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Oh boy do I love being exploited(Long rant, life story, lots of heavy stuff) — Hi, new here. I'll just go ahead and describe my relationship with my parents and my general environment, cuz I've been stuck in a cycle of depression and toxic optimism since childhood. For conte…
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…
Just realized how damaging people pleasing and not being able to say “no” really is — Let me preface this post by saying that I have my own issues with codependency and have spent many years working on it in therapy. I also have issues with saying no, and I completely understand how ha…
Worth the wait — About 6 years ago, I (34F) hit rock bottom. My life was in shambles after an abusive relationship, so I had no other choice but to go back to live in my mother’s house for a while. At this point, I wa…
HAE noticed themselves 'borrowing' worthiness from others...? — Almost like a scaffold, while you're still building your own, and still pouring the cement in places you didn't know (still) needed it.... An interesting way I noticed myself 'borrowing' worthiness f…
My wife left a year ago — My wife left a year ago I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her l…
My wife left a year ago — I got divorced about six months ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. She cheated last year. It wasn’t anything dramatic. One random day, borrowed her laptop since my office one…
Coda Slogans — I've been attending a meeting for about 2 months and realized last night that Coda doesn't seem to have slogans the same way Al-Anon and other Recovery programs do. Or maybe there is just a lot of cr…
Only child (30F, Indian, US). Parents financially exploited me and my husband for years. Set boundaries. Now they’re trying to destroy my marriage. — **The financial fraud:** My father retired with 1 crore and started building a house. Behind my back, he took a loan using my husband’s documents — claimed 45 lakhs, was actually 80 lakhs (POA fraud)…
I am becoming resentful towards my husband for letting his brother live with us — TL;DR: My husband and I have been married for 4 years and have one young child. I am 28 and he is 32. My husband let his brother who was 18 at the time move in with us as he was trying to get a job a…
I thought I was "bad at mornings" for years – turns out, I was just fighting my own biology. — 1. You aren't tired – you're chemically blocked. Brain fog is a chemical siege happening inside your skull, and most people pour coffee on it by default. 2. You're never "too dependent on caffeine to …
You have the answers — ​ Hello folks, hope your day is going well! Below i'll post the final chapter to a short work I put together. while out of context it does provide some useful tips on how to be. A dedicated …
My boyfriend hasn’t had a job in months and I’m now the sole provider. That’s just part of it. — Chase (35M) and I(30F) have been dating for close to two years. For the first several months, we had a great sex life and honestly moved way too fast–I moved in with him after only dating for six mont…
The dreaded day has finally come — I've been low contact with them for years but one of my literal nightmares has come to fruition, dealing with my parent's hoarder house. They're in their 70s, increasing mobility issues, and have fill…
Turbulent year. Opinions on the worst year of my life? — I got into a relationship at 16. Within the first two years of our relationship I discovered he was cheating by having sexual chats and sending explicit pictures online to other women. I forgave him a…
My (29M) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t want to have sex anymore — Basically my boyfriend started Prozac back in October and he keeps saying he doesn’t want to have sex because his medicine takes his drive away and he never feels like it. He also says his work stress…
My (29M) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t want to have sex anymore — Basically my boyfriend started Prozac back in October and he keeps saying he doesn’t want to have sex because his medicine takes his drive away and he never feels like it. He also says his work stress…
I'm the co-borrower on exes recreational loan and now she's filing bankruptcy — I co signed my exe's camper before we got divorced, all payments have been made on time but she won't pay it off or sell it to get me off the loan. There is a court order that state's she must get me …
Transcendental meditation — Hi everyone. This is a bit of a tough one. About 35 to 40 years ago when I was growing up in London I borrowed a book from my local library on meditation. I think it was a beginners guide but it also …
Help — I’m 32. I lived in an abusive family until I was 25, when I got married and moved out of my parents’ house. Both of my parents physically abused me since I was about 4 years old. They sent me to a pr…
My (M23) closeted college mate (M22) flaked after inviting me out while abroad, now ghosting me. Did I make a mistake? — I am a male college student, homosexual, not publicly out the closet, but recently comfortable in my own skin and with letting people think whatever they wish about my sexuality. A group of mates and …
