words of affirmation

"words of affirmation" is my love language too. I dated someone for a long time who was autistic and couldn't really show me love that way. He instead did "acts of service". I struggled feeling truly …

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I [27M] clicked way better with a [24F] girl's sister [22F] than with her. 3 dates in, I can't stop thinking about the sister. What do I even do? — Hi all! 13 days ago I \[27M\] matched with a girl \[24F\] on an app. We have went on 3 dates now. At first we seemed to click pretty well with what we want in a relationship. In the beginning we rea…

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I agree it’s a bid for connection, but it’s sort of like, with the particular people I’m thinking of, they are seeking me to reassure them instead of to actually connect. It’s often trying too hard, a…

Absolutely a DA thing. My best friend use to do this sometimes, but over time and as he felt more safe to open up and such, he slowed down on that and I haven't heard him do that in like half a year. …

I think some people have a hard time giving compliments especially if they didn’t receive words of affirmation growing up.

I agree that he was hoping to develop given my other great qualities and our emotional connection. I’m just the type of person who can’t even stomach kissing someone im not really attracted to, so I c…

Okay, first I just have to get this out of the way: you were pretty wild for bringing up moving in together after less than a year of dating ESPECIALLY since he had JUST gotten his divorce finalized. …

I felt this so much. As someone who was broken up with because I never initiated saying I love you, it was always “love you too” according to her, I was actually somewhat blindsided when she said that…

This is exactly what I mean.  I am also the oldest daughter and my parents were absentee. My entire life I've had to be the leader and in charge. If at work and in family, I'm the one who has to keep…

I am best friends with another anxiously attached person and we're very attached to each other and honestly it's really really good There is mutual reassurance and we talk out and solve fights asap a…

Say he was a man a few words, but was more expressive in other ways such as holding you close, holding hands, forehead kisses etc… a presence that felt steady. Would lack of verbal expression seem so …

Sounds like he’s an acts of service primary person and you emphasize words of affirmation 

Hey OP! Judging from your OG post and many of your comments… I absolutely think this is a love language thing. You (like myself) are a words of affirmation (WOA) girly. And there’s nothing wrong with …

This sounds a lot like me and the guy I’m dating! It took me a bit to realize that feeling safe with someone is so much more important than words of affirmation or ooey gooeyness. Like you, he listens…

"I'm conventionally attractive..." "I make really good money, I take care of myself (and him) and my things, I'm kind and caring and I'm a good cook - which he loves. Our sex life is great." (That d…

It was irrational to follow up care with care? (This is asked genuinely, in case tone fails to convey. I do wholeheartedly appreciate your perspective.) I don’t particularly get many chances to like a…

have had 5 great dates with a guy i met 3 weeks ago. we have our 6th date on saturday. i usually get a lot of anxiety in early dating/act avoidant but am internally anxious so this is such a nice chan…

Sounds like your boyfriend is fully choosing you but showing it with actions rather than words. Much better than someone who isn’t able to fully choose you but keeps you around with words/breadcrumbs.…

This is challenging! I hope he opens up to you! I understand everyone is different, but a few words of affirmation would be nice, right?

Trust, embrace, slow down. Much needed words of affirmation thank you

Honestly your fixes sound great for mild anxiety - as someone with an anxiety disorder, none of these ever helped or were ever capable of helping. Only things that worked for me: 1) Constant journali…

I definitely do these things for him on the regular! And not so I can just get it back, either. If he had a late night I anticipate that he’d probably like a coffee the next day and I make it happen. …

I’m a words of affirmation person. It might sound weird but the part I miss most about dating when single is the emotional intimacy from “cute”/playful texts, phone convos, and in-person convos. Sayin…

Mmm... okay so- My ex was not a bad person at all. He wasnt a good partner to me though, especially towards the end. The number one thing I see when reflecting is that he didnt *actually* want the sa…

Thank you so much! I think that many people underestimate the impact that small gestures and words of affirmation can have on someone during difficult times. Appreciate you. ❤️

You don’t want to dress like that and honestly that’s very understandable. I’d feel some type of way if my husband expected me to dress in things that sexually excite him on the daily instead of thing…

Lots of good advice here, I'll add two things: 1) Sex and intimacy are connected (as you say). Sex by itself is less important than sex as a symbol of intimacy. There are other ways of showing intima…

This happened to me. The ADHD enabled actual, real gaslighting. Like, not the way that people misuse the term but the actual definition of gaslighting. And my C-PTSD also made me very vulnerable. Both…

First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you feel this way. It's not uncommon for people who didn't receive compassion especially from parents to also not learn how to extend compassion towards themselves…

This exact thing happened to me about 4 1/2 weeks ago in a 2-year relationship. As a recipient of this, it does bring me some comfort that she still loved and cared about me. I do feel some resentment…

The way you describe it sounds more like a stable response, and we wouldn't be here in the first place :P. E.g. you go on a few dates with someone, slowly get to know them, and realise you're just n…

Emotionally it was better. He actually tried to meet me in the middle and address my needs. However, he isn't the type to freely give words of affirmation and I needed that. He tried, but it went agai…

Those kind of selfies make me think she’s trying to feel sexy because she doesn’t think she is. Is she seeing a therapist on her own? I’d question if there is a disconnect, emotionally or physically.…

My SP is actively putting efforts in getting to know me. He is so sweet and honest and respecting my wishes. Good communicator and such a gentleman🥰. He's planning to visit me in a month which is 9 h…