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Did anyone else's parents not let them have hobbies as a kid? — Mine never let me do anythingggg. They didn't like me being outside of the house at all, but even inside all they ever did was yell at me. If I wanted to start any hobby it had to be a) free/as little…

How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…

Spent 1 year solving a problem users “loved” but wouldn’t pay for: my learnings [I will not promote] — We are 2 years into building our SaaS, but spent 1 year building something people “loved”, “were excited about”... yet did not pay for. Since then, we have slightly pivoted and gained traction, but I …

Shame has dictated my entire life for 41 years — And I didn't know it until now. It was the silent background noise, the "I'm not good enough," "Don't do that or you'll fail!" "Look how stupid you are, you can't do anything right," "Don't notice m…

What s month it's been — The title says it all. Confronted my wife last month on the 7th last month at 1 am and learned that she cheated on me and was talking with someone. This was after an emotional affair that I discovered…

When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…

stopped trying to "fix" my adhd and started doing this instead — If someone is in a wheelchair, and they encounters stairs, they aren’t just gonna try their best to get down the stairs, they’re going to use the ramp or elevator. why should we keep trying to do thin…

She started hooking up with multiple guys right after our break-up... — My ex (F25) and I (M29) were together for almost 4 years. She broke up with me on the first of March. I respected her decision and we said goodbye with respect and love. The past few months were defin…

Do not break No contact — Don’t judge me. When you are in love you do stupid things. After long no contact. I did send a text if they like to meet up over the weekend. Why did I do that?! I saw them, they are active in socia…

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

I wish I left after the first affair — I feel so stupid for trying to reconcile after I caught the first affair. I was too much of a coward. I was too afraid to be alone. I was still in love. The hurt, the pain, the betrayal, everything wa…

How can I make the most of the rest of my 20s? — I’m 26F and will be turning 27 soon. I really can’t believe that I was 17 ten years ago now. But I still feel like a teenager, like I haven’t actually grown up. Like my frontal lobe didn’t even fully …

I finally went to therapy and I'm angry at myself for waiting so long because of stupid stigma — For five years I told myself I didn't need therapy. I told myself I could handle everything on my own. I told myself that going to therapy meant I was weak or broken or dramatic. Meanwhile I was bare…

I'm so sick of laying in bed — don't know what to do. I work a regular 40 hour office job that's not even that difficult or stressful. But as soon as I'm home, I end up in bed. Even showering feels like a chore. Getting out of bed…

the anxiety is gone... but now there's just a massive void. How do you handle the "nothingness" after liberation? — Hey everyone, First of all, thank you for the incredible support on my last post. It’s been overwhelming. But I need to be honest with you today: while on the outside it looks like I’m finally "winni…

How do I not let regrets hold me back? — I have very deep regrets, im 18, and need to move on forward with college, probably having less time to do my hobbies/develop my skills. I took the free time I had as a teenager for granted, and I jus…

Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…

M30, no direction, no future. Just surviving on autopilot. Have I wasted my entire life — I'm turning 31 soon and I have the feeling I'm throwing my life away without being able to change anything. I grew up in a dysfunctional family: a mother who was always absent, anxious, and dismissiv…

realizing at 30 that i had a fucked up childhood and feeling angry about it — Throwaway account since I don't want family or friends to see. Idk where to even begin here because it's all so fucked and messed up. I've been in therapy for the last 7 months or so and it's finally…

If I Never Discovered Manifestation, I Probably Would Have Killed Myself. (NOT A VENT!) — **This isn't a vent, I'm just reflecting on how much Manifestation has changed me for the better, and hopefully, this post will encourage people who are new to manifestation to keep trying!** (Yes, I …

How do I restore my dignity after getting played and lowering myself too much for someone? — Someone persued me and as soon as I reciprocated they abandoned me. I ended up chasing them and they acted in really horrible mean ways and Im afraid I lowered myself in the moment but I wasn't aware …

M30, no direction, no future. Just surviving on autopilot. Have I wasted my entire life — Hi everyone, M31. Since childhood I grew up in a dysfunctional family: my mother was always absent because of work, and when she came home she was stressed, irritable, angry at the whole world, and v…

She turned sunlight into homework. I left her house years ago. My mind still hasn't. — The sun came out today. And the first thing I felt wasn't warmth. It was guilt. A full-body, immediate, almost chemical reaction: *you should be outside. You should be using this. You're wasting it.*…

Surprise.. He did it again and even worse — I had posted on here 3 months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/1GiZMvLtGp I had caught my husband texting his coworker. Well I gave him a second chance, we went to therapy, he did …

