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I and I think a lot of us in this subreddit know about Wong Kim Ark, the Chinese American man whose Supreme Court case in 1898 affirmed birthright citizenship for children of immigrants. What I didn't…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

I was able to communicate with someone….. — I don’t know if this the correct sub… let me know I’ll explain my situation hoping some one can orient me : A few days ago, I had a weird dream/astral projection experience—I don’t even know how to …

Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…

UPDATE: How do I (28M) tell my girlfriend (28F) a prenup and keeping my inherited house separate are non-negotiable? — TL;DR: I had the conversation. She brought up moving in first. She completely agrees the house and inheritance should stay separate, supports a prenup, was impressed I’d thought it through, and confus…

I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca.  I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…

Are there any pro-escapism AP communities out there? — I've noticed that when the topic of voluntarily leaving this physical life, or remaining in the astral permanently is brought up on this sub, there are inevitably at least a few comments who seem to t…

The fatalistic overcorrection of the dichotomy of control. — I wrote part of the body of this post as a comment in another thread, but I see these comments very often anyway so I thought (voluntarily) that I would give a general objection to them here. The g…

Exhausted and confused — So my wife of 10 years has been very distant lately, starting in about October or November she suddenly started caring about her appearance a lot more, found a new interest in sports, stopped reading/…

You discarded the narcissist — Fundamentally, narcissists don't have control over anything in their lives, not even the discard. They are reactionary beings who exist solely in response to external stimuli, which includes you. Fu…

Went on my first date in 16 years and I have ALOT of questions! — so I met this very beautiful woman on Facebook dating. something that I have not taken too serious in the past. I have to say, the attention and validation feelt nice. Especially after escaping an emo…

Overcorrections 2 Electric Boogaloo — This time I'm focusing on the way things are phrased in this subreddit's Read Me First. The problems I'm noticing can be either attributed to right understanding but wrong phrasing, or wrong understan…

A feeling of holding in energy? — Since I can remember I been able to do this thing, right? I'll kinda just do it, can't really explain it I don't think, but it like I'd hold in "energy" in my body for a short time, I'd FEEL this and …

Is this an Astral Projection or...? — I tried to induce Astral Projection tonight for the first time, because I discovered I had done it once before, but involuntarily, it was fully, and effectively without my knowing this was an actual p…

Thinking about just leaving for a while.. — New here.. I got out of a 10 year long relationship with a physically abusive boyfriend in 2016. I started my healing-journey and felt joy again. Got both my PTSD diagnosis as well as ADHD. Was sing…

Seeking advice for feeling like I’m not being sexually heard by my longterm parter (22M) as a relative virgin (20M) — I was sent here from another advice thread! Sorry for the long post! How do I make my sexual discomfort heard by my boyfriend after multiple attempts to not treat everytime we have sex like it’s a…

Have you ever voluntarily moved to another city, region, or country after a breakup? Did it help you?

I’ve just released the evidence to the press that NSW Police fabricated a medical diagnosis to criminalize my trauma. I am dropping the files here on Friday. — *Disclaimer: I am remaining anonymous while investigative journalists review the evidence file I just submitted to them. I have on me clinical assessments, hospital documents, and audio recordings sup…

Age Regression / Wanting a Parental Figure in a Partner — Hi all. Don't know if this is the best sub to post in, but it's caused by my CPTSD, so I'm wondering if any of yall relate. My CPTSD was caused by growing up with abusive parents, and ever since I wa…

Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with my parents, especially my semi-absent father? — I’ve come to certain conclusions recently. Not only do I not enjoy having a relationship with my parents, but it seems I become a very terrible version of myself when I’m around them. I am 27m. I a…

how do I get closure from being essentially ghosted?should I reach out myself? — hi, I've posted here before about this situation and I'm back because I genuinely need some outside perspective. I'll try to give enough context for this to make sense. I'm 20F, this was my first ev…

[UPDATE] I 19F Caught my boyfriend 19M using a pacifier? [UPDATE] — So I posted here Monday to ask for some advice about a conversation I wasn't sure about having with my boyfriend, link to the og post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/1sefedx/i…

CA Divorce - Using Spouse's expected inheritance as context for non 50/50 settlement. Enforceable? — Burner account. Background: I'm initiating a divorce after 14 years of marriage in California. I'm the primary earner by a significant margin — I've generated roughly 70% of our household income thr…

Trying to understand if my relationship with my mom is unhealthy or just normal conflict — **I (24F) have a complicated and long-standing relationship with my mom that I’m trying to understand.** Growing up, I often felt unfairly treated within my extended family, especially due to favorit…

