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You suggested that a woman who has been verbally and emotionally abused for 2 years do more emotional labor for her abuser so he can "learn". She has already spent 2 years helping him learn, and all h…

How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…

Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…

I told them that I know it was a dream… — I told them I knew it was a dream. Today, while scrolling through Instagram, I stumbled upon a video about "what happens when you tell dream people that you know it's a dream," and a creepy Lovecraft…

My husband cheated and is now the meanest person I’ve ever met — I really just need to rant because I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. So my (30F) husband (38M) cheated on me 4 days after my 30th birthday. To go into more detail, he snuck out of our house while…

I'm convinced that I've done something horrible to my nephew. (POCD) — I'm so sorry. I'm having an absolute panic attack right now. I've been ruminating about a lot of things, and this is specifically me ruminating about my nephew. I have POCD, at least, I certainly ho…

Us who were child victims — Do you absolutely melt when you see a parent go above and beyond to protect or avenge their child? I was not believed by my mother when I told her I was raped at 9 years old by a family "friend." When…

Best self improvement apps compared side by side so you don't have to download all of them — Used each of these for at least two weeks. Straightforward comparison. Habitica. RPG habit tracking. Character, gold, monster fights. Community quests for group accountability. Fun and unique. Gets c…

Had my first breakthrough tonight — Demo: 42 year old Caucasian male from the U.S. Living situation: alone Medical diagnosis: AuDHD? Avoidant Personalty Disorder, Depression Educational/Career: Two Associate's degrees and currently…

Tiny success story — So I have been reading some NG and have been starting to put his lessons into work. At my job, I work with a lot of expired/damaged products and with resell vendors. Some of the stuff I keep for me a…

I hate that I miss him. — I miss my ex a lot today even though I hate to admit it. He was horrible to me and hurt me in ways I never thought were possible. But at one point, I loved him with every fibre of my being, and truly…

its so fucking bullshit that we have to be the ones who figure out that we're being abused — i was just sitting earlier and it randomly struck me how if i never realised what happening to me i wouldve basically been the 'kid who has loving parents yet is troublesome and nasty to his parents,'…

I did it.. — I blocked him. Everywhere. No doors left open. Because I can't take it anymore. I'm in love with someone who could not give the slightest shred of a fuck less about me. Somebody that destroyed me em…

800-1000ug+ FIRST acid trip complete ego loss most terrifying thing ive ever had — Before I get into this, I want to make something clear right away. I am not encouraging anyone to do this, and I am definitely not presenting this as some cool or impressive story. This was not enjoya…

How Am I Supposed To Feel? What Am I Feeling? — So I (26F) just got out of my first real relationship with someone (25F) who I really liked - the day it happened (a week ago from tomorrow) I was devastated and begged her to stay, and about the same…

I (M29) was in a 6.5 year relationship with woman(F26) who had dismissive-avoidant attachment + severe ADHD + bad PMDD. I thought I was the problem for years, but now I'm starting to see it differently. Am I the asshole for feeling like I 'won' even though I got dumped? — Hey everyone, I just got dumped after 6.5 years with my ex (let's call her A). I'm posting here because my head is spinning with mixed feelings — relief, sadness, guilt, and surprisingly, some real h…

Blah — Panorama Marble. I don't know why this stuck with me. I've done a lot of out of character things since the breakup. I bought a basketball, I went barhopping, I avoid LA like the plague now, and Ive …

F22 jealous of my partners (M21)friend — I’ve dated my boyfriend for over a year. About 3 months ago he reconnected with an old friend of his. I didn’t mind at first, until I started feeling insecure. I started feeling like he prioritized us…

Why do people think that traumatized people are either evil or victims? — Like I don't know, when someone's pretty mentally unstable and starts venting about their mental health problems, the first reaction everyone seems to have is that they're weird or that you should avo…

The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…

You have the answers — ​ Hello folks, hope your day is going well! Below i'll post the final chapter to a short work I put together. while out of context it does provide some useful tips on how to be. A dedicated …

Maybe I envy the love my T has for her children — I told my T that my mother used to spank me, hit my face, hit my mouth, give me the silence treatment, etc. Every time we talk about this it is very hard to me since I am just now starting to leave a …

Manipulative ex might get everything he wants — Been married 10 years, was together for 15. About 5 years ago I finally realized how controlling and manipulative he was. He was emotionally abusive to me and his kids, talking down to us, constantly …

