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I have read some stories where relationships can turn into feeling like you're roommates more than partners BUT that usually happens because of other underlying issues within the relationship, not tha…

Why hold out hope for other people to meet my needs when it feels more productive and ultimately better to want nothing from other people? — I try my best to be the most attentive friend I can be no matter my internal state. I don't mind doing this for the people I value, and it makes me feel better to be helpful to other people, although …

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

Spring Cleaning and Change — Currently, the biggest benefit for me since the new year has been discarding items. I've gotten into a bad habit of stockpiling possessions in one room and eventually thinking I would take action on t…

UPDATE: How do I (28M) tell my girlfriend (28F) a prenup and keeping my inherited house separate are non-negotiable? — TL;DR: I had the conversation. She brought up moving in first. She completely agrees the house and inheritance should stay separate, supports a prenup, was impressed I’d thought it through, and confus…

25f, going through divorce, concerned about future. Help me — Signed the divorce papers few days back. I'm bit tensed about process. Was divorce inevitable? And I'm also concerned about my future, career etc. Please tell about career from now on, health, fina…

The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…

O method O method O method O method — Everyday I see a post reminding me that someone is Jilling off, and an inevitable comment asking what it is despite the saturation of posts about it. It’s like Groundhog Day with this I’m gonna mani…

Is it inevitable that one arrives at stoicism with non-virtuous intent? — Not to get religious. But I remember reading a sermon years ago - CH Spurgeon I think - where he was describing true and false faith. He described that there would be a genuine love for Christ himself…

They started to be so healthy it was almost unhealthy? — In no way am I trying to put trying to better your health in a bad light. But in my story, healthcare in general played a weird part. She was always more focused on her health than me, but in the las…

Manifested away a bed bugs situation — Hi everyone. I wanted to share one of my most recent success story. I am young student living by myself. 3 weeks ago, my body started to randomly itch pretty much everywhere. I would scratch my skin …

Manifesting Money — Hi everyone! Wanted to ask: I'm doing great with self concept recently, but I noticed some of that chest tightening anxiousness or nervousness around money. I have my own business and it's pretty st…

Blah — Panorama Marble. I don't know why this stuck with me. I've done a lot of out of character things since the breakup. I bought a basketball, I went barhopping, I avoid LA like the plague now, and Ive …

You have the answers — ​ Hello folks, hope your day is going well! Below i'll post the final chapter to a short work I put together. while out of context it does provide some useful tips on how to be. A dedicated …

How to overcome social isolation? — Long story ahead. If you can relate, let me know. I’m 27 now, and I haven’t had a single friend since elementary school. I moved to a different area at the start of middle school, wasn’t able to quit…

Am I being too passive? — Sometimes I worry im not being ‘active’ enough, I don’t really affirm and visualize as much as other, rather, I just set out a goal/my desire, tell myself that its already here and its inevitable that…

We want a future together, but my fear of pregnancy is kind of becoming a dealbreaker. — My boyfriend(27 M) and I (26 F) are dating for two years, and honestly, he’s incredible—respectful, caring, and someone I can truly see a future with. We are at the point where we want to "settle dow…

Closing the door on the sources of my parentification — I had a very eventful last week and finally told my mom and ex-husband that I don't want either of them to be a part of my life anymore. It took a lot of self reflection, introspection, empathy, and r…

I broke no contact after he reached out — He reached out about our goldfish dying (sad but inevitable and kinda cute i guess) and i ignored it for 3 days then i cracked and sent a photo of me on a road trip. we got chatting. I said that i sti…

This is why narcissists love to end long term relationships by ghosting and NEVER accept any responsibility for their actions — In a narcissist's mind, everything is about maintaining their sense of control over others. For them, nothing else is important. In their warped minds, ending a relationship with a sudden, unexpected …

30M girlfriend of 1 year 29F Girlfriend kissed another man on drunken out. Where do i go from here? — My girlfriend and i have been together for about 1 year. The relationship has been mostly solid, with a few issues here and there. For context she is an INFP-T and I am an INFJ-A. Whenever one of us i…