Too much free time? — Hi everyone— college student on a gap semester here (21f). I wanted to know what you all do between finishing work and going to sleep? I know this sounds like a good problem to have but I took a gap …

31M, stuck in life due to toxic family environment – unsure about future, marriage, and purpose — I’m 31, living in India, working at an MNC, and come from a middle-class family in a tier-2 city. I have an older brother (5 years older), and my family situation has been very difficult for a long ti…

31M, stuck in life due to toxic family environment – unsure about future, marriage, and purpose — I’m 31, living in India, working at an MNC, and come from a middle-class family in a tier-2 city. I have an older brother (5 years older), and my family situation has been very difficult for a long ti…

14 Years misdiagnosed with schizophrenia. — In 2012 I was diagnosed with schizophrenia, recently I've felt my episodes are a result of stress, and I noticed they are pre-empted by trauma memories surfacing. For years every time i tried to talk …

I (22M) am so confused. Didnt know where else to go with this anymore. I just want help understanding what happened? PLEASE READ - its long, kinda. — important context- i was born into a religious family and grew up a religious kid not in any unorthodox manner only a typical hindu family in india. when i was a child i was afraid of the dark then on…

How can I actually change my mindset? — I (28M) have been struggling with really severe mental health issues for about a decade now. Was actually just recently discharged from the psych ward a couple weeks ago after being involuntarily comm…

That makes sense cus whenever i involuntarily lucid dream and get to a cool part I wake up immediately.

Personally? Depends on my life situation but on average maybe 4-8 times a month. The amount of time that passes is usually not too different from physical time, but it can definitely differ - anywher…

Hey, you guys ever visit your siblings dreams? I've involuntarily projected myself to various places when under a load of stress when younger. I've had no control over it and wondering if anyone can p…

I’m really glad it helped you! I think DAs involuntarily push people away because of the unconscious fear of engulfment. They are predisposed by their childhoods to feel encroached upon, so any kind o…

Me and my girlfriend (Fearful Avoidant) have been together for a couple of months now and our extreme attachment styles have been a huge problem in our relationship. Me being extremely anxious, I tend…

The older I get, the more I think the idea of 'falling in love' is pure bullshit. I don't want a love that I fell into involuntarily and have no control over. Does that really sound romantic to you? I…

Have you directly asked her if you hadn't discovered the affair would she have ever ended it? The follow up question has to be, even if she voluntarily stopped it would she have voluntarily confessed.…

Why would that change the situation you are in now? She didn't initially come forward voluntarily and would have likely never confessed on her own to what you already know. You will likely never get a…

I will never voluntarily live with a partner again. If something happens where they need assistance and have to move in, I’ll deal, but I’m not signing up for it

I’ve been too in awe of my experiences to notice verifiable details. I think the next plane is often similar, but different as well. In any case, I started having OBEs involuntarily 10 or so years ago…

Natural at doing it voluntarily lol 😆

Well I only did it like 3 or 4 times voluntarily, many times I’m going to sleep or already sleeping and I notice the buzzing noise and I’m able to focus on that and project without even initially tryi…

My immediate instinct to this is to tell you, you will not "detach" from your thoughts. Controlling your thoughts is actually just redirecting them. Whether you are meditating or in your day to day li…

If someone called me “mommy” in bed, it would give me the type of ick where I would say “ew” involuntarily, dismount, ask him to leave, and start changing the sheets while he was getting his shoes on.…

My parents were ok with my chorus involvement, though my father was a trombonist and somewhat biased against vocal music. I tried learning 2 different instruments but finally realized music isn't real…

Hey it is really hard and it doesn’t really get better. And most people cannot understand how much it affects you. Other than a quick 2-5 second hug from a friend a few times a year and an occasional …

The definition of slavery provided by Epictetus focuses on the location of your internal toggle switch rather than the external requirements of the simulation. Project Grounding Rod identifies your co…

The "empty mind" framing is actually a common misconception worth unpacking, because it sets people up to fail at meditation. Your brain has a dedicated system called the Default Mode Network (DMN)…

Turn it around on him so that he cannot steer the narrative into “she’s the bad guy she left me for the birds” later: “No, YOU wanted pets and so WE chose to get birds TOGETHER. You do not get to cho…

Honestly, I don't think anyone will be able to understand. It's irrational. Many people here have already tried. It will never make sense or add up. I think the betrayed person just needs to accept th…

Yes! In a safe relationship, you are inherently compelled to include your partner in everything. It's your choice, your voluntarily choice. However, if this inclusion is forced, it takes away freedom,…

