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The Gateway Experience tapes teach you basics (and astral BHP and tools) , I definitely recommend (also Robert Monroe's books). I had my first projection while listening to the tapes (I encountered t…

What questions can you ask a client who doesn’t know how to define their brand? — Sent over a questionnaire to my sales team to use for onboarding and they all came back and said most of the clients don’t know how to answer the questions related to their design guidelines (contract…

Interview for the same company from 2 recruiters (UK) — Hey, I'm in a bit of an awkward position and could do with some advice. I had a recruiter reach out to me last week about a role that was coming up. I said they could send my CV over. On Friday a di…

Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…

Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…

If I could just stop deactivating!! (FA) — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…

Ignoring after an argument. Deactivating or disinterest? — I’m not really sure if this belongs here or in my Taurus subreddit, because he’s a Taurus, as am I, and we can be stubborn. But he also leans very avoidant, and has started ignoring me after arguing.…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

When does the relationship clock start? — I (42F) met my bf (36M) in September on a dating app. We dated for five weeks, then I ended things because he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship (mental health struggles). We didn’t talk for two …

Anyone have the experiance of anxious attatchment killing you as a person — I never see anyone talking about this and im wondering if its normal. Ever since i got in my relationship 2 years ago, i cant seem to find any passion within myself. The passion for my intrests and ho…

Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…

I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…

I (28F) gave my boyfriend (29M) an STD and I can’t stop feeling so ashamed and guilty — My boyfriend and I met on tinder a couple of months ago and everything has been so great. We get along wonderfully and we have such a good time together. I was sexually active with a couple of people …

Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. — I’ve been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2. He is genuinely the best person I know. Kind, safe, loyal. He’s my best friend. When I cry, he’s who I want holding me. When something funny happe…

did i mess up by telling my therapist i feel like i'll end up killing myself in the end? — i had been going to this therapist for like year and a half. at one vulnerable moment i told her i feel like i'll just end up killing myself in the end. (i maybe didnt word it correctly, i just didnt …

Where to go from here — Just to warn you, this is a long one... For context, my partner (F39) and I (M40) have been together for 17 years, have two kids together. This all started in early January but seems to have been goi…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

Cheated on after 10.5 years together, divorced at 11 years together. — Hi Everyone, This is half venting and half hoping for advice or people to listen. I'm at a low point right now so I thought reaching out to a community might be beneficial as opposed to holding it…

UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…

Sexual Vampire — I have no idea where to turn- and I never thought I would posting something like this. But here we are. 5 weeks ago I met a man at a bar. He was a bit younger than me, the same age as my first love. …

She snuck out with a "friend" while we were at a party — Hello everyone, this is all still very new since I just founf out about everything 3 days ago. I (24M) am in deep intense pain in knowing that my girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me at least 4 times …

It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…

(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

What can I do when my (20F) husband (20M) is convinced I cheated on him because I’m pregnant again and refuses to listen to me. — Me (20F) and my husband (20M) both just turned 20. We have a baby boy who just turned 1 in January. We had been dating in high school for 2 years and I found out I was pregnant in May of our senior ye…

Gambling Epidemic Among Asians in North America — I recently came back from Vegas, and I was shocked by the number of Asians gambling at the casinos. I talked to a few of them and some of them were from Canada, Los Angeles, Texas and all over. There …

Lust & Letting go — I have an above average sex drive to say the least. I discovered I wasn't loved as much as I wanted as a child. I used to feel an uncontrollable urge to release sexual tension and I did that too much…

I (30F) suspect my mom (58F) may have taken money and my deceased grandmother’s earrings while I was away. I have no proof and it still bothers me years later, how do I move forward? — I’m 30F and my mom is 58F. I currently have very minimal contact with her due to a number of issues in our relationship. I haven’t blocked her, but I don’t engage much beyond unavoidable family events…

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…

My (23M) girlfriend (26F) desires less sex and has slowly stopped initiating. When are things deemed as sexual incompatibility? — My (23M) girlfriend (26F) has, over the course of our 3 year long relationship, wanted less sex. At the start of our relationship, we were going at it like crazy. Daily, if not twice a day. Over time …

My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F) — I don’t even know how to explain this without sounding insane I had a miscarriage 3 months ago. It was early but it still wrecked me. My husband (together 5, married 2) knows that. He saw how bad it …

Panic attack — I’m not sure if I had a panic attack yesterday. I ended up going to the ER and all my test came back came back fine. It started with my heart racing really fast I would say got to 130s lasted a while …

I 49M am confused at her 43F behaviour — I started seeing this woman three weeks ago. We went out for a first date after chatting a few days and it went really well we did a few different things and and spent the entire evening together and …

