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This is incredibly valid. The pain is highly disproportionate from what should ever be expected and/or "normalized". People with cPTSD are often shattered and building back pieces of themselves so de…

Type 1 Diabetes — Hi everyone, I have recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and have had to start taking insulin injections. I don’t want to live like this forever though, completely dependent on something so m…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…

Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions? — Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out to the community to see how many of you might relate. I've been wondering lately if I might have ADHD — I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I know a lot of pe…

I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…

Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …

Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…

How do I beat decision paralysis? — My entire life I've struggled with making decisions, whether it's choosing what food to buy at the shop, which route to take on a trip, or more important things like what job to take, or what I should…

I manifested the cure of my disidrosis(with photos) — Hello guys, I will tell how I manifested the cure of my disidrosis. So I will tell how I MANIFESTED my disidrosis😢: So guys, at the beggining of 2025 I was diagnosed with chondropathy, I didn't knew…

stopped trying to "fix" my adhd and started doing this instead — If someone is in a wheelchair, and they encounters stairs, they aren’t just gonna try their best to get down the stairs, they’re going to use the ramp or elevator. why should we keep trying to do thin…

I spent 8 years trying to “fix” my mental health and now I think the real problem is that I’ve been obsessively trying to fix myself — Hi everyone, I’m trying to explain something I’ve been struggling with and I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar. For about 8 years, I’ve been deeply focused on “healing” m…

Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown. — Hi everyone. I have been actively looking for a psychiatrist or therapist to take me seriously when trying to pick through cPTSD, and autistic shutdown. The services in my province (Canadian) only of…

My husband (36M) told me (33F) that I don’t deserve love until I’m 140lbs again? — When my husband and I first met, I was around 140lbs. At the time, I was early 20s, depressed, high anxiety, drinking all the time to fill a void, etc. I was freshly out of a terrible relationship tha…

My biological mother sexually abused me in such weird sadistic ways throughout my childhood and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this — For context I am a 20 year old girl I was raised by my two lesbian parents they got a sperm donor and had me and my twin sister. Starting since I’m assuming a toddler up until about 13 my biological m…

Sexual Vampire — I have no idea where to turn- and I never thought I would posting something like this. But here we are. 5 weeks ago I met a man at a bar. He was a bit younger than me, the same age as my first love. …

Does it get better?? :( — I’m so tired. I’ve struggled with anxiety for years I’m almost 20. It’s gotten to a point where it has taking over my life. I got diagnosed during the pandemic and then I didn’t do anything about it, …

I was going to be incredible — I was such a smart kid. A gifted child, kind and clever and great at academics. Everyone said I was going to change the world. I could have done so much. Instead I am thirty and I am frozen with terr…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

Please tell them the truth before it destroys them. — If you’re cheating on your partner, please stop. And if you already did, have the courage to tell them the truth. Infidelity doesn’t just “hurt someone’s feelings.” It can destroy a person from the i…

Did anyone here grow up with a parent who was autistic/neurodivergent or emotionally distant/neglectful ? — Hi everyone. I (20f) am posting because for a long time i have known that I was very emotionally neglected as a child and I’m wondering if anyone here grew up with an autistic parent. My mom was diag…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

HUGE tantrum from my NDad due to my recent success. Hilarious but also depressing. 🫩🥹 — My ndad is currently throwing a tantrum - screaming, stomping around, making threats etc whilst telling my mum and I that it’s my fault, and that I know what I did, therefore avoiding/refusing to expa…

I think I’m genuinely stupid — As the title says, I think I’m genuinely a dumb person. When someone says “this guys is empty headed” that’s literally me. I’ve always known I’m not the most intelligent person, I deflect that by ta…

Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …

Anyone else have a parent with an undiagnosed mental illness? — Growing up my mom was always physically there but never emotionally present. She has never been able to admit to things she considers embarrassing (even if they're really not), being wrong or When I …

How do I “do” therapy? — I started therapy recently after being diagnosed for the first time with depression and anxiety, but I really don’t enjoy it. I show up and I feel like it’s always having the ball put in my court so t…

