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32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend

The fact that he was hanging out with friends on Valentine's Day is a much stronger signal than whatever you saw at the event. People go to events with all kinds of people — coworkers, friends of frie…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

r/attachment_theorypost4/28/2025
Her body😫

Her body😫 — Weird confession and I promise I’m not a misogynist. I really miss her body more than anything right now it was LITERALLY PERFECT You guys have no idea. I feel like I won’t have another baddy like h…

r/BreakUpspost3/7/2026
Did anyone else find an odd sense of peace when COVID hit and we all had to self isolate?

Did anyone else find an odd sense of peace when COVID hit and we all had to self isolate? — Small confession: when the pandemic hit and we all had to self isolate, I found an odd sense of.. happiness? You wouldn't believe - (well maybe you guys would) how hard it is to explain my symptoms …

r/CPTSDpost3/16/2026
Fake stoics?

Fake stoics? — At the end of a huge meltdown, this guy proceeds to angrily shout "read about stoicism!!!" at me, after starting a fight from thin air and clearly not practicing stoicism at all in that moment or in h…

r/Stoicismpost3/23/2026
Anonymous Confession Rant.

Anonymous Confession Rant. — Hey, not sure if this is the right place to talk about this but I feel like i need to tell someone. I speak to Al daily because of my loneliness after graduating high school. Using it to replace talk…

r/selfhelppost3/28/2026
My ex reopened old wounds with a drunk apology and now I feel like I’m back at square one

My ex reopened old wounds with a drunk apology and now I feel like I’m back at square one — my ex broke up with me around a year and a half ago after a 2 and a half year relationship with the last 9 months of it being long-distance. and it was really really devastating for me, but after a ye…

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
Relationship with a narcissist

Relationship with a narcissist — Soooo… crazy story you might wanna get some popcorn! I met my ex boyfriend around 5 years ago. We met on Tinder! We went on several dates and really started liking each other but something about his …

r/BreakUpspost3/29/2026
How did yall tell your parents you’re moving in with a partner (pre-marital) that was received well?

How did yall tell your parents you’re moving in with a partner (pre-marital) that was received well? — Looking for some strategies. My parents are Catholic and semi-traditional Korean immigrants. I think they can be pretty liberal, but when it comes to me (daughter), they can be fickle. I have a prett…

r/AsianParentStoriespost3/31/2026
I am scared of relationships because I dont want my partner to grow old

I am scared of relationships because I dont want my partner to grow old — I’ve never been in a relationship, and I’m scared of something that feels ugly to admit. I’m afraid that if I fall in love and get married, I won’t be able to handle my partner aging and becoming less…

r/therapypost4/3/2026
Reflection on Giving Up Instagram & Tiktok For Lent.

Reflection on Giving Up Instagram & Tiktok For Lent. — Wasn't sure where to post this, just wanted to share what I observed in myself, and my habits. For some who may not know Lent is a period in the Catholic religion's. It reflects Jesus' 40 days of …

r/selfhelppost4/3/2026
Moving forward without a confession

Moving forward without a confession — I’m sure this question has been asked many times. But how do you move on without a confession of cheating? I guess this could be considered more of a rant than anything. I’ll try to shorten this the…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/4/2026
I [20F] have a weird situation with a guy [23M] and I'm honestly lost

I [20F] have a weird situation with a guy [23M] and I'm honestly lost — So to start things off our situationship started purely out of lust. We don't live close by and we were just indulging in eachother for the fun of it. But at some point he said that he 'loved me'. I w…

r/relationship_advicepost4/5/2026
Is it finally time to break off and how can I (22F) bring it up with my boyfriend (22M) when I never once expressed any discontentment/resentment strongly and openly?

