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Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…
Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …
Virtualization is hurting my mental state. — I was just curious if anyone else was experiencing this. With the rise of AWS and other cloud services, it's making my work feel more and more "fake". All the machines are virtual, the networks are vi…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
Anyone else noticing small businesses drowning in SaaS subscription costs these days? — Been consulting with a few local businesses recently and I'm shocked at how many are spending $500-1000+ monthly on various software subscriptions. One client is paying for Salesforce, Asana, Notion, …
Death by a Thousand Subscriptions: Is anyone's SaaS bills higher than their Ad spend? — I've been watching several eCommerce businesses in my network, and it's fascinating how many are drowning in subscription costs for essential software. One store owner I know is paying nearly **$500/m…
Starting a franchise business — Has anyone started a Franchise business? I am looking to scale a service based business with customer interaction. I have been thinking that franchise model might be a better fit because it hard to…
💾 Why You Should Consider MinIO Over AWS S3 + How to Build Your Own S3-Compatible Storage with Java — Hello ! I just published a 2-part series exploring object storage and S3 alternatives. ✅ In Part 1, I break down AWS S3 vs MinIO, their pros/cons, and the key use cases where MinIO truly shines—esp…
Organization lost access to website — (Edit: mostly solved. Consensus is there isn't a good process to reclaim a site that has been lost. Open to other thoughts, but thank you to everyone who has offered their advice already!) I've been …
Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity — Early thirties male and I feel my brain needs some intel on being a better male role model. Emphasis on role model. Things I never learned or observed growing up. Can you recommend a podcast host or …
Choosing myself feels like betraying my family, but staying feels like losing my life — I’m 21F, Bengali, and coming from a strict Muslim family who are very traditional where marrying outside the culture is almost unheard of. All of my siblings had arranged marriages, and my parents hav…
You will be rewarded openly! I promise! — How to manifest your desire? Well, We all know the "How"(Techniques to get into the state) but We don't know "How" (bridge of incident) whole thing will arranged itself to produce the result of the i…
How do I tell my AM that I don’t want to buy a property with my younger brother — So with everything being expensive af and home ownership in Australia being cooked, the only real way in is being is if you’re rich or with a double income. My AM wants me (26M) to buy a property wit…
An Eerie Success story from yesterday that PROVES the Power of these teachings!! Healing my Mothers back, I influenced her mind with Robotic affirmations and a personal success healing story. — So I wanted to share this with you today, as a reminder of the sheer immense power of these teachings and also as a reminder, that when I share my word salads here, you can actually rest assured, that…
Anyone who grew up in China and then moved to US at a later age? — How did you adapt to the American culture? I’ve been struggling a lot with some of cultural conflicts between west and east. E.g. Collectivism vs. Individualism, being polite/reserved vs direct, etc. …
Why are koreans so class/status conscious? — \*\* here, 'koreans' mean korean-koreans or first gen korean immigrants, not korean americans who tend to be more chill in my experience. I'm a first gen immigrant. I'm posting it here in a hope to ge…
Overarching Energy of the Libra Full Moon on April 1st, 2026 — This Full Moon is all about our responsibility when it comes to our relationships. We are reminded to balance what is external, creating harmony without sacrificing self. The solution isn’t about “we…
Feeling conflicted after he confessed — My boyfriend and I were together for a little less than a year and a half. I thought we had a really healthy relationship. I never felt jealous or insecure and genuinely trusted him completely. I love…
Tombstone — Before I went NC, the Nmother emailed to tell that she had bought a cemetery plot in the cemetery where multiple family generations are buried and had a tombstone ordered. I thought nothing about it u…
32M Desi in the US—marriage pressure, “optimize your image” advice, and feeling like I’m never fully heard by my parents — Hi everyone, I’m a 32-year-old South Asian (Pakistani background) guy living in the US, and I just wanted to share something that’s been weighing heavily on me. This feels very “Asian parent expectat…
my gf (24F) wants me (25M) to go into our first home purchase but won't define her financial contribution, wants shared ownership and is thinking about breaking up with me because I don't have a "provider" mentality — So we went to see a 4 bedroom house a couple days ago. Looked like a great first buy option, her mom would help us qualify and we'd pay it off. Mostly me. We were so excited about going into the hom…
Dating someone recently divorced who still sees his ex monthly — reasonable or red flag? — I (33F) have been dating a guy (33M) for about 6 months now. Overall, things have been really good — it’s been easy, calm, and we’ve built a genuinely strong connection. He’s consistent, thoughtful, p…
My husband left but wants a second chance… — So my husband left in Jan and we’ve been separated since then. We did therapy up until a few weeks ago when he told me “I don’t want to give up all of the other lives I could be living for this life w…