I ran into someone who wronged me and almost lost my cool. How to handle this? — I am going to try to keep this brief. I had a hard time making friends as an adult. My best friend passed away in high school, and I know I romanticize a lot (as you will learn) but I swear I have ne…

[UPDATE] My (24F) boyfriend's (33M) hemorrhoids are ruining our relationship. Help? — the original post has since been removed by mods, but it’s been reposted quite a few times in other communities. so y’all can dig around for it if you want. i know a LOT of people wanted an update. …

My ex reopened old wounds with a drunk apology and now I feel like I’m back at square one — my ex broke up with me around a year and a half ago after a 2 and a half year relationship with the last 9 months of it being long-distance. and it was really really devastating for me, but after a ye…

Broke up with my gf because she wants kids now and I'm not ready. — I (30) just broke up with my gf (31) of 2 years and instantly feel awful and am questioning if I made the wrong decision. She has severe endometriosis so basically needs to start trying for kids now.…

My parents are shaming for not having a career at 25. And want me to get married instead. — F 2000 born. I completed my Master’s in 2024, and since then I have been at home unemployed. I will be honest, I was not serious during this time. I was very laid back, did not prepare well for jobs, …

How do you guys spend time by ur self and enjoy it? Without drgs or technology — I really struggle to spend time by myself self. I don’t like just sitting on tt or playing videos games because it just feels like wasted time almost. I’ve basically stopped smoking weed and I find …

Approaching 7 Months Later - Its Almost Over — I got married on August 4th 2025 and on the morning of September 1st 2025 I saw my wife sexting some dude she met on a game. Since then she has signed a separation agreement with me that my lawyer wro…

I have wasted my potential and success — Hello, I'm from an Asian country, and I'm 27 years old. I studied English language and teaching for 5 years. After I graduated I worked for 1.5 years. I did not work for 2 years, and I stayed at famil…

Wasted my years and potential success — Hello, I'm from an Asian country, and I'm 27 years old. I studied English language and teaching for 5 years. After I graduated I worked for 1.5 years. I did not work for 2 years, and I stayed at famil…

I am so tired of sabotaging myself. I am so tired of making me hate myself. — I am 23f, and not a day goes when I am procrastinating and ignoring things in my life. When I say ignore, I have internalized everything. So, the sayings "a doer always outdo a thinker" is alarming i…

Writing a book for male survivors of emotional manipulation and controlling abuse/coercive control. — Wasn’t intending to post anything yet as this is still very much in draft; but I said I would, so here it is. I am writing a book for male survivors of domestic and family violence; not physical abus…

It feels clear that everything I’ve worked toward and desire in life is unattainable — Background: 28M, orphan due to losing both my parents to Cancer in high school. I’ve been single since high school, and I’ve have had a decent bit of professional success. Since I was a kid only thi…

manifestation + past changing — Hi to all of you!! It’s my first ever time writing something on Reddit. Well, I have actually been reading many stories to find courage, but I am new to being the one with the story hahah. Okay, so I …

It’s Been A Year… So Here’s My Last Post — Well, tonight makes it official. It has been a full year since I was dumped. Whoever said you lose track of time when you’re having fun is a liar. You REALLY lose track of time when you’re miserable a…

ex feels too guilty to be fwb — he says he wasn’t a good boyfriend & feels it’d be wrong of him to reap any benefits of affection since he hurt me & feels like he wasted my time. i tried to assure him that it’d be okay & i wouldn’t …

Need help with my life — ​ Hi guys, this is going to be a long one, please check the TL;DR at the end if needed. I’m a 20M in the final days of my computer science degree, and honestly, I feel like everything is mess…

Istg I ALWAYS try to keep the dream from evaporating but to no avail EVERY.TIME. HELP? PLS READ ! — guys I genuinely dont get it , everytime I get lucid the dream immediately starts to evaporate and if im so lucky it'll last for 10 secs or smth. I tried touching stuff around me , laying on the grou…

I am fucked totally (17y Male) — Originally i wanted to post this on r/selfimprovement but couldn't due to having a New account. (read the full story to understand the whole issue please) TL;dr :- The person is struggling with sever…

Don't go Outward — I don't usually make these posts, however, I felt compelled to talk about something I've noticed from lurking on this community and a community that criticizes Neville and his work. Now, as many of …

HELP ME UNDERSTAND — Hi everyone, I've been reading a lot about the subject and i'm also in therapy since 3 months. I'm already non in the relationship with this woman but i sort of need to make clarity and hear other…

