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If you really want to understand it, I highly recommend the book "chasing the scream". It's a really thorough and crazy insightful deep dive into the drug war from its beginnings all the way back in t…

Transition into a different role — Career Summary Masters in Design got me campus placed in a MNC. 2 years of UX in enterprise and I did an internal switch. Although my role is of UX Designer, the scope of work I do is mostly with educ…

A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…

Why are they always convinced they've won even when they've lost? — I'm married to a narc, and I am always flummoxed by how delusional she is about victory. "HAH I got him to leave the room and end the conversation I didn't want to have about how I won't have anywhe…

Literally Crying Right Now — I have been going through so much and struggling to stay positive. This morning I decided fuck this..I have the power to change this. I’m shifting my mindset and I’m not going to feel stressed or depr…

My therapist is distracted, does the dishes and drives during our phone sessions... — This is mostly a vent but I would love some thoughts/ advice on a nagging issue I've been having with my therapist since Covid started (and currently). I have been seeing her every 2 weeks without…

How do I restore my dignity after getting played and lowering myself too much for someone? — Someone persued me and as soon as I reciprocated they abandoned me. I ended up chasing them and they acted in really horrible mean ways and Im afraid I lowered myself in the moment but I wasn't aware …

07/2013 — I may have finally found a place to talk about my experience, but if this doesn't belong here, I'm sorry and please point me in the right direction to another thread. First, thank you to anyone who …

Day 14 - tell me what I'm doing wrong here??? — day 14, still undefeated my this cig war I feel powerful but I feel hollow let me explain whenever I feel sad whenever I feel anxious whenever I feel things are not going my way cig is what p…

I just watched a video on how ADHD makes us prime targets for abusive/narcissistic behavior, and I feel so defeated. — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I really need to vent and see if anyone else here with CPTSD and ADHD has experienced this. I just finished watching a video by a creator named Danish Bashir a…

1 Year After My Breakup: The Honest Reality & What you can expect — **1 Year After My Breakup: The Honest Reality** A little over a year ago, my 4-year relationship ended out of nowhere. I’m 27M, she was 25F. One night we had dinner, watched a movie, everything felt…

I didn’t know what to say when my friend broke down — I have a very close friend, basically family, going through a divorce right now. Most of the time he sounds fine. He vents about his ex and says he’s relieved it’s almost over. You would think he is …

Couples therapy, left on the low — I need some advice from licensed professionals. I am having personal therapy today and I’ll ask her as well but I just need to get this out into the void and see where the ethics land. Last night my…

After a month of peace, my heart palpitations suddenly came back – I feel defeated — Hi everyone, I’m writing this because I feel completely defeated and honestly very alone right now. For some background, I’ve struggled for a long time with heart palpitations and extrasystoles (tha…

A case for "It will come" instead of "It is done." — In my manifestation journey, majority of my successful ones were done with the approach "It will come" instead of the "it is done" mindset that is stressed so much here. Neville writes that saying "i…

I broke no contact with my ex this week. Here's some things that have helped me — After being with my now ex-boyfriend for nearly 2 years and getting ghosted last week, I broke no contact with him last night. I did get a response, but I didn't read much into it. It was just that he…

Update: I finally got the job!!!! 🧿☺️ — *It’s going to be a long post so sit tight hehe* Hello everyone I am sure some of you may remember my post from around 5/6 months ago complaining about how I felt defeated and wanted to manifest a j…

Manipulative ex might get everything he wants — Been married 10 years, was together for 15. About 5 years ago I finally realized how controlling and manipulative he was. He was emotionally abusive to me and his kids, talking down to us, constantly …

my (m30) bf is convinced I don’t take care of myself (25f) because I don’t eat meat — This has been going on since I can remember. We have been together for 9 months, moved in together after 2 months knowing each other- very fast moving & loving relationship. I have never lived with a …

29F 32M Fiancé and I got into life altering fight — My fiancé (32M) and I (29F) got into a massive, horrible fight last night. It started from something so small and unrelated, then blew up into something massive. Basically we fought and I felt blame…

[26M] Ready to date after a confidence-wrecking 5-year LDR, but apps are completely silent. Am I doing something wrong? — TL;DR: 26M out of a 5-year LDR is getting zero matches and feeling invisible on dating apps. Seeking advice on what women look for in profiles, good opening messages, and how to shake off the "rust" o…

Is it too late for me? — Is it possible to start over and change at 30? I used to be a bad person due to substance issues and an abusive childhood. I was forced to take medication at 12 years old, and then given addictive pil…

(35M) partner is working on his condescending behaviour - but I'm (32F) still struggling when it happens. How do I deal with this? — My partner (32M) and I (33M) have been together around 3.5 years, living together for 1 years. Since we moved in together, we've had issues around his condescending & overcorrecting behaviour. I reali…