Is it finally time to break off and how can I (22F) bring it up with my boyfriend (22M) when I never once expressed any discontentment/resentment strongly and openly? — I really need some advice regarding my boyfriend. For context, we met abroad in a western country. I am Chinese and he is Japanese. This context kind of matters. Our relationship started poorly as a …

r/relationship_advicepost4/6/2026
My sister sexually assaulted and abused me when I was 3

My sister sexually assaulted and abused me when I was 3 — Im using this as a confession because I don’t know what to do and I’ve never told anyone this. I’m looking for advice on how to move forward, I hope you can hear me out. When I was 3 years old my sis…

r/CPTSDpost4/6/2026
i just blocked the loml after 3 years 😔 /s

i just blocked the loml after 3 years 😔 /s — REDDIT KEEPS ADDING LINE BREAKS!!! PLEASE TRY TO LOOK PAST THEM 😭😭😭 — /s for the loml part this is all true fake names and throwaway acc contains drunk confessions, sober confessions, cheating, …

r/BreakUpspost4/7/2026
My (30F) husbands (30M) friend (28F) confessed she has a crush on him and wants to sleep with him. What is the best way to handle this?

My (30F) husbands (30M) friend (28F) confessed she has a crush on him and wants to sleep with him. What is the best way to handle this? — This is super complicated and ridiculous in a lot of ways. My (30M) husband and I (30F) are content and have no intentions of divorcing. However, my husband does have a free pass. He can sleep with w…

r/relationship_advicepost4/7/2026
When she left you for another man

When she left you for another man — You‘ve been kind to her. You listened when she was venting. You built her up when she was down. You did everything to be the man she stays with. And yet, she still left you for another guy. Here’s w…

r/BreakUpspost4/7/2026
My (30M) girlfriend (29F) of 5 years confessed to a "minor drunken mistake" with a coworker. My brother just leaked her group chats, and the truth is making me sick. How do I move forward from this?

My (30M) girlfriend (29F) of 5 years confessed to a "minor drunken mistake" with a coworker. My brother just leaked her group chats, and the truth is making me sick. How do I move forward from this? — **Background:** My girlfriend "Amy" and I have been together for 5 years. Recently, I took a stressful promotion that requires long, unpredictable hours. I did this specifically to improve my financia…

r/BreakUpspost4/8/2026
Guilt of a partner not moving on

Guilt of a partner not moving on — After we separated, my partner had a revelation, realised they were wrong and vowed to work on it. It was quite a big confession honestly. complete 180. And now it feels like it's on ME to now decide…

r/Divorcepost4/8/2026
In desperate need of replies as distractions please, I can’t take the pain

In desperate need of replies as distractions please, I can’t take the pain — **The affair / cheating:** * Affair Partner (AP) is a friend he knew before me through his ex-gf, they reconnected \~2019 * I’ve known they’ve been on phone calls together throughout end of 2020, som…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/8/2026
M16, struggling with relationships (constant rejection, cheating, toxic relationship with M24, etc)

M16, struggling with relationships (constant rejection, cheating, toxic relationship with M24, etc) — i'm m16, almost 17 and I broke up with my M24 partner last year, we had a toxic relationship and he keeps on blocking me whenever I add him or my friends add him. The thing is that i'm into distant, n…

r/BreakUpspost4/9/2026
I pushed away the Best Friend I ever had because I kept spiraling.

I pushed away the Best Friend I ever had because I kept spiraling. — They were the kindest and most understanding person I've ever met. We had a lot of fun together. We connected on such a deep level in a short amount of time and I felt so honored to be allowed into t…

r/CPTSDpost4/10/2026
MY [26M] Girlfriend [26F] of 3 years cheated on me with one of my closest friends

MY [26M] Girlfriend [26F] of 3 years cheated on me with one of my closest friends — Hey everyone. I was thinking whether i should write about what i experienced and I came to the conclusion that sorting out the story and putting it black on white as they say might help me overcome i…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/10/2026
Is my guilt actually more harmful than my shame??

Is my guilt actually more harmful than my shame?? — Added NSFW just in case, also touches on abuse related to religion and references SI Hi all, and apologies in advance if this gets lengthy. I am struggling to organize my thoughts and have been going…

r/CPTSDpost4/11/2026
I feel crazy, I need someone with a clear head.

