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hi, i think this is my first comment on reddit. i always wonder why people care so much about other people being alive. why we have the instinct to save other's heartbeats but not them. why we can't l…
What is Adobe doing since their Figma acquisition fell through? — They've abandoned XD, they were barred for acquiring Figma... now what? My workplace has enterprise Adobe licenses org-wide and it's a hard sell to get them to pony-up for Figma. What product are we s…
Marketplace Connect changed 12000 Amazon inventory items to 0 ! Has this happened to anyone? I can't get help uploading a product list I downloaded. — What a nightmare! This experience has been devastating! The software is supposed to be safe... how on earth does it change all my inventory to 0 and no one is willing to help me fix it?? I have gone a…
Google getting tricked by trash sites — There are two sites I've been seeing all over google news recently motorcyclesports .net and motociclismo .pt. both are owned by the same company and they are clearly using tools to steal other websit…
New Email Accounts? Stop Landing in Spam with Mailgo! — Hey marketers! Tired of putting hours into your email marketing campaigns only to have them end up in the spam folder? Our Mailgo Automated Email Warm-Up is the solution you've been waiting for! Why…
With Updated Reporting, Now Deleted Products are removed from Sales & Tax Reports — I'm struggling to get a clear answer from any of the help team (shocker I know). Previously I could delete a product and still run reports and see the sales numbers, etc. Ran a report yesterday and t…
Website — Hey I’m developing a web/app for brand scalers and brands called Lynxscal. It’s supposed to help brand scalers find brands to run ads for easier by using ai. It has other features too like a leader bo…
Death by a Thousand Subscriptions: Is anyone's SaaS bills higher than their Ad spend? — I've been watching several eCommerce businesses in my network, and it's fascinating how many are drowning in subscription costs for essential software. One store owner I know is paying nearly **$500/m…
microservices ci/cd and git branching — We are working on a microservice application and we are supposed to have 3 environments development, staging and production.. As a devsecops intern engineer, I'm thinking that the devs should work o…
Need Help Integrating Custom OpenAI Assistant in WordPress Chatbot — Hello, Reddit! I’m working on integrating a custom-built OpenAI assistant into a WordPress site and could really use some help. The chatbot is supposed to interact with users, respond to questions, a…
Does your business have to be something you’re good at? — I have a production company and have spent most of my late teens and early 20s being a music artist, pursuing shows, publications, and making music connections to very little success. I’ve met great …
Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…
I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …
How to soothe myself when they say they aren't upset. — I am very fortunate to have consistent, attentive, loving people in my adulthood. I haven't conquered my unhealthy habits that come from my attachment system, however. My husband is wonderful. He st…
How am I supposed to deal with the "ick" without leading a person on? — I don't get emotionally attached easily, so the early stage of dating is often a long game for me where the other person is trying their best to win me over, and I'm trying to be a good sport and go t…
Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…
I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…
If my nervous system is used to interpreting intensity as chemistry, then...am I just supposed to settle for love where I don't feel any "fuzzy" feelings? Like is love supposed to be boring? Then how do I even know the difference if a relationship is boring but good vs. boring but bad?? — Like I really don't want to be stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop again, and I get that secure love seems more boring to someone with an anxious attachment, but then...like...are all romantic feelings …
Attachment in someone with no relationships? — Wondered this for a long time so it's oversharing hours tonight. I basically don't have relationships. I've overly attached with my mom, possibly even enmeshed, but that's it, and there's a lot of du…
so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …
What's your experience been with an activity on a first date ? — What I mean by that is a first date that involves some type of activity such as mini golf, yoga, museum, etc. Pretty much a first date that excludes the usual drinks, dinner, or coffee., interview-sty…
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…
Can someone pls explain to me if it’s a blood moon and ECPLIPSE moon then how would we even be able to see it? — On top of that 6 planets are aligned so I’m confused what are we supposed to see?