Starting over at 32, jobless lost 20s to sickness — I was diagnosed with a brain tumor when I was 22 and doing bachelors, tumor is benign but in critical place that really messed me up, health took a down ward turn with a lot of complications, i dîd no…

My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…

I’m 19 and left with a 4yo autistic sister. I feel extremely hopeless. — I’m 19f, my mom passed away November 2025 and Im left with a 5year old neurotypical sister and 4 year old sister diagnosed with autism, ocd, and adhd. My sisters and I have different fathers, their fa…

Feeling genuine disgust when my parents seem proud of me/brag about my accomplishments — Is it just me that experiences this weird psychological twist of sorts? My parents only seem proud of me when I conform to their “ideal” image of me. Mind you, when that was the case my depression wa…

self concept work is no joke — For years I have been manifesting things like money, good career, etc via scripting, visualization and other methods with ease. But I noticed that every time I acquired those things there was still …

Having a good Therapist is literally life-changing. What a surprise. — My new therapist that I’ve been seeing for a few weeks now is genuinely one of the most kind Therapist I’ve ever worked with. She’s authentic and is open with me and I have a really good connection wi…

The best and 5 worst things I did after 5 breakups in 12 years chasing unavailable partners, and I just got marriaged on 2.14.2026 — I've been through 5 painful breakups over the last decades, all with the same pattern: I'd chase someone emotionally/physically unavailable—either a cheater or straight-up avoidant—who'd pull away jus…

My best friend (F35) with BPD has dropped off the radar and I (F30) don’t know if inviting her to my wedding will be too much pressure or not involving her will hurt more. What should I do? — My best friend and I met 8 years ago at work. Our friendship was very full on as we worked together and lived in the same city but even when we both left the city we met in, we stayed in close touch. …

How do people become emotionally immature? — I was raised by and surrounded by emotionally immature adults my whole life, while living in a toxic and abusive household created mainly by my father’s abuse towards my mother, and her compliance and…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

I normally don’t like to talk about my issues outside of therapy because I just want people to see me as normal, but I’m 36 and still can’t get past the effects of trauma from my childhood. — I grew up with a mom who is obviously mentally ill, very likely borderline personality disorder at the very least. I grew up white trash in poverty surrounded by drugs and trashy people my whole life …

Literally Crying Right Now — I have been going through so much and struggling to stay positive. This morning I decided fuck this..I have the power to change this. I’m shifting my mindset and I’m not going to feel stressed or depr…

Need help - feeling lost, weak, burnt out, uninspired - evil eye or what? — I will try and keep this as to the point as possible. In the last three and a half years I have lost contact with myself, i Felt I was on top of everything, achieving my dreams and succeeding and then…

Leaving my relationship for the right reason — Me (m30) and my partner (f39) have been together for 8 years. We have two kids below 4. She has been diagnosed with different mental health issues. She has also had two very rough childbirths. During …

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

Midlife dating plot twist I didn’t see coming… (I have breast cancer 🙄) — I was only just musing recently about how sexy midlife dating is.. His suspected sleep apnea, my post-three-big-babies body (haemorrhoids, saggy boobs!)… all the glamorous stuff. And now I’ve just b…

Why are my intimate relationships so rough? (unhealthy relationship w/ the masculine?) — I have a pattern of being in highly codependent relationships and usually I’m the one displaying avoidant toxic traits, and I can feel very strong masculinity even as I identify as female. My current …

Trans in a religious and conservative Viet household — Truthfully, it’s just awful. I (23FtM, pre-everything) am bisexual and trans. And I just happen to unfortunately be born in a Vietnamese Catholic household that loves our good ol’ president. Not to me…

What are your opinions about disclosing HPV to potential new partners? — I 43F was diagnosed last year with high risk hpv. I had recently left a relationship due to infidelity and as soon as I learned I carried the virus I informed my previous partner (not to accuse) so th…

Gut issues during spiritual growth? — Hi I was seeking some advise regarding a health issue ife been experiencing for a few years which doesnt seem to be getting better. Ive been diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis. Over the last few yea…

Partner (27F) wants to separate (26F) following her cancer diagnosis. — My girlfriend of almost two years was diagnosed with cancer last week and she texted me yesterday that because she "doesn't want to weigh (me) down" with her treatments ahead. She asked for space for …

Help/advise needed please: “Spiritual awakening” or/and brain inflammation, thus spiritual psychosis, etc. — This is extremely important to me, and I think to humanity as well, so I appreciate you taking the time to read and potentially respond. This is my personal ongoing testimony; I fear no psychological …

So if you are diagnosed with stage 4 cancer one day, did you create that stage 4 cancer for yourself?