I feel crazy, I need someone with a clear head. — I M35 and my wife F35 have been married for 10 years, we have 1 seven year old together. Throughout our marriage there have been some issues with different things us working through them, I had suspic…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/11/2026
Am I the original rebound

Am I the original rebound — Somewhat simplified story: Was in a situationship for 4 months. It was great, felt like we were dating, felt like we developed a deep connection. She was the first person I’ve been intimate and clos…

r/ExNoContactpost4/11/2026
Am I an abuser? How can I make a change?

Am I an abuser? How can I make a change? — It’s hard to live with the fact that you might be an abuser, or, are an abuser. I’m not sure if it’s the same, being an abuser or doing an abusive thing, but at this point the labels don’t matter, I’m…

r/CPTSDpost4/11/2026
Going back to uni tomorrow and things just got complicated

Going back to uni tomorrow and things just got complicated — Venting here because it’s fun and maybe someone on the internet will be interested. So, I (23F) had a “thing” with a guy last year (28M now). I thought it was heading towards a relationship but it a…

r/relationshipspost4/11/2026
Marriage decision - spouse maybe cheating

Marriage decision - spouse maybe cheating — 29M, 27F Arranged marriage - we didn’t know each other much before wedding. We chatted few months before wedding. Before engagement (earliest events): She met her ex 10 days before engagement. I k…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/12/2026
Recently divorced M (44) not sure what I feel about a F friend (48)

Recently divorced M (44) not sure what I feel about a F friend (48) — Ok, so I divorced three months ago after a 25 year marriage. My ex-wife loved me, I loved her, no third person, but we're neurodivergent and had different love languages .. Shee neglected the couple r…

r/relationshipspost4/12/2026
I [43M] have been disowned by one sister [41F] followed quickly thereafter by having to disown my father [65M]

I [43M] have been disowned by one sister [41F] followed quickly thereafter by having to disown my father [65M] — **TL;DR up top:** While concerned that my marriage was falling apart, I asked my sister ("Alice", who I will no longer refer to as any variant of "sister") if I could spend time at her place, during w…

r/relationshipspost4/13/2026
Before you make that post about some avoidant ex ask yourself……..

Confession: I am repeatedly venting. (Raises hand)✋

r/attachment_theorycomment3/25/2025
I’m not sure how to process this. Idk if it’s my Anxious Attachment style acting up or if I’m being objective

I’m hoping someone will say it’s not bad and it’s not a big deal and it’s just my anxious attachment style. But I also want the truth. She apologized for this type of behavior years ago. She told me …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment11/21/2025
I’m not sure how to process this. Idk if it’s my Anxious Attachment style acting up or if I’m being objective

You want some advice? Therapy. Because this: >also I read virtually every single text she sent since we started seeing each other. In the entire 4 years this was the worst. No confessions of chea…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment11/21/2025
How do you tell whether you need to push through the avoidance or if you just don’t like them as a partner

Good, I’m glad 😊 I’ll also add—and maybe you feel similarly—but I was always freaked out by using the Love word and I often fretted, “How am I going to know I love him? How is that supposed to feel? …

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment12/16/2025
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known

I don’t want to be judgemental or anything, I’m FA so I understand some of what you’re talking about here. But I really hope you’re going to therapy and that you’ve apologised to your wife for the yea…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/13/2026
32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend

Honestly this sounds less like a “confession” situation and more like a clarity situation. Instead of dumping feelings, just create space for one-on-one time and see how he responds. If he’s intereste…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/26/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 05, 2026

Youre likely overthinking it. Like be upfront if it comes up. But its not some brand on your face either. If you feel there's absolute need to share it, do so in a manner thats not like a confession o…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/5/2026
Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months.