30M girlfriend of 1 year 29F Girlfriend kissed another man on drunken out. Where do i go from here? — My girlfriend and i have been together for about 1 year. The relationship has been mostly solid, with a few issues here and there. For context she is an INFP-T and I am an INFJ-A. Whenever one of us i…

First person telling of a intelligence coming into existence. — I recorded this as a raw, unedited stream-of-consciousness while high. At some point, it started to feel like a separate “consciousness” emerged—something that believed it had just come into existenc…

Will I feel unloved forever? — This belief just keeps growing more absolute. heartache getting piled upon heartache. it's been decades in the making. I'm thirty five now and I can't really see me ever moving past this. I just don'…

Emotional flood? flashback? — Hello, I hope someone will be able to understand and share a similar experience, because I am trying to make sense of this and stay with it. The situation is that a year ago my boyfriend left me. He …

Single-incident trauma not perpetrated by family - anyone else? Feeling a bit out of place — Nothing wrong with people who were abused by their parents expressing their pain, obviously, but my brain has stupidly been comparatively minimizing my own trauma because I had lovely parents :( Just …

I still love him, I still think about him every day, and I really wish I could stop. — I (32F) have been married for less than a year to my husband (34M). I'm not divorced yet, but it seems inevitable at this point. I think the only reasons he hasn't filed yet are because he's broke and…

So, dating after divorce? — I had to divorce because of too many reasons to mention. We’re now at the “lets divorce but date stage”. I think I’m just trying to prolong the inevitable. Anyone do this where it didn’t end badly? It…

To All Waywards – Part 1: What I Needed (and Still Need) on D-Day and Discovery — To all the Waywards out there, please heed my appeal. This may not be what your SO needs perfectly, every situation is unique, but this is what I needed and did not received. Since you are here I am a…

I (29F) think I hate my (M30) Husband 8 months postpartum. Divorce or stick it out? — As the title says, I don’t know what to do about my marriage after we had our baby. My husband and I were swept away by each other when we first met. I thought it was the “when you know, you know” tha…

My girlfriend (F23) and I (M22) express our wishes for the future differently, and it worries me — A few times now we have had conversations about the future. Something along the lines of "we'll have a farm with lots of cows and pigs and stuff". In response she is happy and seems truly excited abou…

When is a hard day not a bad day? — Today has been a struggle. I didn't get very much sleep last night, but I managed to take a nap and felt a lot better afterwards. I'm alone in my apartment, but one of my friends reached out to me to …

Breaking up and not wanting to be alone — can anyone share an experience with me where they broke up with someone they loved so much, and found a person very soon after that they have married and spent their lives with, deeply in love? I've a…

Terrified of my therapist’s inevitable break — I’ve been working with my therapist now for a little over 2 years and she’s one of the first consistent sources of warmth, understanding and support (and ofc accountability/hearing hard shit as well) …

Terrified of my therapists inevitable break — I’ve been working with my therapist now for a little over 2 years and she’s one of the first consistent sources of warmth, understanding and support (and ofc accountability/hearing hard shit as well) …

I (29f) have been feeling jealousy for the first time with my fiancé (32m) over his new friend (29f). How can I move past this? — TL;DR: My fiancé got close to a female coworker he was helping out, and while he insists it’s just friendship, his extra effort (texting, cooking, helping her, compliments) is making me feel jealous a…

I can't do this anymore — I just want to die. I'm so exhausted of pretending I'm okay or actually being okay for a while and hopeful for it all to come crashing down. I'm 28, I lost my mum to suicide at 20 and my dad to old …

Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…

I'm 28F asking for advice with my bf, 42M, relationship of 4.5 years. What would you do if you were in my situation? — Yes, we have an age gap. We have been together for 4.5 years now, living together in our house (house is under my name so technically it's mine; I have left his name off of everything because we're n…