I finally told my mom the truth in front of everyone and now she’s acting like i ruined her life — so this happened last weekend at my cousin’s birthday, whole family packed into this tiny apartment, kids running around, people pretending to enjoy dry cake my mom was in one of her moods, you know t…

Am I giving up too easy? — ‼️MENTION OF DV‼️ I want a divorce. Back in November he put his hands on me. Resulted in a hairline fracture on my arm from when he grabbed me by the neck and threw me on the ground. He kept screamin…

I APed into what I'm guessing was a monster, and also visited a weird blue building — I just had the WILDEST experience, I really can’t put it any other way. Most of this is from my journal where I wrote it all out, the stuff in (these) is my personal thoughts or something that occurre…

Planetary Answers from a Lucid Dream "Tom Cruise" — I've had lucid dreams sporadically for a while with a group of dream characters/people in them who I've dubbed 'the family.' Most of them look unfamiliar to me (just regular looking people, though man…

my mom read my therapy notes out loud at dinner and now im the “problem child” again — i got home late from work and everyone was already eating, like full family dinner mode for no reason. my mom had that weird fake calm face she does when something’s coming. i sit down, barely even gr…

I don't even know if it's POCD anymore. I'm so horrified. — Words cannot begin to describe the disgust and fear I feel towards myself. Legitimately I cannot look at any person without assuming they might somehow be underage. When I look at someone who IS unde…

About to kick my(27F) boyfriend(27M) out of our apartment. Where do I go from here? — I've been with him for almost 3 years on and off now(I fell in love with someone else when we broke up the first time, but he supported me through all of it). He's my best friend and I can trust him w…

am i a monster — sorry, idk if this is even the right subreddit for this, and i’m super new to reddit to begin with, so i’m honestly just trying to get stuff off my chest. for context, i’m 16F, an only child with REAL…

My boyfriend just abruptly did a 180 in less than a day and has become cold, cruel and heartless. I’m feeling lost and devastated. — TL;DR our relationship wasn’t perfect but things started getting way better. Literally out of no where he just switched up and has become a jerk and he goes from saying it has nothing to do with me to…

I haven’t Had a Nightmare Since I was 6 — I don’t want to disclose my age, so we will just say I’ve been through both elementary and middle school since then. I genuinely haven’t had a nightmare since I was 6 and don’t know why. The last tr…

My Mom Kept Killing Our Pets — I always thought that animals had very short life spans. Through my childhood, we had adopted and buried at least 7 cats, 5 dogs, 2 rabbits, and 3 hamsters , not to mention a myriad of wild animals li…

Is it moral or ok to move on?? And how do I do that at the point I'm at now? — Profile for context, but I've been through the up and down and forward and back with my situation and how it's been, and I've realized or am trying to realize that I'm no monster or predator for my ac…

My ex fiancé ruined my life and it’s kind of my fault. — This is a long, absolutely insane story. So buckle up. I’m only here as a way to get it out of my head and because of smosh story time on fb. Idk I guess I like other people reading stories. So here’s…

Did becoming a parent yourself retraumatize you? — Experiencing that deep intense loving bond with my child is when I really realized what I'd never had from my toxic parents. What I feel for my child... they never felt for me. They're monsters. Ener…

my parents hate me for having sex — I want to preface this by saying two things. 1. I’ve never posted on Reddit before, so sorry if I use it wrong or get confused with the layout or replying. 2. This is just one story about my parents.…

Just had my first lucid dream for months — So at night i started to set an intention to realize im dreaming also i visualized getting lucid in a dream.I had dreams but normal ones then when i woke up i went to the living room and took a nap wi…

M 38, f 35, fears of cheating and complicated sex — Tl;dr: I have severe OCD and can detach from sex easily. Sometimes all that helps is thinking about someone else and it’s eating me alive as I love my partner. Hi all. I’m sorry if this is too graphi…

my mom is a decently popular women's rights advocate, yet still a massive piece of shit monster, and a massive misogynist — I am not going to say her name, or anything identifying so dont bother to ask, if you do not believe me and think I am making this up go ahead i cant stop you, but i am not going to risk my safety so …

Sexually abusive Ndad bringing up Lolita — Hi all, Never posted before, but the behavior of my Ndad has gotten so strange and creepy.. I’m sure you guys will get it and I want to let a bit of it out. My Ndad sexually harassed/abused me growi…