You’ve had one date. Attempting to diagnose someone’s attachment after one date & a handful of text interactions is highlighting your own attachment issues. Ground yourself, ask her out again (if you …

Stop trying to use attachment labels as a way to diagnose people after hardly knowing them

Lmao, no, don't worry about it. I have daddy issues as well, and I have friends with BPD that have pointed out that I may have it too (I'm not diagnosed and have no need to know though atm). And I tot…

Possible but I try not diagnose people. The only ones I'm referring to were aware of their attachment style.

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

I have been diagnosed for a while I own a couple company’s. my adhd has gotten in the way but the more you work the more you learn how to manage it by failing! If it’s a really big important decision …

Hey thanks for posting this. I started my entrepreneurship journey around an year back and the struggle to focus and manage distractions is so real. I have not been diagnosed officially but have read …

The demonization of avoidant people really annoys me. I'm fearful avoidant so I see all perspectives in this and yeah avoidance is hurtful, neglect is painful, creating space through fights is toxic a…

It's wonderful that you are doing the work. Keep doing that. MOST people aren't aware of their attachment styles and don't need to. Unless it is on an extreme part of the spectrum, it's not an issue…

Thanks qgain for such in-deep advices, I really appreciate that. No, I don't know for a fact that she's a DA, that's just my conclusion from reading different online resources (includong this sub). Th…

He does, but we don't go at it the same way or look at the same things. Like he has not read those books yet and he might eventualy, but he dosen't want me to bring it up, he wants to choose to do it.…

Well she was doing it in secret, but the guy she started dating - months before we broke up, talked to one of his female friends, who talked to one of my female friends, who is a gossip, who talked to…

TLDR: Seeking advice re: Dismissive Avoidant 50F dumped my Anxious-leaning Secure self (53M) but posts her upcoming travel to our once-shared calendar.  ..... Yes, it was the classical Avoidant's int…

Oh gosh, I can feel your pain through the screen. What you are going through is a normal modern human experience, so please don't place all the blame on yourself. It's amazing that you are trying to b…

I struggle keeping relationships for a full 2 years, people usually get fed up with me being so needy but I think the older I get and the more comfortable I am with myself and understand myself more t…

Friend is distancing and I’m not sure how to correctly deal with it. I very much believe I have an anxious attachment style and it’s very closely linked with my BPD and OCD. In the past year, I bec…

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago.. we never fought and his reasoning was he felt we were too different (we were together for 2 years).  I was crushed... he stated he felt he needed to end it so that …

Thanks so much, I definitely pride myself on being self-aware. I was self-aware through the whole toxic "relationship" but just wanted to convince myself it could work because I had a really good time…

I’ve decided that I very likely have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder. I’m seeing a psychiatrist over the next couple weeks. I’ve had really bad anxiety my entire life but I’ve never done anything ab…

I'm not diagnosed but I do believe I'm on the autism spectrum. How does that tie into this issue?

Text of original post by u/f1rstpancake: TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfun…

I recently made this connection myself, I have adhd (diagnosed this year at 28) and although it’s been several months where I’ve had my diagnosis, I’ve just started coming to terms with how it’s affec…

I err on the side that believing it is what makes it impossible. My mother was DA and now “earned secure” - she was only 17 shy of 18 when I was delivered into the world. She got diagnosed with DID w…

I actually didn’t accuse you personally. I said these are the places where misinformation spreads. And as someone who has BPD in remission, I think it’s better for any talk about BPD to come from pe…