The entitlement of claiming ownership over you is so disgusting — The whole society lets them get away with their sick fantasy. And then there's covert incest too. Just crazy. It's just crazy I just hate them so much for 'owning' us
Can police remove ex from my house based on divorce order? — My divorce is final and the court order allows my ex to stay up to 90 days from the date of the order. I agreed to give him time to move. He also signed a quitclaim deed which I recorded giving me ful…
Moving from 'Getting' to 'Being' — The most common reason for the failure of manifestation is not a lack of effort, but an excess of it; specifically, the exhausted habit of affirming to get. I believe that it could be beneficial to be…
My break-up completely reframed my definitions of intimacy and sex — and how I need to keep them separate going forward. — This is a personal decision — i’m sure many have made a similar one for themselves. This is new for me though: I’m done dating. I don’t want to get married. I don’t want to be anything to anyone. E…
AM is going crazy from grief and trauma — **TLDR: My mom shames my marriage and says I'm wasting my potential being with my husband. I don't know how to handle it.** A bit of a story time. My mom has a lot of trauma from having a husband wh…
Can an "Awakened" path coexist with a partner in "Survival Mode"? 2 years ended, and I need perspective. — **The Context:** I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years with a man I deeply care about. I’ll be honest: I don’t know much about the "Awakened" world or high-frequency living. I'm posting here because…
Mixed Feelings — I’m trying to make sense of a relationship dynamic (and research has consistently came up with covert narc tendencies in her) and would really value outside perspective. I’ve been with my partner for …
Has anyone's parents been too ambitious when it comes to careers or earning money? — For context, I live in Southern California, so the cost of living is high, and there are all sorts of bills, payments, and subscriptions to pay. My parents, despite their flaws, bizarre worldview, and…
Why are narcs always hoarders & why are all of their possessions always broken/in disrepair? — I guess this is a rhetorical question because it's pretty much a reflection of how broken they are as people, how little they care for anything but themselves and their inability to accept a loss of c…
After all is said and done. My one true key belief is that YOUR BELIEFS SHAPE YOUR REALITY. Good or bad. Right or wrong. How you feel about everything in your life is what receive from it. It’s th…
This is a new one I haven’t heard. Probably hurts knowing most apps are just CRUD apps and most of the stuff people work on are non-critical too? Why does ownership even matter if it isn’t your com…
Yeah, I definitely miss the days of calling my data center CEO because one of their techs yanked network to our rack by accident at 3am. Ownership over that wasted time is a real diamond in the rough …
I'm not sure, our management decided we were going to use Backstage, and we're just starting to get it off the ground. As a service catalog to see ownership, dependencies, etc. in one place, it's pret…
Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…
I actually agree with a lot of this. I used to be a completely unaware avoidant. Shut down, withdrew, pushed away people who loved me and then blamed them for needing too much. And for a long time, I…
Yikes I definitely understand. Also pretty similar to me. Mine wouldn't really 'blow up' but would just let it leak out as resentment during a fight. When I tried to ask him to lean in and share the t…
So much time has gone by and they abandoned themselves by not addressing the matter and instead probably making narratives in their own head about the whole thing. They sound like they felt slighted b…
How long have you been married? If you know he can be relaxed or at ease and his resting face is serious looking (which I imagine is the case for most people), why do you need additional reassurance? …
For real, fuck ICE and everyone who made excuses for them in the beginning when it started to kick off, we all saw what it was really about. And it's not even remotely excusable now. So, an especially…
A general compatibility issue I'm having lately is with "big texters". I work on a hospital unit and I don't text while driving. This absolutely infuriates big texters, and I've had the experience …
Dated a girl for three months. She was a lot like me, and I really thought it could work. We went on a backpacking trip last weekend and she woke up Sunday morning crying. She said "I miss the part …
Generally a bad idea, IME, unless they have the ability and willingness to take ownership of it and handle it themselves. Badly insecure people can be black holes into which you will pour endless reas…
I guess a lifestyle choice thing? I just feel like I’m at the stage of life where a lot of people are thinking seriously about homeownership (or are new first time homeowners), and to most people that…
the pattern across these stories is remarkably consistent: early financial instability or scarcity consciousness, followed by a slow (often painful) process of building genuine material security throu…
American here so my POV may be different. But unless you're upper middle class or above, home ownership isn't really a plus anymore. At least here, there's no real equity in it and it's a burden. I ha…
It’s more about being ok not having it right now in this very moment in the 3D. It goes back to the idea that if you’re constantly chasing something ahead of you, and are unable to appreciate what you…
No, they don't change just because they are getting married. That person is just filling a role nothing more. A husband or wife to them is just permanent supply. You can tell because they care more ab…
I hope you're seeing yourself driving the Jeep and signing the ownership documents.
