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yep. i was called "sadistic" for basically letting people experience the consequence of their actions. fast forward, i did a postgrad degree overseas in a commonwealth country and my counsellor and …
My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…
Covert narcissists are emotional sadists! — I hate the term “vulnerable narcissism” so much and I will never use it. I have had many moments where I saw the “duper’s delight” when they see you suffering or in distress. In my opinion, it is the …
Healing — It’s been 3 weeks since we broke up. 5 years 3 months 2 days evaporated. You showed me your true colors right away with the lies, gaslighting, and cheating. I endlessly gave you the benefit of the dou…
Looking into the Abyss — ​ For 15 years I lived with a man I considered responsible, honest, hardworking, and who loved me in a profound way, so profound that even facing unemployment, financial setbacks, what I thoug…
Why does narcicist tends to threat people with their health/wellbeing? — So my father is a dialysis patient and a narcicist. My mom is the number one supporter, the enabler. So whenever we have any discussion or when he gets mad at something random in the house (one time …
I think my mother has NPD — Hi everyone. I’m really looking for someone to talk to who grew up in a destructive home. I’m a woman in my late 20s, but I feel like I’m stuck in childhood. I’ve only just started to realize how tru…
Should I accept my narcissistic parents’ job offer as a scaffold out of financial dependence? — TLDR; My wealthy parents have a sordid and calculated history of financial abuse, but are offering me to pay me to help manage their investments. I am disabled, possibly for life, and don’t know if I …
coping with the fact that they’re proud of traumatizing me — this situation i got out of in recent months is so fucking sick and twisted. i am one of those lucky people who have a lifelong pattern of getting wrapped up with narcissistic people. i even have comp…
My mom is a psychopath with strong narcissistic traits — I used to think mom was only a narcisist, but she scores high enough to be on the threshold for psychopathy. She is a narcisist ALSO. She used to beat the shit out me when I was a kid, threatened me a…
My mom is a psychopath — I’d like to vent a little bit, because it’s not as if I could go around telling this to everyone, so I appreciate if you can read and maybe offer support 🫂 So, I used to think mom was only a narcisi…
I’m beginning to realise that my mother may be a narcissist, and I’m having a lot of trouble getting my head around it all — Hi all, apologies in advance as this may be a bit rambling, but I’d really like some advice (and to be told I’m not crazy, I guess). I (m34) have been depressed and anxious all my life, throw in some …
I feel like I am old enough now that this shouldn't hurt so much. — Trigger warning for parental neglect, bullying, and grief. I really need to vent a little. No advice needed. I just need to get this out of my system. TLDR, I was raised by an N-Mom, and a father wh…
Is your superego/inner-critic so sadistic and aggressive that you have to beg it to stop? — It starts with a situation that triggers a memory of failure/mistake/embarrassing situation (e.g. trying to update my education triggers memory of having to pause graduate school). Then this superego/…
I'm at a crossroad — I am in a relationship with someone who clearly has strong narcissistic and even sociopathic traits. I wouldn't say he is a full narcissist, because he does have remorse and when something bothers me…
Why are so many people absolute jerks/POS? — I am not talking even entitled or lacking self awareness... like actual ASSHOLES. Like, will actively and consciously go out of their way to make others miserable almost to the point of being sadisti…
Pretty sure I was an FA (schizophrenic dad, sadistic mom who wanted to abort me—I took care of the family’s emotional needs, disregarded my own). I was still confused/hurting 2+ years post no contact…
I find this stuff kind of fascinating. No one ever talks about how *sadistic* anxious people can be when they’re feeling ignored or abandoned. They would rather get any reaction than none at all, and …
It depends on the porn and the effect on the viewer. Ethical, body positive, sex positive porn used in a healthy, life-affirming way is healthy. Exploitative, sadistic etc porn is not
He might find the will and a way. My ex did stuff like this to me. I thought I was going crazy for years. If OP takes his phone he will just use his computer. It will turn into him messaging on the …
Hi! I mean I agree, some people are that sadistic, but it doesn’t usually just sprout up out of the blue after 10 years and two kids.
Original copy of post by u/SadisticalSymphony: I feel like I do better in relationships where we don't cohabitate. I'm autistic and really like control over my space, living with someone messy can fe…
Loving someone, having respect for them is not an obligation to spend all your years together. Maybe something is wrong for them. Sometimes, it may be their anxious attachment issues•••sometimes ADH…
As someone who works in criminal rehabilitation, absolutely. I will say, one in like 500 actually does move past the shame and accepts what they've done. For a lot of them they've repeated a pattern o…
I am so sorry to know these crazy, manipulative, aggressive, and downright sadistic people (your husband and his evil partner) are in your life. You need a great white shark of an attorney to cut him …
My paternal grandmother did that to all of her children. 3 boys, 1 girl. She claimed that all of her children were potty trainedc by 6 weeks of age! But the enemas continued until (I heard) they left …
They are sadistic nutters - don't expect logic. (It really is that simple, just very hard to accept.)
Narcissists are not big picture thinkers. They are impulsive and sadistic. They get a dopamine hit to the brain when they can hurt or pull one over on someone. It’s like a drug to them. So they get in…
It's like...whats the point of doing it if turns you like that? Not fun at all, you would think they would be the happiest on earth. There's no way in order for me to go see another person I have to …
I found the article. The first page starts with "Real harm deserves acknowledgment and accountability, full stop. Parents who were cruel, violent, emotionally sadistic, or truly neglectful caused dam…
It is emotional abuse 1000% and if he knows it triggers you it is super evil and sadistic on top.