My experience? My dad fits the clinical definition of NPD; my sister, BPD; and at least one of my exes was diagnosed BPD. I went down the diagnostic rabbit hole after that. Oh, and I'm completing a p…

You don’t need to be arsey or defensive about it. I was just asking what your exposure or experince was with PD’s. As someone who is learning about them I’m sure you’d agree that there is a lot of mis…

You can listen to someone who just admitted they don't even have a paid account and just reads what they see online or listen to someone who's gotten more out of it in the last 30 days than four diffe…

Whenever I try addressing conflicts instead of avoid them, it’s not just an emotional response, it’s like my whole body is physically fighting the urge to retreat. I also have diagnosed anxiety which …

Thank you for your message. I’ve only recently started therapy but I think it’ll be a while till we address the relationship. A part of me knew it wasn’t entirely ok but there is a substantial amount …

hi everyone, sorry for the long post - myself (26F) and my partner (26M) of 6 years have broken up less than a week ago and i've never such acute visceral pain. i'm riddled with the worst physical anx…

Tldr seeking advice for an anxious attachment whose my boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with depression Sorry it’s a little long! So basically at the beginning of last year I (27 F) started not…

I appreciate your kind words. I’ve opened up about some of my struggles before. Only like two people. The first guy minimized my problems and would often change the topic to sex. He was never a good p…

i was just like you (and honestly still am sometimes) and i got diagnosed with ROCD. after starting medication, doing a lot of targeted therapy, & being honest and open with my partner about everythin…

I know right, wtf is this attitude that if you're divorced you have to be celebate for like 3+ years. 1) you're rusty at dating, it's gonna be at least another year of getting up to speed on dating …

Similarly, I sometimes feel like I don't know if I'm happy or content. Like, if I'm laughing, I know I'm happy, but if I'm in a more neutral state it can be harder to read. I've broken up with people …

It's been a tough time this past week. Last week I finally got around to starting to thrive in Sunny San Diego with a good handful of dates in January and more scheduled, spending time with family, bu…

Google is telling me the definition of avoidant in this context is "relating to or denoting a type of personality or behavior characterized by the avoidance of intimacy or social interaction." I'm as…

I need to know who the fuck normalized diagnosing people with a fear of intimacy or commitment just because they don't want to text or see you as often as you want to see them. I get it's softer on ou…

Oh, I didn't get that read from his reply but I can see where you're coming from with that angle. > No one needs false validation and empathy like you're working a customer service helpline. I kind…

As someone who’s been in therapy for quite a few years for some “big” things, i think the issue is the TikTokization and ChatGPTization of therapy. Dating coaches/lifestyle coaches/life influencers wi…

Are you sure that is not being a sapiosexual? I mean I have been totally unnattracted to women, and after meeting them and learning aspects of their personality became very attracted to them. That sou…

I also think it's a completely different bag of worms to apply attachment theory to yourself as a tool to help guide self-growth (even if it's misinterpreted), versus using it to diagnose others just …

I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease when I was 19. It took 9 months to find a reasonable treatment for it that mitigated many of the symptoms most of the time, I still spent two to three weeks …

My ex would play the piano and guitar and reorganize his shelfs of stuff for hours! ADHD, un diagnosed, unmedicated, except for his self-medicating. If we got into an argument, he would blame me for h…

So I told him (the guy I am seeing) about the communication (lack of it). That I connect with someone through communication and I feel like communication have been quite minimal between us (like curio…

Sounds like a pile of excuses, especially if he's claiming undiagnosed things as part of the problem. I'd find someone who was a better fit and who doesn't just blow smoke at you and try and make you …

It’s funny how life works. A year ago today, I was in the hospital diagnosed with T2 diabetes. I actually almost died because I was in DKA, which meant my own blood became toxic to me. Luckily I ma…

Late-diagnosed autistic 32F here! I was in a similar situation 5 years ago (with the only difference is that I don’t want to date my friend as we have different relationship goals). If, in a parallel …

Vent. My guy came over last night. It was okay. Just felt a little flat. Think we hit our first bump this morning. It’s been over three months. No bf/gf definitions, but we’re not dating anyone else. …