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I get why people use AI, but I would not recommend it. it's designed more to "yes, and" than actual therapeutic process and for some folks it can make things worse (and there's no accountability unlik…

DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

advice on how to be more playful while chatting on the apps? — I (38F) find that sometimes I get into this mode of chatting with folks on the apps where it’s not necessarily dry, but just sort of straight forward and earnest? “Oh that’s a cool hobby/travel spot/b…

How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…

Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP? — Put this in a few subs cause I’m starting to get curious about what’s going on with me. About six years ago, I experienced something unusual while lying in bed fully conscious but with my eyes closed…

Thinking Versus Meditating? — I have a question about meditation. I often like to sit down, close my eyes, and just be still. When I do that, I think a lot—I feel inspired and come up with ideas—but I’m starting to wonder if that’…

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

Energy block at base of skull — Since I started meditating about 1.5y ago, I've realized I seem to have a huge energy block at the base of my skull. I had energy work done once last summer, and she said that when she did the initial…

She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

You cannot fix them - you are not special — My ex always told me he’d give me the world, that I was his forever. I recently broke up with him after 2 years together even though it shattered me. I recently started reading the book, Out of Love…

My(32M) Ex wife(32F) might be stalking my wife(27F). Is it enough to be concerned? — A little bit of history between us. I was married to my ex wife let’s call her Jenn for 3 years and together for 5 (high school sweethearts). We both went to college at separate schools, but made our …

Another way of looking at reality — I was standing in my balcony just watching the moon when I saw a firecracker burst in the sky. About a second later, I heard the sound. That small gap messed with my head a bit. Because if I didn’t ha…

Seeing my family in astral projection: mind creation or real entities? — Hey everyone, I’d like to share something that’s been happening to me and hear your thoughts. Whenever I manage to leave my body with awareness, I usually get up from my bed. Many times the house is …

The Tragedy of the Chinese Music Industry (and Society) — If anyone's been following the recent controversy in China concerning singers Li Ronghao and Shan Yichun, you've probably seen the actually vile environment that is the Chinese internet (and Chinese s…

Saw my wife's phone from an over-the-shoulder POV, saw the word puzzle she was doing, suggested what she was currently typing as if it was my own answer — Title, basically, but I'll give more background. (I know it's April 1st but this is not an april fool or anything like that.) My wife and I were on the sofa. It was shortly after dinner and I was pl…

Small success — Hello! Today I wanted to share a small success from this week. I’m a tattoo artist and I had a client scheduled for this Saturday, but I realized I already had plans that I couldn’t cancel. So I decid…

On incubi and sexual possessions — It’s been five years since I first began sensing invisible entities around me. I underwent psychiatric treatment throughout all that time, and my life eventually stabilized. I finally got a good job a…

April 03, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…

I'm Suicidal About Looking Older (25F) — I realize most women have the insecurity of looking older but most I have come across look at in mild distaste. I can never know how deep they truly feel it but for me it is a case of life or death. T…

Astral projection is not an illusion of the mind — ​ Astral traveller is somebody who leaves this physical dimension behind, and establishes full waking conciousness, on another level of reality. and this level of reality is very real, its as …

Astral Projection to childhood home / the further? — New to this community, I'll get straight into it. Also involves something potentially paranormal? Idk. My parents are divorced, I had my mom's house which we had moved into later in my life, and m…

The Lady — I was eating breakfast with my brother in our breakfast nook when I felt a presence. Looking outside I saw a bright figure in my backyard. It looked like a glowing Lady in a white dress. I was drawn t…

Is this considered SA? — This is something I think about daily, and I really want to know if this counts or if I am just reading too much into it. When I was younger, probably about 9 or 10, I danced at this studio, that ha…

I was such a hardcore fan of sitting meditation that I once literally spat at my screen when I saw a post about lying-down meditation. But over the past six months, I’ve come to prefer meditating while lying down... — Last autumn, I was meditating 2–4 hours a day. That’s not even that much for me — there were months when I did 6–8 hours daily. I don’t use any complicated techniques; I just sit cross-legged on a sof…

Mom is Bound and Determined to Make My Entire Vacation Miserable — Especially my last day. That's fine. My realtor is working for me. But just in the first hour of this morning since I woke up at 7:30 a.m.: I need several minutes to wake up. She can't give me that.…

My (25F) boyfriend (30M) invited his parents to my masters graduation and then called me entitled and selfish after I said that it made me feel sad to hear that they felt awkward at the invite. — So my parents can’t make my graduation, so my boyfriend offered to bring his parents. They normally visit from France to New York three times a year to see him, so they would be moving their trip up b…

Weird head/body sensation + panic during meditation before sleep — Okay, so what I experienced was that earlier I was doing various things around the house, and then I wanted to lie down and sleep. So I went to kind of meditate: I put my left hand on my chest, closed…

5 Years Later: A Retrospective On Complimentary Dysfunctions — Hey everyone 👋🏽 Found this sub, looking to gather insight/feedback on what I currently experience as someone who lives with a trauma bond to a Narc - but also to share my findings, in hopes it enco…