Read something about the ways CSA starts and it made me come to some upsetting conclusions about my own abuse — Was scrolling through Twitter, not a great idea, but landed on a thread about grooming and the ways society has come to normalize behaviors that harm children. My abuse was not the kind of abuse that…

Why the fuck do people joyfully reminisce about being abused online? — I'll just be watching some random video, not related to child abuse, abuse survivors, and abusive parents, and I'll find one comment, \*multiple\* comments happily recounting "Oh, this cat swatting th…

I am a genuine disgusting, horrible piece of shit, and I don't know what to do about it. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD (I'm not officially diagnosed) and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years…

DAE feel triggered when seeing mothers being affectionate with babies? — Context, I was at the hospital and the hospital has its own tv channel, in which they show a variety of health, food, and exercise adds made especially for the institution. I was casually looking …

i was encountered shadow beings.. For me, astral projection was just a bs. until I unintentional left my body during a state of loop paralysis — I never believed in astral travel.. I always avoided the subject because I thought it was just a myth. Over the past year, however, I’ve been experiencing loops of sleep paralysis in one "sleep" in t…

I feel like I'm going insane; I've ruined my life — I have therapy tomorrow but for now I need to write it out- PLEASE understand I am getting help I just need to vent NOW and I'm sorry I'm sorry I shouldnt be venting online to strangers I'm just so sc…

I reached out to my abuser after ten years. — I reached out to my dad. I haven’t spoken to him in 10 years, and even before it was another 8. He abandoned us when I was 15. Anyways I sent him a long text after finally having the courage of not se…

I wanna apologize to you and all avodants. I've been hurt in the past and actively participated in demonizing Avodants. It’s easier to view avodants as monster than hurt people trying their best. It’s…

Children should not be adjusting their expectations to their parent's comfort level. That does cause damage, and teaches the child to suppress their needs and choose "the right timing" to express that…

RIGHT!? It’s nice to be able to share the things you’re most ashamed of and have people who are right there with you, making you feel like less of a monster! I also wonder at what point am I doing t…

My advice is that maybe spend some more time to yourself or apart. Not break up, but just doing your own thing. Go out by yourself, get some alone time, or take walks. Space is invaluable. It can help…

Thanks for sharing, I love the analogy. Now the million dollar question: how do I get out of someone's monster jar? I did deserve to be in there at some point, but now I think we both agree that's not…

Great job 👏 very well written and I can identify with this. I have a monster closet after my monster box got too small. Part of my shame was being a tom boy, and the ridicule I faced for not looking…

I’ve had two aspects of this come up in therapy.  I’m kind of surprised how much I have to describe to my therapist about what Jonice Webb calls the Fatal Flaw—the conviction that there is something …

Rats I read to the end hoping for a magic solution. I was just trying to describe this to my sister the other day and I fear she thinks I'm a monster now haha. 

Completely fair! For the initial first date, I do two chances for cancelling, or three if they have children. Not wanting to sound like a monster, I do have different expectations when they have chi…

I find myself in your post, but I'm not sure to have any solutions. I struggle too. But I have to disagree when you say *"I feel incredibly jealous of people who can fall in love or even in limerance …

I agree with /u/okmostlyfineish - I think you should cancel if you're this if your head about it and feeling this level of dread. You sound like you have a lot of healing ahead of you. I think if you'…

Is it wrong to want start to date based mainly on mutual attraction? I seem to be bothering some people here and in a few other groups that I typically look for women who I am attracted to and who are…

Validation that I am being normal instead of a monster would definitely be the better end of the situation. I genuinely thought a bunch of people were going to attack me for saying this here. I really…

Well that takes the fun out of being the constant messenger hiding behind their phone on the couch or whatever. The monster don't wanna leave its cave

I feel you. I just think it's immaturity and they're inconsiderate. People swear if they communicate with you, that you'll fall apart or act like some kind of monster. No, I'm an adult - you say "than…

Hahah I acknowledge they are people too (and not just heartless monsters 🥴). I stopped engaging with him yes, after asking for clarity if he wanted to keep seeing me in an intentional way. It’s just …

This is insane, I'm literally speechless, I don't know what to even say, your father is a monster for doing all of this to you

He is a monster. I recently connected the dots, and I'm still in shock. I wish he'd just leave me alone.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, OP! My NMonster actually contacted my therapist, and about 30 other people - whose names she obtained from an email of several years ago - with pages and pages of …

She’s a monster. Go to the doctor and get checked. Never ever look back.

