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Growing up with a mother who hates the idea of relationships. — I love my mother to death. I would do absolutely everything and anything for her if it meant she was happy. Ever since my siblings and I were young, we were always told not to get married early and to…
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) - i will not promote — 10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) 1. no one cares about your idea. not even your mom. show traction. 1. 2. build fast. talk to users faster. and by “talk,” I mean…
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…
I have failed. More than once. (i will not promote) — Been 10 years since I started my professional journey. I have failed. More than once. I have also succeeded and still doubted myself through it. I have risked time, energy, money, relationships. S…
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…
{Weekly Discussion} Google seems to be giving the thumbs up to Reddit's AI Scaled Machine Translations — Background - during an earnings call, Reddit said that google said thumbs up to the idea of publishing AI machine translated content - apparently something they've penalized others before. [Gagan Gho…
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…
How do you effectively refine wireframes into a responsive design? — I’m currently working on a website redesign and started by sketching out some wireframes to get the structure right. I found some great wireframes on [wireframes.org](http://wireframes.org) to use as …
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
Am I Overthinking the Name? — I’m in the planning phase of starting a fashion accessories brand, mainly leather goods to begin with. I’m definitely a chronic overthinker, but I can’t seem to come up with a name that feels right. A…
A little look into how fearful avoidants operate (aka, how one of my relationships ended - twice - because I was unaware of my patterns) — When I was 21 and *severely* fearful avoidant I dated a secure guy who was wonderful in every way, but obviously not for me. I did everything stereotypical of a fearful avoidant attachment does in a…
🕊️ Community Reminder: Respectful Dialogue & Open Exchange — Hey everyone, We just want to take a moment to thank all of you for helping make r/AstralProjection one of the most interesting and supportive spaces on Reddit. Every day, people from around the worl…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Rushing to know if I’m long term compatible with someone — The past two years I’ve done a lot of internal work on myself regarding my attachment and codependency issues. I feel that I lean more secure than ever. I recently started seeing someone, I’ve known t…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …
read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …
Friend said something that shocked me and explained everything... — Edit: added an extra story to the bottom since this post seemed to resonate with people so much. Be strong folks, you're no one's NPC. You can go back and find a lot of my story on my page, but essen…
UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…
I want to go home. — There’s bad nights like tonight where I just keep thinking “I want to go home.” I think it so much that I say it aloud on accident sometimes. I’m at my house now, that’s not what I mean by home. I ke…
THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…
How do I control my anger and my lack of patience in my relationship? — I’ve been with my husband going on a year and a half. He’s a wonderful man and our relationship is overall healthy. But I fear I am becoming emotionally abusive towards him. I’ve been in bad relations…
Started gateway this week. I’m confused — Hello! I admittedly don’t have the most knowledge about the gateway tapes. I’ve listening to a couple podcast episodes about them but it sounded like this intense experience where you will astral pr…
Why does it feel like I'm a late bloomer and an over analyzer/overexplainer? why do I have such a hard time fitting in among my peers and never quite feel like I am myself with others? — I think the over analyzing might come from mercury being retrograde on the chart as well as both the moon and ascendant being ruled by mercury but I don't know if I'm interpreting that right. maybe th…
Why can’t I vocalize the way I feel, but can write it out when alone? — Hey everyone 22F here. I’ve been in therapy for a little over a year now (doing CBT AND ERP). I was briefly put into counseling in my younger years, but nothing substantial. My problem is, even afte…
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…
Goodbye... — I feel so awful for hurting you. I never meant for this to happen. I never meant for you to burn out from me. Not a single day goes by that I’m not thinking about you. I wish I wasn’t a burden. I wish…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
