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A long, long time ago, on Ok Cupid, someone from another state messaged me. We ended up developing a crush on each other but we never met up. At the time I was like damn I missed out, but I got curiou…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

Want to hurt a covert narcissist? Tell people the truth (but be smart about it) — **DISCLAIMER:** Only do this if you are physically, financially, emotionally, and psychologically separated and safe from a narcissist. The following will probably not be applicable if you have to mai…

Does anyone else feel like this fixation on "trauma dumping" stinks of toxic positivity? — It literally feels like the onus is on people with really challenging life experiences, to hold that all inside and only talk about good things, for fear of burdening people who have objectively bette…

What non human beings have you encountered? — I’m interested in hearing about your story or stories of non human entities that you may have encountered? For example; pleiadians, greys, draconians, nordics, elves, reptilians, Sasquatch, hybrid h…

I got a call from my lawyer — I'll make this quick, but 6 months ago I was arrested for something I didn't do. Since then I have remained under investigation for Conspiracy to commit fraud and it's turned my life around. The polic…

I met 5 translucent beings while doing a YouTube Regression at home. — A couple of years ago I started experimenting with YouTube self regressions and I had a very strong experience on it that involved 5 light/translucent blue beings and I felt an unconditional love from…

For anyone who turned life around after 40 how did you do it — I am almost 40. I really need to turn my life around but feeling lost. My 20s - mid 30s I was in an abusive relationship. I was lonely and alone and with someone who constantly criticized me and mad…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Who here has good personal story about your breakup with your partner and then end up again together after months? — I want to know about other recandal stories of getting back with your partner after a few months of breakup hopefully someone can share with me your story

3 months of no contact and I still can’t let go. What should I do? — I’m Mia (20 y.o) and I have clinical depression. My ex Daniel (19 y.o.) and has the same diagnosis. English is my second language, so sorry if something is hard to read, an also sorry for such a huge…

It’s so hard to move on — And I mean it. We met in the most exciting chapter of our lives and we absolutely glowed the first year and half together. Exchange students in Japan, and by a miracle found ourselves together back in…

Has anyone reached out to their nex’s exes for the truth? — I’ve been thinking a lot about how my ex framed all of his former partners as mean, crazy, narcissistic, or toxic, and now that I’m out of the relationship, I’m questioning how much of that was ever t…

Writing a book for male survivors of emotional manipulation and controlling abuse/coercive control. — Wasn’t intending to post anything yet as this is still very much in draft; but I said I would, so here it is. I am writing a book for male survivors of domestic and family violence; not physical abus…

Revenge cheating question — Preemptively, I'm not threatening to cheat back, and I don't want advice. There's no tag for "interviewing the locals" of this sub, but let's not start a debate. As a betrayed partner, I'm just curiou…

I finally drew the line — My story is your story, my pain, the same as yours. We all committed, believing that all humans essentially see each other as valuable only to be shown multiple times per day, that in fact some humans…

I guess it's over for good now. — My ex and I broke up in February after months of fighting and 2 years together. Communication wasn't good, he has issues with emotional regulation and I shut down far too easily, especially when someo…

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will …

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 2 — SELF-CONCEPT (roll those drums caz i got my tea and i got to PREACH) i can claim to be the GOD of self concept i swear on me i got it baby and i got it sooooooo goooood (please take what you will caz…

My ex was a coward — Why couldn’t you just say you wanted a break? Why did you choose to break up instead? Why couldn’t you say you wanted space? There were so many ways you could’ve communicated you were overwhelmed and …

Back to square one in an obsessive loop — Currently on day 11 of a 3 year breakup I am deciding to use this account as tracking, as venting, and maybe a place to seek advice from the few kind people that reply. I want to be completely ho…

I 22F WANT TO CALL HIM 70M DAD, BUT HOW? — I want to call him dad. This one's pretty wholesome guys. Just looking for advice om how to broach this subject. I 22F lost my dad 6 years ago. My mom has never dated anyone else. not that my sibli…

What do I M19 do when I still love someone F21 who I can't trust anymore? — I 19M dated a Chinese exchange student 21F that I met on Hinge for 8 months. told each other we loved each other. let her meet my family. I've never been I'm love before. I caught her in a lie (not th…

maybe texting my ex? — Me and my ex have been broken up for almost 4 years. We stayed quite close friends for a while and then just seen each other every so often from mutual friends. we have been in fully no contact for ab…

What I Saw Before They Did: The Word That Shattered Me — I'm not a writer... these stories have been with me in my soul and needed sharing with the world. For the longest time I felt alone in all my experiences. I have not heard other experiences till rec…

Time is fake; there is nothing but you. — Shifting, dimensional jumping, Neville Goddard, law of assumption/attraction, magick, etc. all essentially talk about the same thing: Embody the person (or entity) you want to be. This post is a bit…

