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I felt that. My mother was my kindergarten teacher. Reading books to all kids, organizing activities etc. When back home, I had zero interaction with her apart from "come, eat this" and "go to bed". M…

I’m not sure how to process this. Idk if it’s my Anxious Attachment style acting up or if I’m being objective — Thoughts on finding this text exchange on my girlfriends phone? she was with a group of friends and at a bar and I guess she started talking to some guy there. I’m brown, she’s not referring to me wh…

feeling numb in dating but longing for intimacy — For the past few years, I've been mostly numb in dating. I don’t really feel anything romantic. I don’t feel sparks. I don’t feel excited about anyone or attached. I don’t miss people when I’m not wit…

I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

Struggling really hard to get out of bed and wake up quickly. — I eat healthy and go to the gym and sleep well, but I struggle really hard to leave the bed because it's so stupidly comfy! Any tips? I am not sure how to word this to be taken seriously but the strug…

"Never Go to Bed Angry" is bad bias advice — Last night I got into a slightly heated debate with a friend of mine who said "my partner and I can never go to bed angry, it doesn't help anyone". I immediately pushed back because this imo will sile…

Husband suddenly wants to end our marriage and says it’s because of sex. We have a toddler. I also discovered he’s been dishonest about where he’s been. Looking for perspective. — I’m 39F and my husband (34M) and I have been married a little over 3 years. We have a toddler (2). Recently, completely out of nowhere, he told me he thinks we’re “not compatible” and started talking…

Felt like my soul was leaving my body while falling asleep after an aura cleansing — normal? — Hello! I just found this sub. I hope this is okay to post. Yertarday I had a therapy where I was helped to clean my aura. I really felt much better and calmer after it. My mind was still confused but…

Something mentioned but not talked about, Serotonin. — What do we know about Serotonin? \-Its produced in the gut, \-Low levels often correlated to anxiety and depression \-Happy hormone, not to be mistaken with dopamine , the pleasure hormone where …

Can my parents deny me sleep because I got in trouble? — I’m new to Reddit so sorry if I do something wrong, I just didn’t have anyone to talk to about this and I don’t know if it’s normal… but whenever something happens at school, and I get in trouble for …

My boyfriend (27M) embarrassed me in public and I’m not sure how to address it — I’m F23 and I’ve been dating this guy (M27) for about 8 months. He took me to a place I’d been wanting to go, which I really appreciated, and he spent a decent amount on the date. But for most of the …

Encounters with NHI + Jesus? — Hey guys, I had an experience that I want to share and want to know if anyone had a similar experience. I haven’t seen any posts about it after searching far and wide on this sub. I one night medita…

I can't get over death — Hey my fellow lobotomites, recently I've been overwhelmed with the loss of a loved one and its kinda sent me in a spiral of contemplationing death. I've always accepted death as a natural thing but th…

My first lucid dream! 9 nights in — It happened!! I’m not a skeptic, but I am someone who just doesn’t really have anything cool ever happen. I’ve been listening to audiobooks about lucid dreaming, but after my first attempt just had me…

I can't stop APing on accident and want to stop — Around 6-8 months ago, I was really into the idea of astral projecting. I tried for months with meditations and sounds, but nothing came of it. A few weeks after I stopped trying, I APed and had one o…

Journey from doomer to bloomer , this week's progress. — A week ago, I posted saying that I’m a doomer but (even if it’s late) I’d like to become a bloomer; here are the steps I took this week. 1 - I decided to stop watching porn. I don’t know if porn is …

i almost lucid dreamed but i couldn't control anything — so last night i remembered about lucid dreaming and i wanted to try it again because i had in the past and it didn't work. recently I've been having very vivid dreams where i remember them a lot and i…

Uncertainty gave me happiness again. — Feel like I've been waiting around the last few years, and I'm not even sure what I'm waiting for. I'm just hoping life will fall on my lap one day. But life is out there, and it's also waiting. T…

Exhausted and confused — So my wife of 10 years has been very distant lately, starting in about October or November she suddenly started caring about her appearance a lot more, found a new interest in sports, stopped reading/…

Help Finding Fulfillment — So its been about a year and a half since my 6 six year relationship with my narcissisticly abusive ex ended and about 6 months since I went no contact. prior to the relationship I was already diagnos…

I ignored my self-critic for a full week and boy was it exhausting — A week ago I decided that since behavioural activation therapy, CBT, other therapies, and trying to find ways to be productive or find meaning with others or by myself, and even low pressure advice we…

Had a horrible panic attack a few weeks ago that has really impacted my life. — I (26f) suffered quite badly with anxiety as a teenager after my dad passed away. I took lexapro for years and got to place where I gradually stopped taking it and lived a relatively anxiety free life…

