being free

Thank you. I have to give myself permission to do this, but I've done it before. It's that whole thing of being raised by narcissists, when you're not allowed to have your own hobbies or interests, in…

The way as a slave — “The unrestricted person, who has in hand what they will in all events, is free. But anyone who can be restricted, coerced, or pushed into something against what they will is a slave.” —EPICTETUS, DIS…

Logistics of estrangement from N father — So, my mom died 3 weeks ago of colon cancer. She was the best in all ways and someone that I truly loved wholeheartedly. But she never could leave my abusive, narcissist dad. She said she wanted to ma…

Yes, absolutely. I believe that we all have the capability to devolve into the worst versions of ourselves when under extreme stress, which the SA definitely qualified for me, and on my more understa…

Did you give him any signs that you're interested? Have you mentioned a lack of BF? Being free at certain times? It def sounds like he's flirting, but he may need more a signal before making a move.

I waited three years before I was ready to try again, but I was very skeptical but Mostly because my feelings were almost completely numbed. After we broke up I swore I was never gonna get into anothe…

You escaped! I’m so happy for you. Even if it hurts sometimes it definitely sounds like you are better off being free of them

I am in similar shoes. After years of therapy I stopped. I couldn't afford it anymore. Chatgpt gets a lot of bad rep but it has helped me more simply by being free and available 24*7. As for resource…

Unfortunately, dealing with narcissists create no wins during healing either. You can say that being free from them is a win, or personal growth, but the reality is quite dark, healing is lo…

We never really cleared that by terms but leading up to the silence pretty exclusive and how i met him said their just looking someone to have but idk for sure Sorry deleted it kinda felt weird to a…

Maybe she was just too young when you met, and she didn’t get the chance to date a couple of times or just be herself first. I met my first wife at 18, we had minor problems but it was mostly good. I…

I took up feeing comfortable in my own home 24/7, not walking on eggshells, never picking up anyone else’s pants and socks from the floor and my home being free of any entitled pricks! Been really hap…

How you should approach it depends on your beliefs when it comes to manifestation. Personally, I can't make myself believe that certain health issues would disappear on their own, so I wanted to manif…

So the physical circumstances are essentially random, then, as I would've guessed? That's both not great, but also comforting in a way. The mind I'm not so afraid of. That I can deal with. It's funny…

The image of a terrified 4-year-old running a 30-year-old's life, keeping everything tidy, staying compliant, scanning every face for signs of danger, that's not a metaphor. That's genuinely what was …

Heavy on "he doesn't actually like you!!!!!" I had a man who treated me basically the same way, said the same things about me gaining weight since we met (I was 18) and about him not being attracted t…

Thank you for taking the time to write this. It helps a lot. He’s going to therapy now, or went at least two times. That hurt too, because he said no the last few times I asked for us to go or him to…

It was the opposite for me. Went from being free, being able to make my own choices, to doubting myself, to mocking others to feel like I'm "winning" This is not who I was! I have become cheap. Like…

Very true. Certainly for some conditions/reasons professional therapy is important. But, at least for me, one hour every week, two weeks, or month is just very different than building day-to-day suppo…

Such a spot on answer. The “why don’t you just leave” people dont realize how easy it is to stay stuck and how hard it is to get free even if being free is so wonderful and being stuck is a nightmare.

Christy Metz lyrics, "You made me do the leaving and you made me take the blame." This is textbook manipulative abuse. His threat made you feel destabilized, fearful, on the defense and your well th…

I completely understand this struggle – wanting to live authentically while honoring family relationships is so challenging. Your desire for freedom and self-expression is valid and beautiful. What h…

Abortion being freely available does not mean she is obligated to get one just because you said so, jackass. Get a vasectomy.

At this point in your life you can only be grateful that he’s someone else’s problem now. Congratulations on being free from this person and I hope your future will continue to be filled with happines…

I’ve been off Facebook and instagram since July, I’ve used them since they opened. I guess I just had a bad day in July and decided I didn’t want to see certain things anymore, I thought I’d be back i…

Same thing I’ve been doing during the divorce making my life exactly how I want it to be. End of day divorce mean both people did not bring out the best in each other and after being free I’m looking…

That's good, I'd stick with that and work out there what you want, look at how you feel when you think of going back, look at how you think when you think of being free from him, then decide on your t…

I don’t blame you for feeling this way. Though maybe you could see it as a way of you being free from her - once she moves out and gets married, you’ll finally have the opportunity to do things for yo…

i didnt think id feel like this. for a long time i always felt like escaping and being free. but now that i have, i feel like i left something behind. theres a part of me that feels guilty for some re…

Great advice - Also : what's the difference between wanting money and wanting to live on top of a mountain? Or what's the difference between financial greed and spiritual greed? The grass is always…

My friend, congratulations to you for being free of them. I’m sorry it came at such a high cost, but it truly sounds like it was a gift in disguise so to speak. I don’t think you owe them anything, an…

Unfortunately, you don’t know what she’s doing however, she does seem happier and she’s easier to be around so one likely conclusion is that whatever she is doing is good for her. If you love her, be…

Sammme bro like who the fuck dreams of having a job?? I’m literally trying to manifest having no job and being free and rich

First. You're not an impostor. Just because the abuse wasn't physical doesn't mean it was less abusive in any way. Second, it is totally okay to feel the way you feel, you've been held on a tight lea…

It sounds like you might be confusing regret with a couple other things, fear of the unknown and being free, regret that you are giving up the hope that they will ever be a better person or treat you …

Keep battling brother. This habit/affliction is deep. It’s weaved into our core, it’s not beaten in a day, a week, a month, or a year. For some maybe, If that’s their destiny, but for others it can be…

Most people can't understand what they haven't felt. Like i couldn't understand what someone with adhd is going through since I dont have it, so if someone with adhd ever needs advice I won't say the …