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Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…
Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…
What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…
Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…
I doubted and spiraled for weeks. It happened anyway. — I manifested something exactly as I had imagined it. The strange part is that before it happened, I spent weeks convinced I had ruined it. I was manifesting spending a specific holiday with someone. …
my "method" to manifest everything — I got into manifestation back in 2025. I studied a lot of techniques, rules, and read so many books about the law of attraction and all that stuff. And honestly? I heard millions of rules about manife…
A simple example of how narcissists create no win situations. — My fil is a narcissistic abuser. I want to mention he did MUCH worse things than what I’m depicting below. But the example is so simple I wanted to share for people who maybe stuck in similarly confus…
The one trait that predicts narcissism more reliably than anything else — I spent years trying to figure out why some people drain everything around them while others don't. After a lot of research and painful personal experience, I found one principle that predicts it more…
I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…
Why The Universe "Punishes" Excitement — I think it's actually quite simple. When you feel excited for something, what usually happens is the anticipation of getting that thing is usually a better feeling than actually having that thing. So …
Manifested all four things using a list method (With Proof) — I have shared about my February list manifestation here, too. This is for between March 10-20. The interview offer was the most insane one because I hadn't gotten to hear from them for two weeks, and …
Easiest way to Lucid Dream — I’ll keep this short and simple. Stay awake all day. No naps. Do whatever you normally do all day. Do not think about sleep until you are at the point where you’re struggling to keep your eyes open, …
You need to sit down and imagine NOW! — I get a good amount of DM's from SP posts/comments I've made complaining about their SP and how their SP "is" (as if it is some immutable characteristic). Do you see what you are doing?! You are just…
Apartment — This is something of a long story. I'll do the TL;DR up front. I've finally gotten housing, the apartment is beautiful. It's in the heart of a small city, in an ideal location for myself and my son. I…
No need to overthink it — When it comes to getting your desires, we tend to overthink them at times. “Does this really work? Will it happen? When will it happen? Do I need to do xyz to get my desires? What if what if what if.”…
I realized I couldn’t stay 10 seconds without checking my phone. — The other day I noticed something a bit uncomfortable. I had a free moment — nothing to do, nothing to watch — and I immediately reached for my phone. Almost automatically. So I tried something si…
How to visualize effortlessly and vividl — I want to keep it simple. Visualization should not be difficult. You should enjoy it. I often tried to force visualization to generate a feeling. But forcing visualization means you are trying to se…
My boyfriend (23M) keeps asking me (23F) to change how I dress because of other men, and I don’t know how to handle it. — So me (23F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for about two years. When we first met, he actually liked the way I dressed and would compliment me. But once he started taking me more seriously,…
Need help with my life — ​ Hi guys, this is going to be a long one, please check the TL;DR at the end if needed. I’m a 20M in the final days of my computer science degree, and honestly, I feel like everything is mess…
discussion] Has anyone compared their chart to the actual sky? — Hey—this isn’t meant to start an argument, I’m just genuinely curious about other people’s experiences. I recently tried something simple. I opened a sky app (like SkyMap), entered location and birt…
I want her back but I am scared of loving her again — I know a lot of people here want their ex back and I am one of them. I miss her more than I can even explain. Some days it feels like a part of me is still with her and I cannot get it back. But at t…
First time making moon water. How to make cleansing spray? — I'd like to keep it simple so I dont overthink it. it just would love it to cleanse my home everyday. I am open to adding some crystals, essential oils. bonus points if you recommend a shop to buy the…
Read this if you're miserable and want your ex back. — # Your ex won't come back until you've COMPLETELY let go of them. ...and it's not gonna take 30 days of No Contact. I wish it was that simple. Let me explain how I've come to this conclusion while …
I can't stop thinking about what I did to deserve this. I've been cheated on so many times in my life. What's wrong with me??? — (I changed some details and names for privacy reasons,) My ex-fiancé and I were together for just over three and a half years. We got together in 2020 when I was 19 and he was 20. I’m 25 now, a trans…
How to manifest that’s practical and simple. — You do not need to try to manifest. You are already doing it!! You are manifesting all of the time! The key difference is whether you are being intentionally with it. We create our results through o…
