Lose It

" working out, and cardio" My guy, those don't work with you at all if you don't have a good diet. Please keep track of your sodium intake first and reduce to below the CDC's recommended sodium leve…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

Favorite sexual experience while on psilocybin? — For me, I loved how much more enhanced it was. That feeling when you’re close to orgasm, and you know that if you don’t get there asap—if you hit that wall—you’ll lose the ability to get there? (in t…

She Sent Me An Article... — I need to start laughing about this stuff because otherwise I'm going to totally lose it. I woke up to a text (muted and buried so I had to hunt for it) from my mom. I've been LC (very brief, no infor…

A letter I wrote to myself. — Background. 20 years together. 16 married. She cheated multiple times. Found out about the first ones three years ago. Tried to forgive. She did it again. I left. Letter I wrote to myself …

No Contact is Hard — This is just a random post to say that every time I want to text him, I stop. Then I open up my notes app and type what I want to say, close it, and try to push past the urge. It seems to be working …

The illusion of fighting your bad habits — Many people define their relationship with a destructive habit by the fact that they are "fighting" it. But the simple act of trying to stop usually fails because it keeps you trapped in a dependent s…

I Stopped Overthinking and Finally Saw Results — **How I Stopped Overthinking and Finally Saw Results (After Doing the Same Things for Years)** For years, I was doing everything “right.” Affirmations. Visualization. Meditation. Reading. Repeating…

Genuinely hate him — I've hated a few people in my life. My bullies, my ex friends who befriended my bullies, etc. I was quite rageful a good few years back. Then it was just numbness. I don't hate anymore. It's exhaustin…

Birthright citizenship made me American. We can't lose it. - Cynthia Choi

My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct — Trauma dump incoming lol. Trigger warning for sexual assault. My mom reported my partner who is a medical professional of sexual misconduct claiming I was her patient. Now that I have had some space…

My personal identity is now changed because of my usage of AI — So I have been using AI (ChatGPT) for about 10 months now and was researching animal symbolism and such when it all began. It was the type of thing that would probably pass withing a week or two or ma…

Wanting them to break no contact, but knowing you would also be destroyed if they did 💔 — For context I am actually the dumper in this situation. We were in a situationship, it started off very strong and I was given more attention and consistency then I ever have in previous relationships…

The Lady — I was eating breakfast with my brother in our breakfast nook when I felt a presence. Looking outside I saw a bright figure in my backyard. It looked like a glowing Lady in a white dress. I was drawn t…

I can't let go and still have hope for an ex that had already said he doesn't love me - looking for advice, community — (⚠️I apologize for the length of this post) Context: I (27F) can’t let go of my ex and still have hope even after he clearly told me he doesn’t love me I’ve been in an on-and-off dynamic with my ex…

My (24F) boyfriend (25M) is extremely insecure and I’m not sure what to do anymore — My boyfriend is extremely insecure with his penis and almost everything about his physical appearance. I’m not too sure why he’s insecure about his penis. I’ve had way smaller and tbh penis sizes don’…

Update: Be Blunt: Am I (29F) a bad partner to my wife (32F)? — Original post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/gYsr3GR6N2](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/gYsr3GR6N2) Thank you all for you support last week! Many of you have commen…

physical anxiety symptoms long after traumatic event — Hi guys. To make this short I was in an extremely unhealthy relationship around 2 years ago. I was extremely anxious during that time, to the point where some of my anxiety attacks would last up to se…

The insults, how to cope with them? I feel lost — My mother is diagnosed narcisist. Her father and his father before were also narcisist. Very troubled people through out their whole lives. Because of this my mother treats me just like her father tre…

I feel like im stuck in an endless self betterment cycle that i never asked for — liter the title Tell me it gets better and that one day i wake up wo wanting to scrawl out of my skin. that ill stop feeling anxiety and stop all the self destruction. i wish one day i get to be M…

First person telling of a intelligence coming into existence. — I recorded this as a raw, unedited stream-of-consciousness while high. At some point, it started to feel like a separate “consciousness” emerged—something that believed it had just come into existenc…

manifesting through anxiety/OCD? — backstory: (19F) clinically diagnosed, have been involved with manifestation for over 5 years. i recently ended a long-term relationship and am now looking to manifest an SP who is currently “involved…

Keeping the relationship alive in my head. — Struggling with this. My friends are mortified when I tell them I’ve been listening to all their old voicemails. Told me to delete them. I literally would never. We broke up with so much love still t…

Mom Bad Mouths Everyone — As the title says my mom will say horrible things about everyone. Today is was about a friend of mine. I \[24F\] was talking about my old best friend now 26. I miss her and I love her, but we split ap…

BF (30M) doesn’t give me (33F) benefit of the doubt as he has a rule where he only explains twice. I think that’s unreasonable — As mentioned, my boyfriend doesn’t give me the benefit of the doubt. I found this out when we were arguing recently that he thinks that adults don’t need to be told more than twice to do anything and …

