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Intimacy problems,can you relate?

Do you think this is due just "lack of experience"? I mean maybe i should go with other girls? I don't know.... I'm curious of reading you opinion

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
Don't get distracted by lack of experience (I will not promote)

Don't get distracted by lack of experience (I will not promote) — You know the biggest myth people buy into? That you need experience to succeed. It’s a trap - a story we tell ourselves to stay comfortable. Don’t get me wrong, experience is nice, but it’s not the…

r/startupspost5/3/2025
Should I meet up with my ex?

Should I meet up with my ex? — Back in November 2024, I went on a couple of dates with a guy from my friend group, “Frank” (41M now). Looking back, it’s obvious to me that he was a rebound, but I genuinely didn’t realize it at the …

r/datingoverthirtypost2/15/2026
Why do I [20F] feel more passion in dreams than during intimacy with my boyfriend [21M]?

Why do I [20F] feel more passion in dreams than during intimacy with my boyfriend [21M]? — I (20F) and my boyfriend (21M) are having some sexual problems in our relationship. For some context, he has slept with 8 women in total, and I with 2 (him and my ex). I believe we have a very differe…

r/relationship_advicepost4/8/2026
Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit

Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit — This is a bit of a rant based on patterns I keep seeing here. I’m a pretty shy person, especially in social situations and around women. At work, I’m fine (I deal with people all the time) but that’s…

r/datingoverfortypost4/11/2026
I have a hard time with friendships now due to not having any emotional connection for years.

I have a hard time with friendships now due to not having any emotional connection for years. — I struggle with friendships now due to years of not having anyone to rely on I'll be 27 this year I used to have a best friend up until I was 24 we stopped being friends ill say this: she had more su…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/13/2026
Where does one begin with an website and app based business

I advise everyone if you can buy a startup that is struggling and grow that as it saves time, money and validation. especially for first time founders with lack of experience. I know someone selling a…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
How do avoidant dynamics move forward — and when do they not?

I would say with teens or young adults, it's possible that someone is very into you and just unable to make it move forward due to lack of experience and shyness. Beyond that, I wouldn't bother with …

r/attachment_theorycomment1/7/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Well the right person will also have patience for your lack of experience I think!

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/3/2026
Should I meet up with my ex?

All posts are manually reviewed before being approved for posting. This usually takes less than an hour, though it can take longer depending on moderator availability. While you wait for your post to …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I’m so annoyed with myself. I grew up under purity culture, and I ’ve always prioritized work over my love life. Now I’m an almost 40 year old virgin who would very much like not to be. But there are …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/22/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 27, 2026

Haven't been in the game at all in 6 years and had some friends try to set me up with someone. Was told on here to stop with the texting early on and get her to meet in person or move on. Damn, you g…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/28/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 05, 2026

Nope. Maybe it's due to lack of experience on my part, but I don't find myself drawn to any specific physical characteristics. As for personality, as long as they seem like they are at least a decent …

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 06, 2026

No not really taking energy out of me. It’s more just anxiety inducing. And no my social anxiety hasn’t really dulled overall. But more so in the last year or so but that’s also because I got less dep…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/6/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 10, 2026

Anyone that thinks lack of dating experience makes you undatable at this point isn't worth your time. They are single just as you and what has all that experience got them? You quite often see peopl…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/10/2026
A green flag that matters more to me now than it did in my 20s

I agree with your assessment. What bugs me is I’ve constantly been rejected in my 20’s because i was too boring. Then i had 5 women recontact me out of nowhere all within 6 weeks of each other. They m…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
A green flag that matters more to me now than it did in my 20s

That is just one example. I have been told consistently by many women and men that my lack of experience is a red flag. It’s like someone applying for jobs who has never had a job.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
New Partner Has Never Used Condoms

It's a lot more common to be insecure, to have past trauma, to lack experience, to be shy, or to have internalized some of the huge amounts of shame that exists around sexuality in many parts of our c…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
How did you know a therapist wasn’t a good fit for you?

My problem is that i had an unusual attachment to one of my ex-professor. I just needed her support but was afraid she would think i had a crush on her while i see her as a mother figure. We both were…

r/therapycomment3/15/2026
***I m 40+ F.. Never married, no kids.

Since you are in Mumbai, it’s understandable how onerous the dating expectations are for you from such a misogynistic culture and why the men you date have these demands without even vetting the proce…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/16/2026
I (19F) told my boyfriend (19M) it’s not my job to prove I won’t cheat.

And feel everything 1000% and make tons of mistakes for sure. Hopefully he learns from this quickly, and hopefully it’s just lack of experience and not control issues.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
Can innocence grow, or do we just have whatever we have naturally?

Hmm isn't innocence associated with a lack of experience?

r/energy_workcomment3/20/2026
Anyone else notice the differences in between people who prefer to trip on high doses of shrooms, compared to those who prefer tripping on high doses of LSD?

A difference? Not really seems to be more of a “how their brain chemistry reacts” I have noticed tho that many people say that LSD is a much more stable experience which I can agree with it seems li…

r/Psychonautcomment3/23/2026
Single and celibate for 7 years -- how can I show a man I'm into him?

You don't lose the bar; you gain experience and confidence with either a yes or a no. You will remain in your current 'lack of experience' unless you shift by making active decisions. Remember everyon…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 26, 2026

Had the long conversation the other day that I'll have to stop dating my friend turned almost-girlfriend. We had been dating for about a month. I feel really terrible about it, honestly. I could tell…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/26/2026
People with CPTSD what are things that people just don’t get about it?

