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I've been through this in my marriage & I also read your other comments on this post. I did what you did (to the point of exhaustion!) in my first few months of CODA 12-step: Talked to my husband abo…

Help Me Understand Relation Between Guest Posting and Google's TOS — I'll start off by quoting Google's Spam Policies: https://developers.google. com/search/docs/essentials/spam-policies >Advertorials or native advertising where payment is received for articles that i…

SaaS... I have no experience in this area. What is it and if you run one, what does it do? — As the title says, I have worked primarily in the front-end web design world and in the physical business things. I don't know really what SaaS is or any examples of it. What are yall doing?

Why does DevOps pay the same as a sysadmin now? — I'm seeing jobs in DFW metro paying a max of 120k for senior platform engineer and DevOps jobs that ask for extensive experience. At the same time, many run of the mill system admins are paying the sa…

scary how astrologers predicted war in end of february — Hi it‘s so mindblowing how astrologers predicted this. has anyone more information about this? what is coming more & how did they predict this? was is the neptun saturn conjunction? or which aspects a…

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

Why did it take me so long to realize the neglect? — I was always a fairly gifted child and after puberty I started to question everything in the world, society, meaning, etc. I was aware that I was depressed at the time and having clear symptoms of lo…

I just need to rant, Y'all. I'm so angry!!!! — My 83YO Ndad is selling the farm/family business Emom left my brother (48) and me (52) in an irrevocable trust. Dad is tickled pink with himself for installing legal loopholes to fuck us over. His IQ …

My [30F] husband [34M] may be a functioning alcoholic — Buckle in because this is a long post. Tl;dr my husband drinks and I am sick of it. (TW: mention of miscarriage) Throwaway account because I need advice and I am at my wits end. I have been with my h…

NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…

How I healed my codependency in friendships and relationships — By understanding that they're 18+ adults and I'm not their mommy, medic or doctor. It's not my job to heal others. I can help someone like five times in a month that's it. I walk away now. Emotionally…

Frank Kepple Archives - Astral Projection Truth — Many here have probably heard about Frank Kepple who was previously active on the AstralPulse forums. But if you haven't, it's worth taking a look. I have read many books and resources about astral pr…

Did you feel something was off when you first met the narc? — I've realized recently that most guys I met who treat women poorly give off weird vibes right in the first interaction. But my nex was really something else. I clearly remember looking at him the fi…

Synchronicity and the Beginning or Continuity of Experience? — To begin, I have had quite a long winded set of experiences, that have seemed to have calmed down a bit over the last few weeks. They went on for several months beginning 3 months and 3 days before my…

breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…

She left me — So i am M21 from Pune i was is healthy relationship from 3yr and Today she left me and block from all social media. We live like kind of live-in. i don’t know why she dump me and i have lot of male a…

Bias between Son and daughter by mother — In some families, parents insist they treat all children equally and that discrimination isn’t allowed—but in subtle ways, sons are prioritized, decisions are made around them, and daughters’ needs ar…

If They Wanted You, They Would've Chosen You. — They pulled the trigger. They didn't believe or see the value anymore. They love you but no longer feel in love with you. But let this be a lesson to let it die. What was is gone. If they cared th…

Breakup with fearful avoidant — So I just want to tell my story of how the breakup is and how I assume that the person who broke up with me is fearful avoidant after analysing what happened and what was going on. I want to get some …

What do you do after someone declines a date? — I heard from a coworker just this evening that someone I had asked out (different department) is "disappointed that I don't talk to him anymore". I was really into him. He wasn't into me. Or not dati…

I guess it's over for good now. — My ex and I broke up in February after months of fighting and 2 years together. Communication wasn't good, he has issues with emotional regulation and I shut down far too easily, especially when someo…

Mind is a time machine — Here’s my reasoning. Please don’t think I am crazy. While I was grieving a lost one, I started to have an obsession with the past. I was dreaming, daydreaming, overall imagining myself as my old sel…

Do I (26F) need to decide now if I want children when my bf (31M) already has decided he wants them in the next Yr and 1/2 — for context we have been together for 4 years and have been living together for 2. he owns the house I just live here rent free lol we were discussing career plans and were talking about how my chan…

Has anyone else never dated? — I’m in my mid 20s, but I never did. My body felt dead up to a recent point, from whence I was able to restore my health and learn a lot about my mental health. Might've DID too. There was isolation a…

