meeting someone

>my agenda of meeting someone That's your problem. You never know which of the wives at the book club would have set you up with your niece or which couple at pickleball would have invited you to a …

Took the stock advice and joined social activities to meet people. Here are my results. — I (37M) decided to conduct an experiment and went out to the types of boilerplate events/gatherings/functions people suggest. Book clubs, sports, volunteering, etc. I joined a public book club throug…

Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…

Are there really men out there that like bigger women? — 40 F, My husband of 18.5 years ended our marriage about 4 months ago. I am not ready to start dating yet, but I have been thinking about what trying to meet someone would even be like since I haven't …

Anyone NOT having a rough time dating? — I mean dating was no picnic in my 20s before I got married, lots of weird people out there and a ton of immaturity in the 20s. I see so many horror stories that paint an even worse picture in 40s, an…

How do you guys manage? — ... being single with no physical touch, especially after exiting a long marriage? As a woman in my early 40s and actively on Bumble, I made it very clear that I'm seeking a longterm relationship. I …

Why I'm never single for extended periods? — I always find myself in romantic relationships. My relationships tend to be long term and serious. I'm not interested in casual/fun stuff. I never had long single period between my relationships. Afte…

I’m lost. First time I feel like this, and I really need help. — (24, M) I’ve never been in a romantic relationship before, and I’ve never loved a girl or been loved by a girl . Only because i never found someone with the same weirdness as me Recently, I met a girl…

Did spending time with someone new help or make things worse? — For the people who've taken the breakup hard and frequently checked your exes activity.. when you tried to move on by adding someone new and spending time with them, how did that make you feel afterwa…

got a heartbreak from ex again — well we broke up about 1.5 years back and we have lighly been in contact since then. Over the past few months we've almost had a situationship type of relation and it was cool (we TALKING doing VC for…

Back to looking for love — So I met someone online as i started to try and get back to meeting someone. My bf passed 3 yrs ago yesterday. I didn't think I wanted a relationship as im in my 40s now and work and have children. I …

Dating within your close circle after divorce/losing a spouse in your 40s is it actually the smart move? — So a close friend of mine recently started dating someone from our inner circle and honestly it's got me thinking about this whole dynamic in a way I never had before. He went through a divorce about…

Can no friends and moral support make you feel stuck in life ? — ​ I feel like someone is controlling me or something because I'm just constantly using my phone and living in isolation. barely talking to someone over the phone or meeting someone in fact I j…

How to move forward after a traumatic relationship? — TW: SA, emotional abuse I know this might be a long post, but this has been weighing on my mind for the past year and a half and I just found this community and thought someone may have some advice. …

Strong urge to send message to her, I was doing well until now... — It happened again, something triggered in me longing and the urge to send her a message and reach out, it's 7 months post breakup, it was first week of September I was on holidays with friends. I t…

Went on 10+ dates, but he just wants to be friends — Hi all. I (30f) met someone (33m) online and we caught up regularly for about three months. We took turns initiating and paying and we seemed to get along really well. We’d usually hang out for abou…

How to deal with rejection — So I've been old OLD apps for 2 years. Went on my first date tonight. It was awkward. Met for a drink, and talked for about an hour. Her daughter kept calling to see when she would be home to make …

Exhusted and back to square zero.. — I (46M), have been only in Long-ish relationships all my life. High School GF for 5 years, married 18 (ended when she cheated) and then two 1-year long relationships, the last one just ended. In these…

Manifested two SP — As I’m sitting here bawling my eyes out over my ex leaving me and why my manifestations didnt work with him, I realized something. Two years ago, I was at a protest. I saw a guy in the rally, he was…

How do you actually get over a breakup? — My ex broke up with me almost 2 months ago after 4.5 years together, and with each passing day, I become more sure that he won’t reach out. At first, I held out hope that he would call or message aski…

When will I get married? — Currently running Rahu Mahadasha with Shani Antardasha. I’m 33F, single since 2020, and have only dated two guys in my life. I’m not open to arranged marriage,it feels suffocating, and I’d prefer mee…

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

I used to be an avoidant. What you are describing sounds very familiar and for me it was the part of me that was afraid of good, uncomplicated love. It made me come up with all sorts of nonsensical is…

You’re not ready. Take time for yourself and don’t even think about meeting someone. Build yourself up and give yourself time, authentically. Don’t decide when you’ll start dating and instead just let…

28M and I’ve dated a decent number of women over the last 10 years. I’ve noticed a pattern that always seems to repeat itself. When I meet someone I’m attracted to but not *that* into at first, I sta…

Definitely projecting your own shame. Meeting someone at a bar and being sure of them is naive, you can actually get in trouble thinking that way about people. Beyond just relationships. It sounds to …

This is where I'm at. Totally fine being single and enjoying it and looking forward, then accidentally meeting someone earlier than expected, falling quickly, and now the anxiousness is off the chart…

You need to decide if you’re willing to continue being in a relationship where you’re frequently feeling like shit even though the person had a good heart and is trying. Someone making an effort doesn…

Sure, if I feel there's enough to make it worthwhile. I'm not looking to spend months getting to know every last detail before actually meeting someone but I want to feel that there's going to be some…

Has anyone had success meeting someone IRL? I (33F) feel like meeting organically in the wild would make life so much easier than dating apps, but doesn't actually happen? Maybe in larger cities? I fe…

i have gone to many events out in the wild, and the single people i meet are more likely to be out of my age range (typically much younger), and those who are, they are partnered. i dont like the apps…

Aww. I'm sorry. It definitely makes things more difficult to get over if you are going to be forced to see him while at work. But it's not your fault that he is seeking a different emotional experienc…

First date this afternoon! No expectations but looking forward to meeting someone new and drinking some coffee. He's from Greece, so it should make for some interesting conversations.

