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If I'm reading this right, you've both cheated on each other.......you claim he's still doing it and you claim to have stopped. This is over him stopping to see a female friend. Ok, sounds like the …

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Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…

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What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…

Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …

Can a FA-DA relationship work? — My partners have been dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant, so I have always leaned anxious ig. In my last relationship, I felt secure at the start, it was nice, we set boundaries.. till it happene…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

32(F) really need advice about feelings for friend — I have developed feelings for a friend (M30) over time. He has given me indications in the past that he might be interested in dating me, but I didn't want to get my hopes up too much. I have been try…

Cannabis vs. Mushrooms [My Experience] — So I'll start off by saying I'm not very experienced and have multiple psychotic and/or disassociative disorders plus a medical card But I'm surprised at my take away when using the medical marijuana…

I (28F) gave my boyfriend (29M) an STD and I can’t stop feeling so ashamed and guilty — My boyfriend and I met on tinder a couple of months ago and everything has been so great. We get along wonderfully and we have such a good time together. I was sexually active with a couple of people …

I miss him. — Logically I know my ex is a POS and clearly mentally ill but I’ve been missing him lately. Usually I’m pretty good at not obsessing over the “good times” but lately I can’t stop thinking about him and…

Met up with ex after no contact for over 10 months.It went pleasantly. — For anybody wondering whether they should reach out, it went well for me. I was also uncertain how it would go. The relationship ended very badly, we did therapy and it didnt help. I thought id never…

If you're reading this, you're gonna make it. — Hey, you. yeah YOU. I know what you're going through. Nobody is on this sub because they're having a good time of it. I know that, because 4 years ago I was in the exact same place. Any advice you rea…

I feel it is very hard to make "permanent" progress, like this is a mind virus that keeps coming back — I'm 39M. I met my partner when I was 36. Dated for 2 years, now we have lived together for 1 year. I've made progress over these 3 years but I feel like it's very easy to "reset" and get back down int…

Movie List: Chinese movies where the antagonist(s) are racist/imperialist White/Westerners and get their asses kicked — I thought I would make a list of some Chinese movies(mostly martial art action films) where the main antagonist is a racist and/or imperialist white. These movies are all fun and feel good, and while …

Discard/sudden breakup?! — Three months ago months ago I met a woman and had an intense, genuine connection. In under 8 weeks we spent 18-20 days together. She said she cared about me first, unprompted. We made future plans tog…

My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…

I am ruining my life and I feel like i cant stop it — Hello everyone and let me say thank you for taking the time to read and/or respond. Our time is valuable and I want you to know thst I genuinely appreciate you giving your time to a stranger... This …

An update : Projected twice since meeting my wife’s deceased great/great great grandmas and it was not a good time — Hello my fellow travelers. Since my first post I’ve projected two times and both of them were not the best time to be honest. To pick up where I left off here is a link to my first experience [The G…

My "Alzheimer technique" worked on my NMom again but I almost chickened out — About a month ago I shared a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1qyh9x9/at_age_40_i_finally_found_what_works_with_my_nmom/) here how I visited my NMom after 3 years of NC and…

Really bad random energy all in one day — Hi I just had a really strange and off putting day and I’m in shock. The day started off pretty good, I woke up pretty refreshed, i met up with my friend Chi and we had a good time, then later on I me…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

I (38M) was just sent proof that my fiancé (35F) has a recently active hinge profile. — My fiancé has been acting really distant lately. I'm currently dealing with some health issues and she seems more focused on her work then helping me through my current health struggles. We have bee…

Coming to terms with the fact that I am a stalker, and I'm not sure where to go from here — I met a girl online about 4-5 months ago, and she basically love bombed me. Was super into me, kept pushing to meet, and told me she loved me. I was initially really indifferent about the whole thing …

Realizing there is caretaker codependency happening in my relationship — My own journey with codependency has been a lot. My previous relationships were abusive. I’ve been in intense talk and EMDR therapy for a very long time and made lots of progress, but it feels as thou…

Found out my wife cheated before, after & during marriage — Hello All, new account here because my wife reads these subs from time to time. I guess I’ll start from the beginning. My wife (28f) and I (28m) started dating in high-school. After high school we wen…

