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Has anyone out there ever had someone who is emotionally unavailable become available? I can't quite tell with my current guy. He makes effort in various ways but has said what he wants is "complicate…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

What’s one cloud concept that took you way longer to understand than expected? — For me, it was IAM on AWS. At first, it seemed simple—just give users permissions, right? But once I got into roles, policies, trust relationships, and least privilege... it felt like falling down a r…

For those of you that run an ecommerce business from home, which insurance company do you use for your Home and Auto? — I had some issues with getting home insurance just because my business is located at my home. Additionally, I'm an Uber driver and that needs to be on there as well. For some reason this complicated…

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Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …

Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…

FA trying to be more secure, need some insigh on relationship to have "fresh eyes" on it and not just my insecure one — Hi, So, I'm FA and my partner is secure. We're living together and are together for 9month now, it's going good and we're doing our best in the healthiest way to navigate the complicated stuff (I hav…

I despise myself for having avoidant tendencies. — I'm dating someone right now, and things are actually going well. She moves a bit slower than I'm used to, but that's probably a good thing—my last relationship moved way too fast; we slept together …

how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person? — tl;dr how to keep a connection going with a secure potential love interest who likes to be alone when you’re anxious-preoccupied af 😭 i’m a lifelong anxious-preoccupied and through years of Doing Th…

A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…

Tired of my own inability to connect — I try my best, but even my best really isn’t that much connection. Sometimes I wonder if my childhood and young adult experiences permanently destroyed my ability make attachments at all, let alone h…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

Are these early signs of narcissism? — So I met this guy on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. We do know some random people in common. Here are the signs that I find strange: \- He’s absolutely grandiose - have a ton of projects, ideas, storie…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…

6 month mark, can't progress further right now, but pausing feels shitty too. Leave? — In September, I cautiously decided to start seeing the father of my daughter's best friend. It's been really great, and has helped me work through a lot of emotional stuff including heavy grief. Aft…

I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…

I think I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend — I’m 21 F and my boyfriend is 23 M, we’ve been together for three and a half years. Hoping to get some advice, but I know it’s a really complicated situation, I just don’t know how to wrap my head arou…

my "method" to manifest everything — I got into manifestation back in 2025. I studied a lot of techniques, rules, and read so many books about the law of attraction and all that stuff. And honestly? I heard millions of rules about manife…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

Struggling with Chinese In Laws — Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective or advice because I feel pretty overwhelmed. I recently moved to China with my husband (he’s Chinese), and we’ve only been here for about a month. His pa…

How I slowly got my mental clarity back after months of brain fog — A few months ago my mind suddenly didn’t feel like itself anymore. I was rereading sentences, forgetting simple words, and struggling to concentrate. What confused me most was that everything medicall…

Need Help - Sick — Hi everyone! I’m brand new to r/energy\_work but am so ready to learn all I can! I was introduced to it through the second season of the Telepathy Tapes podcast (which I highly recommend!). I’m post…

Breaks are as important as the attempt - from an experienced shifter ⋆˚꩜.ᐟ — hi gorgeous souls! I have seen some posts about people feeling demotivated after a lot of failed shifting attempts and I wanted to give a bit of advice on how to navigate this as somebody who used t…

Stoicism and advice regarding isolation? — Because of life situations outside of my control, I have dealt with a lot of grief and pain regarding all relationships. I am essentially alone and after the grief and pain of betrayal and abandonment…

A complicated (online) friendship [vent?] — Hey everyone; I don't know if this fits here or relates too much to codependency, but I can try posting it and see what people's thoughts are. People usually talk about proper IRL relationships so per…

My psychotherapist gave me an AI-generated workbook, and I’m unsure how to proceed. — I (28F) am no stranger to therapy. I’ve been receiving mental health treatment since youth and met many different professionals, some good, some not so much. I’ve been seeing my current therapist for …

My mom cheated. She refuses to understand why we are upset at her — # Trigger warning for suicidal content My mom cheated. Looking back, I’m not entirely sure I’m surprised that she did, but I was still so shocked when I got the news. For most of my adult life, my …

Took one too many shrooms. Bad “trip.” What does it mean? Why does it happen? — I’m 27 F For context, I don’t think it was a full on “trip” I think I took x2 micro doses. (I don’t really know how to measure, I just take some bites of the mushroom and usually a small piece I cons…

It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it matters WHO does it — Lately I’ve been thinking about how working on yourself is actually really important when it comes to manifestation (and no, don’t immediately assume it’s something hard). The phrase “it doesn’t mat…

A LOB analysis of an experience I had at 17; and some encouragement — # Long post, probably worth it to read: There was one certain manifestation (I don't say LOB yet on purpose, you'll know why) of mine when I was 17 which always gave me goosebumps at the time too, an…

For anyone who struggles to believe in Manifestation. Read this. — (Apologies in advance for the long post) Okay so I used to be that person who would physically cringe when someone said “manifest it.” Like, I get it. The whole world around this thing is just deepl…

