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Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…
Read this if you have doubts about manifestation — Why do you even doubt it? Just why? Do you think manifestation is something illogical, supernatural, and difficult? It absolutely isn’t. It’s something you’ve been doing your whole life unconsciousl…
Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP? — Put this in a few subs cause I’m starting to get curious about what’s going on with me. About six years ago, I experienced something unusual while lying in bed fully conscious but with my eyes closed…
I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…
Manifestation Isn’t Peaceful… It’s War With Yourself. — I’m gonna say something most people won’t tell you about manifestation because everyone loves the pretty version of it. It’s not always calm, peaceful, “I trust the universe 🧘🏻♀️” type shit. Some…
I (20M) broke up with my (20F) girlfriend and now regret it. How can I rebuild trust and potentially fix things? — So for context, me and my now ex (we'll call her Jessica) had been together for 10 months prior to the breakup. The relationship was going great until about 5 months in, when Jessica and her family mo…
Why is therapy so expensive? — Genuine question, like I understand why psychiatrists are expensive, they can do surgical procedures, and recipe medications, which I also understand why they cost so much, but why is basic sit down a…
cPTSD after Narcissistic Abuse — I’ve had abuse all my life. I’m now 43 and have been diagnosed with cPTSD and I feel pretty awful. Been a year since I blocked ex with NPD. It was hell at first and I’m so pleased I stuck to it (still…
PSA: do NOT read “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn — Multiple trigger warnings for brief mentions of abuse, gaslighting, suicide, etc. It occurred to me that I forgot to make the post about why survivors shouldn’t read this book. Better late than neve…
PSA: do NOT read “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn — r/CPTSD doesn’t allow crossposting so I’m making a second post here. Multiple trigger warnings for brief mentions of abuse, gaslighting, suicide, etc. It occurred to me that I forgot to make the po…
14 Years misdiagnosed with schizophrenia. — In 2012 I was diagnosed with schizophrenia, recently I've felt my episodes are a result of stress, and I noticed they are pre-empted by trauma memories surfacing. For years every time i tried to talk …
The reason “just start” doesn’t work and what the research says to do instead — I think a lot of self-improvement advice fails because it misunderstands how motivation actually works. The standard advice is: set a goal, break it into steps, build discipline, execute. And for som…
Am I being unreasonable toward narc mom? — Sorry for the long post! I am 28 years old (F) and my husband and I are expecting our first child together (I am 28 weeks). For context, my mother has been living with us since 2022, but she’s lived w…
SA Survivor: How do you handle the urge to crossdress and 'lose control' when stress gets too high? — ​ Hi everyone. Using a throwaway account here for privacy. Just looking for some advice or hoping to hear I'm not the only one who goes through this. I'm an adult guy with a really demandin…
Usually most people are a little bit chill and collected in the first few weeks of meeting each other. There are no global standards or benchmarks, but if you’re looking for general guidance maybe som…
To the more anxious person everything is seemingly logical, reasonable, genuine & considerate, but to everyone else it’s exhausting & screams over-pursuing (e.g., “hey just checking in to see how your…
There is no such thing as “the smartest business to start today”. There are trends, opportunities, needs and problems to solve. It’s difficult to future-proof businesses these days with the constant v…
I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…
This is an interesting question, and if I understood you correctly you are asking if my subconcious belief/faith has risen? Well I have to preface this reply with one nuance. I discovered manifestin…
It sounds like you're disowning and shunning your negative feelings. Since they don't seem logical, you're pushing them away. But they're not going to be logical. They're probably the result of repres…
...because I was busy managing the pain of feeling stabbed no matter what I did? If I lied down and put pressure on my back, it hurt like hell. Then it hurt trying to move to lie down on one side. …
So… I have dated someone with DID before. Dissociative Identity Disorder. In these individuals, when anything even remotely stressful happens; they will quite literally turn into a different person. L…
I hate to tell you this….and it’s not really something you want to hear right now. But your negative thoughts are connected to the fact that you are abandoning yourself by holding on to this relations…
That feeling is enough. You don’t need a logical, rational reason. He can check all your boxes on paper. But it all comes down to how you feel when you are with him and how you feel about the relati…
It’s the opposite! CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) can fix avoidant personality disorder in like two years tops, and that’s at the extreme end of avoidance. If I had to describe my experience: I ac…
Man I’ve been there. “I’m going to hurt my own feelings by shutting this person out so they don’t hurt my feelings!” It sounds illogical, but the fear is real.
I think almost definitionally, someone unaware of their attachment style or attachment theory isn't gonna know what's going on and will see their deactivation as a normal reaction to the circumstance …
This! OP, your husband is not telling you the truth. He does not have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). And while bizarre neurological cases are technically within the realm of physical possibilit…
I've been realizing it routinely for the last six years. I was really close to death at the start of the pandemic with multiple chronic diseases. I decided I have to get as healthy as possible. It too…
It sounds as if the husband is possibly Asexual, but he also may have an abnormally low sex drive. There can be physical, pharmalogical, mental, emotional, or medical reasons why. Or there may be n…
I’m not convinced that “open contact” is something ordinary people can actively push closer. Throughout history, encounters with unknown phenomena — whether spiritual, psychological, or something else…
I think so too, but then narcissists are not logical, my mom took the majority of my pay for years and made me do all the domestic labour and then wanted me to send her $600 a month for a year after I…
Yes, I agree this is how the book is meant to work. But I see a common misunderstanding in your post. You actually don’t master outer intent (even in RT) by reducing importance, though reducing imp…
By your logical, celibacy is also ENM, because it’s not monogamy and it’s ethical. ENM is a term of art, it doesn’t just mean anyone who is not in a monogamous relationship.
