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Laughing at me when I asked my mother to not smoke inside (I'm late-diagnosed AuDHD) and when I would run upstairs to call CPS or the police after being smacked around. Being a prodigal violist, a ran…

Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…

How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…

I've been out of the coding loop for awhile. What is the best static website framework / scaffolding / generator that works with VSCode? I don't need react or any other bells and whistles. I'm just testing out creating various HTML/CSS styled elements. — I am really just trying to play around with HTML/CSS to create various client-side styled elements. For example, one project is just to create a more enticing email signature. Another project I am cre…

How does one go about creating these sorts of animations? — Sorry in advanced if this is a stupid question. I am such a noob when it comes to this sort of stuff. I came across this website ([https://animejs.com/](https://animejs.com/)) which has a really cool…

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

SEO Results in 2-3 Months — I run a small business and am looking for someone to help transform my website through SEO, which up until now has had very little traffic. In the past I have mostly relied on word of mouth and target…

Interviewing for a UX job when you have a UX job is annoying — I know, I know. I should be grateful to have a job, I should be grateful to land interviews. But the amount they're asking is insane. I'm sorry, I cannot dedicate my time to a 50 sometimes 60 hours w…

From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…

Hello everyone, I am new to this domain, I am PhD student searching for a side income, I’ve been searching about e-commerce lately, my question is how do you search for products, I mean where do you search to have options to choose from? Thanks for your time and sorry if it is long — .

Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…

The song Wicked Game by Chris Isaak sounds like an AP singing about falling in love with a DA — A few weeks back I wrote about "I love You, I'm sorry" by Gracie Abrams sounding like the pov of a DA. Well, I was listening to Wicked Game by Chris Isaak today and it occurred to me that the lyrics …

A Modest Proposal — A Manifesto for Metrics-First Everything — Picture it: Q1 FY 2025. A Medicaid patient opens an app to request mental health services. The screen is sleek—gradient buttons, playful microinteractions, and conversion-optimized flows. A calm anima…

Using pirateship as a non-business owner? — Hi all - sorry if this isnt welcome here. But pretty quick and self-explanatory. Does anyone know if I can I use Pirate Ship for personal shipping instead of shipping for a small business? Or will I b…

Found out my friend and her coworkers are stealing money from their job — My friend works at a small franchise location that is a self serve food place. The amount of staff is small (8) and I recently found out that the they all essentially steal money. The owner doesn’t li…

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

Excessive Rumination — Dear all, I've recently found myself reminiscing on a brief encounter I had with someone two years ago, in which we both massively triggered one another's attachment wounds (me being anxious, & her …

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them? — Hello all, I'm basically pretty severely A.P. , & so far I've been unable to get close to anyone (romantically) in my life without just exploding with terror that I'll be abandoned (or feeling a stro…

Would this mistake keep me from manifesting — I am on a task towards manifesting my sp. I am successfully able to go in the alpha state by sh. But during my scene I have a am able to focus on a part of actions like holding hand with it being ver…

My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning. — We’ve been together three years, living together for two. He (38m) wouldn’t ever give me (43f) emotional depth or physical connection. (I had to *ask* for hugs. Anything more was off the table.) Pri…

I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …

The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Are there any poems that resonate with you in terms of avoidance? — Sorry, wasn't sure what flair to add. This is one poem that particularly gets me. What are some poems (or other works of art) that resonate with you from an attachment standpoint?

Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea? — To be specific, people who were born into families that fostered secure attachment. Not earned secures. I think the latter is exactly what I need but there's no stat on how much of the population is e…

Next Anx Attachment healing group in 7 hours — UPDATE: Apologies - I need to cancel today's January 18th meeting. I'm not feeling well and need to call it an early night. Sorry for the late notice! ------- The next weekly Anxious Attachment heal…

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

No contact but want my stuff back — I put another thread on but basically he’s broken up with me and gone no contact. I initially reached out to find out what happened and if we could fix it (the next day), and a few days later asked fo…

Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — ​I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…

Mom self harms in front of us since I was 8 yrs old. I haven’t been able to stop doing the same. — My mom would start beating herself whenever something tragic happened to her (failing an exam, fight w father etc.) or even because of me sometimes, she’d tell us (when my siblings and I were still ki…

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…

Does strong energy field scare people subconsciously, here is my experience — For the past few years I’ve been focusing a lot on my self-concept and doing inner work, working on my shadow, learning healthy emotional detachment, and grounding myself. I went through a difficult p…

When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…

I’m scared of everything I love becoming old and I’m scared of the world right now — Okay so for starters I’ve always hated time, I hate it so much and I don’t know why, the thought of years passing makes me feel so uncomfortable and I just want to go back in time to when things were …

The feeling of spring. — This may or may not be related to the sub, but I have felt that the energy/essence of spring and summer came a little too early this year. It was around late February/early March when this feeling cam…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

My Fiancé kicked me out with only a few hours notice — This is the situation I am in. About a week ago my fiancé (25 M) brought up how he has some problems with me (25 F). We have been together for almost three years. He said he cant bring up sensitive to…

I just need to rant, Y'all. I'm so angry!!!! — My 83YO Ndad is selling the farm/family business Emom left my brother (48) and me (52) in an irrevocable trust. Dad is tickled pink with himself for installing legal loopholes to fuck us over. His IQ …

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…

Hello there guys. I've checked the FAQ but I didnt find an answer to one of my doubts and I cant find it elsewhere neither, so I decided to just throw the question: Q: Are there any bad (physical/psic…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

We actually do live in a magnetic universe. But you can believe whatever you want, because we also live in a free will universe. And Humans will take any opportunity to draw lines of division between …

I'm just learning about AP. I dream a lot (every night, very vividly, and highly detailed landscapes/locations), to the point where I sometimes feel tired in the mornings. Last night I experienced som…

Sorry one more, I've always wanted to know this, is it necessary to be a lucid dreamer to AP? I'm not a lucid dreamer (at least rn) so do I have to learn how to lucid dream before learning to AP?