Feeling alone because my partner lives in his own Fantasy World — Recently I discovered I am a Codependent. I've been with my boyfriend for about six years, and he has this habit of always engaging and interacting by talking a lot about marvel or superpower fantas…
College was supposed to be my escape plan — I'm so angry that I'm literally shaking while typing this. My dream all four years of high school was to get good grades and standardized test scores and participate in extracurriculars to get into a …
Don’t Contact Your Ex. For Anything. Let Go Quietly. They Watch You for Access Without Intent. — We had a bad breakup. He was very cold and distant at the end, as always (we broke up several times). He made a joke about how I can be single and rushed me off our last phone conversation when I was …
Life's expectancy for life & love — Unfortunately, I think for the rest of my time on this planet, I will carry a quiet fear. Even in the midst of real, full-blown love, I may never truly trust that one day I won’t be lied to, cheated o…
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…
Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…
F**CKKKKKKKKK — I don’t really have anywhere to say this, so I’m just putting it here. I was with someone for a long time who I truly believed was my person. From the beginning, there was just something about her th…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
Am I meditating improperly? — So I've heard from Dr. K of HealthyGamerGG that when your attention wanders from your meditation and you bring it back, that's like doing a pushup for your mind/brain. But only very few times have I d…
Where am I supposed to meet my husband? 31F
Broke up with DA after a year. — Met her a year ago, almost to the day. Things started well, relatively slowly which was nice for a change compared to other situations I have been in around that time. After two months, we became offi…
Codependency and an ex that keeps coming back — Hey guys! So, I've run out of ideas on this. I got together with a single mum in summer 2024 and we parted ways around last October. Since then, we agreed to stay friends but she wouldn't even give m…
I feel like the only one not trying to permashift. Is anyone else trying to make round trips? — The title pretty much covers my primary inquiry. I don't see a lot of people posting about reality shifting or their goals therein unless it's about permashifting. I'm not shaming anyone for permashif…
My AM is a stupid fucking snitch — Any time I tell my AM anything that I want her to keep between us, she’s always snitched to my AD. But whenever she wants me to keep a secret from my AD, I am somehow expected to follow that same secr…
My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice — This is the situation I am in. About a week ago my fiancé (25 M) brought up how he has some problems with me (25 F). We have been together for almost three years. He said he cant bring up sensitive to…
I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…
Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…
My (28F) boyfriend (26M) has recently got back into religion and it’s affecting our relationship. — I’ve listened/watched so many Reddit podcasts, but this the first time posting. This a weird situation and I have no one to talk to about this, I’m left feeling quite numb about everything. My boyfri…
No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…
Unexpected gift of healing — The unexpected and awesome gift of healing from codependency (or rather the trauma that underpins it) is the gift of time. I have so much more time for myself now when I: * don’t get involved in th…
What am I actually supposed to do in psychotherapy? — I'm in the UK and on NHS therapy. I've done CBT before, up to the high intensity, and am now on "psychodynamically informed psychotherapy". I have a lot of issues caused by trauma through my life and…
No I don’t want to be a medical doctor — I am 23 fucking years old, I do not want to be doctor. I NEVER wanted to be a fucking doctor. I am so sick of this. I feel like a failure. I applied to grad school for 2 years in a row and I haven’t g…
Anyone else's parents never encouraged their hobbies? — I love to sing. I haven't used my voice in over a decade and thinking about it makes me want to cry. For years I've been waiting for permission to use it. My body still fights me to sing above a whi…
I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…
My therapist seems to forget? — So, I’ve been seeing my therapist for a few months now. I see him weekly, and yesterday I was discussing my struggles with being perceived without being “perfect”. I told him due to being bullied as a…
Broke up with me because his father didnt want him to be distracted from his career. Why cant I forget him? — As the title mentions. I (DOB 30.12.1993, first chart) was best friends with this boy (DOB 13.10.1994, second chart) from 2013 and we started dating in 2014 beginning. The relationship was a very good…
Healing from perfectionism taught me that I’m not superhuman — I’m just a regular person and everyone else is just as ordinary as me. Sure, we all have our quirks and differences but you’re never the only one with them or unique. I am not loved based on my achie…
Just want to add, if you use the format xx/xx/xxxx to post your birth date, please clarify which is the month and which is the day. Americans use MM/DD/YYYY whereas other countries use DD/MM/YYYY, so …
> Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took …
Hi everyone, I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the POSM.. w…
>Hi everyone, > >I am new here.. i got the link of this group through the NG sub.. i am glad i found it.. i have been reading the posts and the content in the index.. i have started reading the P…
I know you’re supposed to see flashes of colours and things when it starts happening but it just feels like eyeball strain to me and kind of hurts my head.
Hm. I wonder if that could be it. But I'm also super new to spirituality. How do I overcome this? I'm wondering if also maybe it was because it was the first time I was trying to separate my conscious…
Just wanted to say that my first lucid dream was successful with the "piano key" method. I forget the actual terminology but basically you wake up in the middle of your sleep (3-5 hours) and you're no…
I have been doing astral projection from the time that i had no idea about astral projection . One time i did it but i met someone and he said that i am not supposed to do it and warned me about this …
I am new to lucid dreaming. I don’t try any techniques bc I honestly feel I’m just not ready but I have realized I’m in a dream ab 4 times now and I try my best to be lucid and I do for ab 10 seconds …
But what am I supposed to do if I'm the one going crazy from all this silence?
I just need to vent: 10 years wasted would’ve been our 11th in a few weeks. We broke up last week due to an argument that we had. We were supposed to go to a concert together. She asked me “what time…
2 weeks ago I was taking valerian root capsules choline and a B vitamin combination powder. When i was asleep i could change things in my mind while I was dreaming ,I flew and I forgot what the other …
Wanted to ask smthng. I realised i was dreaming for a first time in maybe my whole life and even better i could control it to some degree. But the dream kinda lost its depth when i became lucid and th…
Well I’m glad to see that it’s a lot easier than you thought it was going to be and that it will be easier than you expected to have to go through all the stuff that I was supposed to be working on to…
Ah..he was supposed to have space. Not you. You were supposed to be "waiting" Good on you for the No Contact. Serves them right.