If you think someone is a narc, they probably are — I used to doubt myself about this. Especially when the narcs many of us are dealing with seem to be charming, and so most ppl think they’re ‘nice’. But if you think in your gut that they are, due to …
Why are people such sheep when it comes to drugs? — People seem to just accept things, unthinking, unquestioning. This person I was debating with said "Well people can just die instantly from MDMA" and I said that's just false. That doesn't happen, not…
Breakup with my partner and best friend — Its one of the first time im using reddit so im hope it'll be alright. I've had a best friend. He's been my confident for 10 years, he was my safe person, I was relying on him for everything. 3 year…
I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …
I asked my T what she thinks about me, I wish I didn‘t — Today I told my therapist that I‘m not sure how other people perceive me and that I would be interested in her honest impression. She said that this is purely her subjective experience but that I som…
Does my chart suggest or explain my commitment issues? — I do pretty alright in friendships, however in romantic relationships I have a tendency of breaking up around month 3. This is almost always due to me becoming ‘bored’ of my partner, feeling that we d…
My mother won't stop grabbing my crotch — Not sure exactly how to flair this. Marked it NSFW just in case. Sorry if that's not right. I'm a 22y/o living between my divorced parents (don't have the means to get out on my own right now). Thing…
I need to let go — Me bf (32M) and I (31F) have been off and on for the past 2 years. We were engaged at one point but I called the engagement off. During our relationship he was angry about alot of things...money, his …
The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…
Is the hardest breakup the one where love was never the problem? — I’ve been thinking about a certain kind of breakup that feels particularly difficult to process. The kind where the relationship didn’t end because there was no love but because one person couldn’t s…
"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…
Trans in a religious and conservative Viet household — Truthfully, it’s just awful. I (23FtM, pre-everything) am bisexual and trans. And I just happen to unfortunately be born in a Vietnamese Catholic household that loves our good ol’ president. Not to me…
Met my ex after a year apart. It was the best day since our breakup. Here's what happend. — A year ago, I said goodbye to someone I truly loved. A year and a half together, big plans, intense love. The breakup was painful and messy. For a year I processed it, analyzed it, doubted myself. Ev…
It doesn’t matter WHAT you do, it matters WHO does it — Lately I’ve been thinking about how working on yourself is actually really important when it comes to manifestation (and no, don’t immediately assume it’s something hard). The phrase “it doesn’t mat…
How I broke free from panic attacks — For 3 years ago I was at the gym. I was doing my normal push routine while all of the sudden I felt immense pain in my chest. I laid the weights beside me and sat down, my heart was pumping, it was pu…
Intermittent affection as an unrelenting thirst — There's this gnawing, relentless, hollow sensation. Ever present. It's a feeling that's far away, aching, cavernous...*starvation.* An unrelenting emotional hunger that burrows into the core of my b…
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>power of the subconsious mind say people get result in one month two month but and me i never use it! ​ Your father is right. You are an idiot.
>Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of yo…
Oh yes. You're right. He took some time. But still, he managed to do alot in a relatively short time. If his tales are true, his is a good example to emulate. (Except that I wouldn't do the nightly m…
You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…
Dahl right. I'm in.
Yeah I know right. Two months this end- who am I kidding though?
I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …
Kind of solid advise. When you ask strangers for advise who dont know you they can only advise based on what info you give and its very hard for them, for us, not to connect those sittuations to simil…
Ah..he was supposed to have space. Not you. You were supposed to be "waiting" Good on you for the No Contact. Serves them right.
Can you explain more about true hand, what exactly it has to do with lob , since i too have done the same thing i was born left handed changed to right.
It is a coincidence. You're right.
You obviously did it wrong. And now you mad as fuck trying to shit on people who got it right. It’s okay, we get it since many of us been there for a brief moment too. But instead of actually learning…
1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…
Right. It’s starting to feel like a circle jerk (that I am definitely a part of). I think people get confused because of the cognitive dissonance of them being caring and love bombing and then neglect…
I only ask this question out of curiosity cause instinctively I did feel the interest change. It actually turns out that I was right.