My attempt at lucid dreaming — I've never really lucid dreamed in my entire life, yesterday i tried to for the first time. I saw a post here about what to do to trigger it, here's my experience: As I read i needed to put an alarm …

crippling nyctophobia — when i was a very young i was really scared of the dark. my parents knew this and they would punish me by forcing me to stay in the pitch black for as long as they could be bothered to keep me there, …

April 10, 2026 - Weekly FAQ and Beginner Q&A Thread | If you are new to Neville, please post your questions here! How do I manifest X? What does Y mean? — Feel free to ask any type of question on this thread. More importantly, feel free to answer questions that have been asked! Additionally, please refrain from posting multiple questions in the subredd…

I'm so ashamed of myself — I'm really sorry for the long post, I'm at my wits end and I just would really like some help. There are things I can't tell my family or strangers online because I feel so ashamed of my mistakes. Ev…

I (19M) made my partner (18NB) uncomfortable during our first visit and now they ended things how do I cope with the guilt? — I have been in a ldr with my ex-partner for about 2 and a half months but have been friends casually for some years, and actually close for the better part of six or seven months. We bonded fast becau…

broke up with my ex about a month or two ago, felt like sharing it — preamble: i had known this person for around 6 months beforehand, we went to school together and kind of just knew each other. let's call her Lica(not her real name). now, lica was very much obsesse…

was it shifting, or something else? — **I want to write this down here to don’t forget it.** For the last two days, I’ve been having strange dreams. In the first one, I saw people from the universe I want to get for. in the second dream,…

I’m struggling with jealousy and insecurity in my relationship because of weight changes, how do I work through this in a healthy way? — About a year and a half ago, both my boyfriend and I started gaining weight. Fast forward to now, and he’s pretty much back to his old physique, maybe even in better shape than before. Meanwhile, I’ve…

I 19f online cheated on my bf 28 M and I don’t know how to fix it — Edit - typo he is 18 not 28 OK, so the story has a lot to it. We have been dating for about nine months and he is genuinely the most perfect man I’ve ever known. He is the love of my life and I don’t…

How do I deal with not being able to get over someone I had intense eye contact with and shouldn't be with? I (F-30 (in my early 30's) and with a M-30 (late 30's) — I (early 30-F) met someone (late 30-M) last year. It was the strangest feeling. I first came to know of him through a picture on social media and when I saw him, I just knew he was my person. I knew n…

Dating makes me feel lonelier than just being single... — I've been single forever (with a few short affairs sprinkled in), due to wanting to work on myself first and being avoidant in my twenties. I wanted a boyfriend but I've also always felt a strong need…

the pain i feel — i hate how easily it was for you to truly forget me, i'm near 2 months now and i just don't even know what to do. i wanna talk to you and cry in your arms everyday but i can't and im just at home and …

Vision right before waking from a coma , AP? — Hi, about 3 years ago I overdosed and ended up in intensive care. I was in a coma for 3 days. Right before I woke up, I saw a very vivid vision. After I was discharged from the hospital, I even recre…

Yes, and that was clearly one of the most important aspects of your original post. Everyone who replied in the other comments ignored this, which is incredibly ridiculous. All members, respond to…

Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…

I disagree. Some avoidants will be good at hiding yes, and that's because in their avoidance + arrested emotional development, the initial playful energy will cause you to mirror and stop noticing the…

Im going to get down voted for this but the fearful avoidant bashing on here is rough to read. They needed healing yes, and are responsible for it but this text was raw, very vulnerable, and it cost h…

Yes, and I think I am able to feel that capacity because the relations are uncomplicated. They don't expect anything from me, so I don't get into situations where I feel pressured to give something I …

My reply is a little darker, and it's that both anxious AND avoidant-coded behaviors started to irritate me when I encountered them in the wild. I would say that I am much tolerant of attachment anxi…

Yes, and I'm afraid that figuring out "this shit isn't for me" would be all I will be left with at the end.

People post here because they're struggling with dating, it's not a representative view of the dating pool. There's also TONS of positive friendly people here. There's lots of people who struggle…

I was definitely ruined by my first big relationship. I walked into a party, we locked eyes, and I heard a voice in my mind say "oh, there she is!" She felt exactly the same. There was no guessing, no…

Yes, and now that I owe him a drink it'll be a good excuse to join him at the pub afterwards again! Just trying not to overthink things, considering we barely know each other 😅

Thanked coffee date guy for his invitation, but declined further invitation to dinner as I wasn’t feeling the connection, although I’m glad he’s moved back to my town, he’s a lovely guy. Feeling pret…

Honestly, I just let things fade, but it's not even intentionally. If I start to get turned off, that match will just start to fade from the forefront and I won't even think to go back to reply as of…

Yes! It becomes self refererential. Because grunge was having a moment, which was very west coast heroin, and which got filtered through the fashion lens of designers like marc jacobs (who got fired o…

Short answer yes, and it goes both ways. Saturn transiting through Aries is going to activate every natal Aries placement by conjunction, but it also aspects your cardinal placements by square and opp…