She wants to know things, but isnt actually interested — Really just using this post as a sounding board for some thoughts I’ve had recently. My mom and I’s relationship has always been strained and at the core, emotional disconnect was the biggest issue. I…

She cheated after 14 years — This is my first ever post on Reddit and it’s a long one so apologies in advance for any formatting errors. I have been with my fiancé for 14 years, we have been engaged for the last 4. Our relations…

Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life? — Asking for advice in a situation that is a bit of a shitshow. I’ll try to make it succinct. I live in the UK but am from a different European country. I, F42, started seeing M44, “S”, just over t…

Ex came back with lustful intentions and its so humiliating — i really need some support pls. I was in my first relationship in 2024. He was my first love i was intensely attached to him and i was a mess when he left. he admitted that he never fell in love with…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

They Came Back After I Moved On. — It hurt so much the first 2 months after the breakup to be discarded in the way I was. A 1.5 year relationship thrown away by her just like that because she didn't see a future with me. She called me …

My body constantly feels like a panic attack ... how do I ever reverse this? — Hi, all! I really would appreciate some help here. I've had a lot of traumatic things happen in the last few years, and I realized a lot of traumatic things happened in my childhood. There is a lot I'…

She came back — Hello, My girlfriend of 8 years broke up with me last year due to one specific problem I had/have. I griefed, I mourned, I moved on (kind of) and after 10 months of breakup and 8 months of NC (she in…

My ex destroyed his life after we broke up — I don’t even know why I’m writing this, but everything has escalated so much that I just need to get this off my chest. I (33F) was in a relationship for more than 14 years with my ex, let’s call him…

My experience with Iboga — After 10 years of struggling with an autoimmune condition, I made a decision that completely changed my life. My iboga experience was one of the most profound and life-changing events of my life, and…

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

I've had headaches for 3 days now since I did 3 audios in a row. Help, advice. — Three days ago, in the afternoon, I listened to three audio recordings in a row: Focus 10 Pre, Advanced, and Libre. I read here that someone said they could achieve an OBE (Out-of-Body Experience) eve…

She came back :)

Mentally checked out of this “relationship” after he came back crying to me about how we should do therapy and “realized” he is also in the wrong

Work - it was my first mission. Daily routine as in the index, in three months I missed maybe 3-4 days due to travel. The result - work in a profession for which I had no qualifications.  On the oth…

Not OP, but I really appreciate you sharing this perspective here. I (FA) have been in relationships in the past with DAs and FAs, and have always felt like there was something wrong with me for not f…

Yep. The honeymoon was over and I calmly told him my concerns and he ghosted me. Came back 4 years later. What a joker.

The way I identify a DA early on is by watching their actions. Very often they are very very intense at the begining, some even lovebombing, and then all of the sudden they dissappear for a couple of…

I agree with this, but also want to point out some DAs don’t actually communicate a boundary. I had two ex’s who were DA and I can lean anxious. Both were very inconsistent in communicating “I need sp…

I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…

he came back after about 3 days after this post, then tried very clumsily to reconnect, but it was very weird and like he was a completely different person. then he called me and tried to act like not…

My ex came back 4 times in 2 years. Every time the cycles were the same but condensed, like at first it was long nights of processing our breakup over text and finally meeting up and saying I love yo…

Bro Frr my ex did the same she came back but the things she did to push me away bruh I wouldn’t take her back. , also she ran back to another guy just after 2 days of breakup so yeah never

Yeah… I had a rough time with my DA ex but he never suggested sleeping with anyone while we took some time apart. As for how long, it depends on the person. He usually didn’t need more than a week b…

Yeah, thats understandable and I feel/felt the same. We were together previously and I broke up with him because he wasn't aware and he just cycled through anxious lashing out during arguments or de…

Thank you for this true, candid account. >After a few weeks he came back wanting another chance and said he would work on himself in therapy. How did he become aware? Did you mention anything to him…

it’s like reading my own story except i was the one asking to break up for him to fight for me cuz he was deactivated to the point of wanting no sex at all and saying hurtful things to me. we broke up…

Yes I think I knew we needed solid time apart to heal and after the 6 week breakup I had firmly told myself I wouldn't go back unless he had done therapy and worked on himself but I knew it would prob…

I actually feel that I'm only slightly anxious leaning and relatively secure but I got triggered more when he was avoidant and I think a secure person would have a very hard time staying secure. I thi…

Did you notice that each time they came back the deactivation happened quicker each time? My experience From 1st kiss to deactivation around 2 months Went NC for 2 weeks She came back and we b…

Oh I see, interesting. I don't think he had BPD but he definitely would idealise me in the beginning and then devalue me in the deactivation stage. I definitely noticed his black and white thinking an…

