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There are levels of people. Just like how doctors used to believe plague masks prevented disease and we now know more specifically about why that's kinda technically true but not really for the reaso…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
How is the job market right now for jobs in web/product design, ui ux, front end development, etc? — Hi all, I work in digital marketing, but am getting burnt out and am trying to learn web design and build a portfolio. Long story short, what I enjoy most about my current job in digital marketing has…
Does this SEO strategy make sense ? — Hello experts ! Recently, I came across an SEO expert (have some good proof) that talked about the seo strategy that she used, but I'm not sure if I understand it correctly. The strategy goes as fol…
Am I the only one that dislikes Wireframe CC? — I'm new to web design, so take this with a grain of salt. I've been browsing around for good, easy wireframe websites so I can finally stop using PowerPoint to do them. I tried the 7 day free trial fo…
Rating my website + getting help with ad setup — Hello! Ive started a small workshop where i produce and sell lamps. A lot of my designs are based on already existing popular ones but most of them ive come up with myself. I never expected to becom…
How do you create a custom multi-stage checkout? — I am trying to figure out how to create a multi-stage checkout process. Companies like [https://westandwillow.com/pages/custom-pet-portraits](https://westandwillow.com/pages/custom-pet-portraits) ha…
LLMs ('AI') are coming for our jobs whether or not they work - Chris's Wiki — From [here](https://utcc.utoronto.ca/~cks/space/blog/tech/LLMsVersusOurJobs): > In most non-tech organizations, both internal development and system administration is something similar to janitorial …
Etsy integration that allows products not listed on my Shopify store? — Hi all, I'm trying to get started with Etsy integration with my Shopify store... Would like some suggestions on which app to use. I've looked around myself and maybe I'm misunderstanding how this who…
How to add customisation order to customer notes? — We have a product you can choose to get engraved. All the apps I have found for personalisation put the customer request in the line item of the order. Does anyone know of a way to have it appear in…
“Found this gem when I was applying for a job 👀🔒” — Clicked the eye icon to reveal the password… only to have it immediately blur again when I tried to edit it. Who designed this — a magician? 🎩✨
Looking for WP setup: searchable listings + user edit access — I'm working on a project using WordPress and I'm looking for advice on the best **theme or setup** to make this work easily. # Here's the concept: * A **homepage with a search bar** where users can …
Is There A Social Login Plugin That Still Interacts With The user_register Action When Making An Account? — Hi everyone, On my WordPress website, I have some custom code that runs on the user\_register action after the user has submitted the registration form which I basically use to give the new account t…
Looking for advice when it comes to hosting client websites — Currently have around 50 client websites. All PHP/MySql based, using various versions of PHP. At the moment all sites are hosted on a managed dedicated server running WHM/cPanel. As the number of web…
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back — This is my personal experience for those who are curious. Of course everyone will be different but I thought it might help those who are waiting or wishing (APs I'm talking mostly to you) Firstly the…
Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister. — We’ve had some real struggles, and I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel generally pretty secure outside of this one relationship, but recently it’s been making my AA flair up in my romantic partnersh…
We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…
I want to to start healing so badly, how can I? — I recently posted here my journey of realizing I have a fearful avoidant attachment. I used to think I was anxious but I realize I'm fearful avoidant and I don't want this anymore. I want to stop push…
How do I grow? — I am learning in the past few months of my life I may (probably am) FA, espeically in romantic relationships. I constantly crave and daydream a secure relationship with consistency but when I ask some…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…
You can be pretty and still fucked up. Attractiveness will not save you from this disease. — I am not model-tier attractive, but I have modeled for local brands and have a very unfulfilling "successful" dating life. Everyone in the internet, and in real life claims that attractive people "hav…
Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…
Lack will dissolve when you realise: Manifestation starts from irony, and feeling it real starts from memory. — I said it. This post is for people whose brains are very logic driven. Those who think: “I need to see proof before I believe something.” i have something for you. Let's go. We all know the key: The…
Obsessing Over There Being a Draft — I have not been able to quell my fears of a draft happening for the past few days. I’ve had this fear before but felt comforted by the fact that boots-on-ground is becoming increasingly obsolete and t…
read this if you are confused — Yes I have shifted, here is the mindset that brought me to this point. If this does not resonate with you move on. For those who follow the Law of Assumption, non duality etc I intend this will make …