Why might a girl act like this in this situation? — Long post… please help me out, especially if any girls can give perspective 🙏 So this goes back to 2022 when we were both in 11th. We were from the same school earlier, but after 10th I joined a jun…

were you able to work during/right after divorce? — i’m just curious about how other people went through this phase. i’m not being like lazy or anything, it’s just .. long story short, divorced but still have to work in my ex’s family business caus…

Shifting through Astral Projection, who did it and how? — Hii, it's for who had finally done it, I am like everyone else and I wanna get out!! i want to shift in a better cr, lately I admit that I am falling asleep than trying to shift, but mm I heard people…

Parental Enmeshment Rant & Book Recommendation — Hey all. Has anybody ever read Silently Seduced by Kenneth Adam’s? I really recommend it if you feel you take on your parents responsibilities, walk on eggshells to keep the peace, inhibit yourself, t…

Recovery Progress and miscellaneous thoughts — I've posted here before. it's been about 2 months now since I separated from my co-dependent relationship (I'll call them RY). I was in a fairly devastated state, depressed, crying everyday, obsessing…

No contact obviously — I was given the last bit of hope that this relationship could be salvaged. So I have to move on. I know we all are on the same boat but I’d like to just feel less lonely by talking about. How many of …

Art therapy question — Accelerated resolution therapy, To anyone who’s done it and had success can you tell your story ? In my case I dont necessarily have any memory of trauma I believe it’s suppressed or something. I’…

Brain dump to hold me back from saying unhinged shit to my ex — Enjoy my spiral if you feel like reading <3 Hi, I know it’s been a while but i still think about you and cant help but have questions about us. I dont know if this is productive or harmful to ask but…

don’t be friends. don’t be enemies, either. — i was in a relationship of almost two years. she broke up with me on a random tuesday, two months ago, in february…she said she didn’t feel the same anymore, she physically didn’t like me anymore, eve…

My mom treats my life like her "story" while withholding any actual love in private. — I’m 17 (M) and I’m counting down the days until I turn 18 in November so I can go No Contact. I’ve realized my mother doesn’t see me as a person, but as a minion or a puppet. When we are around other …

Recently went no contact with abusive parents! Has anyone had similar experience? What’s your story? — I am 36, live in the US. Right now I am going through a big transition phase where I went no contact with extremely abusive toxic parents who have been that way all my life and abused my love and care…

I broke it off even if I didn't want to because I chose myself. — i (30f) have been dating a guy (35m) for a couple months. we became official. but it has been very roller coaster. we didnt fight or get nasty towards each other. but it felt like the interest wore of…

Bizarre Restaurant Behaviour Story — So this one time my mom, dad, aunt, sister, and I went out to a restaurant for dinner for father's day. I really dislike and avoid family dinners, either my sister messes with me by stealing food from…

Wow thank you for sharing your story, sorry you went through all that.

Fair play, I’m so happy for you. I’m also a sysadmin with decade of experience with Win, Mac and Linux, and have been helping out my company with devops stuff every opportunity I get (pipelines, ter…

Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…

Welcome to DevOps. I think your story is the common path

I mean this as a compliment: Everything you wrote sounds super normal in my book. And you're right. Why are you even bothering to define "success" on someone else's terms, though? It's your life.…

I really liked reading your story 😊

Loved your story man, very well written, I hope you find the farm of your dreams and you keep on dreaming and that failure doesn't stop you from dreaming ever.

Your story is amazing and with time it will create a pathway for you and open doors you never expected. But don't look to others to understand success Your success is what you call it ❤

Hey, thanks for sharing your story and I am sorry to hear what happened to you, it sounds pretty hurtful. Yes totally agree, as anxious we tend to overlook or blame ourselves for our date or partner s…

Dude, if this feels good to you and you’re happy the way things are going, let no one tell you otherwise. It’s your story and no one’s in it but you. Generalized information can’t predict the future, …

wow, i coulda wrote that with my FA girlfriend! i had a very similar journey and whatta roller coaster of emotions it was for a year or so. i’ve dated my fair share of avoidants in my youth, didnt r…

Thanks for sharing your story. What types of prompts did you give the AI to soften your communication to you DA? Also, will you make your app available to the public?

