good intentions

It was very enraging when they tried to use religion to guilttrip and emotionally manipulate you. Like my mom decided that I was always less religious than her... despite the fact around the mom…

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Just trying to gain closure on my own... — This is something I wrote in my journal, trying to process emotions and gain closure. Lori, Since you would not give me the opportunity for closure, I'm going to do what I can to get it here. This…

Just broke up with partner because we were becoming codependent — Hello, I (26F) broke up with my girlfriend (25F) earlier this week. I’m really struggling because I did really care for her and we cared about each other, but ultimately, I could see our relationship …

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If you be a friend next to you, how would you help you? — When I think about my past there were many people who tried to help me, but I never felt like I was being helped. And tbh I’m not sure for all their good intentions if it was ever possible they could …

Do narc parents have contradictions in how they describe themselves? — By definition, narcissists have an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. My parents pretty much brag a lot about themselves. However, when trying to be an objective observer, I think my p…

M21 betrayed by M19. 4 months later, he’s doing the work to get me back. Is reconciliation worth it? — I (M21) had an incredibly romantic and successful relationship with my ex (M19). We got along so well—the chemistry was amazing, we shared the same interests, his family adored me and vice versa. It t…

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It hurts — I was a bad boyfriend, I I didn’t show affection well, nor did I make her feel loved. Currently working on why, cause I did/do love her. I highlighted her negatives while not acknowledging her positiv…

Don't know what to do — I was the dumper who decided to end my 3-year relationship this February. I personally thought I was the dumpee but was forced to be the dumper, as the ex ignored and avoided me since last year. I kne…

Stressing about being single (26M) — Hello all, I am hoping for some advice on finding a relationship. I've been basically single my entire life. my parents always wanted me to focus on school and studying hard to get a job. I've never…

Does anyone else struggle to reconcile the fact they were neglected and/or abused because their parents did some good things on paper? — I want to write whole paragraphs with specifics about how it doesn't take away the bad, that them trying their best and good intentions doesn't take away the harm, and that doing good is literally the…

An entrepreneur is not just someone that’s wants to do their own thing eventually. Neither is the entrepreneurial spirit good intentions, a desire to break the chains, or a desire to own your own thin…

Yes, a couple of times and I regretted them all deeply. The best thing I found is understanding where and how anxious attachment is wired into our brain from childhood experiences to maintaining conne…

I agree! I definitely should take some lessons, but i'm still angry i was even put in this position. I I feel like as soon as she told me, the light left my eyes for her. I asked for space at the tim…

I would expect you’re not as done processing the breakup as you think you are. you got out of a 10 year relationship, that’s gonna take some time to heal from. i’m sure your friend had good intentio…

This is one of the main things I’m worried about after having just recently [joined a match making service](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/s/FelSz6Dbt2). Granted, I’ve gotten to somewhat kn…

Remove the ambiguity, and see if he can hold to an agreement there. It’s not “a reasonable hour” it’s “at 1am we are in bed with the screens off”. Addict brains especially are very good at negotiatin…

I’m just so upset I feel like I can’t let this go. It was so out of the blue and I genuinely think she has good intentions. I just don’t know if I can bring myself to break up with her maybe this coul…

Faith in a higher source is a wonderful thing! Prayers are powerful and definitely worth trying and if done with strong focus and good intentions, even better outcomes especially if the same prayers a…

Dating across cultures often involves more than just language or shared interests. Culture shapes how people express respect, how relationships progress, and what roles partners expect from each other…

She sent the last message, She told me she had thought about it and decided not to continue the relationship because she doesn’t feel things will work. I replied respectfully and wished her well. Afte…

you describe a man who you trusted and who didn't think of the family he created with you and used money that you assumed was for your families benefit. Unfortunately people realize their partners wer…

yea it feels like a humble brag. best case scenario this did something for his ego. worse case scenario he wants to make her feel more insecure and the "he has good intentions" makes no sense to me …

His intentions were not good. This conversation revealed several things: 1) your husband does not respect women. “Hot girls are bad people” calls women girls, moralizes their appearance, categorize…

He wasn’t “trying to be sweet” and he didn’t have “good intentions”-sorry. I wonder if he made up the whole “you said you could have a prettier woman” thing since you also don’t recall saying it. I me…

What makes you think he had good intentions here??

He didn’t have “good intentions”. His intention was to make sure you knew that he’s had more attractive women. Classic negging. Any decent human being with “good intentions” wouldn’t have done that…

Even if he's that dumb and actually had good intentions (unlikely)... intention does not negate impact.

