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Codependent No More

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My partner (f34) “quiet quit” our relationship and I (m37) need closure.

I’m not the person you’re replying to, but two books that instantly came to mind for me are “codependent no more” and “attached”, both good listens or reads, whichever you prefer.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
“Codependent no more” book club

“Codependent no more” book club — Does anyone wanna do a “codependency no more” book club w me? I’ve been listening to the book on audio so it’s been kind of hard to absorb all the information so I thought maybe if we did a book club …

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost2/6/2026
Boyfriend wants to break up with me over codependency book (f23/m24)

Boyfriend wants to break up with me over codependency book (f23/m24) — I (F23) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (m24) for about 9 months now. We’ve been fighting a good amount lately and I have felt that a lot of it was coming from my end. I also have been s…

r/relationship_advicepost4/2/2026
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r/attachment_theorypost5/12/2021
Help me understand-anxious now ex bf + part avoidant ex gf

I appreciate your reply I’m going to re-read Codependent No More Thank you

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment9/2/2025
Anxious Attachment Help

Dismissive Avoidant in recovery here What’s helped me. Reading: The Four Agreements Loving Parent Guidebook Set Boundaries Find Peace No Bad Parts The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read Ab…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment1/19/2026
​Husband (46M) keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my (46F) stuff--what tactic or wording can I use to stop it?

And op, if you’re not ready to leave, let me tell you what I did to get here -I recognized that allowing someone to walk all over me was something I was accepting because I was not raised in a house…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
codependency quiz wrecked me - turns out my "helping" was actually controlling

Yeah, wish someone could have remedy for this quilt feeling combined with fearing to step up and be independent and responsible for my own life. When l talked about this to my therapist l said to him…

r/Codependencycomment3/29/2026
I have lived in codependency my whole life — parents, sister, now husband. I don't know how to make myself matter.

I’m in an almost identical situation as you right now in all aspects you mentioned. I am not even close to healing but can tell I’m making a lot of progress through therapy, reevaluating relationships…

r/Codependencycomment4/4/2026
How do I not feel guilty about saying no or changing plans

There are a ton of different ways. You have to pick one and give it a try. I started with conventional talk therapy. Then I worked my way through the books Codependent No More, CPTSD: Fron Surviving t…

r/Codependencycomment4/4/2026
No one warns you that childhood trauma doesn’t end, it just waits until your 30s to finally surface

I think a great place to start is learning about codependency. I recommend the book codependent no more. It has some higher power talk but just fill in the blank with however you feel about such thing…

r/CPTSDcomment4/8/2026
I think something in my marriage crossed a line and I need outside perspective 31M 31F

I have dealt with relationships like this one my whole life. You need to go to therapy and read some books. One is called Why does he do that and another called Codependent no more. If you do these th…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
My husband threw my childhood trauma in my face during an argument. Something feels broken and I don’t know what to do.

What you're describing isn't a healthy love, it's codependency. I highly recommend you read *Codependent No More* and visit r/codependency. You have inherent worth. Needing to be needed to feel worth…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/9/2026
i stayed for too long, got so hurt

That's tough. One time I got really hurt by a man, and I was young...maybe 24. I had a counselor, and she said, "could it be that you're more angry with yourself, for putting yourself in the situation…

r/Codependencycomment4/10/2026