Mom acts tacky at church. — It's Easter Sunday so I took my mom to Korean church which is rare for me. But the church is very welcoming and inclusive. Everyone is humble and kind and generous there. Many of the Korean aunties g…
Attachment and intelligence — [https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Marco-Del-Giudice/publication/365106961\_A\_new\_look\_at\_the\_relations\_between\_attachment\_and\_intelligence/links/637e2eb92f4bca7fd084f79c/A-new-look-at-the…
Narcissistic trap — So I have a brother who is clearly a narcissist and his spouse is a narcissist with machiavellic tendencies. I’ve been manipulated and abused by them when I was a teen and I flew over to visits them d…
My first of several DDay’s was the day I gave birth 19 years ago today. Reflection post… — My first DDay (of several) in my 20 year marriage was the day my daughter was born 19 years ago today. I was about 8 months pregnant when I noticed my husband of about a year was acting strange. Wou…
Went to Disneyland & got a $2K bill from parents… — My narcissistic mother was upset that we didn’t give her enough time to arrange joining us for our trip to Disneyland 3 weeks ago to celebrate my 3 year olds birthday…that she demanded that I repay he…
Am I (20M) asking for too much from my boyfriend (19M) or is this unhealthy? (4 months dating) — I (20M) have been dating my boyfriend (19M) for 4 months, and we’ve known each other for 6 months total. I’m starting to feel really drained and confused, and I don’t know if I’m expecting too much or…
Need advice on my parents — hi! i currently live at home after graduating college and genuinely its been awful. a few months ago we found out my dad had been cheating on my mom. this is when everything really started to unravel …
I don’t know if I actually was emotionally neglected or if I’m just a dramatic brat, and I’m driving myself mad. — I (22f) have really struggled with my mental health the last few years, although most who know me wouldn’t know this, as I conceal my mental health very well. I constantly ruminate over my childhood,…
Starting to hate my family — I am starting to hate everyone in this family, my mom asks too many questions and sometimes even avoids taking responsibility when it comes to asking a staff member during shopping or even asking hosp…
My family pressured me to drop out of school so they could make me their personal ATM — title says it all I've (19f) always drawn since I was a kid and my family thought it was a useless hobby but relatively harmless. When I turned 16, my phone broke completely and I had no phone for a …
My mom is a psychopath with strong narcissistic traits — I used to think mom was only a narcisist, but she scores high enough to be on the threshold for psychopathy. She is a narcisist ALSO. She used to beat the shit out me when I was a kid, threatened me a…
My mom is a psychopath — I’d like to vent a little bit, because it’s not as if I could go around telling this to everyone, so I appreciate if you can read and maybe offer support 🫂 So, I used to think mom was only a narcisi…
I didn't just lose you. I lost the person I was when you loved me. — It's been three weeks. And the strangest thing happened today. I laughed at a meme. A real laugh. And for one second, I felt okay. Then I turned to show you. But you weren't there. That's when it hi…
When is it a good time to reach out to get belongings back post breakup? — i made a post already but i forgot to ask another important question. I'm not ready to come back to him yet considering it's only been a week. Now I'm questioning if it's even worth breaking no contac…
Lingering — I thought maybe if I let someone else touch me the past would loosen its grip that your name would fade between breaths, between skin and silence. But love doesn’t leave like that. It lingers …
My (M25) girlfriend (F25) of 6 months broke up with me, and got back on hinge the same day — This is going to be a long post, I just need to vent and get my thoughts down. I apologize if this comes off as rambling, I am so emotional right now so it might not be structured perfectly. My gir…
My bf is a gambler — My boyfriend (24M) and I (23F) were together for almost five years. We started dating when I was 17 and he was 18. Because of the war, we moved to another country together. About a year later, there …
How should/can I 30M go about protecting my baby sister 24F from (what I think) is a potentially harmful relationship? — So I (30M) have a much younger sister 24F. Sis and I had a really hard upbringing; we were both taken away from our biological family when I was about 6 and she was only a couple of months old. We li…
i hate my life so much and i don't know what to do — i'm in my senior year of highschool and i just hate myself and my life so much what the hell am i doing. i'm a horrible student. half my grades are b's. i'm painfully average and i study most of the …
Need some advices — I’m a seafarer and i had a girlfriend for a year, we live in different provinces and it’s really far that i need to go on a ship and ride a bus just to get there. We met in tinder and honestly i was …
