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There are levels of people. Just like how doctors used to believe plague masks prevented disease and we now know more specifically about why that's kinda technically true but not really for the reaso…

Do fearful avoidants "split" or "idealise" and then "devalue" when triggered? Or is it more likely to be a sign of something else? (Eg BPD/NPD?) — I am curious about whether "splitting" is something that is an FA behaviour or if it's a separate issue associated with other mental health disorders. As an FA, do you feel yourself "idealising" or p…

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

PSA: Posts to RBN must be about your parent(s) and/or primary caregiver(s). — Folks, For a while now, we've been getting a steadily increasing amount of posts that we consider to be off-topic. As our subreddit name suggests, submissions must be centred around your parent(s) or…

Cannabis vs. Mushrooms [My Experience] — So I'll start off by saying I'm not very experienced and have multiple psychotic and/or disassociative disorders plus a medical card But I'm surprised at my take away when using the medical marijuana…

Every time I post on social media, I feel less and less like there’s space for me on the Internet. — I grew up on social media, beginning on Xanga and MySpace at 10 years old. Then, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, as I grew up and entered adulthood. I’ve always over shared my life on the Inter…

OKAY LISTEN Y'ALL. — I don't know which tag this would come under but I just have to say this because the amount of 'im gonna give up' , 'its not working' ' what am I doing wrong' posts am seeing is insaneee. First of all…

A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault. — I side eye every parent who has children with mental health issues. The likelihood that it was given to them by the parent is extremely fucking high. Case in point, I got harmed and abused a lot by m…

A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault. — I side eye every parent who has children with mental health issues. The likelihood that it was given to them by the parent is extremely fucking high. Case in point, I got harmed and abused a lot by m…

A lot of parents give their children mental disorders then pretend as if it's the child's fault. — I side eye every parent who has children with mental health issues. The likelihood that it was given to them by the parent is extremely fucking high. Case in point, I got harmed and abused a lot by m…

1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true — No, I do NOT want my ex back—like ever 😭 but I do have a story + some lessons from how everything played out. So basically, about 1.5 years ago, my ex randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. Like……

It has been two years since I broke up, and here we are, folks. — It's a strange day/event to commemorate, yet it's undeniably a significant one. I feel like it's important to pay a token of respect to the journey I took. So here we are. 1. Before diving deep into …

Anxiety tips you might not have heard of — Hello, I've had crippling anxiety on and off for many years and I have developed coping tools that has helped me alot. This Mostly is for people who have GAD and panic disorders but can help for almo…

UPDATE: My (23F) Boyfriend (24M) got really jacked and now I’m no longer attracted to him — Hi, I really don’t feel obligated to update but I felt it was a little important due to the amount of attention my post got. Before doing so though I wanted to address everything systematically, so sc…

feeling kinda hopeless and a failure — this is kinda of a sad post but I feel like I need to talk it out because it would be unhealthy if I kept it in and I'm usually a dont tell anyone about anyone about your emotions. Lately, seeing all …

how can i help myself when i constantly feel like i deserve to never get better to atone for my past mistakes — hi, i'm sorry for making this post, i hope it's ok. my entire life i've struggled with fitting anywhere, or being anywhere. i don't have a good relationship with my family and have been bullied to the…

Where Did you Go to Find Your Therapist? — I am a very experienced clinical psychologist with a PhD from a very strong university. I have recently left an agency where I was pressured to do unethical things (for example: record things in the m…

PSA: Your Therapist may be Part of the Problem — Just a reminder that most therapists only read one chapter on personality disorders in school and can make the situation worse. I spent about 9 months too long in one of these situations because my th…

Abuse doesn't have to be intentional to be abuse. — Abuse doesn't have to be intentional to be abuse. It doesn't matter if they didn't intend to abuse you. It's still abuse. Someone doesn't have to plot or plan abuse for it to be abuse. Most abuse is …

changing my college aspirations (psychiatry to psychology) — TLDR; i want to switch from psychiatry to msc psychology since psychology aligns with my interests and time more. is it a valid switch? how do i talk to my dad? this is very long, apologies but hey,…

Abuse doesn't have to be intentional to be abuse. — Abuse doesn't have to be intentional to be abuse. It doesn't matter if they didn't intend to abuse you. It's still abuse. Someone doesn't have to plot or plan abuse for it to be abuse. Most abuse is …

I know why i’m depressed but how — I 23m have dealt with depression since a young age and also dealing with other things. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, OCD, major depression disorder, and an anxiety disorder. I am currently on medic…