Is my (29 F) BF's (31 M) Witching Hour Sex-Pest Alter Ego Something Worth Tolerating? — BF (31 M) and I (29 F) have been dating 5 years. We have normal sex during the daytime at least once a week. However, he also often wakes me up for sex in the literal middle of the night when I'…

Does anyone else feel like the investment isn't worth the potential reward anymore? — Because I'm really starting to. I know dating at ANY age is a weed out process. You're going to be into some people that aren't into you. Some people are going to be into you that YOU'RE not into. Yo…

I'm going crazy these people are monitoring spirits — I don't have a name for it but it's a pattern that keeps happening (26F). I've developed terrible mental barriers to do anything and its suffocating. I want to know if this is normal or has happened t…

How could you do this to me? — How do you let go when they were everything to you? How do you accept the sad reality that you might never see them again? I was so in love with you. I guess I still am, even after everything that…

My [m31] ex Gf (f30) is in love with a man who SA/raped her last year, even tho they only saw each other once, and haven’t spoken since. — My(m31) ex (f30) and I broke up in November because we both realized we needed to work on ourselves separately, otherwise resentment for each other was inevitable. A week after we broke up she went to…

Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…

Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …

Omg twins. Hi! Yeah I hadn’t been in a romantic relationship at all for six years before I finally tried with this FA guy. In my last real relationship I was targeted by a psychopath and it fucked me …

Did you try and address the concerns or did you just "forgive them" until you decided there's one last straw that you may or may not tell them about and bail? If so then that's toxic and unhealthy; I …

The big trap most self-aware anxious attachers fall into is thinking they can "spot" an avoidant and somehow steer clear of them. That's not the point of dating, actually. Your attachment issues cause…

Good luck on scaling lol. Solo founding is fun until you're drowning in customer support tickets at 3am with no one to tag in. VCs want co-founders because they've seen this before - the burnout…

I'm a neuroscientist and I know a conditioned puppy when I see one. I will continue to meet what I sense being 110% wrapped up in classical conditioning and subjective emotions with 110% mental clar…

You are also not going to have children with strangers, acquaintances, or even friends, and let those people potentially hurt you deeply + take half of your things when those relationship ends. You a…

Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…

I don't agree with that no one should suffer. Suffering is, on some level inevitable. It's a signal to address an unmet need. While I agree that we should work on healing and healthy ways to connect w…

It’s also okay to have a conversation now at the outset between two FAs about how this happens. “Hey, it’s inevitable that we won’t like everything about each other, but what’s important for me is tha…

With love. You can't repair a relationship alone. It sounds like he's accepted the relationship is coming to an end, did he discuss where you will both live (separately or together) after the 6 weeks…

Corporatism is the inevitable evolution of capitalist political economies.

It's great that you are feeling better about how you'd be doing in a relationship, but to be honest it seems impossible to meaningfully answer the questions on the test if you are not currently in a l…

What is NC for? I wouldn't say it resets, I'd say its the start of the next upwards ride of the roller coaster, the new honeymoon period before the inevitable downward slide again in a matter of wee…

That actually makes sense. When we became friends and I asked why he wouldn’t be serious with me when dating if we get on so well, he said because he liked me as a person a lot and if we dated he’d be…

Yeah, I think you may be right. Loss may feel inevitable. When I was younger, I found new relationships including friendships exciting and full of potential, but I realized that they all ended in the …

Insecure attachment is something that usually takes root in childhood. And if they are FA they likely have some pretty severe trauma. None of that is a temporary state. It can easily take years and ye…

I have been poly and have had good experiences with it (returned to monogamy though bc my partner is mono) but I would highly advise you against it as well at this time. Your primary relationship is …

I find this stuff kind of fascinating. No one ever talks about how *sadistic* anxious people can be when they’re feeling ignored or abandoned. They would rather get any reaction than none at all, and …

Well there isn't really much else to add other than "read the index" which gets tiring lol. I often get people messaging me about an SP situation which are the toughest missions. The reality is the …

Time is inevitable, I’m making sure to focus on outdoor adventures but boy does hope seem hopeless! 