Sorry to hear that Whats terrible about it?

Ah I c haha, sorry. Well honestly might be better off apart than together it sounds like. I have never done AP following a guide but I've meditated a lot for the past 12 years (almost every night bef…

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

Super curious now. Why'd the ex of yours from 10 years ago contact you? I've always known the ones who wait years & years before contacting, to be completely pathetic. Its usually because no one els…

I once tried the exercise of keeping the mind awake and the body asleep. But at some point I just thought I fall asleep and get up from my bed and my body felt super heavy. I went to the kitchen of my…

The silence will eat them up in what sense sorry?

Why on earth would you want to get your ex back. Your ex CHOSE not to be with you. That's the person you want back? They chose to be with someone else. Or to try and find someone else because in thei…

https://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?showgif&lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_jared_mcknight.75112.31364.png&res=100 This is the best I can do. As you can tell I’m not very good at this. Would you mind looking at…

This is bullshit and has nothing to do with beginners The only efficient and quick way getting into devOps : a lot of practice and googling from day 1 None of these endless videos From 1 s…

I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…

I'm so sorry. I'm in the same situation but with genders reversed. I understand how small and inadequate it makes you feel. Rationally I know this shouldn't make you or me feel that way. But it does.…

Thank you I am sorry for you as well. It makes you feel as though our whole relationship was a lie and he was just playing pretend to look good for his family.

Yeah, it's fucking hard. I don't think I'll ever get closure because she's never been the sort of person to really make an effort to give that to me. I obviously can't be inside her head and speak for…

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and going through this. It sucks she wouldn’t give therapy a chance. You can’t control others actions and feelings. I hope you can find meaning and joy in your kids …

>go back to the dating world and find yourself someone who will always look forward to spending time with you. sorry, but he's a dude. This option is only viable for women.

Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through this! It’s nuts how common our stories are. I always felt like I was being dragged around by Eric and he could never just tell me “it’ll never work out” Just brea…

I hear you buddy. I loved my ex so much, and still love her, even though I could never take her back. But what really hurts is as you described - she blind-sided me and could not care less. I, on the …

I am sorry but when you are experiencing an astral projection you know it right away because your consciousness stay awake and powerful, I remember my first time as teenager, the first feeling that ov…

None of it *should* stop you from moving forward and healing, but for some people it still nevertheless does. I'm sorry, I know you said this more than half a year ago but I'm going through my situati…

Unfortunately I find this reddit to be too toxic to have any kind of meaningful help to anyone without being trolled or attacked here for providing real legal advice. Most of the people here are just…

I’m really sorry.

THANK YOU. I fucking hate the porn addiction posts every two seconds. I feel sorry for the boys suffering with it, but try SEARCHING OLD POSTS. There are amazing answers out there, just use the search…

Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…

You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…

And sorry, ap is dreaming.  If it was different, those of us who rarely or dont dream would be able to do it.  But this is not the case. Either that or the ones who dwell in the infinite darkness of u…

I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…

Sounds pretty avoidant. That sucks - I’m sorry. Does she actually understand how important this is to you? If so, I might try having the conversation one more time, being clear that it’s a dealbreaker…

It may not be a kind choice but it was his choice to make if that's what's best for him. I am sorry your relationship ended.

Oh, no. Sorry, that's what I thought I was responding to is what DAs say about AAs. My (admittedly still in my hurt/bitter phase) take is that AAs say "please consider my needs I've told you about" …

My intention is not to victim blame! I am sorry it came across that way. Understanding you were a victim of abuse if powerful, but I believe there are ways I can set myself up as not to attract abuser…

That's not how relationships work: they don't come in waves or at your convenience, for a short time. And, no, relationships are not 10% of most secure people's lives. It's more like 50-50, otherwise…

I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …

Ah sorry to hear that bud but glad you got clarity. I've had a few situationships like that and there's not one part of me that thinks it's best to do anything but get the heck out of dodge when someb…

Sounds like a DA. They will start to treat you differently for months and then suddenly blow up on you and go cold or straight up just dump you without any reason. I'm sorry they're so messed up there…

Did you try and address the concerns or did you just "forgive them" until you decided there's one last straw that you may or may not tell them about and bail? If so then that's toxic and unhealthy; I …

I totally relate to the awful feelings of seeing an avoidant ex move on super quickly while you are still reeling from the triggering and retraumatization of that relationship. Going through it right …

I’m sorry you’re dealing with that situation, and thank you for giving me that perspective.

I am a sincere person. The most truthful version of what you are suggesting I could muster would be: “I had great hopes for a relationship with the person you pretended to be at first. I really wish…

I'm so sorry, this sounds so hard. If you can, I think it would be amazing to focus on yourself right now and what you need. My long distance boyfriend dumped me out of the blue after one disagreement…

It's very, very painful. I'm so sorry. I went through something similar 2 yrs ago. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, felt incredible low self-esteem and rejected. I never pegged him to ghost me, and we ha…

How long has it been since he hasn’t responded? Maybe something is indeed going on in his life. Either way don’t let it affect you. Just detach from him. I’m sorry to say. Also in regards to spotti…

I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…

Yeah. He realized it was too much for him and just dipped. I’m so sorry. This isn’t your fault at all, but I wouldn’t commit myself to someone I only hung out with for a week in person. I literally bl…

Sorry for what you’re going through, but I’ll be brutally honest. As a bad boy, I believe he bullshitted you to get what he wanted, then disappeared. After physical interactions, people tend to either…