I know the roots of the issues but where to go — 123m have dealt with depression since a young age and also dealing with other things. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, OCD, major depression disorder, and an anxiety disorder. 1 am currently on medica…

Me (19M) and my girlfriend (19F) have some value differences that I seriously want to work out with her. What do we do? — Me and my girlfriend have had a long committed relationship ship to her. We've been 'official' since we were sophomores in high school, and we've been each other's no. 1's ever since. However, over t…

The universe literally pays me to stop my self-denial of psychology as coping mechanism — *Throwaway as my main account is geographically identifiable* My nMom used to brag that I earned an MA psychology with her because she finished the nine-month conversion programme while pregnant with…

The universe literally pays me to stop my self-denial of psychology as coping mechanism — My nMom used to brag that I earned an MA psychology with her because she finished the nine-month conversion programme while pregnant with me. She was rejected for clinical psychologist licensure progr…

Help my girlfriend. please. — Hey I’m writing this on my girlfriend’s behalf since she can’t. She (15) has been feeling awful lately and has been sort of needing a mental evaluation and this is the closest she can get to one since…

I don't feel connected to my therapist. Is that normal? — Hello, Recently, I (F, 30) went through a bit of a mental health situation, and found myself at an outpatient mental health program for a week. What the nurses thought was depression turned out to be…

Does anyone w anxiety disorders get episodes of extreme confusion?? 😓

Does anyone w anxiety disorders get episodes of extreme confusion?? 😓

Does anyone w anxiety disorders get episodes of extreme confusion?? 😓

moving to college in August but the days just get slower. — Everyday my dad is on some bullshit about how i display all these kind of disorders which is weird because as im only diagnosed with ADHD, depression, and anxiety, im also seeking therapy and medicati…

The best summary of cptsd ive come across — someone commented this and I think its really helpful overview of cptsd for us What CPTSD Actually Is CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) comes from prolonged, repeated trauma, especially…

MID Assessment — I’m curious if anyone has done the MID assessment for dissociation disorders? I finally got done with it today in therapy and I told my therapist I don’t think I can wait a whole week for my results. …

Having Unhelpful Feelings About Me and My Partners Eating Disorders (F 21 F 19) — I (21 f, trans$love my partner (19 f) very much and I want to support them as much as I can through all of their issues. An issue that has become more apparent is that they have an Eating Disorder. I …

I actually need physical proof or an admittance of guilt? — Pretty sure I already know. My profession involves data analysis and pattern recognition. Unfortunately, I also have residual trauma that provides a substantial foundation for self doubt, projection,…

What do I do rn? — Maybe this is a sub for more severe situations than mine and I'm sorry if reading this post was a waste of your time, I'm just wondering what to do in this situation. I'm 17 with a narcissistic mother…

Are you still in contact with the people who gave you C-ptsd? — And if so, how do you manage the relationship? For those who went no contact or low contact, how much did it affect your healing process? I haven't seen my family for two years now and I noticed h…

Oh boy do I love being exploited(Long rant, life story, lots of heavy stuff) — Hi, new here. I'll just go ahead and describe my relationship with my parents and my general environment, cuz I've been stuck in a cycle of depression and toxic optimism since childhood. For conte…

My mom keeps fat shaming me — I am a 19F and I had a really bad childhood, my mom is a narcissist and she neglected me, neglected my health, is an alcoholic, has been fat shaming me since I can remember. I learnt to deal with a l…

Some Burning Questions — Almost two years ago I started having regular (open and closed eye) spontaneous extremely vivid visions and significant anomalous changes to my sensory perception, in particular my (closed and open ey…

Raised by a Covert Narcissist. — Hey Guys, I want to share my experience and hopefully get some useful advice as to how I can move on with my recovery. I am reading Pete Walker's book " From surviving to Thriving: Overcoming TEPC. …

PSA: do NOT read “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn — Multiple trigger warnings for brief mentions of abuse, gaslighting, suicide, etc. It occurred to me that I forgot to make the post about why survivors shouldn’t read this book. Better late than neve…

PSA: do NOT read “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn — r/CPTSD doesn’t allow crossposting so I’m making a second post here. Multiple trigger warnings for brief mentions of abuse, gaslighting, suicide, etc. It occurred to me that I forgot to make the po…

Anyone else feel like theyre gonna crash out constantly — I have a lot of disorders. i dunno how I even exist in all. Im bipolar (bipolar 1) CPTSD, i have an ED, im in recovery from addiction, ADHD, possibly autistic and with DID. That plus gender dysphoria.…

Am I overthinking this, or do I see signs of OCPD in my girlfriend that could affect our future together? — Hey Reddit, I need some advice and insight from those who might have experienced something similar or have a better understanding of personality disorders. I (31, m) have been with my girlfriend (31…