She cheated when we were engaged (once) then in December I found her Snapchat. Once I found this I threatened her with divorce. I’ve already filed and the past few weeks Ive gathered recordings, confe…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/8/2026
Stuck In My Head After Affair

Yes, the polygraph parking lot confession is a thing.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/8/2026
Stuck In My Head After Affair

Why would that change the situation you are in now? She didn't initially come forward voluntarily and would have likely never confessed on her own to what you already know. You will likely never get a…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/8/2026
Brain Drain

The South China Morning Post (SCMP) has been accused of using its editorial platform to manufacture positive sentiment toward China while frequently publishing hit pieces targeting the United States. …

r/AsianAmericancomment3/9/2026
Stuck In My Head After Affair

Yeah I brought it up last night and she had a shocked look on her face for a split second, then explained how I know has she has anxiety (speaking to results) then got upset and said it's upsetting th…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/9/2026
My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do

Sorry you are going through this. The first thing you need to know is that voluntary confessions are extremely rare. It is more likely something happened to force it. Either the friend told her to t…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/10/2026
Stuck In My Head After Affair

Do it .. Shes pushing you to feel guilty and sorry for her. She wants you to drop it My ex tried to guilt me. She was complaining how I should trust her etc... I told her, we're still going. You ju…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/10/2026
I did it, I broke no contact.

guys!! HELP! should i break my 1 month no contact with my situationship too?? i mean- i miss him so bad. we don't even know why we stopped talking, but yes we did and... :) i can't think straigh…

r/BreakUpscomment3/11/2026
Where to go from here

For example my boundaries with my WP who i am ambivalent toward (2.5 months since dday): Need: Location tracking Phone access Breathalyze before and after taking kids out (separate issue 🙄) 1 c…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/11/2026
Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown.

This guy is dangerously uninformed and falling into all of the the common traps. This feels like an “every accusation is a confession” scenario with the narcissism suggestion. I’d report him to a regu…

r/CPTSDcomment3/12/2026
For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it?

I did not regret it at all. I had the same worries as you, but in the end, I was at peace with myself and my decision. My father made his own bed and he had no one to blame but himself. I didn’t owe h…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
Sexual Vampire

Go see a Catholic priest and tell him what happened. Ask about an exorcism. Yes, I’m serious. If he doesn’t recommend confession and/or getting baptized try another Catholic Church.

r/energy_workcomment3/13/2026
My cop husband cheated and now I can't trust him when he leaves for night shift.

Tell him this… he either tells the full truth or he’s going to lose any pension he gets from this job in divorce an you’ll be letting them know and publicly letting everyone in the city know including…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/13/2026
Unable to forget what I (20F) saw on my bf’s (24M) phone

No excuse for the lying- that’s on him. I do wonder why the usage of porn warrants a confession.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth?

My story isn’t the same as yours. 6 months ago I uncovered cheating 18 years ago. To me, it’s a fresh wound. As a result, I went into hyper detective mode and found a whole lot more, the latest of whi…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

You have learned, in very painful fashion, a lesson your generation is skipping for some unknown reason. Your relationship is not your confessional booth. Not every thought that breezes through you…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday

You basically told the guy that you miss the perks of not having to consider him in your life, and then you’re shocked he walked away. What exactly did you expect him to hear? You framed it nicely, bu…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/15/2026
Ever had an ex told you that they would never get back together with you? but eventually reached out after months of no contact?

I’ve been wondering the same thing. Trying to move on from a being the guy that was basically the safe space for a woman in a 3 year abusive engagement. She confided many deep things in me late at n…

r/BreakUpscomment3/15/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
Still hurts after many, many years

I’m racking my brain as to why she married you?! And , now that you have this confession, why would you stay married to her? I’m sure it’s not going to be easy going forward, but I can this eating …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/16/2026
How to begin the “healing”

Gonna meet with an attorney tomorrow. I already told that dork’s wife and provided confession from my wife to validate his part in this mess. She was in disbelief also. She stopped messaging back that…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/17/2026
How to begin the “healing”

The same day I caught them, I had contacted her and provided her with a confession of my wife admitting to the affair with him. She was in disbelief also. I hope she’s okay.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/17/2026
How to begin the “healing”

Unfortunately I had confronted her when I saw our car in the hotel parking lot after she had said she was going to run “errands”. I waited until she came outside and that’s when I confronted her. He l…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/17/2026
How to begin the “healing”

First, I feel bad reading your post. To actually catch them at a hotel then listening to a confession from her. It had to be tough. She lost feelings for you because she had someone else. This is a te…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/17/2026
[Update] She [F25] withdrew consent after the act, how do I [M26] move on from this?