My [28F] husband [37M] wants me to deliver bad news to his mother. How do I get out of doing this without hurting feelings? TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ mention of miscarriage. — UPDATE: I did talk to him, and I took the advice of not being gentle about it. It’s his mom, and he told her the “good news”, so he can break the bad news. At first he was upset with me, but he got ov…

How do you deal with missing the narc and the good times? — He was a serial cheater who was a pathological liar and psychologically so abusive, but I still remember the fun times and what I thought was genuine love. The love really seemed so real. It’s the 3 m…

Was my therapist blaming me for abuse? — My husband and I went to marriage counseling. I had an affair and afterwards he became very controlling and abusive. He had very strict terms for me to follow in order to remain married. He had my loc…

Quit weed 4 days ago and radio silence from every friend and family member. Am I going crazy? — On Wednesday last week, after finishing what I had and then smoking whatever Dusties I had left, I (24F) cleaned my bong, threw the cone piece and set out on my quitting journey. So far this has been…

Surprise.. He did it again and even worse — I had posted on here 3 months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/1GiZMvLtGp I had caught my husband texting his coworker. Well I gave him a second chance, we went to therapy, he did …

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

Reaching out after the break up — TLDR: thinking about reaching out to mend our relationship, and hopefully to get back together with my ex. I don't want to distract him from his examinations which are pretty soon, so i was wondering…

How do I let go the idea of her with someone else? — I was having a good time checking things of my projects on my computer and an image of her having sex with someone else crossed my mind. It was so shocking I stopped to vent. I realized it's going t…

I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…

Cheating Husbands: Did You Ever Stop Cheating Completely? If so, what made you want to stop cheating on your wives? — I am 53F recently separated from my husband of 10 years. He was a serial cheater, where I’d forgive him but I finally had enough. I know I did the right thing. However, I hate the loneliness and quiet…

If They Wanted You, They Would've Chosen You. — They pulled the trigger. They didn't believe or see the value anymore. They love you but no longer feel in love with you. But let this be a lesson to let it die. What was is gone. If they cared th…

How do you deal with friendships that only partially match your values? — Hey, today I’ve been thinking about my new friends, and my older ones too to be honest, and a pattern has come to my attention. Many times when I get close to someone, or even a moderate friendship s…

Does anyone think that their parents view your primary purpose as to be successful so they could brag about you? — While unpacking my past trauma and events, I remember that one of my close friends from high school texted me on Messenger many years ago (when I used to use it often) that my parents essentially had …

Just need to get it out — i’ve never done this before so if this isn’t the purpose of this subject, I’m sorry. I am 20 years old and relatively speaking. I’d say I’m not in a bad position to be successful in both my personal l…

I (29F) am planning to walk away from my partner (29M) and I feel guilty for choosing to put myself first.. — We’ve been together for about nine years, married for less than one, we had a lot of issues over the years that I’ve tried over and over again to fix, with trying to talk through it, and even couples …

Overarching Energy of the Libra Full Moon on April 1st, 2026 — This Full Moon is all about our responsibility when it comes to our relationships. We are reminded to balance what is external, creating harmony without sacrificing self. The solution isn’t  about “we…

She called me - i didnt answered the phone — My ex friend just called me, i didnt answer the phone and she left a voice note on the answering machine. Told me she just wants to tell us (?) Happy birthday. I had my birthday a week ago and she h…

I still hold love for a version of them, sometimes. — I’m so grateful that it ended and that I no longer have to live through their abuse, but I did really love the person I thought they were. We all know the person was likely just a mask of who they wa…

Found out my 33M ex GF 31F is pregnant — We were together pretty healthy from 2020 to 2022 from 2022 to nov 2025 it was pretty toxic and on again off again. She would constantly dump me and block me then I would come chasing her bypassing th…

Did spending time with someone new help or make things worse? — For the people who've taken the breakup hard and frequently checked your exes activity.. when you tried to move on by adding someone new and spending time with them, how did that make you feel afterwa…