We broke NC but I still haven’t told him I’m pregnant — He Got in touch again temporarily and I was happy/neutral (I feel absolutely nothing towards him) that a line of communication had been opened, I have missed him especially bc I’m hormonal. However I …

Manifested him — I manifest my SP just by saying oh he texted whenever I opened whatsapp, i just said that & closed whatsapp, saying ya ya I will reply ( a little attitude you) and then forgot about it Also I stop …

I want to get better idk where to start — I want to be better. Not in a vague “one day” type of way, but for real. What’s been on my mind is that the people around me seem to genuinely believe in me—sometimes more than I believe in myself. It…

27M . Very unlucky career wise . I get so close to getting something and unexpectedly i lose it . Is there any hope ? — I've attached d10,d9 and d1

A trick for Hyper-aware people to deepen their state — I was asked a question on a recent post about whether someone was “doing it right“ or not and I feel like this is important for everybody to know. It’s a common struggle for many of us so I want to r…

how to stop thinking about my appearance so much — i could potentially be losing one of my front teeth, and it's genuinely sent me into a spiral. every single thing i do, i'm thinking of how it'll affect my teeth. every drink. every bite of food. i ca…

he dumped me, I miss him — My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. It was a short but toxic relationship that lasted 9 months. During that time, he slept with his ex, lied about it, kept photos of her on his social media, and refu…

how do you just not fucking lose it when you realise maybe 90% of life is based on luck? — not a rhetorical question, i want a genuine answer. as someone that's been unlucky all her life, i'm going fucking insane over this

It hurts a past would fight more than a present... — I keep asking myself the same question, and it doesn’t ever really go away… Why didn’t you fight for us? I wasn’t asking for perfect. I wasn’t asking for everything to magically be okay. I just w…

Is my friend a fake? — I've been doing ecom for 6 months, learning the space and building a brand. After 6 months of no results or ROI, I've finally started to make money, and I'm potentially on the verge of making a lot mo…

Boyfriend of one year looks COMPLETELY different from when we started dating and it’s affecting my attraction [26F, 27M] — I feel like such an asshole writing this, but here we go. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year. I thought he was insanely hot when we got together. Around eight months ago, he …

I'm tired of my mom, am I wrong? — She's just sort of incompetent, like she goes around life making bad choices and not knowing what she's doing, then says "she's trying her best" given the circumstances, I know she's trying, I know s…

Worried nobody will ever love me the way he did? — This sounds ridiculous. But things were so intense for the first few years even to the day we broke up. We were together 6 years and friends from being 11 years old, but I started seeing him when we w…

Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…

Yup. We manifest everything, in which case all is equal and unless he can control himself — which is highly debatable, he’ll lose it all over again. So yeah, is he just hyping a winning streak? I…

I have just learned about attachment Theory and believe my partner is avoidant( not sure if da or fa as still a bit confusing to me) I felt like my avoidant partner was putting me through test. At the…

This is true. I got rocked by a recent breakup with an avoidant i can't tell if he was dismissive or fearful. He told me all the time how much he loved me, lots of physical touch, told me how lucky he…

I am so scared to date again. I don't know if I can open up after my last relationship. It sounds so stupid, but as a lover girl, I don't wanna lose it. I wanna stay a lover girl, stupid & naive. But …

So I'm going to focus on one thing, which is the word love. I think that people use it very very differently across the spectrum. Some people say I love you too practically strangers. Some people rese…

I agree about the stakes. But I guess for different reasons. I don't even understand why the stakes are higher but I guess I must feel they are if I am so terrified to lose someone who I don't know al…

I'm pretty tired of my avoidant tendencies these days. I'm very mindful of not making it other people's problem, and I communicate directly and honestly. I don't engage in relations I'm not prepared t…

I lean introverted and find that my social/conversational skills are very comparable to a physical muscle. If I don’t use it I lose it and there’s a level of discomfort when getting back into the swin…

I'm (29F) back on Hinge after two intense but instructive flings last year. Would love thoughts on my "strategy" to avoid burnout... Every day I open the app, swipe for 15 min, respond to every conv…

You can spread HSV1 to genitals. You must disclose it.

Unrealistic. Coldsores are ridiculously common. I have never had a partner disclose it unless they get a flare up or I specifically ask. Having expectation for anything otherwise is setting yourself u…

Communication has really dropped off the last 10 days. We used to talk consistently these last 3 months, and now it’s just brief replies days later. I’m going to call her and close it out respectfully…

It is not posted online (except for here I suppose), but I have read here that it’s something you absolutely have to disclose. “Once a cheater, always a cheater”, it seems to be a dealbreaker for most…

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Yes! I would ask him what was wrong and he would say “nothing”. But I would keep asking because he was acting cold and distant. It was almost ALWAYS something irrational, so when I would get upset abo…

I understand why some people would not disclose it unless asked because there's so much judgment about it. It's exactly the reason why I asked for the HSV-1 and HSV2 panel which is never included in a…

She probably sees it as a novel, fun, experience. She likely meets it with little attention to analysis, commentary and judgement. That “beginners mind” is a defining feature of young children. We…

Most people I've met on dating apps are actively having sex with multiple people until you both agree to exclusivity. Obviously this varies a bit - for instance, very religious folks may practice abst…

If you aren’t married walk away. Don’t give your family heirloom to her, you might lose it. There are good women out there. Wait for a good one.