Your future is shaped by who you are being NOW — Who we are being now is what creates our future. Want to know what will happen in the future? Simple. Look at who you are being now. What are you doing now? What are you feeling now? That's going to s…
My husband threw my childhood trauma in my face during an argument. Something feels broken and I don’t know what to do. — I don’t even know where to start. I’ve never posted here before. I just need to hear from people who’ve been through something like this. Some context first. I (F27) grew up with a narcissistic abusi…
Finally got the motivation to improve myself — I used to drag myself into a deep hole, full of self criticizm and avoidance. Due to a harsh childhood and several health problems and stress in university, I have made myself feel like the problem, w…
I’m so confused 🥺 — Okay, so I’ve been wanting to start manifesting, and I’ve realized that the reason I’m struggling is because I don’t believe, and this is where I get confused.. a lot of people say “You have to believ…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED PART 2 AND 3 - GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESSSS!) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need y…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED **PART 2 AND 3** \- GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESS) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME) — THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!- **IT WAS/IS ALWAYS YOU** Never me , nor anyone else. No post in here could make you get all your desires, no coach could teach ya all that you wanna know about…
THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! - PART 3 - IT'S YOU! (NOT ME) — THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!- **IT WAS/IS ALWAYS YOU** Never me , nor anyone else. No post in here could make you get all your desires, no coach could teach ya all that you wanna know about…
I can’t stop thinking about my ex even though he hurt me badly. How do I actually cope? — I honestly feel like I’m losing my mind and I don’t know how to cope with this breakup. He technically broke up with me in December, but it was over the phone right after I had gone to visit him for …
Quarter life crisis? — Genuinely I wish I was joking but has anyone experienced this? I’m female early 30’s and I’m just spiralling about current and future. It’s giving me such anxiety and honestly making me depressed and …
Feeling stressed and overwhelmed — Hey everyone, I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately with everything going on this semester, so I started trying to take a few minutes each day to reset instead of ignoring it. One thing that has…
*Repost* Old OrionDirectorate post (prior username change) — Hello everyone, I found this success story interesting. I hope others do too, especially the ones seeking the financial aspects of manifesting. **For those new here, I'd like to clarify once more tha…
Therapy is not going well, I don't know what to ask for or where to redirect sessions. — I came here seeking advice for a different path to try or how to ask for or seek the right help, even if it's outside of therapy. This post grew and grew as I found myself struggling to describe what …
Getting back into it — Glad to report that, following increasingly bad mental health and lots of resigned chess games online, I returned last night to my favourite meditation teacher Ajahn Brahm, for a 30 minute guided medi…
Why the hell is falling in love so stressful? Is it just me, am I (31F) avoidant? I absolutely hate all this anxiety, but I also want him so badly and feel so amazing when I'm with him. (42M) — I genuinely don’t know if this is love, trauma, or me being avoidant/anxious, but this situation is messing with my head. I had a really bad breakup last year. He cheated, blocked me, the whole thing…
There is something so uniquely special about Dissociative drugs — There are some people who, when reading the title of this post, IMMEDIATELY understand what I'm talking about without me even going into detail. I'm not sure what the hell it is, but my god is it so w…
what’s something you wish people were more honest about when it comes to breakups? — i feel like most advice is always “move on,” “focus on yourself,” or “time heals everything” which is true, but also… it’s not that simple. some days feel okay, and then out of nowhere it hits again l…
“Respect your parents” hits different when you were scared of them your whole childhood. — I’m 30 years old. For most of my life, I thought my childhood was normal. I thought the heavy feeling inside me was just how life is. Now I’m starting to understand it wasn’t normal. And it wasn’t m…
My Mom thinks she knows all because she fucking older than me and when I try to have a conversation she always wants It to be simple. — I Know a lot about stuff in the world and whenever the conversation is about something serious, so when I try to be exact, she thinks I'm being rude this goes the same when I'm trying to express emoti…
I am stucken in my head — I (M20) have been in my head for a while trying to make sense of everything, but it just feels chaotic. I’ve had two important relationships that felt completely different. With my first ex (ex1), e…