No way around it except practice, smart application of what you're supposed to have read in the index, and discipline. At the end of the day, that's where the real work lies to impress the SM and get …
Well, you can believe me or not, I have no incentive in lying. But the Neville sub has messed me up. Those LOA “teachers” there are messed up - and they don’t even know what they are talking about. “L…
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Not trying to argue but if you’re constantly in a state of lack you are indeed impressing your subconscious mind with a state of lack. I’m not saying …
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…
Still new but posting this comment both to help you and hopefully get feedback from the mods that I’m understanding things properly. You are not trying to trick yourself in the 3D. Your only job is …
Wow, that’s… I mean, that’s seriously sociopathic behaviour. I can’t even imagine how you felt. It’s such a mindfuck. I hope you kicked him out and never looked back. What a toxic piece of bovine excr…
I don't hate it honestly. I understand that it's a bad look and feels like micromanagement, but it has its plus sides A lot of times our team gets requests from development or product and they don't …
>How do *you* define platform engineering in your org? Another checkmark to show career progress from Linux sysadmin, devops, sre, platformops so that it looks good to the recruiters. Otherwise, it's…
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
>wanted to stay casual Idk what that means, exactly. Dating someone... but not really ? The specific rules or the framework of this concept are unclear because "casual" can mean anything, including:…
In a healthy relationship it’s normal for someone to ask for space the smoking thing is something you have to work through on your own since it’s your own ick it’s the past let it go he said he wouldn…
I'm a neuroscientist and I know a conditioned puppy when I see one. I will continue to meet what I sense being 110% wrapped up in classical conditioning and subjective emotions with 110% mental clar…
I'm the opposite. I choose anxious partners who smother me, freak out on me and make me responsible for their feelings and behaviors. So I try to fix their anxiety and essentially become their parent …
There's no reason anyone needs to know that you see a therapist. If you don't tell people, they won't know right? Depending on your health insurance, a session usually only costs a copy ($20-40) fo…
I understand the thought patterns here, and I definitely see how expectations are triggering for avoidant types. But I've also found many of them project what they assume my expectations are onto me? …
Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …
One thing that helped me is actively trying to date multiple people at a time because it meant there was a lot less pressure on the one, and I had less to lose. I also think that what people say about…
Sounds very fearful avoidant. I’m an FA, and I now understand that the fear of getting too close to someone emotionally (being vulnerable) and the inability to take accountability is actually a fear o…
Thanks appreciate that. There is no reason for her to have trust issues if anything she’d probably be asking herself why does this guy still like me. Never a bad word between us. She just disapears,…
Humans find AI more compassionate than therapists because AI doesn’t challenge them. Therapy is supposed to challenge you, it’s supposed to make you better.
I let him know what I was feeling. I wanted to understand his actions I’m going to take this day to work on myself (study,self help books) I did say I felt I had no reason to trust him so maybe I…
Yes, you are supposed to reassure him. And ideally, it's best to have a videocall if not every day, then at least a few times a week. But that's up to ya'lls preference. What i'm trying to say, reg…
Oh girl I have this same problem too. New to communicating so I just try to be clear and straight forward and honest, it always comes back to bite me because it comes out as hurtful. And then I fail…
Never experienced this, but my advice is that you should learn to express yourself when things bother you in the moment instead of keeping things to yourself. Your inability to be vulnerable with othe…
I also have intense rage. My avoidant left me in my darkest hour and relapsed and went on vacation with ALL of our extended friend group and excluded me and told them all to lie about going with him. …
Oh, sounds indeed very familiar! Maybe that's what happens when you are AA but also don't want to be infantilised? Like, we compensate our vulnerability by being the dominant/leading partner and spoil…
Hi I am a male 23yrs old. I'm having trouble with anxious attachment. Recently met this girl at work beautiful in all sorts from her personality to physical beauty. I love how she relates with people …
Text of original post by u/nintendonaut: After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 mon…
“And I'm just supposed to be cool with that?” At the end of the day, yes you are. I’m in the same boat except a bit older and I haven’t even had what you had. I know what you feel very well. There ar…
I had a similar situation. This person I met physically for 1 month, we hung out 3-4 times a week in this one month, then he went back home temporarily for 2 months, I was chill but the texting got my…
Cardio exercise is a big one for me. Joining a gym where they basically kicked my ass for a while 2-3 times a week did wonders for my mood, both because of the exercise and the other people being ther…
Sorry you are feeling this way, you're going through so much, try to be kind to yourself, it will hurt and it's supposed to, try not to fight it and you'll come out the other side
Thanks for responding! I’m totally fine with a few texts a day and the lunch call and end of day call. What I’m saying is not most days I don’t even get texts through out the day… 😔 just 1 lunch time…
I've struggled with anxious attachment ever since I can remember. I got out of a 4 year relationship where I was cheated on 4 times (that I know of anyway), and so im at a point in my life where im wo…