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For what feels like the 10th time I've found myself in the same situation: - Meet someone online that I have a lot in common with who indicates they are looking for a long term relationship - Have 3 …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/13/2026
The friend zone after sex; how many actually do it?

The friend zone after sex; how many actually do it? — Relatively quick question just to gauge other experiences. My most recent relationship was short, intensely sexual, and apparently one-sided in romantic attachment as she broke things off after 2 mont…

r/datingoverfortypost3/29/2026
Why is everyone single?

Why is everyone single? — I think it's been said more people than ever are single these days. I'm 42. When I was in my 20's I really wanted to settle down and get married. At the time, I dated a lot but often got dumped or fr…

r/datingoverfortypost4/4/2026
How to friendzone well??

How to friendzone well?? — ok imma start by giving context we're both student and live at the same res obviously he live in the guys side. hes 21 m and I 21F. we are doing the same course and both in the second year of it. ok …

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
Every person i like first and try to escalate things, it's turning into a friend zone

Every person i like first and try to escalate things, it's turning into a friend zone — or I'm a second option

r/vedicastrologypost4/7/2026
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged.

If there is no sex and no commitment but two people enjoy hanging out, Is that not a friendship? Or at least a friendship where the guy is settling for the friend zone even though he wants more.

r/attachment_theorycomment7/3/2025
Update

Honestly where did you come to the conclusion you are FA and not AP, you definitely lean anxious and if that "work excuse" gal is secure, then yes she is taking it slow because she senses your insecur…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/8/2025
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You paying for her food is being friend zoned, not a date. Look, I get where you’re coming from, especially if you don’t have any experience dating, but if this is a friend you need to be more up fron…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/17/2026
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Congratulations on your new job! Look - you both provide each other with companionship. She has a lot of baggage for a young woman. You can absolutely ask her out again if you want to. If a woman like…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/20/2026
Is this an emotional affair?

It sounds like you’re emotionally invested in a man who put you in the friend zone and that may be stopping you from finding the man who is meant for you!

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/21/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

He could've said something, but he didn't either. You also said he friend zoned you last summer so tbh sounds like he was never interested enough to make any moves. Still sucks but don't frame it as s…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 24, 2026

Agreed! It sounds like a very recent relationship. Plus, OP says that he friend zoned her over the summer—it sounds like he just was never super into her. I’d recommend OP try to view this as dodgi…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/24/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 27, 2026

No. If a woman is into a man, she will date him when he expresses interest. I like you as a friend is the same as: it’s not you, it’s me and I am just not in a place for a relationship now. Soft rejec…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/27/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 27, 2026

It's not impossible, but if you approach friendship with the idea in your head that you are making progress towards a romantic relationship, you are going to feel betrayed when she's interested in som…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/27/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

We were kind of on and off again for years, mostly because of geographical issues. But we were finally in the same area, same social group, and having regular dates, calls, etc. Then i see him talki…

r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
Men having rigid body type preferences

Sounds like they're putting you in the friend zone. Those 2 sound very uncouth.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

Just assign him to the friend zone. It’s quite clear that’s where he wants to be

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

Friend zone this guy and move on to someone who wants a romantic partner

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Do they always come back?

No in my experience, she only came back to have that validation and attention from me after her ex broke with her all of sudden and it was my fault for letting her come back to my and stupid me asked…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/15/2026
Great guy, but after 4 months, there's just no physical touch

After 4 dates you are officially in the friend zone. If physical intimacy is important then he is not for you after 4 long months. Stop wasting your time. Even a guy that I dated that is Muslim that i…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/15/2026
When does “just being single” cross into being non-monogamous?

if I find myself wanting a relationship with him and he doesn’t appear to want the same thing, I would just cut it off and move on. Won’t even be fwb at that point. It’s just over. This. Thank you. A…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/15/2026
Am I (50M) Widower With A 7 YO Just Doomed To Be Alone?

I had “the talk” with my partner and ended up finding out, the hard way, that I still wasn’t really ready to date over a year after his death. So, here’s my story (for whatever it’s worth): I’m a wom…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/23/2026
Ghosted at 45

I feel your pain, I was ghosted at 57, I thought she was the one. First it was Friend Zone, followed by ghosting. Sorry...

r/datingoverfortycomment3/24/2026
I attracted someone but he’s loveboming and not my type

Yeah he is just a volatile guy looking to hold on to some body. Hopefully he has a lot to offer, otherwise friend zone him.

r/lawofattractioncomment3/29/2026
I can't believe I'm asking this as a 49 year old woman, but...