boyfriend (M31) canceled my (F26) birthday dinner reservation because of ongoing car issues — Yesterday was my birthday. I (F26) met with a friend for coffee in the morning, visited my dad and brother in the afternoon, and had plans to meet my boyfriend (M31) later in the evening for a fancy, …
How often to help people and how often say no? — Hi! I try to watch if Im not becoming selfish. I rather dont need nothing from people I have no kids and learned to be independent. Only person that gave me a lot is my mother she not only gave me co…
My Nmother likes to steal my stuff — My mom likes to steal my stuff. Yeap. Never steal from any of my siblings. Just me. First was my makeup stuff, then my perfumes, the jewelry my fiancé bought me, then my money. Whenever I confronted h…
Reddit, decide for me — Options: A) leave her B) get contracts in place and work together C) divorce but date afterwards D) sue the shit out of her We met when we were 8. I moved away. We were close to being together w…
Ex kong iniscammed ako ng 120k — The time that I am asking for the money to repay, I cannot reach her so instead, I contact her sister’s niece and nephews aunt and uncles, but then again they refuse to respond on my approach. So that…
Please help me (33F) make my boyfriend (35M) realise this isn’t normal behaviour and isn’t ok? — Some backstory. We’ve been together over 10 years. I’m having chronic health issues and I’m being tested for MS so I am in pain a lot and have lots of worrying and annoying symptoms. I also have suffe…
I'm in the real estate space and I'm in the process of building a shop space for a few independent contractors to run their own businesses out of, and it has taken over a year and is 80% over budget, …
I just expected him to have any initiative or take action. I'm 100% that person who'd risk being overbearing because when I do see or hear about someone I care about having health issues, I get very p…
Yes I would! If he asked me anything or imposed anything that was for my sake, I would just go with it at that point and then appreciate it. Reposting ny answer to someone else: I just expected him…
It's reasonable to want your things back despite them being replaceable. My last relationship my ex kept a bunch of things that she borrowed when moving into her new place ( nice shop vac, drill, step…
I had an ex gf who got mad at me over the stupidest thing and basically pulled the "it's me or them" bull crap and I stood my ground because the other person was my buddy who I'd known longer than her…
27-28 landing right on the progressed lunar return tracks perfectly. and taurus sun with scorpio rising is one of those combos where the shift is especially noticeable because the two energies are so …
Ewww. 60+ woman weighing in here. The best party I ever gave was a Disney Princess tea party for all my grown up friends to celebrate being able to get back together post COVID. I have enough outf…
I am borrowing the "perfect little race horse" term. It's so relatable. I'm glad you are doing better.
OP, have you searched his trash folder for deleted texts? Has he given you permission to search his phone? Idea- ask him to let you take his phone for a day while he's at work. If the texts keep comi…
Ok hear me out...you should try it the other way around. Don't ask him to get a new number. Keep your old phone, BUT FIRST Remotely log out of EVERYTHING connected to it...you said you're not tech sav…
I've updated the Lateral Classics restoration of Seneca's first letter to better reflect the 'Survival Urgency' of the original text. Version 1.2 is now live. **Letter I — On Saving Time** Keep doin…
in the ph it is “Bagong Taong Tsino”, the last word borrowed from spanish. chino, chinese. better than “ch!nk new year” or the other slurs often thrown at us
I hate to tell you that ciao is actually Italian 😂 but you are totally right that the French routinely borrow it! So you may only know one phrase in French…no shame!
The 7th is the other person - it's opposite the 1st house - the axis of self and other. The 2nd/8th axis is that which you hold/own (which sustains you) vs that which you share/borrow/owe (which susta…
I don't really have the same issue, and when I've needed a hug I've turned to friends and family (and I've borrowed a weighted blanket before and thought it was amazing), but would getting massages wo…
I'd ask her to borrow as much money as you think she will give you before you she finds out you know
Those words exist although academic and not widely known. I have not yet seen them used to refer to the calendar. For example Vietnamese is not classified as a Sinitic language but does have a large S…
They might have been „borrowed“ though
I see this relationship is on borrowed time to the point even *your boyfriend* is admitting the relationship isn’t working. Choose the one not giving you an ultimatum. It’s sucks to start over but you…
He is a co-borrower on the loan. So he and my sister both are responsible. The **student borrower** and the **parent co-borrower** are both **100% responsible for repayment**.