PSA: do NOT read “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn — Multiple trigger warnings for brief mentions of abuse, gaslighting, suicide, etc. It occurred to me that I forgot to make the post about why survivors shouldn’t read this book. Better late than neve…
PSA: do NOT read “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn — r/CPTSD doesn’t allow crossposting so I’m making a second post here. Multiple trigger warnings for brief mentions of abuse, gaslighting, suicide, etc. It occurred to me that I forgot to make the po…
Tips to stay consistent with meditation? — I first learned how to meditate when I was 20 due to severe anxiety episodes and mild depression that would last for months. I’m now 26 and over the last 6 years I would usually meditate consistently …
"Point 1: Simple. Maladaptive daydreaming (MD) is a proposed mental disorder where someone excessively daydreams in a vivid and immersive way, **often to the point of neglecting real-life responsibili…
I'm also a recovering FA and I recently realized a few REALLY important things that are actually really simple. Figure out your boundaries and enforce them from a calm place. Our anxiety builds in our…
It was difficult untill last summer when I joined a men’s group, and got some feedback to my story… at the same time I was deeply committed to learning about avoidant’s and how they manage (or more to…
I’ve felt mine hated me. When I finally let go I realized it was more likely something I came up with on my own. The silence leaves us with so much space to make assumptions. For my situation, I thoug…
Used it at my workplace a few years back to manage Ruby and Python versions on our servers and on workstations. It was really good at not messing with library paths unlike some other tools at the time…
Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…
I think it's interesting that DAs often say it feels exhausting having to communicate this, yet again it's your behaviour that leads to misunderstandings. It's fine if you don't want to communicate yo…
Trust me I wish it was that simple. I have no intentions on hurting the girl I'm dating. We practice open and honest communication. If I pass the point of no return I'll tell her. Its also possible …
..how about don't be with someone if you're not interested? Pretty simple.
Well, 1) I find it unusual that on an attachment theory sub we are discussing stuff that seems like it’s more appropriate for an an-cap vs an-com debate (anarchocapitalist, anarchocommunist). 2) any…
I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …
It’s kind of normal to go through this with a lot of mental health treatments. People finally understand themselves and others better, there’s new skills to implement, but the outcomes initially swin…
There’s a lot of overthinking here. I reply with a nice reply if I want to and feel it. Or I don’t reply at all and reply when I do feel like it. That’s it, simple.
Thank you for the reply. That makes sense, I'll keep it short and simple. There's a lot that I want to say, but I need to hold that back.
Personally, I wouldn't break up with someone I want to spend time with. That is the entire bar for me. If I like being around them more than being alone, then that's it. I'm not looking for anything m…
There has been several moments I was accommodating my plans like changing my flight or putting him in priority so we could spend more time together. Because he seemed anxious I was trying to be more r…
Communicate your need for space. Also include how much time you need etc. That way the other person knows what to expect. I told my ex plenty of times that if she just tells me when she needs space an…
Haven’t you already posted about this a bunch of times? The issue here is very simple. This friend doesn’t have the availability that you’re looking for, and therefore is a basic incompatibility. Yo…
OP you are sabotaging them, plain and simple. I dealt with someone just like you (the female “friend”). If you were truly a genuine, respectful friend with integrity, you’d back off and let them be. D…
I agree with this. I would say I think it’s fine to text and even call him everyday until he just does the incredibly easy act of giving her the stuff back. If someone won’t do this, then they are a t…
Everyone’s saying just practice small talk.. I don’t know if that simple. I’m a natural salesman, if I’m trying to get you to buy somethin, I can talk to anybody man or woman, but if I’m interested.. …
Had a chat with my boyfriend today after I said I think our relationship ran its course since he hasn’t been very communicative, and essentially flipped on me from a pretty damn wonderful human to an …
ENFP/Type 5/SA here. 45 years old with about 20-30 friends, most of them over 30 years. I wont speak for SA in general, I would just share my little world/POV. \--------- Extremely honest to the po…
The point is it doesn’t matter if we agree. If it bothers you, don’t go out with her again. People have different opinions about this, if what she’s wearing is so important then don’t meet up again. I…
You can ask her kindly but outright if she's truly busy and still wants to see you again or if she's not interested in seeing you again. If you're unsure, get answers. It's really that simple.