This was very much my experience and I eventually married another FA, we detached from each other probably and stayed together for 10 years. After him I met another FA, fireworks, amazing 3 months a…

Yes that could be a good interpretation of it! It could also be that maybe this woman in the example had a good story about relationships in general but just not her current partner for whatever reaso…

TLDR: Anxious(22M) seeking advice during a break with an avoidant(21F) . I am an extremely anxious person due to cheating and abandonment in prior relationships. I never used to care as much about th…

Was she avoidant? I dated this girl for almost a year. At first, I didn’t think she was avoidant. She was good at communicating her boundaries, was consistent with everything, and made me feel secur…

How often should you share emotions with your partner? I [43F] am avoidant and my partner [43M] is anxious. I am trying to find the realistic and healthy balance of emotion sharing as I tend to not …

I’m listening to this on Spotify! It’s brought up so many things I’ve never even considered. One of the most thought provoking trauma books I’ve ever read. My dad walked out and never came back and my…

I was the guy in this, we tried to make things work previously but we always came back to the same issues. It was more her than I. She never felt like I did enough or received enough validation from m…

I get it. How much time have you been in this relationship with him ? I ask you this because I think one way to calm your emotions could be thinking something like "Ok, it's not the first time we have…

Thank you for sharing this. Reading your post felt like someone handed me the secret playbook to my own current nightmare. I am on the other side of this dynamic—the anxious partner desperately in lov…

I've had an experience with FA about strong and brutal avoidance showing up after getting to intimacy while early dating and him and anti depressants. Like we used to see each other regularly for one…

how long have you and your bf been together? i have an anxious attachment style. i have been with my bf for 3 years, in the beginning he had an avoidant attachment style but as he grew in to a man and…

Yes, i had started to do just that when she told me about her past with this guy. It sucked all the wind out of my sails for dancing with her at all; i needed time to process it before i could see it …

Yeah, mine came back again too after this last post, sigh.

Separation/space/distance triggers feelings of loneliness and abandonment and even though you aren't breaking up, you may self sabotage to either reconnect to feel connected or to breakup first. Here'…

I’ve been dating an avoidant woman for 4 months, we’ve been through two short break ups (2 days and 5 days long respectively). We’ve been together for about a month since the last break. Last week, a…

Hey I've been facing some issues in my relationship. Need advice on how to fix everything. My partner very recently expressed her concern for my health and that i should really avoid drinking at all.…

Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…

An acquaintance came back into my life after months and he was so sincere in what he wrote and everything but it has been making me feel nauseous because it feels too intimate. I feel sick and so gros…

I am anxious attacher earned secure, after 2 years of therapy. Now I am in a relationship with DA or FA, possibly the second option, hurting as hell, considering leaving them. Everything was ok, for t…

Hey man, gonna answer through the lens of my own experience. Hopefully it’s helpful. If you don’t resonate with it, please disregard. I’m also assuming that you have a healthy relationship with her an…

Hope someone can tell me what i did wrong or misread. I’m in my 30s, Mikaylah is in her early 20s. i transferred to her department last July. At first i wasn’t interested in her as anything more than …

The guy I have been seeing came back yesterday from his solo holidays of one month and went from the airport straight to my place. I feel in such a little love bubble. I guess I will just enjoy this n…

this didn’t get any traction in the previous thread so i’m hoping this one might get me some advice. i have to go back to work on friday so any help would be appreciated. Hope someone can tell me wh…

first, i wanted things to remain professional. think of our workplace like a restaurant. i was on the far side of the kitchen, talking with another chef. she was a server and she would just come hang …

I’m new here… wanted to ask some advice. I’ve been dating a man for a year and he is also my coworker. We had kind of a bumpy road, and have even broken up twice in Aug and then September but came bac…

I've been to two singles events and feel hopeless coming out of them. Well that's not true, in the first one I managed to vibe with a girl and got her number but it just didn't go anywhere, no date …

Anyone in their mid thirties who wants kids feel like sharing their perspective or venting? I came back to dating recently when I realized I had too much grief to pull the trigger on artificial …

> It's been three weeks since the date and I just can't figure out what went so wrong that I don't at least deserve a "Hey, I just wasn't feeling it". Just to add some perspective to this, some peop…

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I was so ready to give it up last night. Me and dude were vibing, dancing, having fun. He had a new haircut and looked great. I’m like ohhh maybe I’ll stop holding out and finally get some. In the mi…

I would want to know, but obviously you decide how much involvement you want to maintain in this. I’ve been unknowingly in a similar situation. I found her and I told her everything, so maybe that’s…