I miss my apartment I had by myself sometimes. It was cute, clean and on the minimalistic side. I didn’t have cable and would buy a season of a show or a movie every week or borrow stuff from the libr…
I think so too, but then narcissists are not logical, my mom took the majority of my pay for years and made me do all the domestic labour and then wanted me to send her $600 a month for a year after I…
Sorry to hear that was frustrating for you. I actually … kinda agree with her. This doesn’t really feel “borrowed” to me personally. But that’s mostly an aside ; my opinion (and hers) are irrelevant…
Yes that’s a good point! I prefer direct communication so it was incredibly awkward, especially because it was clear she was beating around the bush instead of just saying no. I was looking up low s…
Well, wait a minute. Remember, it’s something borrowed so it would be returned, not given to me. Like I mentioned in the post, I’m no stranger to having issues saying no and I understand how difficu…
Looks like you were on a single-minded mission to wear her perfume! I think the question you may want to ask yourself is why you kept pressing the issue about the perfume when it was obvious she didn…
The second last paragraph is peak people pleasing. There's no reason it had to be uncomfortable and there's definitely no reason to preface it with all that fluff LOL. I think you're reading too far…
I've had to work through similar, not letting people borrow things. I think this is a special case for a friend's wedding and letting yourself be more open to that is really great for nurturing connec…
Then that would be a reason to say no and explain why not. But id probably be hurt if my friends assumed I wouldn't give back something I borrowed from them, given we had that relationship of trust an…
See I thought the "that would be strange" was them denying the possibility of the idea or saying they didn't want to do it pre emptively. I still think it's on the friend to say I'm honestly not comf…
Not sure this falls under people pleasing. It's a weird ask, borrowing a scent. Because you really aren't borrowing it. That's like, "can I borrow a tampon?"🙈 Maybe she's uncomfortable with you messi…
Not a weird ask! [Brides.com - Something Borrowed](https://www.brides.com/history-something-old-new-borrowed-blue-wedding-tradition-11796825) Something Borrowed The "something borrowed" item usuall…
Maybe nothing would count as borrowed? Everything would be too much of an ask.
look OP he scammed you. if the money is invested he can get it back or he can cover it. if you can't get it back then he stole your savings without your consent. there's probably nothing you can do fo…
Thank you for sharing this so honestly. The part that really stood out to me was how you described feeling suspicion or even disgust when someone showed interest in you when you were younger. In hinds…
>the person who borrowed it gets into an accident you would expect some measure of recognition and amends. Irrelevant >If they bring it back with lots of trash inside you'd want them to clean it up.…
I don’t think it’s a weird ask, but for whatever reasons your friend obvs doesn’t want to go with it. Just send her a little message saying hey it’s all good, have sorted something else out. That way …
my bro lost 600k playing short term expiring day options. He lost 300k of his life savings and borrowed embezzled 200k against his business line of credit without his business partner knowing. He h…
I’m 100 percent on your side here as a 41 year old man. Trust is something that needs to be an assumption in a relationship at all times, and trust isn’t open access, trust is not giving a shit what’s…
> we literally still have no clue the science behind meditation, it is largely newly or even un tested we just have what we feel. I guess we have different orientations. As a practicing Buddhist I co…
Disagree that it’s normal. People who are cagey with their phones in a long term relationship have something to hide. The neeeed for privacy is a red flag. Nothing to hide? Then don’t lock out your …
I started studying philosophy at 16, about a decade ago. So, not *that* much perspective, but some, and of course my life changed tremendously over that decade. My attitude towards philosophy has chan…
I'd like to borrow your headspace lol feels so impossible but life otherwise is great at least
That's a good question. I'm repeatedly surprised by how many people here don't define meditation. People talk about meditating and often ask for advice, but without explaining what they mean by medita…
Yep. Can confirm, my parents fit this to a T. Woke up, went off to work, came home, sat on the couch / did chores, went to sleep, repeat for the rest of time. Another example is they rented a mobile…
I was catfished twice in 15 years. The first one was obviously older pictures but I figured he must look the same still. He did not age well from the photos to when I saw him. The second time the …
How do y’all feel about people who send a copy/paste first message on Hinge? ETA: it was such a generic, over played thing from 5 years ago. Along the times of spicy margs, tell me I’m pretty, borro…
When she gambled away all the money her dad gave us for the honeymoon. And asked me to borrow more money to gamble. I was deeply in love with her at the time. My heart just sank. She denied it ever ha…
"Borrowed self-worth" is the perfect description! I've always been super curious about what makes me tick and in the longest break between partners it gave me time to process everything and question:…