communicative

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …

How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner? — So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question for the anxiously attached and those who …

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

Sexual Vampire — I have no idea where to turn- and I never thought I would posting something like this. But here we are. 5 weeks ago I met a man at a bar. He was a bit younger than me, the same age as my first love. …

My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this? — I never thought I’d be making an advice post on reddit, but everyone in my present life is super split on the issue and can’t really relate. I genuinely don’t know how to fix this. So my boyfriend (M…

I'm crushed. And I still love her. — No one saw it coming, least of all me. I can't believe it. We had a strong and communicative and supportive relationship. People in our lives told us that we were the 'model couple'. And then she chea…

I really don’t know if I want to be in a relationship or not — TL;DR: been with boyfriend for 9 months, feeling like I don’t want to be romantic or spend a lot of time together anymore because I want to focus on myself. Don’t want to let go of something good but …

Child’s perspective — I do not intend to offend anyone with these words. But i think most of us can relate to this. The upbringing of a child involves many sacrifices. Sleepless nights, financial burdens, and much more. N…

I go back and forward between ending my relationship every week, even though it's essentially perfect — My boyfriend \[22M\] and I \[22F\] have been together for over two and a half years. It was originally going to be a summer fling. I had gotten into a different university and was planning on transfer…

How do I (18M) stop feeling afraid of my partner (19NB)? — Hey all, I need some advice/guidance. !!!Cw for brief mentions of SA!!! Long story short, my ex (partner at the time) and I got into a relationship with a new person together. Two days in, they sta…

boyfriend saved videos of girls twerking — Firstly i don’t usually use reddit so im sorry if this isn’t the right community to post this but I wasn’t able to post in other communities. me (25f) and my boyfriend (27m) have been together for 4…

How do I help my partner with his phone addiction? — TL;DR - How do you best support your partner who is struggling to break out of his phone addiction, around which he is self-aware and feels a lot of shame? I (38F) and my partner (34M) have been tog…

i [29F] have been feeling kinda uneasy about my relationship w my bf [29M] — it's kinda a long story but i will try to summarize it as best as possible. nothing necessarily terrible has been done, but i just have this weird anxiety lately about the stability of my relationship…

Day 3 of Break Up — Day 0 I felt relieved Day 1 I woke up feeling incredibly guilty. Saw that he deleted me off everything. Cried a good amount Day 2 I was in a "fuck him" mode and validated all the reasons I left …

Mixed Feelings — I’m trying to make sense of a relationship dynamic (and research has consistently came up with covert narc tendencies in her) and would really value outside perspective. I’ve been with my partner for …

Rated by publicly on Internet by service when you are professional — Let's just say I looked at my sis' ratings by random patients for their one time service from her as a doctor. Very hard on her. I think some patients' remarks are coloured by my sister's style whic…

Update: An anonymous person messaged me (F27) saying that my boyfriend (M29) of 3 years was arrested… can you help me know what I should do next? — Original post is on my account, but a TLDR is an anonymous person messaged me saying that my boyfriend (Jason) was arrested in his early twenties for, well it’s difficult for me to say, but the messag…

Genuinely want to hear your thoughts, I am exhausted looking for my person. — Ive been back on dating apps for about 2 months and it has been absolutely frustrating and worse than I remembered from a couple years ago. I am in my late 40's (49), I am not feeling the clock is tic…

Bf is getting sober - I am spiraling — Ok so maybe I’m being highly insecure but here goes - met a guy 8 months ago. He was not sober. I’m in my late 20’s he’s about 6 years older. Started off super casual but it was clear we both caught f…

No Ring? F(24) M(26) — Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and already have a child after being together for a year. It was a surprise obviously considering I was on birth control. At the time he expressed ho…

Ghosted after 5 months — I was talking to a guy for 5 months. he told me he liked me. we started meeting in Feb, made out a couple of times. he was very nice, took care of me, was communicative, emotionally mature. I thought …

Ghosted after 5 months — I was talking to a guy for 5 months. he told me he liked me. we started meeting in Feb, made out a couple of times. he was very nice, took care of me, was communicative, emotionally mature. I thought …