As a lifelong six that married an eight I’ve always aimed for the fences. I just had to accept the standard amounts of rejection that I got. I actually had to start being aloof and treating women rude…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/31/2026
The reality regarding interracial dating for Asian men in the West

Not sure if I’m allowed to comment here, or allowed in the group; so mods feel free to remove if not. I’m a white woman living in Australia, and I’ve dated Asian men. For me, height was never an issu…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/1/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 02, 2026

Found out a girl that friend zoned me last summer is now dating someone new. I admit to being disingenuous and said we could be friends in hopes that something could develop down the line (she had jus…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/3/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - April 02, 2026

For your own clarity its probably best to scale back. She friend zoned you a while ago, but you were still holding hope. That says you might still want more. You would be doing yourself a disservice b…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/3/2026
I really want to reach out

We do what we feel is right in the moment. He told me his ego was boosted and that I flattered him 😔. He didn’t have a GF for a long time, like years and said he was always friend zoned. My friends…

r/ExNoContactcomment4/3/2026
How to kindly reject a friend who has a crush on me?

You're taking about incompatible personalities there. I'm talking about the nonsense of the friend zone.  Saying the guy is ok looking and I wish I could be attracted to him but I can't makes it sound…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why is everyone single?

Original copy of post by u/DogSoggy40: I think it's been said more people than ever are single these days. I'm 42. When I was in my 20's I really wanted to settle down and get married. At the time, …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/4/2026
Why Don't Quality Men Seem To Want To Be With Me?

OP you seem nice and level headed. Without getting to know you better I couldn’t really tell you why you keep getting placed in the friend zone. It may have nothing to do with you and more to do with …

r/datingoverfortycomment4/5/2026
How would you respond?

But they're not even in a romantic relationship. Is this his way of getting out of "the friend zone" in his mind, do you think?

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
I'm not Gross

I was 39M married a 29F married 30 yrs 2 kids grown. If attraction, affection and same page then age difference not that important. To me that you dont have sex or a date to have sex after 4 months is…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/7/2026
Struggling with comparison and self-worth in a new relationship (35M)

This is wild because I almost was starting to date a woman who I really liked, but she ended up wanting to be friends (which was a lie lol) because of my lack of ambition and education (which meant sa…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/8/2026
How long it takes to rewire your brain after being emotionally neglected by your dad your entire life?

I did this. Been engaged 3 times. The first two times I made awful choices because I was seeking attention and love in men that were not at all interested in me. Two years each (I’m a slow learner !).…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment4/8/2026
Drunk hookups with a ‘friend’

“Guys, help me out here—I’m at a loss. This girl keeps fucking me every single time we get together. Is she trying to put me in the friend zone? To be clear, she absolutely fucks my brains out wheneve…

r/relationshipscomment4/8/2026
Do you guys ever feel guilty dating/ seeing people after a break up?

ive yet to even do it because i know im not over my ex and it would be unfair to do that to a new partner as id feel not just guilty being intimate with someone else but still having feelings for my e…

r/BreakUpscomment4/8/2026
Drunk hookups with a ‘friend’

Obviously he’s being friend zoned. You can tell because she keeps fucking him- as a friend though

r/relationshipscomment4/8/2026
Sticky Thread Until Reddit Fixes Their Shit - April-ish

I have this situationship with a friend of mine that was driving me a little crazy for a while but now I mostly think is funny. We agreed a few months ago (by that I mean, he told me and I reluctantly…

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/10/2026
Confused about second date

That's because in date number two you had been friend zoned and she most likely enjoyed her free dinner.

r/datingoverthirtycomment4/11/2026
25M how can I become attractive?

That's great that you have a lot of female friends or have a decent amount of females around you. Sometimes that's half the battle. It seems you might need to get out of the friend zone faster and str…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/12/2026
Any Asians figured out how to make social circle game work for meeting women?

“Safe” doesn’t give women tingles. You are describing the highway to a friend zone.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment4/12/2026
How many dates before you have sex?

I will also say I dont go on a lot of 3rd dates. Some men are bozos that dont get a 2nd or 3rd date, and Im not making friends, Im dating- if I dont want to have sex with a man, he goes in the frie…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/13/2026