I've updated the Lateral Classics restoration of Seneca's first letter to better reflect the 'Survival Urgency' of the original text. Version 1.2 is now live. **Letter I — On Saving Time** Keep doin…
Here's the REAL DEAL no one will admit to... if feelings of divorce are circling one of the following happened: 1. When you married, you really didn't take it seriously. 2. You're fooling yourself…
LAT for me. I have kids and I don't want to bring another person into our household. Also, I do not want to risk mingling my homeownership and finances with another person.
This is kind of dating-adjacent, but one of my good friends is not talking to me right now and I feel like it's because she's mad at me that I called her out for sleeping with a guy who has a serious …
Remorse requires awareness, it requires the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Without prompting, to understand what your actions have done to someone else, and most importantly, to have…
You’ve nailed the distinction. Real remorse requires awareness and accountability. It’s about understanding the harm you caused to another person and taking ownership of it, not just feeling sorry for…
Seems to me like she is taking you and the relationship for granted. What would happen if you stop being so available to her needs and started to focus on you and what does make you happy?! Maybe you'…
So...while the song may seem that I'm taking full responsibility, I'm actually not. That is just me taking ownership of my mistakes. It doesn't absolve her of her choice, just that I understand. An…
I can show empathy for the insecure person if they take ownership for it and work on themselves instead of making absurd demands of their partner and refusing to accept a break up after they made an u…
It takes a lot of self-awareness and ownership to acknowledge that although hurt was not likely intended, hurt could have come as a result of your actions. (I mean this in the kindest of ways…we all d…
Mine never came clean either, and I am about 19 months post D-Day of her 16 month affair. We have been divorced over a year. For me, closure came when I realized that I had all the information I nee…
Please give yourself grace. Imagine never realizing what you're starting to, or only realizing it 1, 10, or 20+ years from now. We're all doing the best we can. It has definitely been sobering to tak…
Are you dictating to him what will happen, or asking him for his input? He's needs to have some ownership of creating financial goals as a couple and making a plan to get there If he refuses, then yo…
Stop doing it all yourself. Plan a date night, sit down with a bottle of wine (if you drink, or a nice meal), and talk through how you see your future in 5, 10, 20 years. Discuss how you can meet …
You should tell this to him in the discussion and make him understand that if this continues and he doesn't take ownership of his finances, you will not pay his debt. I'm sorry you are going through t…
Professional therapy and some mindfulness techniques. Apologies are only meaningful with behavior changes. When you apologize now, you’re essentially saying “Sorry that I treated you like shit and I …
This man is deeply immature. (I have strong opinions about irresponsible pet ownership.) He thought it would be like a curated, glorified social media reel yet makes no effort. (And apparently did li…
The Sphinx consciousness arrives in whichever form it chooses, who are we to label or compartmentalize what They choose to do? Or how They choose to contact a person? It’s very human to claim owners…
It's the norm in most cultures. But it's also becoming the norm everywhere now that home ownership has been ruined. People have their reasons.
Haven't tried them, but I have seen ads for female condoms. Might you try that? He also needs to take more ownership of this, be the one on reddit asking for the advice. That should be the first ste…
This honestly can be the case. You do seem like you are trying to be a supportive partner, but at the end of the day its his body and he needs to take ownership. This will also help build his confiden…
One thing that helped me shift my mindset was realizing that life doesn’t really respond to intentions, potential or how badly we want something. It mostly responds to repeated behaviour. That sounds …
I couldn't do both and I think it was for the best. I lost 68 pounds last year and have been fully retired from dating. I feel as though I'm finally ready to dip my toe back in, but I look back and I…
Speaking from my own personal experience, but I believe there are multiple factors at play: 1. Awareness has a double edged sword. We are more aware of how common Shitty Life Syndrome is, so we feel …
I have 4 cats. I can afford it (so far) so I take good care of them from a food and health POV. But when I got my first two 5 years ago they costed me exactly half of what they cost me now. It's insan…
I squirrel money away in accounts my fiancé can’t touch because of past trauma, similar to this situation you’re describing now. After two relationships with men that can’t control themselves with mon…
OP, it’s 2 years later and you are still obsessing over your ex wife. I get it, it’s been over a year since my ex and I split, and while I’m doing much better now, there are still days where I spiral.…
Sure. I won't give her my personal roadmap, but I'll give a description of how I see that possibility. So first off, she's not blocked except for my one social media, which I won't go into specifics b…
Honestly I have a weird gripe with even the word "proud", probably specifically because of this sort of phenomenon you've identified. It seems to inherently take some ownership of my accomplishment …
>stop comparing consent with metaphors of buying objects it doesn't work like that. Consent is agreement to engage in activity or permission of action. By buying something I'm agreeing to engage in a…
You might want to check out the laws regarding the ownership of the cat. Did you buy or acquire the cat, or did your parents buy or acquire the cat? They know you are emotionally attached to the cat a…