Real love or toxic — I’m on day 6 of no contact. My boyfriend ultimately ended the relationship over what seems just like losing interest and giving up on me. I stayed with him through some really tough things and forgave…

But that’s the thing - I (thought) I could spot an avoidant person and he truly never showed any signs of that. He was so communicative and able to handle conflict, he said he wanted a relationship, t…

Same happened to me. I was only ever modelled detachment, avoidance and rug sweeping by my avoidant mother. One year no contact and I don’t even recognize myself - after inner work and emotional turmo…

I had something kinda similar happen recently, and I totally understand why you're hurt over it! I can't even imagine that situation, honestly. Mine was different (and still is) because we met online …

So I (35M) have an anxious avoidant attachment style, and I really don’t enjoy it. My Ex (32F) is pretty much exactly the opposite which had us in several head butting moments where she just wanted to…

I think my boyfriend (33M) and I (30F) might break up and I can’t tell if it’s my fault. This might be a long story so I’m sorry in advance. My boyfriend and I usually text most of the day, every day…

I’m gunna go against the grain here because I get where you’re coming from and Reddit is full of myopic people: He is not a good long term partner for you. All these people saying that you should’v…

> I think this is an anxious trait so I want to know if this also happens to you? Why am I reacting like this? Is it justified or is it my insecurity talking? How do you communicate, instead of pullin…

I know there hasn’t been any movement on this and it was mostly an exercise to divert my anxious attachment elsewhere but Kermit saying “Life is made up of meetings and partings. That is the way of it…

You should check out the book Nonviolent Communication!! There are free PDFs online if you want to try before you buy. I'm moving from AA -> Secure and it has been super helpful. The basic idea is: …

Text of original post by u/Musician-Kind: So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question…

In a similar phase of “The Work” myself so here’s my two cents: I’m learned that when the overthinking becomes the driving force behind my emotions, motives, and actions, that’s when it’s obvious I’…

Absolutely! It's important to "hold space". No one will be perfect; it's all about boundaries and respect. The "one" may want more space than is ideal. But if they are communicative about it and cons…

I feel really conflicted about this post. Enough to come back to it days later. On the one hand, everyone is entitled to their own boundaries and enforcing your own boundaries is empowering and health…

Your partner should feel like home. They hug you and you immediately relax and feel safe. You feel attracted to them, but they’re communicative and consistent and show up for you. You don’t wonder ab…

I’m 11 years older than him. He thought I was 32 when we met. I am definitely taking that compliment and running with it. I told him that he is more mature and communicative than the men my age.

You didn't mess up. The ball is in her court if she wants to meet with you or can otherwise make time. Last minute plans only work if both people are decisive and communicative.

Thanks a lot. This has been feeling do off. He is so uncommunicative. I feel so undesired and even unliked.

So I told him (the guy I am seeing) about the communication (lack of it). That I connect with someone through communication and I feel like communication have been quite minimal between us (like curio…

He's very likely busy with the bachelor party, being present and staying off of his phone. Which is a good thing. Not a big fan of him not replying to your text although at least he reacted. My boyfri…

Having been a Hesitator for the first 36 years of my life, I decided to get off my arse in 2026 and put some genuine effort into finding someone. I asked friends and family if they knew any single lad…

OP's issue seems to be that she was dumped and hasn't accepted it because this guy is intentionally non-communicative. OP, you have a 0% chance of a serious relationship with this man. Your situation…

I agree. Same here, previous other girls wrote to me saying the same thing. That let me know at least ok I can move on. But this current girl was very communicative and never left me hanging, so somet…

2 cents, I personally wouldn’t be able to deal with someone whose upper range of emotional expression is “I don’t like when you’re sad”. For me the whole point of being in a relationship is to be abl…

I'm glad she was patient with you too. Perhaps you did something early on that allowed her to feel secure in a way OP has not gotten to feel, and that made her more comfortable working with you on thi…

Yeah, he thought he had absolved himself of any guilt or shame by saying I don't want a relationship. You can not want a relationship and still be a decent and communicative and caring person, but u…