It sounds like he was verbally abusive to begin with and now with your diagnosis, he’s found a way to weaponize it against you. That’s such a sadistic response to have. Normal people - let alone norma…
She's sadistic. Leave, and let important people, in both your and her life, know why (family, friends, boss - in case she tries to go to your work - ). Go to the police and start a papertrail. It'll h…
Completely agree. Unfortunately my sister shares alot in common with my nex--behaviorally. I started picking up on the insane amount of narcissistic traits they both share-- one of their persistent b…
This is so sad I'm so sorry. ❤️ I'm also terrified about what you said about the divorce decree because I am about to sign a contract to settle with my abuser and I am afraid of something like this b…
It's probably some weird sadistic kink of hers. People like to torcher people especially when they say something in particular hurts them. Break up, get on with your life.
The fact that she enjoyed doing it would be enough for me to ghost her entirely. You tried communicating with her, it failed. Be done with her and move on, dude. Whether its a lack of maturity or a de…
This is weaponizing your own trauma against you. I grew up with a sadistic/narcissistic parent and they would always take vulnerable or emotional information they knew about me and then throw it in …
They collapse when their inflated ego doesn’t match reality. It’s a spiralling, non functional depression, their defences increase, they become more delusional. They are extra unpleasant to be around,…
That is not okay. First time, *suuure* it was an accident. She was probably testing the waters that first time around. Second time, definitely non-consentual, and abusive. The third time though, screa…
She might have a ball busting kink. It’s a dominance thing, and sadistic. If that’s not compatible with you and you don’t consent, then it sounds like you’re both incompatible AND she’s assaulting you…
Are you serious? You need to ask people. She is sadistic and obviously likes inflicting pain. Saying she doesn’t know why is pathetic and full on domestic violence. I would question her mental health.…
They're trying to make you fail by making you as tired as possible. It's torture and they're doing it on purpose because they're sadistic. Please talk to someone at school.
They sadistically get off on your pain. Keep it up, so proud of you.
Yours was one of the first comments I saw. You have no idea how validating it was to read. I've never thought to describe it as sadism, but I think you're right. She's been oddly sadistic my entire li…
Yea it's very sadistic and depressing how our Asian culture whether it be Asian friends or extended family. Normalizes abuses because that's how Asian families raises and treat children in the past, s…
That’s so sadistic and dark. I’m so sorry
Correct, apologies for my incomplete description. I suppose my point is that even with my limited knowledge of the philosophy, it was clear to me that this guy was a massive hypocrite. He was insane…
No reconciling without true remorse. True remorse tells the truth, holding nothing back. She is not remorseful. Along with remorse there has to NO CONTACT WITH AFFAIR PARTNER OF ANY SORT. There is no…
Nmom just wants to reclaim the highs of hurting you again and again. The thing about narcs is at their core, they are filled with (justified) self-loathing. Everything they do is an attempt to distra…
See, this is exactly what I'm talking about. Far off comments making generalized statements about asian girls. Do you hear how pathetic you sound? "Moms especially babies the son and seem to hate thei…
All narcissists are sadistic to an extent. That's why they do what they do. The sadistic narcissist is the worst of all the species of narcissists when it comes to sadism but covert narcissists aren't…
They are sadistic to be sure.
I know that look I remember that evil sadistic smirk they would get when I was physically hurt or Nmom would get when she would hurt us with her words. Only time she’s nice is when she’s sick she’s li…
My dad was a violent sadistic narcissist who horribly abused me since I was a little girl. He also abused my mom. He hit her and insulted her. My dad almost killed me several times (pushed me down the…
I should edit to add that I’ve posted in this sub about things he kept hidden from me that I only found out about from his previous ex that he never disclosed to me (history of abuse from childhood). …
Fuck it. I'll share what I did to rid myself of these things. I don't like sharing this because...well, it required me to ask for help from something I don't understand but recognize. It would be THIS…
Oh what a list yall made! My contributions would be.. - not everyone is constantly doomsday prepping - not everyone has guns for keeping property (children & drugs) safe - incest wasn’t happening fo…
It is extremely lonely. They are unfortunately capable of inflicting so much pain, so deeply, and in a sadistic way- it’s sad. And like you said, a lot of the time, people would never know, or never…
They are sadistic & sick, they really are. I'm sorry you went through that. There's no way that wouldn't hurt, you cared about her, it's normal. Everything they do is indeed fucked up.
Damn, I'm sorry that's a lot to go through. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you might be codependent. I didn't know I was codependent until shit hit the fan. But it opened my eyes a lot. If…
Huh. That's interesting and obviously extremely sadistic and cruel too. The last time I saw her was at the place we first met. Hmm she actually wore the same thing she wore when we met too - I frequ…
1000% I'd say the majority of people who work in mental health have trauma, and that's why they were interested in psychology. My ex therapist friend is a major alcoholic with unresolved childhood tra…
Being abused by someone you trusted enough to be vulnerable to is so devastating. I'm sorry she did something so evil and sadistic. It's a heavy pain to carry. To be kicked when you are truly do…
Laughing at me when I asked my mother to not smoke inside (I'm late-diagnosed AuDHD) and when I would run upstairs to call CPS or the police after being smacked around. Being a prodigal violist, a ran…