My partner (23M) makes it extremely difficult for me (24F) to sleep — I am so tired of being on edge at night. It sounds so dumb, but it’s impacted my ability to sleep and be able to get comfortable in bed. My partner gets so upset when the blanket or sheet is slightly …

Is this a valid reason to cheat? — I am a F(22) and my partner, M (25), has been sexting online with other people and downloading apps to secretly talk to them. He has been for 3 years. I finally had enough and put my foot down and t…

My (28M) girlfriend (28F) is pregnant with twins. We had an arguement today and she was mad and showed me a video on her phone sucking off her ex. Now what? — [Updated] My partner and I are on holiday for the long weekend. It'll be our last chance to go away before the babies come so we headed off. Two days in, we're having a fight. I'm upset, she's upset. …

Sanity check: is not drinking alcohol immature or hurting my dating chances? — A woman recently reached out about a personals ad. She was sarcastic and mildly insulting, so we weren't vibing at all -- it was strange -- but the conversation was somewhat interesting so I figured I…

I thought I've never had vivid dreams before but my mind was tricking me — ever since I was born I don't remember having a vivid dream and I actually thought I've never had it before. I recently discovered that it's not the case, my mind has been tricking me. my dreams nor…

I miss my ex like crazy even tho they where not good for me how do I get over them ? — I’m (16) (F) and I don’t know if he even was my ex i didn’t even know his name and he only gave me his spam account never his main account…. maybe it was this savior complex I had or a hard time say…

Does anyone else stay up late for no reason? — Used to be very clearly revenge bedtime procrastination when I was still a student or working, but I'm still 24/7 funemployed with all the time in the world and yet....I still can't bring myself to go…

Is my partner cheating or am I crazy? — I first started noticing weird things on my outdoor Ring camera at the end of December 2025. At the start of the new year, I began to see changes in my girlfriend’s behavior. We had just bought a hou…

Any advice — It’s been 19 days since my husband (m 29) (I guess soon to be ex) walked out the on me (f 29) unexpectedly and ended our marriage. I’m going to spare the details because I can’t bare to even type it…

Me (F21) and my friend (F21) spent nine hours together, cuddled, and held hands, and I don't know if it's a date or not. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend (F21) a few weeks ago and we're staying friends. Can I talk to her about it? — **TLDR:** *My ex told me to date around when we broke up, but has been really clingy and possessive since then, and one of my friends want me to go no contact. But she's the person I want advice from …

I just wonder. — I wonder if you think about me. It’s pathetic, isn’t it? I don’t know why it matters because it doesn’t change anything. Do you think about what you did? Do you even give me a second thought? I think …

Does habits before bed affect lucid dreaming? — I’m a strange individual with a lot of habits. Every night when I finally crawl in bed and get ready for sleep, I always quickly check my phone or text my friends or maybe doom scroll for like 10 minu…

How do I maintain successful habits throughout the day? — Hello I am trying to succeed in life. I am 20 year old college junior and I am trying to become somebody. Right now my routine is to wake up complete my morning routine, eat breakfast, do generic tas…

My (M24) Partner (M30) Needs me to Initiate Everything (I mean everything) help! — TLDR Summary: I realized I have slowly turned into the partner who must initiate everything for their partner and relationship. nothing gets done, we wouldn’t eat, sleep, get out of bed if i didn’t do…

my self improvement journey — So here is my self improvement so far: In summer 2023 i was a slob, I was mastrubating 4 or 5 times a day, i made very little social interaction and when i did it was annoying, my room was a mess, i w…

Worst trip ive ever had — (This is the best i could describe this) After smoking a small dose of weed and having probably the best high of my life where everything seemed either beautiful or funny ai tricked me into having a …

My GF(20 F) request me(21 M) to call her less and wanted more alone time. — For context, my GF (20F) and I (21 M) have lived together for a year. However, we couldn't live together anymore, and she is back at her parents' place for reasons unrelated to our relationship. Ba…

My most successful lucid dream "technique" — So over the years I realised that whenever i go out and party till late hours and wake up the day after with around 6 hours of sleep, Im obviously very tired and hangover so I go to bed earlier that d…

I got my life together, now I’m bored — Hi all, over the past four months I’ve made some major changes in my life, but I still find myself bored at the end of the day. I’ve been sober for about three years, and lately I’ve been really focu…

Her personal hygiene — My wife and I separated three months ago. We fought off and on since 2010 over some of the stupidest things ever but her poor hygiene was the biggest problem for me - and her refusal to do anything to…