Utilizing Goosebumps During Meditation — For as long as I remember I've always been able to willing summon my goosebumps without much if any thought at all. Best I can describe it as is a weird tingly sensation in the back of my head that th…

Surviving? A permanent trip and skirting the line of orange juice (YOU ARE GONNA WANT TO READ THIS.) — Permanent trip is kinda funny and skirting the line of permanent orange juice (you’re gonna wanna read this) I have bpd and dead mommy issues and I have always just wanted a drug to make me happy, es…

Best content — I have been into "this stuff" since 2018, I have read everything you could possibly imagine, studying every teacher you can think of and I have to say none of them compare to Jonathan Parker. He h…

Cried after 5 questions tape? — i did the 5 questions tapes the day before, i had to abort in between multiple times throughout the day due to other causes. finally i was able to do it at night. but i was really tired and half aslee…

Growing up mixed ethnicity asian — Hi, first gen half Chinese half Filipino. Both parents spoke English to each other growing up as their native languages are different. My parents didn’t teach me their respective languages and I grew …

Jewelz, you can't push my love for you away...you need it as much as me! — I need you safe, free to be yourself without threats of being your vulnerable self exploited ... people tell me now to let go, maybe if you were anybody else ..Juls baby....you are part of me ...pleas…

I had the habit of resetting my life every Monday - turns out alcohol was issue, not even motivation. — Hi guys, Actually excited to share this as I am after a long time to 'decide to be better'. I wouldn't say I was a heavy drinker but in all honesty I was drinking 2–3 nights on weekdays after work p…

Family won’t leave me alone during my online classes — Did anyone else have this problem? I have to put a note up so people leave me alone and they still don’t. My family says they “didn’t know where I was.” Seriously? I can’t focus at all because I’m wa…

I AP for the past 4 nights unintentionally… — Hello everybody, I’m new to this subreddit however I’ve been aware about AP for the past 7 years. Recently (at the time of this post) I’ve projected the past 4 nights unintentionally and I have some…

I AP for the past 4 nights unintentionally… — Hello everybody, I’m new to this subreddit however I’ve been aware about AP for the past 7 years. Recently (at the time of this post) I’ve projected the past 4 nights unintentionally and I have some…

Having a misogynist father — Title says it all. Classic unavailable, unequipped to become a parent father who was the breadwinner and was allowed to emotionally act out towards me, my mum and sister growing up. Probably gave me s…

my (f22) boyfriend (m25) tries to make me feel stupid any chance he gets — TL;DR I posted abt this before, my bf always tries to humble me, make me feel ugly or stupid it feels like. we have been dating for a year and a half and I remember when I met his friends and family…

Me (19M) and my girlfriend (19F) have some value differences that I seriously want to work out with her. What do we do? — Me and my girlfriend have had a long committed relationship ship to her. We've been 'official' since we were sophomores in high school, and we've been each other's no. 1's ever since. However, over t…

First Connection After — Not quite divorced yet, 9 months into a 12 month waiting period, but had my first new emotional connection recently. Man it has fucked me up. While I think I have been ok with the divorce for a while …

My husband 28m and I 26m have two completely different views on loving living situation and I’m not sure how we will ever come to an agreement — I 26F been with my husband 28m coming up on 7 years. For some more context, we met in my home town, we have two children together, I’m a stay at home mom and he works out of the country. About 3 yea…

I (F28) am still in love with a married friend(M29) and Idk what to do? — I (F28) had a year-long friendship with a guy (M29) that wound up turning into a casual/fwb dynamic for 8 months after he broke up with his long-distance wife. We talked and saw each other damn near e…

feeling alone — i dont think anyone else has been through what ive been through and it eats at me from inside out because no matter how many friends i make or no matter how much i socialize the people who hurt me alw…

I (19F) think I have an avoidant friend (20F) — Gonna keep it as brief as possible but it'll be pretty long. I am in college and I live on campus. I became friends with someone through a friend, got closer to her over a trip in the summer. Her best…

My (32f) partner (37m) says I “don’t let him talk,” but he talks in circles for so long that I can’t even respond — ETA: after tonight’s “conversation” it seems like most of you are right. unfortunately this is probably the best I’ll ever get. thanks for all the suggestions. I feel completely stuck in my relation…

the big dream of moving out — Moving out seems like such a no brainer, especially when you're already an adult and financially independent. But for me, it always seemed unachievable. For the longest time I was so deep in it, I gas…

Anyone else get this? Because I feel like anyone would. — Just a starter, one of my traumas is homelessness. We aren't in danger yet, but our landlord has told us he wishes to sell at some point in the future and we are trying to find a new place to move. Pr…