My dad had a vasectomy before I was born and still didn’t have this much trouble accepting I was his. He’s definitely in denial and will probably ruin your entire relationship before you even get to…
I've said it before and I'm sure there'll be another dozen opportunities to say this again in the future: **You'll NEVER see them do this to Black people.** Imagine the same exact setting only in a m…
I gave you a break down of the legal framework with not only from a sociological, psychological but also including jurisprudence. I did not once deflect from the topic at hand which is "consent during…
>gave you a break down of the legal framework with not only from a sociological, psychological but also including jurisprudence What I meant is that the way you wrote the message it's very difficult …
I think you can pronably be cautiously optimistic but continue to be watchful. Go to marriage counseling before your next kid. Otherwise I would bet money on him doing the exact same thing. Men feelin…
This is a you issue. You are picking people who are dysfunctional consistently and then wasting time in those relationships. Not trying to be mean or pick on you by saying that, but rather be supporti…
I don’t dispute that it exists. I have personally had words with people who have used that brother line. I’ve always thought that it was stupid, illogical, and likely a product of internalized hate. …
Are there not things you talk about with only your girl friends that you would not discuss in mixed company? You created this issue by attempting to insert yourself into his safe space where he and h…
48M. It might be physiological, psychological or a mix of both. Modern diet / lifestyle means that lots of people these days have endocrine issues and/or are out of shape, which can cause ED. Toward…
Sure ask my anything :). I don't blame you I find it disgusting the amount of garbage I throw out but I'm barely surviving as it is. Minimalism is very appealing to me and we have accidentally create…
This was explained so well, thank you for spelling it out so clearly! It is a never-ending circular argument with men with these views, because the views themselves (that men are more logical, are m…
Psychology research and experts generally agree that while men and women share more similarities than differences, consistent behavioral disparities exist in certain areas. Modern psychology views the…
I see what you mean and agree with most parts except that for sociopaths their empathy deficiency isn't neurological, whereas for psychopaths it is. And about narcissists, having empathy and cognitive…
> Has anyone experienced anything similar? Yes, I have, and I've read many similar accounts in this sub over the past 15 years. Calling these experiences hallucinations works for some people. I t…
I'm going to be really blunt. This is never going to work. And if anything, it's on you that it's taken 8 years to figure this out--and you still haven't figured it out, really. You're asking people o…
There’s a condition in human awareness that’s kind of pathological, but people don’t talk about it much. In one sentence, it means this: “Accuse them of what you do.” A thief always suspects someo…
Right?! 🤣 Was just so interesting and novel! This is the thing, ultimately it’s a Law of the universe, whether we’re consciously doing it or not it’s happening, we’ve just given it a name and in som…
I agree with you completely, and I advise you to stay off of this subreddit because lately, in these circles, a lot of people have started talking about this idea that you shouldn't want to win the lo…
I am going to try this. I totally did not think about this. It is weird to me that I am the advanced age I am and in a situation where I am being forced to confront: my tools do not work. My tools of…
I think there are multiple reasons why it takes years, or even decades, to realize that you've been abused. The first reason that I see is a developemental one. As a baby, your world is incredibly …
So many men have this thing where they irrationally believe anything *they* think is logical, simply by virtue of the fact that they thought it. They have no understanding of even the definition of lo…
I think this place is hell. So you're a spiritual being who receives human life as punishment, and that life can be dramatic, regardless of whether you're 5 or 85. Hell is a place of constant sufferin…
Yes, we agree that the problem is guys who hear "I'm working on a problem" and their brain completely short circuits to "how can I make this about me and my ego". Saying "he doesn't realize he's obliv…
idk what people are talking about with ‘values’ but i would urge you to hear them out completely before considering that message. i noticed that none of the people mentioning values have yet to specif…
I grew up with a best friend that was honest to a fault and she was constantly nitpicking differences between our families, both positive and negative (at least from her perspective). As much as it bo…
I have removed your comment. Writing ONLY "go NC" or "leave ASAP" in your comments is actually less helpful than one realises, because it doesn't tell that person **how**. It doesn't tell them wha…
I have no insight into this, because I am dealing with the same thing. The vindictive cruelty, the malice, the threats, the absolute Insanity of his inability to acknowledge any responsibility on his …
It seldom us logical, reasonable or appropriate, they are actually psychopaths that only care for their own happiness. We just end up as collateral damage.
I do the over-explaining bit, especially when I am trying to guess the context for specific 1-2-3 style instructions. “You were passing cables through the cabinet under the tv, and then you said to …
Physical abuse is *also* emotional and psychological abuse. Plus a lot of extra stuff, because being hit and not being able to get away from it means the person is also trapped in the situation, one w…