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What is the one comment that you’ll never forget?

"I should stop talking to you" at the slightest inconvenience if we start to disagree. I'm so sick of it. I tried to grant her wish after she immediately started shit talking my sister when we got dro…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
Im having a hard time fitting in and understanding Chinese culture. Can someone help me understand it better. Cooking related

Im having a hard time fitting in and understanding Chinese culture. Can someone help me understand it better. Cooking related — Hey, what's up. I'm Blasian. Black and Chinese. My Chinese half refuses to teach me about China. We have an unspoken rule in my family that if you want to learn about Grandma, you don't ask Grandma b…

r/AsianAmericanpost3/30/2026
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment

I don't know, I suspect that this is a new model for peer-to-peer support for anxious attachment. If you are interested in starting a group like the one I started, I'd be happy to help you out. It's n…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 04, 2026

I don't know how it is for others, so speaking strictly for myself here: that long wait time without any texts reeks of bad manners to me. I have a date scheduled for this Saturday that I planned last…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/4/2026
Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity?

It's not that hard lend an ear and say, "I hear you, and that sounds hard. Sorry you are going through such difficult times." That's basic co-regulation, anyone can do it. People with supposed health…

r/CPTSDcomment3/10/2026
"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself.

This made me laugh out loud because it is so incredibly accurate. "I handle things on my own, it's not that hard." Yeah, ok. I have a friend who always claimed she did everything, that her spouse nev…

r/CPTSDcomment3/15/2026
Out of curiosity, do your parents even fit the "demanding in-law" stereotype?"

You're right, and because you're right, that easily make AM one of the best dating partners in US dating market, white men know it too, but they do not want you to be the top choice over them, so they…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/20/2026
​Husband (46M) keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my (46F) stuff--what tactic or wording can I use to stop it?

I whined about my MIL in another thread where someone was asking for rude things people do in your home. Like, it is hard to explain, and I know I come off as naive and excessively forgiving, bu…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
Jim Caviezel adopted three children from China and described his first son as “a Chinaman”

>They create significant markets for children In the post-Epstein files world coupled with the history of westerner's love of destabilizing countries it's not that hard to read between the lines anym…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/24/2026
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

You'll be fat as a house. Starving yourself won't get you any sympathy. You don't know anything about me The world doesn't revolve around you Doing .... for attention I'm going to kill myself be…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 24, 2026

By eating a whole lot of food while I'm at the event 😎 Opening day for your baseball team is a great time to indulge haha. It's not that hard if you're at a sporting event even if you' feel like Sh…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/24/2026
My question

All of my shifting has been done through desire. I always remember who I am, and who I'm going to be. How do I know where to shift if I don't know who I am? How do I know where to go if I forget my …

r/realityshiftingcomment4/4/2026
My fiancé (38M) and my (33F) different mental states when we wake up is causing friction?

This, and if someone cheerfully wishes me good morning, I get pissed because it's morning and I hate mornings and this person is reminding me it's morning and they have a great morning and I do not. I…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
It's really hard to come back to the present when things feel uncertain

Is your present truly just immediate present or does your present mean thoughts (meaning collection of things that are going on in the world around you and your inner dialogue and feelings about that)…

r/Meditationcomment4/6/2026
I (24F) tried ending things with my abusive boyfriend (25M), and I’m really struggling not to go back. Update from previous post.

One of the positives of a relationship that only lasted a few months is that it's not that hard to remember back to how you were before you started dating that person. Maybe try to be realistic about …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Been there. First thing is to probably stop doing drugs. Good luck with that one. Replace it with another addiction. I got really into working out. It's not that hard, learn to love the pain, wire you…

r/Psychonautcomment4/9/2026
Phone numbers on the apps

I do the same thing, usually just after a day or maybe two, but immediately continue the conversation in the app so there's no pressure to switch things up. Some gals have taken me up on it, some hav…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/10/2026
How do I (37F) contribute to household with wealthy partner (41M)

If you really want this life it's not that hard to pursue it. You're also making yourself vulnerable though. There's a reason lots of moms warn their daughters to get their own careers OP has a job a…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/13/2026