It definitely really hurts. I didn’t expect to like someone as much as I liked him. Yeah I have to agree, meeting someone IRL would be better. I don’t go out much but maybe it’s time that I start

It’s sometimes easier when a party is wrong or there’s someone you can paint as “bad”, that’s why it hurts when no one is really at fault. With there being such a huge gap between speaking and meeti…

This is great advice that I think I'll take. I seem to delete it every few months, take 2-3 months off and feel some excitement of meeting someone again. So I download it and expectations aren't met. …

>I want to be hopeful, but I also don’t want to settle and don’t want to be pressured into giving up. I just don’t understand why it’s so hard… Idk I really don’t have a clear train of thought but fee…

I'm surprised to hear that you know only one other gay trans man. Is the trans population in London smaller than in other major cities? Is the mainstream queer culture there less open to trans people …

I haven't really met anyone in the wild, but it's been easier for me to get to the first date. The second date and after is usually where things fall apart. I think I come off as a little bit more con…

Just wanted to second this - I too have always felt like when meeting someone new, we either have an attraction or we don't (the chemistry is there or it isn't). I never thought too hard about why it'…

Oh! Here's what worked for me: * Practice Mindfulness -- It may not be the same for you, but for me it was meditation (always guided) and breathwork. * Get outside -- for me this is connected to mi…

Feeling a tad self conscious right now. Set up a first date with someone I started talking to on hinge (meeting in a week). Well right after setting up this date, I went in to my orthodontist to get m…

I agree with /u/okmostlyfineish - I think you should cancel if you're this if your head about it and feeling this level of dread. You sound like you have a lot of healing ahead of you. I think if you'…

That is super soon! Take some more time for yourself, no need to rush it if ur not ready. Though also, if you do decide to go, try and take the pressure off, it’s just meeting someone, having some con…

I decided to end a relationship in November with a guy I’ve only dated 3 months. I was doubting about the whole thing and it gave me anxiety but he was so close to what I’ve been looking for 10 years …

Hey, one of the things I told myself when I started dating again is that I would no longer accept feeling insecure with someone. If, for whatever reason, I began to doubt someone's feelings for me, I …

Okay. Are dating apps still a thing? 39 and single again. Not really sure where to start in terms of dating again. I can’t say I’m thrilled about the idea of using the apps, but I also don’t want to d…

Dating apps are a thing yes. Are they monetized to hell? Also yes. They also dont guarantee actually meeting someone, how long have you been single? What self work have you done? Are you in or have…

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youre missing the point lol it isnt about necessarily meeting someone at that club, especially immediately(wtf)...it's about meeting more people, opening social circles and having more opportunities t…

I do a bunch of hobbies / activities. Of course they dont ever guarantee meeting someone you're gonna potentially be able to date. But if you dont get out there, you will literally never have a chance…

I'd suggest keep looking until you find a group with more singles in the right demographic for you. There can still be some benefit to groups with people who aren't single or the right gender/orientat…

I’ve met pretty much all my friends through these types of clubs and those friendships have been invaluable throughout my single life. Their fun, friendship snd social support make being single enjoya…

Sooo true. And having temporarily used meet up the few women that were there, we’d talk about how uncomfortable these men made us. It’s so obvious when someone is there just to date or fuck you. I hav…

“Based on my agenda of meeting someone” OP: IT DIDN’T WORK

I feel like that advice is more about increasing the amount of potential partners you're around and getting more comfortable around them. It's not a magic bullet and generally isn't going to happen qu…

I hear you. Years ago, I tried this in a very small city and it wasn't great. Later, in a big city, I also tried speed dating and I quit when I ran into the same people.... That said, somewhat recent…

>But while I really really like the advice of going out and trying new things and finding things you like to do and meeting new people, I'm not sure it's necessarily good advice for finding a new part…

We did just have a thread on this. Takeaway was that the benefit is not necessarily meeting someone specifically in that one course.  Benefits (1) You're expanding your social network with people …

I think the advice is good, but it does rely on the person taking it to have a realistic outlook and not being so results oriented. Like the alternative to doing social activities to meet people is w…

I wouldn't worry as much about her or even him and more about you. Not your relationship and not your problem. It's awesome of you to want to be extra sure to keep things appropriate. But only he and …

It’s 💯 your location. You would do very well on the East coast. A lot of these comments are wild, but eye opening.  I don’t know anyone who married young at 30.  Also, I live in a major, diverse city…

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Thank you all! I decided to go. We are meeting up tomorrow. I am leaning towards not attracted though if I am being honest with myself, but I’m still curious about him and meeting someone I have so …

They're coworkers in the sense that we work for the same company, but we don't actually interact or meet at all on daily basis since we're in different department and physically floors/wings. It takes…

Good for you! As someone who also had to go no contact after being unceremoniously dumped, doing that and getting back out there so there's no gray zone is very often the best thing to do. I'm in a si…

on hinge. and yes it totally does! i know i haven't always asserted my feelings about app use when dating in the past (when i wish i had) and i got off them for a while because of that gross disposabl…

I’m a woman in this group and was recently approached and invited out while I was grocery shopping. IMO 100x better than meeting someone on an app, or in a bar, etc

I'd recommend making some single friends and building up more of a single-focused lifestyle. By this I mean joining singles events, social media groups and there are even adventure holidays for single…

I’m not judging anyone for going with their gut feeling but I suck at texting. I’m much better in person. But it always breaks down in the texting app phase somehow. Something *always* happens. I hope…