Found her kik and Discord profiles — My wife of 20 years (22 years together) and I separated in September last year. This was due to some if the most aggressive narcissistic abuse known to man. The arguing and screaming finally took it…

I learned this from you guys — There are things when it comes to Neville and manifesting that makes sense and others that I just find interesting but I have no experience that they work. I'm not a religious person but there were …

when does the missing them stop — I hate it so much. I know I’m so much better off without his loser ass. But the good times were just so fucking good I’d honestly do anything to have them back. The euphoric recall or whatever you cal…

I (M29) was in a 6.5 year relationship with woman(F26) who had dismissive-avoidant attachment + severe ADHD + bad PMDD. I thought I was the problem for years, but now I'm starting to see it differently. Am I the asshole for feeling like I 'won' even though I got dumped? — Hey everyone, I just got dumped after 6.5 years with my ex (let's call her A). I'm posting here because my head is spinning with mixed feelings — relief, sadness, guilt, and surprisingly, some real h…

Thanks for posting this. It's been 6 months post break up and I have been having random peroids of ruminating on the good times even though I know they treated me badly for a couple of months leading…

One of the most powerful things the "and" theory / method does, it stop you from suppressing negative emotions. Feel them. Say them. Write them down. Your brain is programmed to remember the good tim…

I was literally just discussing this with my therapist yesterday. The balancing act of navigating knowing two truths can exist at the same time is hard af. But it does help so much processing emotions…

>So remember the good times, but, speak the reasons you shouldn’t be back there. You mean “and”! ;)

I try and focus on everything else. We run a profitable small biz together, take care of that like it’s our baby. Cook and clean together, watch shows together. We laugh and joke and have a good time.…

Yep, it's probably not a good time...and I may have impulsively downloaded it out of loneliness. I have friends and a sister I can talk to, I have hobbies and a new career. I put a lot of energy into …

Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…

This is definitely not true. You can still get attracted to them. Especially avoidants tend to be very charming, successful and if the person is smart or you share a lot of common interests, until the…

I’m proud of you for sticking with your healing journey! Even when it’s painful and feels unreciprocated. Tbh sometimes people aren’t ready to change, and that’s on them, not you. Keep doing you…

No, not at all. But perhaps it’s also because I have BPD, so I have a black and white thinking. I’d feel anxious during the relationship because they might leave me for being hot and cold — not delibe…

Just went through this. She has a crush on a guy, who's in a relationship, 1.5 weeks after breaking up with me. She clearly wants him and it's so sad seeing how messed up she is. I could never try wit…

That's great man. I'm glad you are having a good time with her.

I'm going to challenge you for a moment. Imagine your life without him and how you'd find happiness. Imagine what it would be like being with a partner that can truly show up for you. What that would…

It's clearly because she liked you , staying in touch maybe reminded her how good time he had with you but she may be had inner conflict because that's what exactly what I am doing as well , I bailed …

Are you me?! 😭 I do this too and the ruminating sometimes ruins the entire experience for me. Something that’s really helped me out is to think of them as being on “my level” instead above it (easier…

Yes. I just thought about this recently. As of 2 days ago. And I figured I would start trying to see my romantic interests as friends as well. That way a lot of the pressure is off. I am dating a guy …

>my libido was high and I was always slept with him when we spent time together, sometimes multiple times. I guess it was how I felt most connected to him since the relationship never really progresse…

Thanks so much, I definitely pride myself on being self-aware. I was self-aware through the whole toxic "relationship" but just wanted to convince myself it could work because I had a really good time…

I don't resist those thoughts. When you try not to think of an elephant, you're going to think of an elephant. Just let them come and go. Have some things you say to yourself when they do come, like "…

I'm (23f) currently a few days post broke up and naturally it has been devastating. I broke up with my boyfriend (23m) because after 7 months ultimately because he didn't love me. He said he was …

A secure person probably wouldn't even think about their partner in that instance and just live their life, fully trusting that he'll return. But, if they do think about their partner having a good ti…

Am I understanding correctly your wife said she would stop engaging with you if you go to therapy for yourself? This is a complex long term ingrained issue. I give you genuine kudos on working on thi…