I think I need to cut off my dad, i believe he has been inappropriate with me. — He was always a very abusive unpredictable person. as a child i thought he would maybe kill me one day. I dont want to go into all details of my whole life other than this specific issue. im not sure …

Do golden children have some sort of hypnosis spell? — There is absolutely no other reason why a 61-year-old man (my uncle) would be able to come to his parents’ house, start yelling, screaming and cussing at them because they don’t know where his new ins…

Read this if you’re feeling worthless after being broken up with — I’ve read this in Jorge Bucays book: Let me tell you a story. It has helped me tremendously when my self worth was at it’s lowest after being discarded. It’s a great reminder that the right person wil…

I know what to do, I’m just sad — My girlfriend (24F) broke up with me (27M) about 2 weeks ago. We had only been dating for 5 months, but we were serious. Spent many many days at her parents’ place (she lives at home), they loved me, …

im the only person who stood up against them and its just made my life worse — I didn’t realize that the abuse I experienced was not “normal” by my parents until I got older. I was told my dad couldn’t help himself and my mother always said she would abuse me because she “loved …

26f 27m Tired of arguing about chores — 26f 27m together almost 11 years now I’m tired of feeling like the chores are never done. Is it unfair to expect my bf to do more chores since he works less and I have to commute to work. It’s like w…

23F Will I have a successful career? — I’m in law school right now in the US. Feeling very defeated, no matter how hard I try no matter how much work I put in it just seems like I’m not succeeding. I am so incredibly passionate about the l…

Am I the problem...? — I was asking my mom if we should visit the bird that I need to take care of, and she was like "bird?" and i said, "the bird," and she said "what bird?" and i said "The bird!" and exclaimed it, like fr…

Please help me — This is going to be long and I’m already expecting no one to respond. I’ve posted before and no one does. But I’m desperate and just hope someone cares enough to help in literally any way whether it’s…

I completely understand. Although I feel my reasons for getting upset and the needs that preceded me getting upset and "acting crazy" are valid. My reactions and inability to think through the situati…

I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …

Brother, listen closely. What you’re facing isn’t weakness — it’s a battle you’ve been fighting for years, and the fact that you’re still here, still searching for healing, already proves your stre…

Feeling defeated today. Broke up with my 4 year partner before Christmas and it’s been awful. The emptiness at family dinners has felt like torture.Yet self inflicted. Today is my birthday and it’s be…

Sometimes I truly pride myself on how well I keep it together. My hyper independence in the eyes of someone who depends on people around them always looks like a giant red flag but honestly, my hyper …

Here's my thoughts after being on this subreddit for a while, and I am someone who has been daily practicing for the past 8+ months with no physical results. 1. Maladaptive daydreaming proves that ma…

I just feel defeated. My friends “encouraged” me to try this local speed dating series after me telling them it’s literally just IRL OLD. After 3 separate sessions I got 0 matches. I just don’t know…

The womb broom is undefeated

Well, I’m nearing the two-month mark since I (31m) deleted all my apps, ended the situationships that weren’t going anywhere, and took my usual winter break to mentally recover from OLD burnout. Despi…

I am so done with trying to find someone, I am only 28 and will be 29 this year, I have a lot of time to find someone. Yes it does suck that people make fun of me for being single and never having a …

I get it. Trust me I have the same issue was hoping to meet a guy at co ed volleyball (I’m 29) and they were all already taken or gay I felt very defeated. I’m relay early into a new relationship off…

Still not over the awful second date I had on Saturday. [Here if anyone wants to read](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/s/iRxa59vN0R) Feeling super defeated and actually feels like I'm going …

I feel so defeated. This last month, I've been really putting myself out there. I've dated someone who led me on. I've done speed dating and had no matches. I've been swiping like crazy. I've just ha…

I spent the majority of my life feeling like the world was out to get me. That it was too hard. Too painful. Unjust. This defeated me. It did so by removing motivation to try at all. I did what I had …

I hear you. Let me explain it like this for that situation. Someone is attacking you. The event is already occurring. It is stressful. The stress is there and good luck ever getting rid of stress. …

Pretty much exactly the conversation I had this morning. It does make you feel so defeated and disposable.

Please take care of yourself . I can feel you . I am also experiencing the same . After days of research , I finally found he is fearful avoidant. I am even willing to support him in this if he is rea…

Maybe she's right and has tried all her therapy tricks to get it through your head it is defeated at this point. That doesn't excuse it but that's what I always think when I have a problem with a ther…

Your story broke my heart because I can feel the self-hatred and pain in your words. There’s some very good news here though, which is that you’re self-aware and have great insight into your behavior.…

It’s incredibly difficult to see right now, but him blocking you was the best thing he ever could’ve done for you. You don’t want breadcrumbs with no commitment or life to follow..you don’t want half …

Just got back from seeing a FWB. we only met two weeks ago but had crazy chemistry so we’ve been texting and hooking up since (I’m gay so this is not uncommon lol). Definitely got giddy every time I s…

Shower thought: over the years, dinner and dancing at my place or hers is basically undefeated on the list of go-to ideas for a simple, fun-filled date experience.