Tetragrammaton as protection from abduction — I was raised Christian, although I have long been agnostic and these days resonating more with “law of one” and Gnosticism. When I was about 10 (pre-internet days), I was obsessed with books on magic…

My (21F) boyfriend (26M) met my parents and it didn’t go well. I want a strangers opinion on the situation? — He met my mum and stepdad at a restaurant and he seemed a bit quiet while we were eating. My mum suggested going to a bar after and suddenly my boyfriend made up an excuse to leave I found out this wa…

AITA for asking my Aunty to pay for my therapy sessions? — I’m a 27yr old (F) and I’ve experienced a lot as a kid. I don’t know how to begin healing/moving on from what happened or Should I seek justice? yall let me know what you think. \\\*\\\* this is a …

Can anyone else relate to this or know what it might stem from? I have a huge issue with ignoring inconveniences in my life until I'm forced to address them, but not sure if it's due to trauma — Never really thought this was an issue until other people in my life started bringing it up, but as an adult I'm beginning to realize I have a serious problem with either ignoring huge inconveniences …

“When the Abuse Comes from Those Who Were Meant to Protect You” — Olá a todos: meus traumas, meus pensamentos suicidas, minha maravilhosa depressão e minha querida ansiedade social. Bom, já fazem exatos 7 anos desde a última vez que eu escrevi abertamente sobre …

Filling the void Everytime it hits me so hard — everytime I try to fill the void of ur absence it's just not the same every time I'm trying to replace u my heart and soul is telling me this is all so wrong. this is not ur person it trying to get ov…

Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…

Hey, ich habe wirklich genossen, was du geschrieben hast. Ich habe es ins Englische übersetzt – ich hoffe, das ist okay.

I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…

If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…

Well, you’re posting here and clearly don’t like the dynamic or you wouldn’t be asking us if we think it’s normal. I’m just saying that it’s not a dynamic that most people enjoy or find tolerable and …

I respect how politely you've addressed this. But please see the other perspective too: 1. Most people are told by their avoidantly attached partner that they're clingy when they're just trying to n…

To me, that just sounds like emotional maturity, though it's hardy a new concept. However, being able to hold two opposing or conflicting emotions or ideas is indeed growth, and if you're making progr…

It’s not enough. And it’s not diagnosing if you just count the traits. There are NPD and BPD traits, and you can do inventory check and discernment. Throwing labels on someone isn’t useful even in the…

Yes. I’m a lot better than I used to be. I had a secure boyfriend, and he has grounded me so much. I actually think I’m like 50% changed since five years ago. Still a long ways to go. He’s on the si…

Bash and python are more relevant than powershell for most DevOps roles unless wherever you land is pure azure. I say that having landed in DevOps 9 years ago from a strong background in windows syste…

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My therapist pointed out actually that withdrawing emotionally while still feeling emotionally connected or retaining symbols of connection as a part of push and pull dynamics. It is not a manipulatio…

This fits my DA bf to a T! He’s in therapy but we both think his current therapist isn’t helping as much as is needed. Is this an app that can be downloaded though? I honestly think this could be extr…

It’s ok to be honest with what you want but timing is important as is reading the room.

I think the tricky thing I’ve experienced with DAs is that avoiding labels feels protective for them, while it creates confusion. Because if you liked each other, hung out, and had sex, you’re basical…

I'd be curious what's going on with the guys you date that pull away after a few months. The knee-jerk reaction you describe is useful information but it would be more useful to see if you're somehow …

Stop contact. More importantly do not react to anything. Do not tell her off, do not share how hurt you are. If you do she will twist it to where she is the victim. Say nothing and all she has is…

Here’s some perspective. You barely know this person - it’s only been a month. He is still a stranger. People have lives and communication while overseas is tricky at best. Your expectations seem a …

The confirmation bias is as real as it gets.I get exactly what youre saying. Theres this app called Keypr, in India where they match based on your attachment and conflict styles. Helped me break out o…

Thanks for your response! I see where you're coming from, but I don't think she's being cruel, I think the thought is just somehow stressful for her. I don't really need therapy for myself either, I'…

What I've done after being discarded by an avoidant was literally change up my requirements for the sort of man I'm looking for. My ex had a brilliant mind, but also deep insecurities, anxiety, childh…

It's not a curse but it definitely goes deeper than that. It shapes personality for one, and can make you struggle in areas other than relationships too. A severe avoidant has issues feeling and deali…