How do i deal with people trying to diagnose me? — HI. I was always someone to do copious research out of anxiety and wanting to know what was wrong with me and that describes so many days of high school(i am graduated now and looking into tutoring En…

My (23F) Nmom (51F) is slowly developing a highly obsessive ozempic-induced ego complex. — I’ll give you the basics… I moved in after graduating college and we had an ok relationship until she started taking ozempic. She was pretty overweight before (200+) and now she’s 145 and OBSESSED wit…

It really was my moms fault — Exactly as the title says, it was all my mom's fault, and im tired of people(especially other moms)constantly giving her the benefit of the doubt just because she's "traumatized" or "had a hard life" …

Learning about CPTSD — Hello everyone, first of all I want to apologize if my English is not the best. I wanted to ask for an opinion about something… my earliest memories as a child are of not wanting to go to daycare, th…

Desire for connection, dating and friends, how? — how? lmao I’m so scared to date/socialize, I haven’t had a bf since I was 14. I’m 24 now and it just feels like it’s too late for me somehow. My life has been a mess since 14, with drugs, eating diso…

Please look into the health issues that come along with being dismissive or fearful avoidant. You can't just shut off your emotions and experience no repercussions. That's not how our biology works, …

I am a FA learnt secure, and I'll say almost half of the women I have dated are avoidants. Ken Reids and Dr Sarah Hensley have given lots of advice on this. I'll paraphrase them: 1) Ask them early,…

I think you have to go through a practice period where you see yourself in full relief. I don't believe that people with attachment disorders don't care. They live in a society that profits from ha…

Wrong. Cluster B personality disorders are not just words and they damage people. Avoidants do a different kind of damage.

FA female here, I agree with the general advice of consistency. Just something to think about, I heard several stories from friends that heard something similar at the beginning only to find out that …

It mostly comes down to what your childhood was like. If you had a good childhood but your parents were busy and didn't have a lot of time for you ect this could cause AP. DA have mostly good childhoo…

What you are experiencing is limerance; this involves idolising another or a relationship because creating a fantasy in which you are happy and can control ( because it's not reality) feels safe. The…

Apparently many people with personality disorders (BPD/NPD/HPD\APD) date in order to secure a “new mom/parent” in order to develop their stunted self and then individuate from said replacement. Not…

Indeed the thought is that when people with attachment disorders remove themselves from difficult situations they are safe That would mean they have stepped aside from the cyclical nature of this I…

I guess it's hard to know where something begins and ends when there can be so much overlap between different disorders and attachment wounds.

For me it was essentially a ptsd flashback and they “were” the person hurting me if this was taking place. Like I was trying to control the damage that I believed (rationally or not) was coming. So a …

I dunno, I feel like you're making a lot of assumptions and untrue ones. Lots of people who have BPD and other disorders are very capable of reflecting, especially if they are doing active work on the…

You are right— splitting is used is used in many mental health disorders in a similar manner.. BPD in the way you are talking about and possibly how op is too. Schizophrenia, DID, etc… have splitting …

FA here it’s not splitting I think that’s for an actual mental health disorder or personality disorder. Let’s all be clear attachment styles are not disorders and they all can be changed with the prop…

There isn't a standard formula to how people behave. Attachment disorders can vary. The best thing is for someone to be aware and to be motivated

I have been in work situations where a lot of boundaries were crossed Indeed some people are really adept at being fruends in a work.setting Obviously this situation is bringing up flashbacks for …

As I’ve learned recently, kids can definitely bring out our best impulses. But it’s dangerous to anchor our motivation to do better to them. It puts an unconscious expectation on them that children, i…

“You don’t even need to be fully healed.” That’s a slippery slope, and the source of the pushback, I think. Not being fully healed opens one up to animating the same attachment disorders that one gre…

The anxious behavior strategies are fairly more obvious. >C1 (Threateningly Angry): They use anger to coerce attached figures into proving care and comfort. >C2 (Disarmingly Desirous of Comfort): Co…

Okay, I will look into this person more but Steph Anya is an LMFT. You might want to search again bc dismissiveness pulls right up as an avoidant trait only. Cognitive empathy is very limiting in true…

Sorry you feel so bad read up on attachment disorders in boulder like attached Stephanie Pitt has a podcast that is very helpful

Yeah hypervigilance is very much an AA thing. Not just AA, I think, but anxiety or anxiety disorders in general. The thing about auto capitalisation is definitely a form of hypervigilance. There are m…