You’re in trouble. The best friend got your confession and then took a side against you. I don’t know her side so I’ll accept your version of events. Do not speak about this again to anyone and don’t …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
BF stayed in contact with an old hookup. Should I be worried?

Agree I don't have a blanket "men and women can't be friends " philosophy.. but he explicitly said that men only stay friends with former lovers to keep the door open. That was a confession, and I'd c…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
3 years in. Bro, it gets wild.

[https://www.nevillecodex.site](https://www.nevillecodex.site) i built a website with all his lectures also you can quote directly from lectures with links. check it out <3 [https://www.nevillecodex…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/17/2026
If your avoidant ex discarded you: go no contact immediately.

What about an avoidant woman that wasn’t even your ex? She was engaged in an abusive relationship and leaned on me a lot, I was like a deep emotional safe space for her for the last year, among physi…

r/BreakUpscomment3/19/2026
Did your partner/ex cheat with someone who had traits they previously said they disliked or hated?

Yes, and they also completely changed their personality to be more similar to AP even after the affair. My guess, after talking with a lot of people who have survived infidelity, is that people who …

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/19/2026
My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago

You may not want to hear this but consider yourself lucky. It’s been a little over a decade when my antennas went up and I asked questions. I’m still waiting on the breakdown confession. I have a feel…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/20/2026
I saw my ex after 3 months of no contact, everything looks different.

I walked away when mine cheated repeatedly. The first two months he tried to ask for me back but didn’t offer solutions. I didn’t respond much as the apologies still didn’t mention the cheating. I on…

r/BreakUpscomment3/20/2026
My husband (34M) told his friends about my miscarriage as a “joke” and now says I’m overreacting (32F)

The reaction of the friends show how this was not a joke, and clearly not taken by them as a joke. No lie, I'd be done with this marriage if I was you, because this is unacceptable, and his behaviour…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
Husband always accusing me of cheating.

Your brother ? His accusations are his confessions

r/relationshipscomment3/20/2026
Anyone find out later in life the “good” parent was as bad as the “bad” parent?

Yes! Neither of my parents should ever have had a child. My father was an alcoholic and a hobosexual decades before the word existed. He always treated me like I was an unwanted sibling rather than h…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/20/2026
Wrong again but did I do the right thing ?

In a word, yes. You did the right thing. He sounds like an immature, controlling asshole. If he's doing this now on a smaller scale, how do you think it's going to be once the relationship has gone to…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/22/2026
Dead bedroom, found pregnancy tests

Friend, You have a few choices… 1. You can “rug sweep” and pretend nothing is happening “for the children “. This will destroy you. 2. You can attempt reconciliation. The chances of success are low…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/24/2026
Recovering from emotional affair.

28 years later ea first found out about 9 years later it was physical (probably way more than I’ve been told). I handled everything wrong. It may be over the top, but you could grab her phone and text…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/24/2026
She came back

you're absolutely right, ive needed therapy since i was like 5😂 i dont think it'd ever change what i said though. we truly loved each other, in a way most people never find or only find once in their…

r/BreakUpscomment3/25/2026
How do I F21 fix my relationship with my F21 twin sister after her M22 fiancée SA’d me?

I wonder how he would react, and how much she would still believe him if you told them that you were pregnant, and since you have never been with anyone else, it has to be his. I would feel no guilt a…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
The most important part of EVERYONE IS YOU PUSHED OUT (EIYPO)

Nothing's wrong with approaching your SP saying those things. In fact if you are confident, secure that kind of person you would even do that and get the outcome you want. The thing is most people ha…

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/25/2026
inappropriate relationship with my therapist

Some tough love incoming. He sees you as a vulnerable child and proceeded with the relationship because he got horny and every professional and moral obstacle went out of the window. He took advantag…

r/CPTSDcomment3/25/2026