I recently became single due to my anxious attachment which I was aware of but didn't understand how unhealed I was. I was in a relationship since January and things took a turn around August which I…

You just described my marriage to an AP and why it was so damn exhausting. Their lack of self-awareness (even after learning about AT) is astounding. During our divorce, my ex painted himself as the v…

I probably should have mentioned in my post that we're polyamorous. I think in poly culture, there's less of an expectation for a single person to have a duty to meet all these emotional needs. Ther…

Sometimes it's hard to tell if I'm just asking too much. They work more, have a busier, fuller, and more balanced life than me. I don't have a lot going on besides working part time and my relationshi…

Hypervigilance is very much associated with AA. I've being doing a lot of work on healing AA in the past 1.5 years and I couldn't believe how many characteristics and behaviours of mine are associated…

Yes, I understand your point. My outlook is that nobody ticks all your boxes so compromise in a few areas is essential if you're mostly getting what you want in a partner. True, I tried to not get ahe…

Things that have helped me: - keeping on dating, don’t make one person my only option. Or if dating isn’t happening I try and carry on going to queer events and just meeting new people in general to r…

How exactly does our culture *reward* hyper-independence? I don’t think all discourse makes such a definitive line in the sand as to how it relates to “needs” or “withdrawal”. Such topics are highly s…

Everything she’s saying is probably true, even if it sounds contradictory because the scale is probably different for her. What one person considers descrptions of relating, like “frequent” or “vulner…

Vegas is always a good idea 😆

Why exactly did you get engaged to someone you barely know? Is this an arranged marriage kinda thing? If her insecurity is that bad then it will not go away no matter what you do. She has issues she…

I do think that a lot of attachment issues are a downstream effect from the fact that our society is basically built in anti-human ways and that we've been pushed into really unnatural family structur…

This is true, they let me down so kindly back then and reiterated how important I was to them as a friend and I'm certain if they reject me again it'll be similar and our friendship won't be affected.…

To add, the ambiguity quantity is more common when we are younger (more time to duck around), but in our 30’s I agree by “date 2/3” you have to either address the elephant in the room or move on as is

If she has to ask her parents’ approval to even date you because of your skin colour, consider how much they might involve themselves in your life if you do get together. Personally, I wouldn’t want t…

I like the "instead of drinks lets get" section as is, though that is my personal bias in favor of all of those things lol. I am a committed "community education" catalog reader, love the little free …

It sounds like things were moving along nicely until your birthday, when you became overwhelmed. But what was the overarching feeling there that you were overwhelmed by? Was it that you felt like she …

LMAO. listen.. it's still raw for me - only a week to your month. OF COURSE I miss that man enough to wish the universe to bring him back to me. I say reach out because I want that for myself. B…

I don't know what you've done so far, but if you haven't you can try to stop arguing entirely and focus on this feeling of wanting to end things on a less sour note. Just stop trying to prove you're r…

For me… Aquarius Jupiter is my chart ruler and is in my 2nd house (3rd in whole signs). I’ve somehow chosen things to study that require massive machines and lots of space lol. Like printmaking, piano…

I didn't do any therapy, but I discussed my situation a lot on Reddit and answered many questions about my experience as a DA, which helped me a great deal in terms of understanding myself. My discuss…

Hey! Ill give you some advice: Disclaimer im not super great at this. But im a guy 31M so same age range and I get about 6 or so matches a week. Im waiting on my car and on mobile so the formatting …

Europe definitely has issues with race, yes. Unfortunately a lot of the world does and it’s a real tragedy. I would look for local queer groups and communities online, I don’t doubt you’ll meet wond…

Fellas is it embarrassing to have someone care about your wants and needs

You know about "I" statements? It's a way of being assertive without being rude or aggressive or unfair. The formula is "I feel X (a feeling or feelings) when you do Y (their action)." Sometimes you …

It’s so true. My mom blew about my aunt not telling my mom she looked nice when mom arrived at my aunt’s who was hosting her daughter’s wedding shower. My mom was seething with jealousy. I didn’t have…

Seneca's Epistle 1: A "Historical Restoration" for Modern Practitioners (Lodge/Gummere Synthesis) **The Content:** I hear you on the translations, u/Fragrant-Point-4328. I've been working on a rest…

I just hate to hear people say this about an entire generation of people . It’s so incorrect and intolerant of you to do so. I’m a boomer and I’d never do this to my son. My late husband and I worked …