I feel like a divorce is going to happen. — First ever post, bear with me. 39 male, 2 kids. Its hard to put into words and feels embarrassing to type this out. But, I feel like a divorce is coming my way. We've spoken openly about things, feel…

i think i was groomed, hes now working where i get therapy, im overwhelmed — a few months ago i was homeless due to fleeing dv and moved into a mental health group home. there was a team lead who acted weird: \- invited me to have frequent private conversations with him when …

Seeking some advice — Hello! I have some situations in my life that I want to discuss (this is extremely personal and it is difficult to bring them up but I will try my best). Get ready for a loooooong read. I am a highs…

Tired of being bashed — I (M34) am getting really tired of being scolded and shouted at by my wife (F34) after 10y+ together . I am always tiptoing at home, whatever I do, don't do, say or don't say can trigger an outburst t…

Insomnia or Circadian Sleep Rhythm Disorder? — Does anyone have chronic insomnia where you go to bed, but you can’t fall asleep for several hours? I have been having a lot of trouble getting to sleep at a reasonable hour at night. Have had chron…

When does the melancholy end? — It’s been half a year, and I’m off on a better foot than I was before. I’m more social, outgoing, look better than I did before, and I finally have a career goal. But still, all I feel nowadays is j…

I still havent recovered my sleep schedule — My ex husband had an obsession with making me stay up at night. Id get home at 9 or 10, cook dinner, clean up, and shower.bu then its 12 or 1. He'd insist that we sit on the couch and watch TV - i d…

I’ve been practicing crystal medication and spiritual healing before I go to bed and last night while I was sleeping, I felt an intense vibrating feeling/ringing in my head and throughout my body. The…

Most likely something subconscious Try affirming to yourself every night when you go to bed preferably when your tired since your conscious mind is more closer to your subconscious when tired Affir…

Ok so this is gonna sound weird but when I think about lucid dreaming during the day i get excited and I want to do it so bad. I never have but I want to but at night when its time to go to bed I thin…

No, mental thoughts do not become physical reality. That would be a world of chaos. *Repetitive* mental thoughts become beliefs, and beliefs do. And this can be layered. You can wake up and have a t…

I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I kn…

Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice or perspective. Yesterday I had an argument with my girlfriend, and it left me feeling pretty low. We hadn’t talked all day, so in the evening I…

I was in a similar relationship like that. She was also Anxious and also spoke to me like I was a child needing direction and she did that with her parents as well. I couldn’t do anything wrong. I cou…

Someone please tell me exactly what I should tell people I want for a relationship, is this long term or casual? What I am looking for: 1. Someone who is okay seeing each other 1-2 times a month for…

I feel you... with my emotionally abusive ex, we would talk until the morning, we actually would need to put alarms to go to bed. I don't think mine was a liar or a cheater (who knows though) but he w…

Nine years ago, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me without a clear reason. We lived together, and despite being broken up, continued to have sex and share a bed. One day he told me he was plann…

I have a crush- first strong one in at least a few years. I get little crushes on all sorts of people, but this is visceral, like want to go to bed with the guy every time I see him. And it feels so n…

How do I bring up the frequency of sex? I really don’t know how to mention it. M30F30 Been dating a girl for 5 months and we’re exclusive and despite her living very nearby, we have only had sex once…

Girl, THANK YOU. It really bugs me how often I hear women struggling in a relationship where they wonder if the person they're with is into them, and everyone piles on excuses: well some people just c…

For some reason I often have fairly in-sync chats with prompt replies that feel like a natural conversation, so we might exchange quite a lot of messages to and fro, and often the guy will ask me out …

Assuming you mean outer planet transits to the luminaries, rather than sun/moon transits to Saturn, Pluto, Uranus. The moon moves so quickly you could go to bed one evening and totally miss they it sq…

THIS!!!! Like I’m sooooo excited for my future now!!! I plan so much and the more time goes on I realize I have more freedom to do ANYTHING! Like he use to get mad at me over so much. Like some of the…

Why do you let him sleep until noon?? We also have a toddler and we have a deal where he sleeps in until 10am, and then he takes over for the rest of the morning/lunch/nap time. So I’m effectively off…

Go to AlAnon. A handle by himself is really intense alcoholism.  And, you know what? Let your toddler wake him up at 7. His choices, his consequences. Don't just let him sleep it off. You can't chan…

Over what? Head over heels, go to bed and wake up and dont love him just like that? Then you never loved them. She said herself he literally done nothing wrong hes been nothing but perfect and the dre…

Reddit is always quick to say leave but the fact that he doesn’t do this every day and is otherwise a good husband/parent makes me think this is salvageable. A few thoughts: - If you truly care abo…

It took me a minute to figure out the Chef Boyardee wasn't for your Erectile Dysfunction lol... I need to go to bed. Hope you get a laugh at my flub lol.