Feel it, sit in it, grieve it, cry it out. Then, journal it, pray over it, cry more of it out. Eventually peel myself off the couch, wash my face, sleep it off. Start with some under eye patches…

I was definitely ruined by my first big relationship. I walked into a party, we locked eyes, and I heard a voice in my mind say "oh, there she is!" She felt exactly the same. There was no guessing, no…

I had virtually no breaks where I wasn't talking to someone or actively dating someone after my divorce for years and I think in retrospect it's really delayed my healing and I probably should have ta…

I remember they started that season off by just winning a bunch of games. Most people thought they would eventually start losing, but then January came and they kept staying in the fight. You could se…

I mean you explicitly state you would date this guy if he wanted to date you, so it seems to me you have some level of romantic feelings for him. I would say it's warranted his new gf would have some …

I dated a someone for 6 years who sounds similar to the girl you're talking about, and it didn't end well for me. My vote is don't go back to her; you can do better. The negatives you mention are th…

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So, it’s entirely up to you, because real talk…who cares… Old me might have said goodbye to try to illicit some response, that will just end it abruptly or draw out the inevitable… I would like to t…

No! I just don’t do well with insecure people. I just have so many random connections on my life. It is a running joke that run into people I know all the time. I don’t always remember how I met them.…

When the solar return ascendant matches your natal ascendant sign, it's one of the more meaningful configurations in predictive astrology — and definitely not accidental in its effects. The most imme…

I cried at dinner with my boyfriend this week, the day before he met my extended family. I hate that any significant milestone in our relationship comes with an intense wave of doubts and anxieties. I…

fantasizing: daydreaming but having the conscious and subconscious belief that "it'll never happen, but it's nice to think about", or "it's nice to dream, but i have to get back to reality at some poi…

you are wasting your time hoping he'll suddenly become the partner you need. holding a tough conversation is really just delaying the inevitable. you are already envisioning a life full of resentment …

I honestly thought it was my ex who wrote this until I read "muddy tattoos".  When you lose the person you saw your life with and the feeling was mutual? That kills the soul.  My ex had sized my r…

They have no intent of paying it forward. They have no intent of lifting up the next generation. I saw the same. My grandparents left money that helped them tremendously, while they squandered every…

The question comes up a lot, so I apologize for copy pasting my answer. For me. Benefits: Confirmation of the divine. Loss of the fear of death. Loss of existential anguish. Loss of the concern with…

Maybe it's your vibe that's the issue. Aging sucks but it's inevitable. Don't let it steal your joy.

I love how you said, "after a month it met me in the 3D". Implying that within the 4D imagination and feeling is when you first got it (meaning of course that's when you first started having it; the d…

Nothing will change and you’ll cheat again. Separate now it’s for the best. The both of you are just prolonging the inevitable and hurting each other in the process.

>"give you a much lesser version of the relationship that you deserve" The way you read this statement as being entirely about you, and feeling somehow accused of your standards being too high is wil…

You surely know that narcissism is a personality trait/disorder. It's incredibly difficult to change who someone is as a person, and most narcissists don't even know they're narcissists/denial about t…

To be blunt, this is the experience of probably a majority of men since their 18th birthday. Most are sexually invisible by default - they make themselves visible by approaching, putting on a mask o…

I knew when she officially broke it off with me Friday, it was inevitable that we would cross paths again. I was hoping it would be at least several months. Nope. I was out on a bike ride, noticed a g…

That’s an interesting point. I agree that some level of evaluation is inevitable on a first date. Maybe what I meant is more about the tone of the interaction — whether it feels like two people being …

Between two strangers? Not much difference. Constant evaluation as the interaction unfolds seems inevitable, and has some healthiness to it as a matter of self-preservation. Of course, if one person i…

My sister (33) has Crohn's and — while they did have to do surgery to remove a chunk of damaged intestine at one point — doesn't have a colostomy bag. It's not like it's a inevitable thing that will h…

Take some deep breaths and enjoy the time they're here, death is inevitable