Oh so many things; we can't leave things in the past, our minds won't let us, and even when they compensate with coping mechanisms, our bodies won't let us either. We're not choosing to be the way we …

r/CPTSDcomment3/27/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 28, 2026

You are dateable! Sounds like the lack of experience might be making you feel overwhelmed. Baby steps, baby steps.

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/29/2026
I’m always scared

Jesus wept. Your lack of experience and knowledge is blinding. This is why newbies get frightened about embarking on any altered state. From jokesters like you throwing out bollocks like this. I'll …

r/Psychonautcomment3/30/2026
Why do people think that traumatized people are either evil or victims?

Alright, there's a couple of things at play here. Sure, there are people out there who villainize traumatized people. Usually people with complex trauma have what "normal" people consider disproport…

r/CPTSDcomment4/2/2026
How do I (21) navigate friend groups where your friends still hang with people who have disrespected you?

"Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity" AKA Hanlon's Razor People are ignorant. Younger people can be especially ignorant due of a lack of experience and perspect…

r/relationshipscomment4/2/2026
Can people truly change

The mess here isn’t entirely on her… So it’s not just about whether she can change…but can you? Why break up if all you do is stay close to her, monitoring her „progress“ or lack thereof, only to ge…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/3/2026
Dealing with a mom who can’t be alone.

Ugh it’s so upsetting not being understood over something basic. I thinks it’s mostly their lack of experience of the situations that we’re in that just makes them act and react so selfishly.

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/3/2026
Has anyone else never dated?

Funny you say that, that's what I’m planning now. It seems our healing progress was very similar, I’ve realized a lot of my lack of experience came from lack of strong core But after realizing about …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
My (F34) husband (M35) hasn't tried to learn what makes me orgasm in our seven years together. I don't want to leave the relationship but am beginning to feel like a predator. Any advice?

The fact that he's only been with one other woman besides you leads me to believe he's sexually immature and now maybe embarrassed about the whole thing. In that he lacks confidence it seems he's like…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/4/2026
Not Getting Anywhere

It could be as simple as a bad fit for you and them. It could be a lack of experience on their part. It could be them not willing or capable of getting in depth and trying to go to the root of your is…

r/therapycomment4/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 05, 2026

The one thing I am most insecure about is a complete lack of experience and the connection to not knowing what I want. I am autistic and have had zero relationships so far or any other romantic experi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/5/2026
My gf 21F broke up with me 21M because I was acting differently, what are your thoughts on what happened?

At 33 years old i will tell you I've been there in your early 20s navigating romantic relationships for a thousands reasons or more is hard as hell when relationships fall apart its extremely painful …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Seeking advice for feeling like I’m not being sexually heard by my longterm parter (22M) as a relative virgin (20M)

i am a straight woman, so take what i say with that in mind. but i feel i have an anecdote to share that may resonate, and one i certainly wish i heard when i was enduring it. my first relationship …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/7/2026
Can meditation help in getting the same "focus" effect that weed gives for free

Hi man! Thank you for a detailed answer. My practice consists basically of 3 different exercises (I haven't decided which one is best for me yet). - focusing on temperature of breath and the place whe…

r/Meditationcomment4/7/2026
Age-gap relationships, are they always bad? (18F and 23M)

Large age gaps can be dangerous when you are younger due to a lack of experience even if you are more mentally mature. It can be easier for an older person to hide their true nature if you don't yet h…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit

Original copy of post by u/texasinauguststudio: This is a bit of a rant based on patterns I keep seeing here. I’m a pretty shy person, especially in social situations and around women. At work, I’m …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026
Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit

Yes, it's a disadvantage. Now what do you want? You're still the same you. You still have to go out on dates if you want to be in a relationship. There's also only so much people can learn from a po…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026
Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit

Shyness and lack of experience can translate to insecurity. IMO, women are looking for safety in a partner overall. I know it's hard, but you will have to push yourself to be open. I'm guessing from …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026
Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit

Dating is dating. It remains the same today as it was in our 20s because of who we are and a lot of us don’t change. What we want now is pretty much the same today- looks and personality. Standards ar…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026
Dating in your 40s with little experience is harder than people admit

Saying hi, making a comment about the weather, or how expensive things are in a store is just a normal human interaction, it does not make you *that* guy. Those are safe, nonchalant, and potentially …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/11/2026
What happened?

Your optimism is beyond common sense though… Maybe it’s your feelings messing with your head, but learning to read intent is healthy and beneficial for you in the long run. Maybe it’s lack of exper…

r/relationshipscomment4/12/2026
I (f36) overheard my husband (m35) comparing me to his ex.

He was a fool to talk like this in his house, instead of at curry night or the golfing weekends like every other bloke. Every man speaks like this, but it’s locker room chat not meant for your girl’…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/12/2026
I (M23), girlfriend (28F) together for 5 months. I may be in my head about our sex.

You’re shooting yourself in the foot with your attitude. Sounds like you’re giving up because you’re embarrassed about your lack of experience. Just because someone has had good sex before doesn’t mea…

r/relationshipscomment4/12/2026
why go back to your ex when there’s 8 billion people you haven’t met?

While that is true also, I’ve had sex with women who were very interested but had little experience and it’s definitely not as good as someone with experience and interest. But lack of experience isn’…

r/BreakUpscomment4/12/2026