Be honest ladies, how much does being bald impact your interest in a man? — I'm sure in our 40s and over, there's plenty of men who are losing their hairline or just shave it off. I'm newly single after finalizing my divorce and worry about how I look. I've lost 30 lbs so far…
Unexpected gift of healing — The unexpected and awesome gift of healing from codependency (or rather the trauma that underpins it) is the gift of time. I have so much more time for myself now when I: * don’t get involved in th…
Me again, my watchers from last nights meditation. — I’ll give my version and the version chat gpt came up with my typed description. My drawing is an accurate depiction of what I saw but the AI version is still pretty close. Got to have it scan for hi…
Crazy experience “timeline hopper” — I’ve been lucid dreaming since I was about 12/13, and I’m now 23. I trained myself into it years ago and now I lucid dream every morning which sometimes can be annoying because it affects my sleep. I’…
my "method" to manifest everything — I got into manifestation back in 2025. I studied a lot of techniques, rules, and read so many books about the law of attraction and all that stuff. And honestly? I heard millions of rules about manife…
My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…
I’d say I’m a master at it — Manifesting is literally a skill that revolves around energy/frequency and only that. Everything is energy, everything around you is radiating energy. The universe responds to frequencies and whatever…
The true meaning why you were told to never bottle up your emotions — I remember years ago I was very young and in primary school… I would always see on posters around me. “Don’t bottle up your emotions.” And of I went on YouTube at the time or I heard from fam…
You already have it.
Read this if you have doubts about manifestation — Why do you even doubt it? Just why? Do you think manifestation is something illogical, supernatural, and difficult? It absolutely isn’t. It’s something you’ve been doing your whole life unconsciousl…
Why do people have it out for me? — Hi all, I’m new to this sub and don’t know the terms or anything, but I have always felt in tune with nature, energy and have always the ability to read peoples emotions very easily. I’ve also alway…
It unfolds so naturally — I have spent a lot of time treating the Law like a science experiment rather than a mathematical equation. I thought “if I do x, then maybe y will happen” When in reality it’s more like “X + Y = Z”…
Why The Universe "Punishes" Excitement — I think it's actually quite simple. When you feel excited for something, what usually happens is the anticipation of getting that thing is usually a better feeling than actually having that thing. So …
How do I change my state of being to "I have" if real world experiences are telling me the opposite daily? — This is the hardest part for me. I understand that I have to live and think like I already have it, I don't yearn for it because it's already mine. However, every day I experience the opposite. How do…
Am I expecting too much after the worst time of my life? — Asking for advice in a situation that is a bit of a shitshow. I’ll try to make it succinct. I live in the UK but am from a different European country. I, F42, started seeing M44, “S”, just over t…
Which method is better? — I always thought do i manifest by imagining i already have it or i imagine myself going towards that manifestation goal for example suppose i am 5feet 8 inches tall and want to be 6 feet,do i imagine …
The One Question That Unlocks Everything — ***If you had your desire, how would you feel?*** That question is deceptively simple and violently powerful. Because the moment you can answer it honestly you have already located the state. And the…
I don’t know how it’s going to happen… but I feel like my life is about to change — I can’t explain this properly, but I feel like my life is about to change in a big way. I don’t have all the details. I don’t even know exactly where I’ll be living. But I keep getting this calm, gro…
Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…
Bought a house on my own and AP come over every day… — I (27F) recently moved into my own house, and my parents have been coming over every day to help out. I haven’t asked them to, they just show up. I do appreciate the help, and I know it’s coming from …
Coda Slogans — I've been attending a meeting for about 2 months and realized last night that Coda doesn't seem to have slogans the same way Al-Anon and other Recovery programs do. Or maybe there is just a lot of cr…
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Why am I so bad at expressing myself verbally? — By verbally I mean orally, during in-person conversations. There have been a bunch of situations where I'd try to express some thought I've had, only to have it sound confusing as hell to people aro…
Immense anger after being cheated on.. 8 year relationship. — 8 year relationship down the drain.. I met her when I was 23m.. She BEGGED ME to take her serious. I took road trips frequently for work during that time and she felt like I didn’t spend enough time w…
Life is a trip — One of my biggest takeaways from my most recent trips is that people worry too much, I worry too much. During the comedown, I went to work because I felt bored just staying in my room, unable to sleep…
I agree that things can change, but am forever baffled/frustrated by a repeated theme I see in here: men seem to think women have it easier or have some sort of advantage. I assure you, women don’t “k…
>men seem to think women have it easier or have some sort of advantage They do.