My stepmonster did the same thing to me. She absolutely detested me.

Yes me too ! I just annoy "monsters" etc.. its pretty funny for me

This was the first moment I realized my mom wasn’t “normal.” I honestly couldn’t fathom a mom being this way to her child but I was angry inside because things didn’t ever make much sense. I was comp…

One of my favorite dreams I’ve ever had was a nightmare where I became semi lucid and became the monster instead 

You can be considered attractive by certain populations or people or even be “traditionally attractive” by mainstream standards but if you’re stuck around abusers you can spend your whole life thinkin…

I believe the "truth" that really scares narcissists isn't that people know the "truth" about them, but that they know the real story about YOU. They can refute any story about their narcissism, espec…

I always think of Hulk with such phrases. Extremely strong, can regenerate from anything, tough as nails, gets stuff done Every movie they try to beat him back to Banner by force and it never works …

it happens occasionally i guess. I was at this music festival, and got chatting with the security, they said they routinely have to tackle people acting psychotic while tripping. Could be a monster do…

On the Steam Deck I recently finished Far Lone Sails in one or two sittings Anno 117 Pax Romana is a fun city builder and production chain management game I'm currently enjoying. Anno 1800 before tha…

sitting at a stop light and noticing breath. Waiting a few seconds before giving the finger to a person who cut me off in traffic Sending kindness to the monsters in my head who have hijacked the …

Thank you, hugs right back at ya. I say this a lot but people like this will live forever, because that's what they just fucking do. The relief our entire family would have experienced if he just keel…

He went about it in a crummy way & i would be upset with his approach but it sounds like y’all both suffer on communication. Talk about it again. Work out what he needs vs what you can do. Some of th…

Damn...I'm sorry OP. We could have dated the same monster. My ex behaved in a similar fashion. Still in therapy...

it's a hard one. I feel like I've recovered enough to be open to it, and I miss the companionship, but honestly I'd rather preserve my peace than risk inviting another monster into my home. I know the…

As someone going through something very similar to you, but with a kid in the mix, that is just an awful sub to browse.  The vast majority of the posts and comments there are simply vicious towards …

Goodness, thank you. This post and the comments are a mess. OP is clearly a huge part of the problem here. An emotionally healthy person would not have shown up at that restaurant. An emotionally heal…

I personally don't know where that sentiment comes from. His production company Atomic Monster produced The Copenhagen Test and Samurai Rabbit: The Usagi Chronicles, and he seems to have gone out of h…

I'm sorry, you don't deserve *love* because you've gained weight?? If he had said only that he wasn't as attracted to you, it would still be a dick thing to say but at least it would be honest. Bu…

Somewhere where monsters roam, where my weirdness is accepted, and where I can finally be loved.

I'm so sorry that all this happened to you. Your mother sounds like a monster. Proud of you for moving away and protecting yourself from her later on in life. You couldn't do it earlier because y…

I literally had a nightmare 3 days ago. Typical bullshit of being chased by some monster-thing. I became lucid while running away, took the control and laughed at the nightmare creature, abandoning it…

Racism is present a lot. So is abuse and discrimination. I think it has gotten a lot worse with Trump becoming president because he is racist, sexist, white supremacy supporting according to many new…

Run. He’s a monster.

The phrase "don't deserve love" is so cartoonishly, over the top cruel. If this isn't fake, your husband is a monster. Lots of men get pissy when their partners gain weight. Very few discuss it by ch…

I’m sorry that you had such an abusive childhood. No one should be treated the way you were. It’s criminal and your “mother” should be in jail. That woman was anything but a mother. A monster is what …

My fiancée’s mother sexually, physically, and psychologically abused - no, tortured - her for her entire life, into adulthood. It was inescapable until the abuser died, at which time my fiancée could …

Omfg. The canesten. You just unlocked a memory of my mom doing the same thing. And she also used to make me "douche". I was barely 12. Fucking monsters.

Being lucid just means you're aware you're dreaming. Controlling the dream is a separate skill. I used to get lucid nightmares all the time. I feel pain in my dreams. I've had lucid nightmares of bein…

No. I don’t regret it. It was the best decision for my mental health and I fully protected my child from ever knowing him or his stepmonster. My only small regret is not being able to tell him what …

I want everyone to understand the hypocrisy and her lies are not true.  I'm sorry for your story too. Who are these monsters?