Don’t take it so personally. Also there’s no double standard. This is both sides of the aisle. Your communication styles have to match up, it’s pretty simple. If they aren’t exciting for you cut them …
figure out what she does like and do that. it’s pretty simple.
Thats cause they all took the wrong approach with it. Its very simple. She either does things at your pace (she broke it, she bought it ) or you divorce. If you divorce you will be fine. You will have…
i don’t think it’s that simple. it’s a fundamental difference of pleasure that i can’t shake off. i want my partner to want that. i can’t force her. sure i can tell ask her what she wants, and vice …
Simple. He gets a new number and you block the old one. If what he claims is true, he should also get a totally new phone and only selectively transfer anything over. Good luck.
>"give you a much lesser version of the relationship that you deserve" The way you read this statement as being entirely about you, and feeling somehow accused of your standards being too high is wil…
I effectively doxed my narcissist ex-wife after our marriage ended due to her low-key cheating and lying. I won't go into detail how I did this in the open forum but it was enough to have my narcissis…
I think my comment was read very differently than intended. Thanks for the reply but I didn't say "I want an apology", I said if someone has never experienced someone apologizing to them (not necessar…
I think people are all different and timing is different as well. You can’t just say one thing will work, when with another person it would not work at all. It’s more about our own story, the process…
This is probably the most important question in Stoic practice and honestly most people get it wrong in both directions. The original concept, apatheia, never meant the absence of feeling. It meant fr…
If it's too embarrassing for her, then she doesn't have to come. It's that simple.
Okay, so here are my thoughts on the matter... What I'm sensing here is fear and anxiety, plain and simple. My wife and I (43M and 42F) got married almost three years ago, and both of us have a lot …
Girl you're over thinking this, guys like feeling wanted to. I have the same thing with my my wife. I'll give her props, she has tried over the years to fill that void for me. Its so simple like s…
This is simple. You thought you two had a healthy dynamic, and you clearly did not. Never initiating clearly had a huge impact on him.
Well it's rather simple. You're not married. Talk to a lawyer on how to get full custody of the children and kick her out. Do not fund her lifestyle.
“if this does not resonate with you move on.” it’s really that simple.
As a guy, I’m not asking anything about who or where else you spend your time regarding other people on the first date. Just don’t volunteer this information, you’re not obligated to. If at a certain …
I wanted a divorce and my husband wanted a legal separation, and I compromised. It essentially does everything a divorce does (separate finances, settles child custody, child support, etc) but it leav…
A legal separation is a financial separation, but you are still technically married. Why live in this limbo? It's disorienting for everyone, including the kids (imho). As soon as we got separated and …
2 words. Leave him.. Simple.... Not to be confused with easy. Wishing you well.
I don't think it's that simple. Most asian guys are open to whoever but women generally don't like us back so we end up picking the "safer" choice.
It's not that simple. If I double down, people act like they are shocked, like I really did something horrible; they exaggerate their reaction and manipulate the situation. They exclaim loudly, "she…
Your sister has taken you for granted. She doesn't want you at her wedding; it's plain and simple. Actively not involving you in the wedding (bridal, bachelorette, or making you a bridesmaid or MOH), …
I’m an intuitive and energy reader and 100% this is real. It sounds like you know this, you’re just doubting yourself bc most people think that’s crazy. It could probably be a quick house healing fix.…
As you are obviously aware, reconciliation is very risky for the betrayed. Some try to spin that fact, but ultimately it remains a life going forward with pangs of pain, sorrow and suspicion. You do…