"Tough love" fucked up my brain — not once have I ever been told that I was proud of, that they loved me, that I was doing a good job. Basically no validation and comfort. its always "you think you had it bad, dumbass? we had to go …

Genuinely hate him — I've hated a few people in my life. My bullies, my ex friends who befriended my bullies, etc. I was quite rageful a good few years back. Then it was just numbness. I don't hate anymore. It's exhaustin…

Am I just...a bad patient??? — Wish I had a better title, sorry! Seems real general. To sum it up, I started seeing a therapist maybe a year ago. I saw her for ,, maybe 4-5 months every other week I believe? I don't know if that's…

I'm at such a low place in my life. — I lost my motivation after I got hurt by my ex and their friends and things just feel like they get worse. First I had to see my great grandmother almost die in front of me, Then I have to take a visi…

My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. I'm still in love with her. — Quick backstory. My ex (F23) and I (M26) came back into contact after a year. We broke up after being together for 4.5 years. We met on a dating app, I was 21 and she was 18. Everything clicked instan…

i was in love with my best friend, who was a narcissist. — our relationship is over now. we haven’t talked in a month. but it had hurt me unimaginably. we met about 2 years ago. he was charismatic, really fun, and we truly got along great. as we got closer an…

I didn’t know he was married.i feel broken. — Hi. I literally just wasted chat gpt if there was a place I connect with people in similar situations. I met a guy 3.5 years ago in another country. We connected instantly & have remained in touch s…

I’m proud of you! You deserve so much better and much more than he could ever give you. The more time you would’ve wasted on him, the less time you’d have with a person who you’re better matched with …

I just need to vent: 10 years wasted would’ve been our 11th in a few weeks. We broke up last week due to an argument that we had. We were supposed to go to a concert together. She asked me “what time…

It’s hard moving on when you’re still so in love w/ them. I can’t get him out of my head. Idk how to move on and thinking about it hurts more bc I never wanted it to end to begin with. I lost my soul …

Lol 🤌 I clicked. And realized I wasted time reading about loosers who waste their time bitchin instead of getting their shit.

I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…

As a man who has been on both sides of the coin… bear with me cause this is a long read but it has relevance I promise.  I’ve been the anxious wreck begging and pleading. Saying stuff like “you don’t…

Yeah, I definitely miss the days of calling my data center CEO because one of their techs yanked network to our rack by accident at 3am. Ownership over that wasted time is a real diamond in the rough …

Very much this ^^^ It's a hard pill to swallow though, not sure OP will question anything concerning their own attachment style...  It sounds like it comes from a good place of compassion, but it's wa…

So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…

After being away for some time, the nervous system regulates and they make decisions from a calm safe space. And realize that they should (maybe) not have left the relationship, they were too rash, wh…

Achieving a secure attachment means getting to a point in your healing where you will not engage or stay in a relationship with someone who pulls that sort of crap on you. So your earned security isn…

I think you have to go through a practice period where you see yourself in full relief. I don't believe that people with attachment disorders don't care. They live in a society that profits from ha…

I also get very anxious. I try to act secure but my brain is going insane. Always overanalyzing, preoccupied, I genuinely cannot tell when I am overreacting and when I am right, so I always override m…

Fix yourself (any personal mental or physical health issues, fill your time with hobbies/books/work/fitness/social time), not him. I’ve been there, girl, I wasted ten years on gentle-parenting men int…

I feel like going prolonged periods without that contact makes my anxious attachment that much stronger because I’ve made myself wait, then I go “I actually wasted so much time? I forgot what it’s lik…

It really pisses me off. I know it's wasted energy, but it's so disrespectful. They talk about being used, but they are the ones who are using you by trying to make you fit their perception of what yo…

I feel so alone. There seems to be a barrier between me and other people. I tend to be incredibly sensitive and on guard. All the time I wonder that if I get the intimacy I dream about, would I reje…

For the first time in six months I’ve managed to confirm where I’ll be living long term. Heading back to my home state next week and staying there (except for normal travel etc) It feels good to ha…

I’m such a bag fumbler. I was at a bar with my bestie this weekend, a fairly nice one. We were on our way out and some man stops us, asking us where we’re going. Clearly quite drunk. I wasn’t going to…

I wasted 4 years of my life on a connection similar to this. Sex fades and resentment builds. I'd absolutely bail asap, and meet someone that vibes with your values more.