But I don't have it
Good, then my SM already knows my parameters, and already knows I don't need to bother with extensive details. ...and yes, I have read the book and still have it.
Yeah, and if any of you from this sub are on Year 3 with nothing to show for it but some stranger on Reddit screaming at you about how you're doing it wrong (when they themselves haven't manifested an…
No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…
Think whatever you want conciously, doesn't matter. Your only goal is to have it subconconciously (in your sh iow) And screw "sats" too I say 😌
I am securely attached, and I usually don't communicate a lot after i have met up with someone. This "withdrawal" has nothing to do with my dating partner. I myself enjoy a lot of alone time, so usual…
Thankfully I haven’t dated an anxious attacher lol! No shade, I just don’t think I have it in me. And my bullshit detector has a hair trigger these days; when someone people-pleases or tries to “suck …
It’s been a year (yesterday) since my ex cruelly and coldly discarded me by text (after 18 months of dating… and lots of life experiences).. “I can’t see you anymore, I wish you well”.. It was massive…
Lmao, no, don't worry about it. I have daddy issues as well, and I have friends with BPD that have pointed out that I may have it too (I'm not diagnosed and have no need to know though atm). And I tot…
I feel so seen. I had to take breaks from dating due to that built up resentment but also from sensitivity to rejection that I projected onto my worthiness. I’ve mostly dated FA in the past I felt l…
There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…
I started out when everything was one app on a physical server. I don’t miss those days. I couldn’t tell you the amount of sleep and free time I lost due to hardware failures. Plus the begging finance…
I don't see the value in getting the CKA at this point. As of 2023, 176,000 people had registered for the exam. On top of that employers don't value it all that much. It doesn't help if you used manag…
Thank you aa a formal c I a intern and psia intern thank esp law of attraction opportunity women and some form of finance within a few weeks will come your way surprisingly unless your third eye se…
I did a course with PDS a few years ago to help get over a break up. It was something like overcoming grief. In the course she discusses something called the Golden Shadow, traits in another person th…
I’ve a real question, when things are really negative, bills are on your head and fear freezes you … how to stay positive, calm and think, feel all day that you have it ? genuine question
my answer will sound counterintuitive. The way to manifest something in is to feel like you already have it. So lets say you have bills piling up. I would suggest you don't focus on bills piling up. I…
Hey there! Wanted to ask for some advice. Currently I’m trying to manifest a beautiful relationship. Does this mean I should go around thinking ‘I am in a loving and healthy relationship’ instead of ‘…
I don't know, but whenever I decide to believe in free will (or the illusion of free will because I clearly don't believe in it) it makes me much more successful, gives me an ego boost and makes me at…
I'm sorry for the stress you feel and everything about it. It sounds like your life now revolves around him: \- You continue to have regret and remorse about the past. \- You are actively checking…
You are doing it great. It’s like a muscle, first you are in the scene for short moment, and the more you do the more you are present and staying longer. On the feelings, we all are different people…
I feel like the first break up and that loss especially after waiting so long is so tough. Grief is so so so hard. You aren’t wrong for how you feel. You aren’t wrong for missing this. And you aren’t …
I've got my fingers crossed for you! It really is tough to pour into someone when you get little to nothing in return. I don't know about you but I don't give my partner my love and affection just to …
I had a similar situation. This person I met physically for 1 month, we hung out 3-4 times a week in this one month, then he went back home temporarily for 2 months, I was chill but the texting got my…
Do you already exhibit anxious attachment tendencies with your friends and family? Just because you have it with romantic relationships doesn’t mean you will with friends and family. There is no spe…
Why do I relate it so much? The whole point I came to reddit and have started my own community, especially for anxious partners to avoidant persons. Avoidant people might not get it but us anxious on…
Okay so yeah I can see why you’d want to try and understand where it’s coming from. It doesn’t sound all that abnormal from what ive experienced, and if he isn’t maintaining this negative perception b…
continue until you have it in your hand. either way if you don't do it you won't get it. how else will you prove to yourself it works and get your $2mil next?