It's never too late — After 33 years of marriage, I just hired an attorney. I am divorcing my narc. After years of being on this sub, I always thought my circumstances were too complicated to ever be free of him. I didn't…

My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…

What if we could use Depression? — I had depression for 16 years, and one thing that helped me was shifting the perspective on it, Instead of seeing depression as anything else other than just a black hole that sucks everything thats…

I'm (F33) struggling to tell a friend (F40) I can't share an apartmwnt with her on a trip because she's a terrible roommate. — Hi everyone. First time posting on here so I hope I'm doing a good job. For the 3-4 years I have done a yearly trip for the industry we all work in with 3 friends. The trip is 10 days, and it's long,…

Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…

Me and my therapist are going in circles/no “coping mechanisms” — I’ve been with my therapist since 2020 and at this point, I feel like she can predict my behaviors and I can predict what she’ll say, and sometimes we get noticeably fed up with each other. I feel att…

breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…

Should I cut contact completely? — Hey there! Hopefully you guys can give me some help here. There is a woman that I've been in a relationship for a year. We parted ways at the end of last year but stayed in contact, only got a real …

He broke up because of my anxious attachment, how can I Deal with This? — Hey. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. I am 26 years old and it was my first relationship. It only lasted for 3-4 months sadly, we knew each other for 6 months in total. We started textin…

I broke up with him and I still can't move on. — Hey, so I dated a guy for four months, he was my first adult boyfriend. It's been three months now since the breakup, and still am struggling to come to terms with what happened and idk I just want an…

am i childish for not being able tolet go? — its a little complicated we didnt just date and break up, i mean we kinda did but there was a lot before that. im gonna start from the beginning. i will skip a bit of unimportant stuff just keep in m…

Specifically within this chart, is there an indication of a lack of prioritization and need for romantic partners ? — I hold many complicated and significant relationships with my friendships and family. I like to date, but nothing significant has occurred in a while. The last time I had a significant other of signif…

Husband had an affair… is reconciliation even realistic? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years and have a 1.5 year old together. Recently, I found out he had been having an affair with a co-worker and lying to me for months. He denied it every ti…

I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…

How Many Times Can You Break Up Before It Sticks? — I’m having a really hard time getting over my ex, and I don’t know how to move on. We met 4 years ago and dated for about a year. The relationship ended largely because of me—I’m bipolar, but at the …

I want to text my ex everyday — I broke up with my ex about 7 months ago. And I know people are going to assume that I’ve had my fun and now I want my ex back but that isn’t the case. We were together for about a year and a half and…

I wonder if the practicality of Joseph Murphy is the reason the "pornstars" don't bring him up much, where as Neville is more complicated and requires more interpretation/explaination, i.e. coaching.

>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…

You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …

Sorry, the more correct term is fearful avoidant leaning avoidant, and DA and FA are their own categories. However, there are a number of variations among FAs, including whether we lean anxious or avo…

Not a good metric. It's used by middle managers to justify their existence (my opinion), as it's as useful as counting github commit lines. Or bugs found and squashed. Additional process limits pro…

it’s complicated by design because these cunts need to sell you courses.

You know avoidant are just people don’t you? A human who has suffered and who, SOMETIMES, reacts a certain way to being triggered. If you don’t want to date someone then don’t but don’t just label eve…

Small claims court is complicated because she is basically hiding in London, but her business is registered in Australia. I am from neither of these countries. And blasting her socials… she deletes th…

The first example is so hard. I feel like there’s no kind way to be like “I’m not interested in that [getting together]”. I don’t usually ignore people if they reach out, but I’ve definitely forgettin…

I'm curious what those complicated feelings are with having to earn someone's trust. Sounds healthy, though! I think sometimes we have "scapegoat thoughts" (like about someone's nose) that distract us…

That makes sense! Honestly the more I read you reply and thought about some of my past experience I actually take back some of what I said, cause I definitely wasn’t always as clear at the beginning a…

I used to be an avoidant. What you are describing sounds very familiar and for me it was the part of me that was afraid of good, uncomplicated love. It made me come up with all sorts of nonsensical is…

Yep the world would be a better place with far less conflicts and misunderstandings if everyone could have a common understanding of what words mean! My "be with somebody" and their "be with somebody"…

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…

I sometimes feel life is so complicated. Just to give love, receive love and be in a stable and healthy relationship. Everything takes so much effort.