Hey I just wanted to say thanks for sharing your story and Im so very sorry for what happened to you 💔 Know that your little angel is having fun somewhere without experiencing the harshness of this w…

Exactly! The core belief of someone who has avoidant traits is "no one will see or meet my needs" whereas the core belief of narcissists or those with narcissistic traits is "I need to use others to f…

Thank goodness for the "almost"! I was about to shed a little tear for you, but then I read the story till the end, and I'm very happy for you!!! I'd love to read about possible continuation to you…

Thank you so much, kind stranger. 💛 I appreciate you sharing your story. Oh - was your wife secure? AP?

thank you so much for sharing your story, im very sorry you went through this. I feel you, im on the same boat. Exactly as you described. do you know what is the most difficult part? i can hate him …

thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ im glad to hear you are learning to regulate yourself. This is a long journey, but it’s worth it. I have been working on my AP attachment style, my goal is …

Your story might be my story if he didn’t break up with me (of course, with having a mature conversation). It lasted a month, and we were thrilled until we first met and it became real and fantastic –…

Thanks for sharing your story. That’s a lot of work you’ve put in, I hope it starts to be fruitful for you in relationships. It sounds like it already is with the most important people - your kids. …

He might be regretting it? [Disclaimer: I’m not at all an expert this is all just my opinion and experience as a former anxious] In my experience, avoidants work in the formula of “feelings minus fe…

I am not sure this will help much but I am anxiously attached and your story is relatable. If I find myself coming across something that I really need to get off my chest but don't have access to the …

It may sound weird but I tried to write my deep feelings and thoughts about my anxious attachment on ChatGPT and it helped me a lot on some precise points, like particular situations that are triggers…

Why don't you repost your story? people will benefit from it.

Thank you for sharing this. Reading your post felt like someone handed me the secret playbook to my own current nightmare. I am on the other side of this dynamic—the anxious partner desperately in lov…

My nervous system has been up and down. When he pulls back I can give him space now for 2 years already but before that I had massive panic attacks. My anxious attachment now only comes out when we fi…

Two things can be true at one time… in some sense they are telling you exactly how it’s going to go “you won’t like the real me when you get to know me” — so like why? 😆 well stick around long enough…

Brother, listen closely. What you’re facing isn’t weakness — it’s a battle you’ve been fighting for years, and the fact that you’re still here, still searching for healing, already proves your stre…

Although your story is different to an avoidant, doesn’t matter DA/FA, unless your constantly throwing up boundary walls at random and make them chase you they’ll stick to the avoidant (unofficial) ha…

So good to read your story. Very proud of you!

Awesome work! The signs are there certainly! I honestly knew she was likely FA within two weeks, but held space for her. The beautiful thing about boundaries is that one can choose to not engage early…

Hi Lexi, welcome and thank you for sharing! I really appreciate reading your story. 🙏🏽♥️

I’d love to read your story somewhere because after 6+ months, I too, am leaning towards this is not real.

Hypervigilance is very much associated with AA. I've being doing a lot of work on healing AA in the past 1.5 years and I couldn't believe how many characteristics and behaviours of mine are associated…

thanks for sharing your story, sorry that didn't go a little smoother. sounds like you are doing some growing, that is awesome and inspiring. go you.

I’m in the same boat with an alimony hearing coming up (she was the breadwinner). It has been really hard to keep myself from sabotaging myself because of that impression of confidence dismissive avoi…

Thanks for sharing your story. I was also thinking to move to a bigger city. How's did you guys met? Local activities or online app?

this landed hard because i've been there too — not exactly your story, but that feeling of being a burden before you even open your mouth. what hit me reading your post: "my needs were often put on t…

I'm so sorry you tried to heal with someone who obviously needed to do their own healing first. I know it can feel like you're back-sliding or like you've failed in some way. But you truly haven't. R…

Thanks for your story. I realised my relationship with my FA was verbally and emotionally abusive and I ended up leaving him. We had a pretty intense trauma bond that kept me going back to him in the …

I am sorry that happened to you. I am a first generation American and you never split. It’s very transactional. With friends, I prefer to take turns paying. Oh, in my culture, the oldest person (man)…

That's a great thing—gratitude. I'm curious to know how you've been "practicing SATS", and how you feel afterwards. Thanks for sharing your story and being generous with your time. 🙏🏼🤗💙

Ayoo, I have constant goosebumps from the point I read your post. I pretty much dedicated my life to esoteric knowledge since I stopped doing hard drugs 'just like that' after I got in to it. 3d is co…

Also I would advise you share your story on India subreddit and on India law etc. Since they are in the same country can advise better. I am living in a different place, so I don’t know all the facts.…

I'm so sorry you had that experience. To be honest, before I got to the part about the kiss/rejection, my intuition was already telling me that this person might not be sincere. Their actions felt a b…

There is so much to your story and still so much unsaid. I feel her behaviour without more context is childish and immature. ‘I packed a bags and left the state. I was gone by the time she arrived b…

You have a lot of clarity, and going forward that can actually be a godsend. The other thing is that a lot of people can benefit from your story and your desire to have a better life. Because if you h…

The issue isn’t your height, your income, or the fact you don’t drive. Plenty of people in wheelchairs, people who can’t drive, people with much harder circumstances than yours still find partners. R…

Possibly the only way you’ll find out the truth is by asking for her to take a lie detector test. I would put it like this:”I’ve been thinking more about this lately, and want to put both our minds at…