Thanks! > Am I understanding correctly your wife said she would stop engaging with you if you go to therapy for yourself? Yes :( > I give you genuine kudos on working on this for the sake of your c…

I'm in a miniature version of your dynamic with a guy who makes me feel on top of the world sometimes and forgotten about others. The hot and cold is exhausting and the good times are just enough to …

I spent a whole year recovering from a breakup. I focused on healing and my anxiety. Very confident in dating. I go on multiple first dates. I’m having a good time. I feel in my own skin for the fir…

I'm not qualified to give you any pro opinion but I can tell you what I've done, for myself. First step is admitting you can't continue this way, for your own sake and the sake of your close ones. S…

Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…

I've been there. I could have written this three years ago - the second guessing that you feel someone is inconsistent and not safe, but you fixate on the times that feel good. With closer inspection …

I have found that I keep emotionally charged conversations and people at arms length. I have never been able to truly be their friend. I've found it much easier to form friendship groups than singular…

I've heard (and taught) all this stuff so many times. I just...have a lot of snags around it all. Let me go through each of your points. I have other hobbies and interests, but it's hard for me to ac…

\- You can absolutely fully break down in front of someone. Yes, people are fully breaking down in front of the people close to them - just not, like, all the time. Most people cry a little bit regula…

Thank you for such a detailed answer! I have a follow up question. You said "My close friends are the ones I can rely on, in good times and bad." How do you know you can rely on them? Or are your clos…

yeah literally! like im so caught up worrying about if someone feels the same way i do that i analyze every little thing that could possibly mean the opposite, to the point where i feel like i even ig…

thats totally fair. i have a.... history with this person that im seeing right now where like 6 months ago we were seeing each other, i got them to open up a bit and thought we were in a really good p…

the person im dating seems to be avoidant. we have a history that kinda complicates things. we were casually seeing each other like 6 months ago but i ended things because i caught feelings and they c…

I think I’m going to put dating on hold for a couple weeks until it’s warmer - I just hate the thought of leaving my apartment in this weather. Feels like a good time to catch up on reading my library…

I hope you have a good time! I’d give the benefit of the doubt to the other guy given the weather, it’s typical for folks to be getting sick in the winter. But as you said, time will tell!

35F and wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and if so how they got over it. I’m dating again after getting out of a relationship a few months ago. Been on a few dates with some guys from app…

It's definitely still a red flag that he's legally married and lives with his wife, even if you're having a good time together!

Well, my avoidant ex-situationship giving it one last shot dating has finished. He told me he didn’t “get a consistent spark” to pursue this further. Crushing, as he also told me that 99% of when we a…

I went on a second date last night. Our first date was fine, but the second date was just horrible. Vibes were off, for the both of us, and it was just not a good time. He asked if he could kiss me af…

I’m in Egypt, and I shot up awake and now I’m patiently waiting for a good time to have breakfast. It’s 4 AM.

It’s cool. I’m not too broken up about it. She was cool and all, had a good time, but I think there was something off. Probably was in your case too, but that’s a good thing, it leaves you open for th…

Almost the exact same thing happened to me recently. I went on a date with a girl last Sunday for coffee. I messaged her afterwards saying that it’s hard to tell after 1 date but I had a good time. We…

Haha, thank you! We had a good time. Date #2 is Friday.

Second date planned. 90% sure (not quite 100%) I don't feel attracted enough for a relationship, but there's a lot of positives and I had a good time on date 1. I always stress for days before rejecti…

I'd say just invite him again this time and, assuming he takes you up on your offer and y'all have a good time at trivia, drop your concern on him before finishing the date. Something simple and to-th…

>"I had a good time on our date! And while I enjoy talking to you, I'm really trying to work towards relationship. So, let me know if you're going to plan a second date, otherwise, it was nice getting…

I actually tried to move on. But I really really love her. I’m not some weird person, I am attractive and have an awesome career and focus on those things. So I’m not obsessing about her. But for what…

The bad times will unfortunately continue to outweigh the good times, because she has no incentive to be better. You have shown her that she can treat you and your children as poorly as she likes, and…