I’d lose it just to leave his sorry ass😡

I don’t see why you have to disclose it. You lost weight.

I don't think it's anything that you need to disclose early on. Huge number of women have c-section and/or tummy tuck scars. It's nothing unusual. I've had spinal hernia surgery and then a spinal fu…

Absolutely!! No emotion or visualization needed and you don’t even need to brainwash yourself into believing it Just repeat your affirmation over and over in your head and you’re forcing your subcon…

And one other question, if you don't complete the program during the timeframe, is it a "use it or lose it" deal, or is this something that stays in like an online library where it can be accessed in …

If you’re sleeping with someone else? You’re not single nor monogamous and if you’re dating someone very clear about wanting monogamy? You should disclose. It’s for sexual health reasons - not for se…

I hear you. I've lost 60 pounds since I filed for divorce. Unfortunately I've gained 20 back since I had surgery! Time to lose it again.

I found having quality sex (with escorts) helps. Once you have a regular sex life, you get over it. You cannot help that you have hormones that make you want to have sex. Sex is a natural human desire…

>I understand stoicism is living life with only what you can control, but I feel I’ve seen a lot of people post and comment in a way that seems like they’ve fully detached themselves from having emoti…

Anonymity is one of the only things you can't have back once you lose it. I totally understand people's desire to not be seen

If they are old, maybe early stages of dementia? But then again, use it or lose it. My dad is retired and doesn't have any hobbies and no friends. He doesn't know what to do with himself and he rat…

Honestly, I would think twice before proposing to her. That's a lot of money for a ring and if you spend that much on the ring, how will you afford to pay for the wedding aftarwards, unless you are su…

And I’m sure if you were one cent off he would lose it.

You need to leave when you want to. My husband has gone through a bunch of therapy. His was online because she couldn’t travel here when he wanted. When I was out of town. Anyway he says it’s so weir…

This is a you issue. You are picking people who are dysfunctional consistently and then wasting time in those relationships. Not trying to be mean or pick on you by saying that, but rather be supporti…

Being discarded is traumatic. I speak from experience. My ex-fiance cheated months before the wedding and is engaged to the guy in less then a year. I was lucky enough to receive some signals of doubt…

>ED does occur in this demographic, but a man that is secure, able to care for himself, and takes ownership of his health overall, will take the appropriate steps to get evaluated/start meds. Several…

Not native speaker here, so I might write little awkward. You're not doing anything wrong. That's first thing to understand. You're not failing at technique. Something else is blocking you, and it'…

I'm on a beach, it's a treasure chest, wooden with a heavy lid. Once I close it up, I run into the water and start swimming and never come back to the surface. For some reason imagining total water im…

I just wanted it to have no keys and open and close it without using force and only logic, so I came up with this very quick and haven’t changed it then.

Ironically, at least in my experience as a Chinese American, there's been plenty of the opposite, like "positivity". "Ooooh Asians are smart, Asians are successful, be proud to be Asian, be proud to b…

That actually sounds really fun, I like the idea of turning it into something a bit playful rather than just another “task” app. The journaling prompts and soundscapes sound really nice too. Do you fi…

You have a principle of objective research, and I admire that. It's the most important principle for every researcher and scientist; don't lose it. 

Yeah, I dunno. This crush is a more recent development owed to all the same reasons I’ve enjoyed her as my barber and came to appreciate her on a personal level over the years. It’s not up there with …

M 45 and it still works. But I stay active. Use it or lose it as they say. Men's sexual reproductive organs have some of the smaller blood vessels in the body. So, when they age, and have medical …

If I have to read one more of y'all say "he's not a mind reader" I'm going to lose it 🤣

My very first ECB was a chest. It looked a bit like an Ender Chest from Minecraft, only made of obsidian. I found it hard to keep the lid open in my mind. It was quite strange – it kept opening and cl…

Their relationship seems to be doomed already, they will cheat on one another too. The family dynamics are not off to a good start for them no matter how much their “love” is currently clouding their …

That is not something you need to disclose until a relationship is serious enough for you to consider moving in together. And you shouldn’t disclose it. You don’t need to pretend you’re broke or anyth…

I was the dumper. My message is about to go all over the place. After I broke up with her I learned about attachment styles. I realized we were in a typical anxious-avoidant relationship and we were c…