And then say he's not a caring or a decent person: Yeah, he thought he had absolved himself of any guilt or shame by saying I don't want a relationship. You can not want a relationship and still b…

Had a relationship end so back on the dating apps. I have one date with a girl im excited about tonight, we have been texting a fair amount and she wanted to do phone calls before the date so talked a…

Had a chat with my boyfriend today after I said I think our relationship ran its course since he hasn’t been very communicative, and essentially flipped on me from a pretty damn wonderful human to an …

My multi-dating saga continues with guy 2 cancelling a date today. Things have been getting more serious with guy 1 to the point where I've had mixed feelings on multi-dating. But I feel sad about the…

Heey :). Earned secure, formerly FA here. \- sorry, this got very long :P <3 I relate to this behaviour so much. I can really understand how difficult saying no, setting boundaries and advocate fo…

My wife was married/separated when I met her, which was kind of awkward, but I trusted her as she was honest and communicative from the jump that it was lagging based on income. There was a calm conte…

+1, but with girls. If I’m not FEELING it… it won’t be important for me, I’d prefer if she didn’t, because she could probably sense. But I’m not sure that would work in an actual relationship, because…

I’m sorry. Growth can hurt sometimes and I know that’s what you’re doing. I have a question, how is it that we become codependent? Are we raised that way? Does something in school happen to us? Is it …

IDK, I have anxious attachment, but I’ve hardly ever been wrong about a gut feeling. I’m really good at recognizing patterns, and can tell when people are pulling away or they’ve changed their mind ab…

Although many Taureans tend to be reserved, your Aries Ascendant and Gemini Moon should allow your emotions to flow more freely, or at least make you more communicative. However, the opposition of yo…

They are generally more aware and communicative but I don’t want to be old enough to be their mom!

I used to think it was other people being boring or non-communicative, but then I realized, I am horrible at communicating on the surface level shit. I communicate exceptionally well with other good…

I’m a girlfriend! For the first time in…eight years. We’ve been exclusive for five months. We took things slow, and the pace felt so healthy. He’s been consistent and communicative since day one. He’…

This guy has problematic relationship with her mother... Whether he agrees about that or not is secondary .. but he has certain bad childhood with mother. Like mom not taking extra care or not prov…

Yes but I think if someone isn't already primed for attunement they won't get it at the level I need. They often read or hear it as a problem to be solved instead of me trying to communicate my emotio…

That was the best bday gift he could’ve given you. Any mature, secure and non-narcissistic guy would’ve understood your honesty and openness and not immediately end things and not trust your intention…

> This is such a victim style message. Many people without cptsd do not have financial privileges, nor social ones. This is the point. They still fit in the despite lack of these things because they…

You’re doing the right thing just being open and communicative. People will decide on their own whether or not the baggage you have is worth their time. I’m also coming out of a marriage that’s 100% o…

I am 2nd generation Asian American so I think i can answer this really well.. I will be really straightforward and honest with you in different ways: Job: Asians are usually hired better in Engine…

Well divorce is clearly visible in the chart. There are many reasons and patterns due to this is happening let's go into details . For marriage 7th House and its Lord placements are very importan…

Well, for my situation, when I say that my ex betrayed me, the betrayal wasn't the fact that she broke up with me. It's a pretty long story, but the short of it it is that she became very cruel and un…

I’m anxiously attached. And tbh, when a ex decided to change AFTER I left him, I was hurt. At the time, it felt like he was changing for the wrong reasons. Why, throughout all the years we were togeth…

42 (M). 40 dates in 18 months since I started dating again 2 years after my divorce. From that 40, 2 of them, I was seriously attracted to at first meet (I know within the hour if I want to see them a…

I'm so grateful that I had developed a friendship with my self since childhood. I understand now that it was a coping mechanism for growing up in a very emotionally detached, uninvolved, non-communica…

Because I will not let this world break me completely and force my hand before I choose to go. And I also won't let it kill me by degrees and inches over months and years. It won't be because I'm ti…