Hi there, I’m F16 and I have attachment isuess. In childhood I didn't receive enough love from my parents ( abusive, emotionally unavailable father and a toxic mother, and I don’t intend to repair tho…

In true Co-Dependency, both people in the relationship are part of the abuse. Both could technically qualify as both abusers, and victims. Thats what makes this so aweful. "Fixer" is a better name …

They’d deleted their comment before I could respond, but it’s crazy that people are out here comparing attachment styles to something akin to horoscopes or meyers briggs personality types instead of t…

Attachment styles are different from attachment disorders… of course they aren’t in the DSM, it is not a mental health disorder. However, [researchers do use it](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/…

Hm, found an interesting article related to heroin chic of 1990s and 19th century romanticising tuberculosis. >*The connections between romanticizing tuberculosis and fashion have shifted to encompa…

Fear-mongering. There are people who trip irresponsibly and these become the "terrible experiences" people report 99.999999% of the time. I read a trip report where a couple were watching snuff films…

Op, you are awesome for this but i have a question: 1. Certain personality disorders by their actions inflict hurt or harm to others: Anti Social and to an extent NPD. When the result of the action i…

Unfortunately no medication exists. Its hard with our combined disorders . Thanks for the suggestion though

Unfortunately, if you're not willing to put in the hard work so you can get into some recovery, I can't imagine any situation where you're going to have a successful relationship. You're situation i…

OP please listen. Put aside emotion and focus on fact and logic. Your husband is either sending these messages or knows who is. HE HAS DONE NOTHING TO FIND OUT WHO IS ABUSING YOU. Please report as sta…

He's also of the age where mental disorders will hit men - schizo, psychosis etc Chatgpt will be a trigger for those if he is susceptible. And it sounds like it is triggering it - the illusions of g…

Bingo. We are an insane species, and in situations like this, nothing would surprise me. My uncle is bipolar... But before they knew, he was apparently going manic and saying WILD stuff to his wife.…

You are right on. CK One perfume anyone? Black and white, long sleeve shirts with no volume etc? Skinny jeans, giant boots? Sigh, I am so dissapionted. I hated that area, and was RELIEVED when J-…

Our family narcissist is my husband's brother. As well as their dad, but his brother is worse. He has a pattern. He meets someone, impregnates them, tricks them into marrying him, abuses them. He di…

Here are some resources to check out expanding on how "therapeutic culture” often pathologizes normal emotional experiences. In turn, this encourages a separation of these natural occurences and the i…

This isn't a good analogy. Exposure therapy should *never* feel like someone is pulling you out from safety by your legs. It's supposed to feel more like the caring, kind hand being offered for you to…

This depends on what you mean. If you mean exposure won't treat being neurodivergent it's true. If you mean that neurodivergent people who have anxiety disorders don't benefit from exposure therapy th…

Early life socialization, honestly I stopped hanging out with white guys cause they were always so into extreme and antisocial behavior, meanwhile I've had girls calling me cute / hot since I was like…

Oh hey cool! Added to the top of my watch list. [Update: over halfway thru and just had to add that I highly recommend watching this interview! [Here's a playlist](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?l…

CPTSD and BPD overlap in so many ways and trauma can definitely cause BPD symptoms. At the end of the day for me personally- (so if this doesn’t fit disregard) I care less about the diagnosis and more…

As a licensed therapist in the US, I'm just here to say I'm sorry you had this experience... and that is not cluster B narcissism... with the information provided this therapists sounds like he is hav…

Hi! Thank you for sharing! This might seem lazy but the information in these links I feel could validate and clarify what you are experiencing. First, the narcissist professor Sam Vaknin who gives…

I tell them I’m disabled. It helps that I sometimes carry a cane but if people pry, I either say I’d rather not get too into it or use an umbrella term for it like “nervous system stuff”. POTS, H-EDS…

The fact his mum is doing the exact same to his sister is not a coincidence. Its learnt behaviour Also, a lot of fitness obsessed people have eating disorders and often body dysmorphia. Make sure he …

DO NOT continue a relationship with someone like this because he will either give your children eating disorders or he will give your grandchildren eating disorders.

That is fucking horrible sis. Truly, I hope you never have to do that again.  —— Uh yeah. I did a lot of « treatments «   Laser, facials, she made me get a back brace for a 1/2 degree of scoliosis.…

Therapy and counseling are necessary for reconciliation. Just blocking is not enough. He needs to get down to the root issues that he has that contributed to him giving himself permission to do that. …

I am a Cognitive Behavioral therapist specialized in anxiety disorders. Although Spanish is my native language, I have conducted online sessions in English. I can support you at a more affordable cost…