wouldn’t send it. If you’re anything like me it will send you into an anxious shame spiral of overthinking, fretting, and self-doubt. If you’re in the midst of a breakup with some other avoidant the…

I feel that this is a good sign! I see it that way too - behind the dismissive walls sits an anxious little kid who's been trapped for a long time and gone a bit feral. Once we let that kid out, we …

this. how many times are you going to let this man tell you he's just playing?