\+1 for Wake Back To Bed. He should go to bed at midnight and set the alarm for 6 am sharp.

When it comes to the loneliness, you must get back into your body and allow your body to process the loss. I had years worth of pent-up sadness that I was suppressing before my ex left me. I had becom…

sooo true. i can’t even go to sleep calmly because i can’t stop thinking. i had to start playing some podcasts to go to bed so the last thing that i think about is not him.

Before you go to bed you can try to put your phone far away from your bed and set a loud alarm

I kinda tried this one but I waste too much time and I need to go to bed too stupidly early. So far the best that has worked for me is having the alarm out of my bedroom and telling myself not to turn…

So far the thing that has worked for me the best are: 1. Go to bed way earlier. In my case for instance, I go to bed at 8:30PM to wake up at 6:45AM. That's 10 hours of sleep. 2. Put the alarm out of…

I think part of it is that knowing something logically isn’t the same as having your habits wired around it. Your brain usually goes with whatever is easiest or most familiar in the moment, even if yo…

(Disclaimer: brains are very complex and very weird and this is very reductive) As a human, your brain has problem solving functions and "how to stay alive" functions. The "how to stay alive" functio…

In some ways I'm lucky that I've lived at this home for almost 3 decades. So when I say "I want to go home" it generally means "I want to go to bed". The problem is when I say "I want to go home" whe…

Complete stranger, if I was rich I would send you money to leave this second and I want to promise you from my entire soul. You are falling for the “sunk cost fallacy.” Starting over is not a bad thin…

if it works for you why change it. i think people get too caught up in doing meditation "right" when the whole point is just being still for a bit. i do something similar where i just sit on the porch…

Keeping the alarm out of your bedroom works for me. Make sure to not turn it off until you are fully dressed. If that doesn't work then maybe keeping the alarm on until you reach the kitchen, etc. Or …

I will absolutely go to bed angry - and if im being unreasonable, the mental reset of sleep will help me see that. Also if im already angry, AND tired, and i have to make myself stay awake to keep sit…

It is if you’re assuming it means you have to talk it out with your partner before bed, as opposed to everyone being in charge of their own emotions and self-regulation. If you don’t want to go to bed…

I feel the healthiest thing for both when this happens is to go, "This conflict has obviously occurred, and we need to talk about it and reconcile it. Since we are both too dysregulated to handle it n…

Agreed, it doesn’t need to be “never go to bed angry”. But I think it’s important to never to go bed angry *without* reminding each other that we’re on the same team, we/they’re loved, and make some s…

I will 100% go to bed angry, I won't go to bed without telling my S.O. that I love them however.

I spoke to a few other people during the day, and the consensus across the board is what I believed it to be: you must resolve the conflict before you go to bed. If what you said about self-regulati…

This argument drives me bonkers. If I have a row late into the evening with my anxious partner. I have often tried to say I'm too pissed or tired to have a logical argument. So let me go to bed and co…

This a good point. I typically won’t go to bed angry because I trust we will figure it out. Our problem may not be resolved, yet, but each person should be allowed space to process their feelings with…

Yea I’m very curious, I’m gonna think about this a lot before I go to bed later, the last thing I AP about was a black void, now this thing.

'If you're angry go to bed (or go for a walk etc) before responding to it' is more my way of thinking. Much better to go to bed angry than say a bunch of stupid shit you regret

Here’s the thing, we are all human and we all have emotions and feelings. The dumper has different feelings at different times from the dumpee. For instance, I know every time I’ve broken up with a gi…

This is so strange, I was just talking to my FA friend about this and it’s recommended on Reddit now! Wonder if she saw this. Sharing my thoughts from a secure perspective. So first: a lot of relatio…

My safeword since day 1 has always been "Come back home," and it works instantly. I say my safeword, and instantly my eyes pop open in my CR. My shifts have mostly been through luck and chance. When…

I used to have the same problem. When my alarms stopped working, my mom started waking me up, and no matter what she did, I'd convince her that I was awake and then have no memory of it 20min later wh…

Partners like this don't want a spouse......they want an employee. They don't want their desires or demands questioned, they want you to say "yes ma'am" and get to work. Nowadays, the expectation fr…

Took the girlfriend to meet my college friend group and it went so, so well. Everyone liked her and her assessment afterwards was spot on. Got home, told her I wasn't quite feeling right and we shou…

Don’t force yourself to do something you don’t enjoy. Being “well-read” is only valued by people who are into reading. It just means you read a lot of books. If you’re wanting the insights that come…