He is showing you exactly what he wants to show you, believe him. You can bring a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink. You can have all the good intentions in the world on attempting to …

I actually just experienced my very own big test - with a roommate and now former-friend. Over many months now, she’s reacted with more and more hostility because I had started to call out her verbal…

Same, its tough. There are people out there, the pool is very different as we get older, there just won't be as many as there were when we were in our 20s and 30s. Also, don't rely on so many apps, …

I don't see what's so difficult about this. What ever happened to "if we like each other let's just keep dating until we don't?" To me that is what long term means when I put it on my profile. If it's…

So then how or why would the beings that you describe be perceived by myself as not having good intentions in my experience with them which is constant. Can lower vibrational beings appear to us the s…

I walked away from my blood relatives and that was healing to me in so many ways. I also met a lot of people who had true good intentions and are just decent people. Never had that before. I learned t…

Antidepressants, mood stabilizer, therapy as a starting point. Period. Then when the meds started to work, I slowly worked on connecting with quality friends more, spending more time outside in the su…

According to many books, writing them down, and then reading them atleast twice daily, after waking up and before sleep, have the same or even better effect for most people. A book called "IT Works" t…

I went on a date with a young Polish guy, he was way younger than he appeared, I wonder if he lied about his age, and his English wasn’t great, but also our interests/personalities were completely inc…

I’m curious if anyone here has lived with a man who *wants* to share household responsibilities fairly, but struggles to actually meet expectations when it comes to cleaning and organization. Not talk…

Well, I can see that you have been rather busy with this reply. I get that you are invested in a particular way and kudos to you for that. But don't assume my lack of education, understanding, or kind…

There’s also the equally fascinating opposite scenario that I’ve encountered, where people who haven’t experienced terrible things will attempt to relate. Usually with good intentions. When you open u…

I had the same feelings and symptoms after I started to connect regularly to certain NHI group - I was contacted by them and guided into meditations etc., haven't done CE5 or anything. I have very blu…

This sounds very mindfucky to experience, I understand the need to understand. I want to believe that most people have good intentions and don’t do things (especially weird "small things" like this) t…

I will say this gently because I think you had good intentions and know that you did care about this relationship. I'm seeing conflicting info here - you say you kept trying but you didn't want to go …

Yeah, analyzing can be exhausting. But if you know when to stop and learn to shift your energy intentionally, it’s no longer that exhausting anymore! And yeah, I agree with the part of bad people … …

Discipline is the occasional spank of a small child who doesn’t understand danger in certain risky situations — and even THIS is illegal in many countries. Physical discipline of a teen is ABUSE, no…

Honestly it sounds a bit like he wants to keep you around mostly as a failsafe in case his ex doesn't want him back. It's up to you if you want to wait around for that but it hardly sounds worth it im…

Do you feel empathy? Remorse? Can you take accountability? Victim response is more a trauma reaction than a narcissistic one. You got some ptsd and view yourself a victim and so everything filters t…

He does not have good intentions. He’s being a verbally abusive dickhead to keep you knocked down a peg or two so you don’t wise up and realize you deserve kindness. It’s pretty normal for shit like …

This comment is quite harsh but gets the point across. OP please give yourself some grace. Lots of women marry shitty men. And none of them should put up with it. You seem very sweet and in your head …

« How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel? » Friend, he knows. That’s why he does it. He doesn’t have good intentions, he’s not looking out for your best interests. Ffs an occasional cup …

I'm not picking up on any good intentions here. He wants to make you feel bad, and then make you feel worse if you call him out. This is not okay and it's not out of concern like hes trying to spin it…

Break up. Find someone whos as addicted to human dog treats, as you. Seems like yall should realize, you should try living on your own and not expect your parents to foot the bill if/until you find a …

OP, I previously replied to your post but I think after some reflection that I need to follow it up. Six months is such a short time. There is a reason why they say not to move in or make any big de…

Well first, healthy and kind aren’t necessarily the same thing. I have a lot of trouble trusting the good intentions of kind people, because I’m used to ulterior motives or things being held over my h…

Trust your gut. No decent guy with good intentions with you would allow you to feel this hurt and confused. I'm sorry that happened to you, he's a jackass. & at his big age too; clown behavior.

I’d gently reframe “I don’t think I deserve” to “I know I don’t deserve,” because no one deserves to be treated that way. I know it’s not always as simple as just leaving, especially when you care ab…

Many spiritual texts discuss how powerful your words are. Even when reading the workbooks and other texts/beliefs that discuss putting things out into the universe they talk about being aware of your …

OFF TOPIC: Is Bumble a good place to start for a 42 year old honest male, with good intentions? 🤷‍♂️

Absolutely 💯 Just be honest about what those good intentions are and what you seek. Be single.

SA women show strong in-group preference and don't statistically date outwards anyways. They don't have the same systemic imbalance in dating that E/SE Asians face so it doesn't make sense to group us…

You seem to have good intentions so go for it