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP, but with respect, this feels like displaced anger to me. If someone wants to be polyamorous, who cares? They can live their life however they like. The issue i…

They just write notes that I am angry about polyamory without giving me the benefit of communicating to other people who might see that going forward, the exact reasons why. It is a bit like my child…

A. Boundary set regardless of your reasoning, whatever your reason is is yours and you need to detach from whatever she thought was going on and not let it affect you. Thats the reddit answer anywa…

I disagree and think the more financially able person should do more when they're able to, or at least offer. If you're going into debt for things like splitting vet bills for your dog, which you own …

To what extent is it not about having a good community that you can be intimate with? I read pretty much every comment and I'm genuinely shocked and disappointed that only two mentioned cuddling with…

Yeah unless the father doesn't want to see the kid any more or voluntarily take on responsibility in child rearing. Hmm.

Just to do a D&C because I couldn’t stop bleeding they asked for 2k in addition to my 5k deductible and months later the anesthesiologist came for $600, doc said she’d save my IUD which she either di…

He doesn't want Latinas and would rather be involuntarily celibate at the hands of Asian women who don't want him. Why do we even have a support group for Asian men when Asian men are like this? The …

Glad you found it helpful. I don't have strong opinions on posture but for what it's worth I do my formal sits cross-legged or kneeling on a zafu. I usually keep my hands on knees, or folded in my l…

As I have never seen this, and I know that the kink world is not always a good reflection of real life (there is some very degrading shit out there) so I don’t kink shame, all I can go on is real life…

So, I was in this type of relationship for two years and it never got better. From the very beginning he never seemed all that interested in me. I thought I’d give him grace and had conversation start…

Well, this doesnt apply to me. My ex wife is the one who wants to move far away with the kids for money (to marry someone with it). I was the one who suggested we not have 50/50 right away because we …

Wow, this is familiar. I remember him trying to kiss me and I involuntarily recoiled. It was just automatic from being so repulsed by all of his screaming tantrums and caring for someone who acted lik…

I tried not to, although it would happen involuntarily. When I felt really good, I would allow myself to imagine but I didn't want to limit the bridge of events to what my ego could comprehend, even w…

I'd think about it this way: you don't want to avoid negativity because "your desire won't show up" if you have some involuntarily (which is completely human and normal), you are attentive to it and y…

It doesn’t necessarily have to be a good thing… we don’t know the full implications of switching involuntarily, or what or who is pulling the strings. That’s a whole world with its own future event s…

I stood up for myself, provided evidence to prove him wrong, walked away, and blocked the 2 people involved 6 months ago. This was a somewhat traumatic event that has involuntarily stuck with me. I a…

Something that helped me was realizing banter isn't about being funny, it's about being slightly unexpected. Like if someone says they went hiking last weekend you don't have to say "oh cool where" yo…

I agree with others: call police for a welfare check. But please, Please, PLEASE, stay no contact - at the very least for the immediate future. Your parents do not have your best interest at heart. I…

Me too. Either I'm too relaxed and doze off or I'm not relaxed enough to enter another mental state. I had an OBE once years ago due to trauma so I know it's possible, I've just never been able to re…

Yet she’s not mad at you either? This is pretty wild that she’s just willing to brush it under the rug if you two voluntarily slept together. She’s really deluding herself.

Sleep paralysis is a prerequisite for astral projection. Often it leads to it involuntarily. Running requires the ability to walk, but not all walkers are running.

The Saturn Mahadasha is not your enemy. In fact, for a Sagittarius Ascendant, it is often the period of your greatest material empire. you are currently in Jupiter Mahadasha. While Jupiter is your Lag…

It seems like you’re saying here that you accept a literally *unemployed* man, as long as he’s “kind and decent”… I can’t possibly be interpreting that right. You wouldn’t rather date a “nice” bum lik…

Stoicism is about being in harmony with nature. Now what is our nature? We are human beings. If we are human beings we should do things that humans do. Just like a tree grows because that's what nat…

So I don't know specifically about Machine Elves kicking people out specifically, but one thought occurred to me as to how / why such a thing could conceivably happen... I don't remember where exactl…

Mine was about my community at work. It shifted like I never would’ve believed. I also did something voluntarily for the first time that I swore I would never do, bc all of a sudden there was a need. …

My weight loss is part of the reason why I'm voluntarily celibate. I was disgusted at how differently men treated me after I lost 60lbs and since I'm straight, I just swore them off and I've never bee…

I wrote a very extensive message to someone I had just met. We were in a situation where you bond quickly. I stupidly, after a few days of feeling "connected" to him, decided to type up my feelings an…