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From Surviving to Thriving

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I just realized that I might be a victim of munchausen by proxy

I think you're 100% right about the triangulation and manipulation. After having less than optimal experiences with my own parents and visiting this forum for years I decided to write my master in psy…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/1/2026
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

r/attachment_theorypost10/23/2025
Tim Fletcher, his reading list

Tim Fletcher, his reading list — https://youtu.be/q0RiIkd9\_pc \* the Body Keeps The Score (Bessel van Der Kolk) \* What Happened To You? (Bruce Perry w/Oprah Winfrey) \* The Myth of Normal (Gabor Maté) \* When The Body Say…

r/CPTSDpost4/7/2026
Raised by a Covert Narcissist.

Raised by a Covert Narcissist. — Hey Guys, I want to share my experience and hopefully get some useful advice as to how I can move on with my recovery. I am reading Pete Walker's book " From surviving to Thriving: Overcoming TEPC. …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/11/2026
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals — **What is emotional neglect?** In one's childhood, a lack of: everyday caring, non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents (or whoever your primary caregivers were, if not your biological parent…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost6/25/2020
My DA bf broke up with me Saturday morning.

One that was recommended yesterday in the CPTSD sub was Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker. I added it yesterday. Tons and tons of good reviews.

r/attachment_theorycomment8/4/2025
What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe.

Have you read CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving? It really made it come together to me that CPTSD is an attachment injury and therefore, yes.

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/21/2025
Being DA but really wanting kids

Becoming part of this group definitely self-selects people who are already touched by the spark of insight and change. You can’t unring a bell. However, that doesn’t automatically place everyone in “m…

r/attachment_theorycomment12/11/2025
When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’?

Thank you for your kind words. I found ‘CPTSD - From Surviving to Thriving’ by Pete Walker to be a good (and very long read). But clearly i am not ‘thriving’ ! - but it was useful nonetheless

r/CPTSDcomment3/9/2026
I'm tired of people assuming that everyone can afford therapy.

Books. Pete Walker talks about in his freely available book *Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving*, check it out.

r/CPTSDcomment3/15/2026
Can I be honest? Scrolling through this subreddit is really depressing.

I was told that I could move *From Surviving to Thriving*. Still working on it. =(

r/CPTSDcomment3/17/2026
Are you a fighter, flighter, freezer, or fawner?

Dissociation can happen with both. **THE FLIGHT TYPE AND THE OBSESSIVE-COMPULSIVE DEFENSE** Extreme flight types are like machines with the switch stuck in the “on” position. ...They rush to ach…

r/CPTSDcomment4/1/2026
Are you a fighter, flighter, freezer, or fawner?

"**THE FAWN TYPE AND THE CODEPENDENT DEFENSE** Fawn types seek safety by merging with the wishes, needs and demands of others. They act as if they believe that the price of admission to any relatio…

r/CPTSDcomment4/1/2026
Starting therapy soon!

Good on ya for taking this step. Anything to support your journey is good: you're showing real self-care (and care of others who interact with you) by getting a therapist. I did therapy in my 20s...…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment4/2/2026
The Drama of the Gifted Child - A must-read for those with CPTSD

YW! It is a short book, so I don't want to pay for a copy. I always search Free PDF and book title for older books. You can find Pete Walker's book 'CPTSD From Surviving to Thriving' online for free. …

r/CPTSDcomment4/2/2026
I feel like recovery is only available to a select number of lucky people

Thank you so much, I feel more hopeful after reading this :) Do you have any books that you recommend? I've just started reading "The Body Keeps the Score" and "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thrivin…

r/CPTSDcomment4/3/2026
Does my chart suggest any childhood trauma?

Yes, Venus conjunct Pluto, Pluto opposition Saturn and Mars square Saturn. Take a look at the book, "Complex PTSD, From Surviving to Thriving," by Pete Walker. Deals with trauma and for anyone …

r/AskAstrologerscomment4/4/2026
This sub is making me really sad

It’s normal to feel that way but it doesn’t invalidate how it impacted you at all. children aren’t equipped to deal with the things that happened to us and that warps our brain development and traumat…

r/CPTSDcomment4/4/2026
Therapy moment

It's Not You by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Focuses on healing from narcissistic abuse and reclaiming your life. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker: A comprehensive guide to managing e…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
Can’t find a therapist anywhere. I’m scared I’ll have no choice but to die

I can suggest some books that helped me: It's Not You by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Focuses on healing from narcissistic abuse and reclaiming your life. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete W…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
If you be a friend next to you, how would you help you?

I like your question. I would take myself for a nice walk, maybe go out to dinner somewhere, see a movie. I would enjoy the company. Having good company would be very healing for me. If getting help …

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
Why have I always been a highly sensitive people-pleaser? Despite therapy and working on myself, I often fall back into these behaviors.

So glad this is helpful. I am sorry you have been through so much. Your life has meaning and value, your feelings really count. You deserved better. Take a look at this book: "Complex PTSD, From Su…

r/AskAstrologerscomment4/5/2026
I had nothing actually traumatic happen to me and being on this sub just reinforces that and I have no other choice but to take myself out. I am tired and resource-less and can't even feel valid in my own 'trauma'

Hey. I have the same questions in my head when it’s about my trauma. And I didn’t even experience CSA. Some days ago I was laying in bed and had the thought that I actually don’t NEED anyone to valida…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
I'm wondering if others feel like therapy is a scam?

Sure! Here's a few. Pete Walker is my favorite, definitely would recommend From Surviving to Thriving the most. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving — Pete Walker  Trauma and Recovery - Judith H…

r/CPTSDcomment4/6/2026
Spouse needs help but believes they are extremely emotionally intelligent

If they won’t talk to someone and you believe it’s harming your relationship, perhaps couching the issue as harmful to your partnership might work. If not, maybe reading a book or 2 might open their e…

r/therapycomment4/6/2026
Listening to memoirs to heal

Lol we must be vibrating on the same level, because today i became fed up with the "over analytical" style of some self help books. DOnt get me wrong, I have benefitted greatly from such books as "cpt…

r/CPTSDcomment4/6/2026
Is it possible to develop CPTSD just from my parents not meeting my emotional needs?

yes it is. check out Pete Walker’s book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. I listened to the audiobook but you can also read it. here’s an article he wrote also tho I haven’t read it myself, j…

r/CPTSDcomment4/7/2026
"Trauma isn't what happened, it's what you weren't able to handle"

The thing is… children aren’t supposed to be able to handle those things. It’s completely normal for a child to be overwhelmed by stuff like that. It doesn’t make you weak or defective that you weren’…

r/CPTSDcomment4/9/2026
I'm so ashamed of myself

It does sound like cptsd (complex ptsd caused by ongoing childhood events). A lot of childhood trauma is caused or made worse by primary caregivers. Often caused by patterns of behaviour and emotio…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment4/10/2026
I just want to find a woman

I'm reading Pete Walker's book, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. It's amazing how much it speaks to my experience and how my anxiety and shame is holding me back, but that that anxiety and sh…

r/CPTSDcomment4/11/2026
why are angry victims less likely to receive sympathy?

I've even noticed this is literature intended to help victims. Both 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents' and 'Complex CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving' treat those with flight and fawn re…

r/CPTSDcomment4/11/2026
"Good Riddance", after I had just tried to un*live myself.

Fellow family scape goat and suicide survivor here. I’m sorry your family has put you thru the things they have, but I hope knowing there are people here who can relate helps you feel some comfort. …

r/CPTSDcomment4/12/2026