Yes, and either way, they are no longer dating and who they sleep with is no longer each other’s business

Yes, and please update us OP.

not my ex but his new friend “he didn’t cheat on you, i was 18 when we met so that would be weird as fuck” (my ex was 23 then) it was emotional cheating i think. he admitted to jerking off to their…

Yes, and it’ll bring about a new journey. The mind typically mirrors the body, so if it’s chaotic, then your nervous system and body is probably feeling chaotic and anxious. The best way to calm the…

During astral projection - A sentient sun and collections of smaller orbs. Also Norse gods (Loki, Sigyn and as mad as it sounds, my oversoul), Michael (possibly the archangel), human looking beings wh…

I like to see smiles, Eyes, And warmth from a photo. I.e. don't frown, wear is sunglasses or be too serious in all your photos. I also like to know a little bit about him and his interests. I.e. no…

I like it when someone has passions in life. Hobbies and things that keep them going. I’m also drawn to someone who is positive and upbeat. I like it when they answer the prompts with information that…

Ive encountered 4 different greys. Mantis beings. A cat like humanoid, a female spiritual human that looked identical to humans but was in a spiritual body, a being that takes form in pure consciousne…

Yes, and that's why they have a lot of training that helps them understand how to remain objective, because discharging a patient is serious and potentially damaging to the patient. If, as a therapist…

Yes, and I’d like to add that narcissists see keeping up their end of the deal as completely optional.

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Yes, and no matter what I do it is never enough. Can't hold a job? Nah it cannot possibly be because employers have totally unreasonable standards for new employees yet hire and promote their lazy an…

The more of this stuff I see the more I wonder whether we’re genuinely seeing something or if it’s a shared delusion. Like how people on LSD constantly report seeing eyes, and how eyes are the univers…

>IRL I’m very playful and bring “yes, and!” energy and that’s an important part of what I’m looking for in a partner, but have a hard time assessing for that in text This is my biggest pet peeve wit…

I've been saying this for a while now, western standards are actually more friendly to the natural asian male phenotype while at the same time the entire culture is still racist toward asian men. Man…

Yes, and I’ve been practicing but still learning.

Yes, and I’ve carried it on since Covid is over too. I got used to not interacting with people and it has been the most peaceful six years of my life.

Yes, and 95% of the time I love this.

Yes, and while you're learning to trust your gut, it's also good practice to have rules for yourself and boundaries for new people. Set boundaries that will weed out abusive and manipulative behavior,…

Yes, and this was applicable to all areas of life - him making a mess for me to pick up. Cooking and food was a hot-button issue for a number of other reasons as well. I was just thinking about how he…

Yes, and also Om Japa - in Kriya Yoga you learn these sound frequencies like you do with singing…but internally - how to use your mind to make your body resonate at those frequencies - the bowls are m…

Yes, and they also completely changed their personality to be more similar to AP even after the affair. My guess, after talking with a lot of people who have survived infidelity, is that people who …

Yes, and with good reason. I'm a cis man, but i take gender studies very seriously. The problem is that we have a culture that inundates men and boys with extremely toxic traits and frames it as "masc…

In Japan, there are plenty of people, maybe around half, who have double eyelids and larger eyes, and there are also people with straight noses. There’s a lot of mixed heritage(Yayoi/Jomon), so none o…

1. A few months in, I'd had a vasectomy, I flew the day after my surgery to go see her, that was a really dumb thing to do. I had a ton of swelling and pain, and 3 days post surgery she started coming…

Yes, and for the first time ever I’m so okay with that

Yes, and I prefer to imagine it, and get back to enjoying my life as a single woman. I was planning on staying single after my finance died suddenly in 2022. I was in grief and shock. It was so painfu…

Yes, and I'll make sure of it, too. I will never put myself onbthr line only to have my heart trampled ever again.. no woman will ever think she has that advantage ever again!

Mate, I have to be honest with you... This post and these comments, do not read like you liked or respected her very much. Sure, I believe you love her, I believe you care about her, and I believe tha…

Yes, and those who need help the most are usually the ones no one wants to help. It's a cruel world.

I’m not sure if you’re saying you’re supposed to be able to calm down with help, or you’re supposed to be able to help someone calm down. Either way: Yes, and some people get so disregulated that even…

Yes, and I've been like this since I was a kid. I did have one pretty severely authoritarian parent and a pretty heartless Catholic school experience that was very oppressive and destructive to my sel…

Skincare goes a loooooooong way. Generalizing a slight bit but korean women know their skincare chit. Dated someone looking 30s when shes 42... conversely dated someone looking 40s but shes 35. Not sa…

The "yes, and" instinct is actually your advantage here - you just need something to riff off. What works for me is picking the weirdest or most specific detail in their profile and going somewhere u…

That's 100% a discard there, you see the person you know and love get deleted in front of your eyes, and what's left is a hollow the person you knew, its freaky as hell honestly. The worst of it is t…

Yes, and this has been so heavy on my mind today. Thank you for posting, it's cathartic to read. I hate it when my parents say they wish people just expressed their emotions more and just put it all…