I know my relationship of 15 years is over. She's mentally unwell and has very drastic mood swings, but she refuses to actually get help or to work on herself at all. When she's in a good mood, she …
When i am experiencing something that is the opposite of what i desire. I let it for a day or two. When i first did it it lasts for a week up to 2-3 weeks. After sometime, that "bad feeling" lessen th…
RSD is a biotch. If any of you think you might have it you need to do some therapy to get yourself out of it.
I actually didn’t accuse you personally. I said these are the places where misinformation spreads. And as someone who has BPD in remission, I think it’s better for any talk about BPD to come from pe…
My CM thoughts have changed to worse, along with the situation. If this is some Neville it gets the darkest before dawn bullshit, I wasn’t expecting it to get that dark in this situation (or for it to…
Hello everyone, I need help. I've already manifest a SP, but it's hot and cold and we're just in a situationship. What can I do? I've taken a few courses and each one told me something different. Pl…
How do I feel content with my life without needing someone to surround my life with? Earlier this year I realized something about my self that I genuinely don't feel happy unless if I surrounded my …
My mom used to do the narration thing when I lived with my parents. It's so hard to coherently describe *why* it feels so bad when all they're really doing is just narrating out loud what you're doing…
For real, it's like a never ending doctor's exam. Constant poking, prodding, and analysis that doesn't go anywhere and yet they think you're the odd one if you get irritated lmfao. >It feels like a c…
Society is miserable for lots of people and while on the whole women have it worse then men, withholding empathy in the name of feminism isn't gonna dismantle any systems of oppression, it's only goin…
@[Remarkable\_Job6765](/user/Remarkable_Job6765/) [OkSky5506](/user/OkSky5506/) I defs agree with acting like you have it, but I think a good middle ground is thinking of addressing the practical st…
Attached by Levine & Heller is quite a bad book imo (I have read it). It is extremely biased against the avoidant attachment style (calling people who have it "the avoidants" while no other nicknames …
This is extremely relatable for me too. I'm actually just learning about attachment theory now at 36, and reading about all the thoughts and behaviours and feelings common to anxious attachment style …
I'm 18. I'm barely an adult and these feelings I don't see myself getting rid of. Yes of course I crave that love, because no one ever gave it to me. Everyone that was supposed to, and everyone that I…
My unpopular opinion is that you’re not wrong. It can get complicated, especially the older we get. I ended things with someone because we didn’t have a romantic spark after a year. Other than that he…
It's been a tough time this past week. Last week I finally got around to starting to thrive in Sunny San Diego with a good handful of dates in January and more scheduled, spending time with family, bu…
Idk about the emotional availability comment. An emotional available person would not wait this long, a week of talking every day, to only tell you last night "Hey, btw, I'm moving 200+ miles away, bu…
I have it set to 100 miles+!
So I broke up with Mr. Called Me His Ex's Name after a year. The same one who seemed to not care when I was navigating a busted pipe situation last weekend. We talked for awhile on the phone, and I th…
Raise your hands if all the guys you have had sex with after being single come with some talk about how they are super confident, or are dominant, sexual af, really not looking for anything serious ju…