Yeah I can't imagine a world where I would like to but hit on by someone who is wasted - unless I was wasted myself.

This sounds like standard dating to me. You might be getting matched with more attractive/desirable men now than you were before and they're more passive when dating because they have multiple women t…

But you never really got truly started in the first place… it’s just a few weeks in. You are way too invested in a very short time. He will probably do this again. 1 hour is not that easy to do. But m…

I've been advised to give everyone 3 dates unless they're a serial killer and yes I did try it for a while but I think it just hurt everyone's feelings and "wasted" our time.  If you wanted to you w…

That’s a good phrasing! It can be hard not to focus on couple time as a social indicator, but ultimately focusing on it will lead to frustration and in my case wasted time! Happily onward and upward t…

About a year ago, I got out of a 3 year, on again-off again relationship. When we were in our on phases, we literally spent every waking moment together. Even bathroom time, if we weren't showering to…

Nine years ago, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me without a clear reason. We lived together, and despite being broken up, continued to have sex and share a bed. One day he told me he was plann…

I don't know that there is any making sense of it. People are just... people. Time does help. I'm in a really happy relationship now, but I'd be lying if I said I don't look back on those years wit…

Your comment really makes me feel better because as a soon to be 33F that wants marriage and kids, my biggest fear is wasting my time.. I pulled the plug right around 6months and I keep telling myself…

I try to take things in stride when it comes to dating, part of the territory as a guy. But here are some of the minor annoyances I ran into these past few weeks, with both mix of online dating and in…

I still can't get over that I got a tripod and took some good pictures and a video and have had some much more success getting responses to messages. I went a year with basically crickets, now its lik…

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I hope you can take some time to think about it all and give yourself some grace. I hope you also know you don’t deserve someone who is going to abandon you in …

I will never do this again. You just have 2+ hours of silence and zero interaction. If the movie is heavy the mood after is a goner. If the movie is bland it doesn't add much to the conversation afte…

2 cents, I personally wouldn’t be able to deal with someone whose upper range of emotional expression is “I don’t like when you’re sad”. For me the whole point of being in a relationship is to be abl…

Lemme give you my perspective, as a good-on-paper, self-sufficient 37yo woman… Yeah, he’s settling. My (43m live-in, avoidant af ex) told me at one point that I was ‘likely the best that he could ever…

Finally getting cracked tonight. I’ve been abstinent trying to wait on someone who wants to get to know me and take me on a date. I’ve talked to 20+ guys and can’t find one that remains interested.…

I think the problem is you continued to go out on dates with someone who wasn’t planning dates, and you weren’t enjoying spending time with. I would recommend that you stop spending time with people w…

Nothing is ever wasted! I honestly think that many people need to learn how to be in a relationship - I did. So, you gained experience and tools. Right!? I already have mine picked out in case it com…

Ya'll ever feel like you wasted your time and now you're behind? I decided to "focus on my career" in my 20s instead of actually living and now I'm 30. Looking back I have nothing to show for it, didn…

Uranus (in mid-Taurus, a few years ago) square natal moon (Aqua). I got into a relationship with someone who seemed great at first, but was bad for me. It was confusing because we explored a lot of th…

Amen brother, you can have these beautiful moments and days in your life that almost feel wasted or intangible because you didn't share it with someone. When it comes to crawling out of dark places …

I wasted a year on and off with a man who intentionally hid his married status from me. Married for four years, separated for four, emotionally entangled for all eight. It was a complete waste of my t…

Men do this, too. I stopped trying to carry conversations that feel like work. It means fewer dates, but less time wasted in frustration.

Yes. That was a mistake, and I wasted even more time trying again to force that relationship to work. An important lesson was learned, don’t circle the block.

Wasted like six months of my life learning this lesson. Has no one ever experienced a change?

I'm not sure about having kids and it's more like not wanting kids(but I still don't know). On apps, I didn't match someone who says "want kids" on their profile. But I realized that I'm not sure yet,…

My parents tried to hold the inheritance above my head, they wasted their money on whatever and there isn't going to be one and now in retirement are crying poor. When the money runs out and they ask…

It is insane… we are being shamed because we don’t want an incurable contagious disease with unpredictable severity and frequency. I’m so sick of this mentality and the energy wasted trying to convinc…

He could have gone and gotten attention from someone he thought was attractive. I don’t know why he wasted both our time when he could have been with someone he was into

Hey, I’m really sorry because I know first hand from similar how much this particular flavour of dysfunction sucks. To give you the short version of mine, my father died suddenly when I was on my ear…