I just want to find someone else that's financially independent from their family and/or exes and I'm starting to feel defeated. 

I’ve been taking a break from dating. It’s been single for the better part of 3 years. The connection was just never there and then I got overwhelmed by the negative people in the world. But I miss …

Feeling a bit defeated. I live on a small island and the numbers game is definitely not in my favor here. But at least I’m finally overcoming my previous social anxiety and I’m actually confident with…

Welp, here I am again deciding between paying for a week of Hinge X and taking a break from the apps. Feeling defeated but don't want to give up!

I feel like im in a similar situation. He was the one, a true soul connection. Left with no real conversation and said goodbye and never looked back. Made the decision a few days before as his text gr…

I made a post about this recently!! I work in a very female dominated career and I myself am a 43/f. Went to a work happy hour and while I know my coworkers pretty well, they don't know the nitty-grit…

He knows. He doesn't care. The only thing that stops it is extreme embarrassment or divorce. My step-dad did this. CONSTANTLY. It made my mother nuts. They had all the talks you've mentioned. Fin…

As of recently I have been learning and leaning more into stoicism. Upon some of my readings I stumbled upon this Reddit thread. Your post was the first one I saw and read. This past weekend (March 21…

If you're comprehending each sentence and enjoying the experience, I would say there is benefit. If fatigue sets in after a couple of pages, then you're being defeated by it. But if you continue in an…

You aren’t slow. I was with my ex for 23 years and she did this more and more as time went on. When you don’t know how to recognize this pattern you continue to try to be heard in a rational way. For …

Please read my post from a few days ago [Linked here](https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/s/9a9dquaqSh) A couple of months ago I was still in the same place you are, things changes in a matte…

I went on 2 dates with a woman 10 years older than me. Our conversations flowed so well in person and online. Things were looking so good and I felt that we were aligned in almost every conceivable wa…

my heart is pure and my love is true, i cannot be defeated !!

Idk. I am in the same situation, I fought it, induced fear in it by imagining breaking it in half, etc. It is like a goauld parasite called arkhon. The thing is when I thought I defeated it, it came b…

Thank you for your kind words🫂🧡 Luckily I have *few* people irl who see it (so far one flying monkey said I should get away from my “mom”, while simultaneously saying everyone else in the family too…

Thank you. It hurts so deeply. Worst part is my boyfriend told me that this was what was best for me even though I didnt see it. Turns out he had already met this girl before he broke up with me. He…

I took him back twice, and got dumped twice. More fool me, I guess. He approached me about getting back together a third time before I knew I had to follow my head over heart. It’s so weird even whe…

Your husband is trying to connect with you and find things you’d feel good in and that he’d enjoy seeing you in. You complain enough to turn him off permanently. It’s not a Madonna complex, it’s him f…

Yes my sibling became a total monster when my Edad got sick and forced my dad to give him everything. My dad tried to set up a trust that  included me but my brother wouldn’t let go through with it - …

Plenty enough. Its all in how you carry yourself and how you interact with people around you. Cant be out there with your head down, looking defeated. Climate is different post covid too and with ever…

Having one of those down, defeated, lonely days.  I have to get out of bed and I have to get my body moving. 

I was in a similar situation. I finally left when someone asked me: if everything changed tomorrow, if he went to therapy, worked to grow and meet each other’s needs, suddenly paid enough attention to…

If I recall, Neville told a story of his nephew being in a hospital bed and Neville himself did some sort of astral projection to get into that child’s body, which his sister(the child’s mom) then saw…

I have a similar experience. Both my parents are the type to bite people's heads off at the slightest provocation, need to always have the last word, and don't know how to get their point across witho…

I lived this for a few years until my partner snapped and decided to finally came clean about what i believe to be just one his indiscretions. For a while i had this feeling that he had done somethi…

Sounds like you’re better off without him. I know it may be hard but I hope you come to a better place. Remember that with Easter Christ rose from the dead and defeated sin and death and brought salva…

I feel so much of what you’re feeling. The optimism you feel when you meet someone you click with. A potential friend to go and do fun things with. Then all of the sudden everything inside feels all w…

No way around a financial mess, but at the end of the day it’s just numbers.  It kills me to lose daily access to the kids, but right now I just feel defeated. I cannot believe a human being could ha…