Feel all the emotions! But, when only the good keeps you stuck on rumination, remind yourself of why it couldn't/ didn't work out! It's very easy CBT, that is incredibly effective and offers a peace …
This is where "and" is super effective. You can feel both opposing emotions! "I miss the person I fell in love with ANDi know that person no longer exists!" I miss the things we used to do AND I kn…
I almost commented on this earlier in the week because I was dating someone who made me feel the same way but I’ve since ended things and I’m pretty sure what you’re feeling is a sign of incompatibili…
My instincts were right. The interest was not there based on actions. Words? Yes. She ultimately still was not fully out of her exes life. Always trust your instincts
What a wise comment, thank you for this! This is reframing things for me. I’ve been hard on myself for falling for these types after thinking I should have spotted them better, but you’re right. They …
Oh my god this. You’re so right. Honestly people also hide things well the first 3 months. It takes time for masks to fall. People know how to present themselves well in the beginning
You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …
If you are getting wrist pain at all, there is something not right. Get an ergonomic assessment. Don't just guess or get equipment haphazardly. Moving the chair up or down a half inch makes a differ…
It doesn't sound DA, it sounds secure, and you are right.
I mean this as a compliment: Everything you wrote sounds super normal in my book. And you're right. Why are you even bothering to define "success" on someone else's terms, though? It's your life.…
1. Finding effective channels is the holy grail, isn't it? You've got a solid mix with personalized cold DMs and content. But experimenting with new platforms like Reddit or X can be a goldmine if don…
I can see why she didnt accept to seek therapy. In their mind its like we are exaggerating and everything is fine and anything having to do with psychology is actually bullshit (but obviously because …
Be careful with this because AI may be fast, thorough, and feel good in the moment, but that doesn't mean it's right. I personally don't think people should get therapy from an algorithm but each t…
Yea, but I understand how that itself is such a scary thing to do right. It activates the avoidance and discard instantly because they start feeling vulnerable, safe and almost exposed. Vulnerability,…
Ahh, you're right. Thank you. I ought to have noticed.
Consistency,is all,. Co regulation is a great tool that partners,as wall as children need their caregivers for,.stop being so selfish. Can’t believe yall are claiming avoidant like it’s you street gan…
Sounds about right. Being a human sucks sometimes.
As a regular of that sub, I dare to disagree. While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant…
I think skepticism is always warranted. But I would make the case that psychological processes like cognitive dissonance and projection are likely magnified in insecure attachers. Plus some peopl…
Damn, I think you’re right. To this day I don’t feel worthy of love until I accomplish my career goals. before that it was until I get my degree and before that it was until I make X amount of money.
Youre right. That's one of the missing pieces. The reason a HUGE majority of people dont know what they want is the western culture. Its created that way by design.
This. You’re right.
Ah...interpretation. Right. Yep. Always a safer bet than taking words at face value. Because facing something, is, after all, too difficult for an avoidant. Easier to win at a game only you know th…
Short answer is: you won’t ever be able to know, often they don’t even know, and you need to protect your sanity first. Long answer is: don’t monitor what you think your partner wants but instead mo…
I feel you completely but that’s because the guy I was dating was genuinely not very good looking. We had so much in common, could talk for hours, but I genuinely couldn’t utter the words “you look go…
Don't pay attention to downvotes, you're absolutely right. It's just a hard pill to swallow. Some people will read this and get angry or frustrated because it's an unpleasant truth, but it still needs…
It’s honestly uncanny, how accurately you have described my own situation - except that it has been a week now and we (me: f34, AP - him: m30, DA) were together for 10, married for 8 years. We were ea…
I know - you’re right. 🤝
I know you’re right. I’ve done years of therapy. This relationship undid a lot of it. He was the best partner I ever had, so I was really hoping it was going to work. I was wrong.
LOL i hear you on the venting session. I think i'll get there soon, but lately when I've tried I just feel guilty because I don't feel comfortable yet insulting him-- even the things he did wrong I kn…
You’re right. I really like her, but I need to treat her like I would anyone else I just started dating.
Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…
Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…
I wonder if you are asking for the permision to reinforce the boundaries or have the needs spoken outright. I say this because if someone needs weeks of space for no clear reason or whatever reasons, …