Hello, so I've recently started seeing this coworker and we've had some fun so far. I like her and I'd like to believe she likes me. We've only hooked up before and I've tried to ask if she would want…

Thanks, thats what I am trying. Things get more complicated in my case because when i ask for space, my wife who is an anxious type gets triggered and starts acting all needy. Feels like there is no e…

Already started therapy a couple weeks after breakup.  As far as engagement I thought that's what she may have wanted...I think she did in the moment, but it triggered something in her.  I was there f…

I've been dating this woman for 3 months, fantastic, love her. The honeymoon period ended pretty abruptly when she suddenly "stopped feeling it". A couple days, therapy sessions, and some very long co…

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

It’s just complicated. We both love eachother so much and are trying to work to meet in ways that work for both of us. But this week is the first time in a while that I’m not constantly in pain. And i…

Has an apology for overcommunicating / overpursuing ever went well? Very long and complicated story, but I realized I was messaging her too much when she was pulling back and now been left on read for…

I’m guessing that since it is such a complicated story that there is a whole lot more going on than just texting to much. The bigger problem is you trying to chase after someone who has left you on re…

Past you really sounds a lot like current him haha. Honestly this is so helpful. It helps me feel less alone and less like I'm making up a narrative. And I'll definitely take your advice on board.…

I just had an issue with an fa today this is why I feel like she hates me; this is our third goal round of no contact in a relationship that never happened. We had sex one time and a bunch of text con…

I've used chatgpt and it works well. At least with me for generating exercises, practices, meditation, routines, etc. As well as explanations that seem to make sense for underlying dynamics. I also do…

Yes, and I think I am able to feel that capacity because the relations are uncomplicated. They don't expect anything from me, so I don't get into situations where I feel pressured to give something I …

It was hard for me, and when I was trying to manifest that, it was before I even knew of Joseph Murphy and his book POSM or even this sub. The only thing I knew was Neville and his techniques, and I…

I can definitely relate a lot to your experiences - I also was religious up until about age 26 when I deconstructed, and lost most of my Christian friends when I stopped going to church. It was a real…

My unpopular opinion is that you’re not wrong. It can get complicated, especially the older we get. I ended things with someone because we didn’t have a romantic spark after a year. Other than that he…

I'm currently doing a 1hr40 drive to my gf every other week. We alternate. I don't mind it because I enjoy driving. We plan to move in together eventually. It's complicated right now with rent price…

the truth is that early stage dating often isn't intimate enough to really trigger a lot of attachment issues, but the temptation of a label is very strong. it can feel easier to pathologize other peo…

Sometimes real life really is just as complicated and cute as it is in the cinema. This person and I get along so absurdly well except for this one really important thing and we're both losing our sh…

Offering my thoughts as 37F who tends to lean demisexual, has had multiple relationships that grew from IRL friendships, and is now married to my husband I met via OLD... For me, attraction is a thre…

Not at all. I don’t feel this way neither about me nor about my friends, not about men I have been going on dates with. I also don’t think people are single because “no one wanted”. My friends are bea…

I would like to note that I do understand what you are saying and get how Society plays a role. I think if anything, what I take issue with is its a little too black and white. That Instagram post is …

Hey everyone, I (31m) am living in a small Austrian town of about 25k. I have a stable, well-paying job I don’t want to leave, but I’m very lonely and struggling to meet someone. My attraction is stro…

Have been off/on seeing my ex of several years, whom I’d fallen deeply in love with. Part of our split stemmed from me wanting more of a shared vision geared toward marriage (she was reasonably trepid…

Thank you for this. It's a good idea but I don't think he's oriented that way. One of the reasons we wanted to take it slowly is because his life is a mess and on top of that he's very independent, on…

I think I understand. The loneliest times of my life come when I feel unseen by someone I really wish would see me. For me I think it comes from idealization where I would have an idea in my head of w…

Hey everyone, I (31m) am living in a small Austrian town of about 25k. I have a stable, well-paying job I don’t want to leave, but I’m very lonely and struggling to meet someone. My attraction is stro…

Complicated rejection and experience. (sorry I don't have enough karma for a post yet ...) Just wanting to hear from different people their opinions, but also similar positive / negative stories! I \…

I feel like the color scheme is "obvious" enough that it'd make things easier, the alternative is picking up on an even more complicated and largely inscrutable web of social cues.

It’s funny because last summer I was the guy in this situation and the lady I was seeing at the time was you. I was really into her and she was not sure if she was ready to date in general after a rea…

Stop comparing yourself to people's exes, lol. We're all complicated humans who can have a spectrum of what we find attractive. Last man I was in love with was 17 years older than me. I'm very happy …

I'm in the not sure camp and it's a bit weird. I get a sense that people do not pay attention to it at all. I've had guys start talking about "when I have kids" and not even ask me where I stand on th…

OP's issue seems to be that she was dumped and hasn't accepted it because this guy is intentionally non-communicative. OP, you have a 0% chance of a serious relationship with this man. Your situation…

Best thing for getting over a relationship in my experience is not staying in touch for a couple months. Or, if you weren't friends before and your social groups don't overlap much now, AT ALL. I am s…

Tbh, it sounds like you’re just waiting for your turn. He has a girlfriend, why are you talking to him for 30-60 minutes -everyday-? Imho, the way you formed the question is a clear answer. You’re as…

# I, 37F, am struggling with boundaries, jealousy, and my 48M partner’s friendship I’m wrestling with complicated feelings about a medicine retreat my partner of 6 months wants me to attend this summ…