good times

Everything you said sounds similar to my experience. She made me believe too, its what they do. And yeah my mind goes to that place too, what I could have done differentely to make it work? The answer…

Will my ex FA ever stop resenting me? — I was with my ex (FA) for 2 years, amazing connection and relationship. She broke up after a rough period (lots of changes + frequent arguments, not too intense) saying she was overwhelmed. Later she …

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

I miss him. — Logically I know my ex is a POS and clearly mentally ill but I’ve been missing him lately. Usually I’m pretty good at not obsessing over the “good times” but lately I can’t stop thinking about him and…

Met up with ex after no contact for over 10 months.It went pleasantly. — For anybody wondering whether they should reach out, it went well for me. I was also uncertain how it would go. The relationship ended very badly, we did therapy and it didnt help. I thought id never…

I feel it is very hard to make "permanent" progress, like this is a mind virus that keeps coming back — I'm 39M. I met my partner when I was 36. Dated for 2 years, now we have lived together for 1 year. I've made progress over these 3 years but I feel like it's very easy to "reset" and get back down int…

Discard/sudden breakup?! — Three months ago months ago I met a woman and had an intense, genuine connection. In under 8 weeks we spent 18-20 days together. She said she cared about me first, unprompted. We made future plans tog…

My wife finally admitted an affair that happened 9 years ago — This is my first post on Reddit. My spouse and I are both 44, and have been married since 2014. We met and started dating when we were 26. In late 2016, her cousin, who was her best friend, was killed…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

How do you deal with missing the narc and the good times? — He was a serial cheater who was a pathological liar and psychologically so abusive, but I still remember the fun times and what I thought was genuine love. The love really seemed so real. It’s the 3 m…

Surprise.. He did it again and even worse — I had posted on here 3 months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/s/1GiZMvLtGp I had caught my husband texting his coworker. Well I gave him a second chance, we went to therapy, he did …

Reaching out after the break up — TLDR: thinking about reaching out to mend our relationship, and hopefully to get back together with my ex. I don't want to distract him from his examinations which are pretty soon, so i was wondering…

I broke up with my ex, but now I’m the one stuck and hurting — I have been with my ex for 7 years we were high-school sweet heart we started dating in 2017. we graduated high-school together nad college. we did everything together had got our first apartment. in…

Cheating Husbands: Did You Ever Stop Cheating Completely? If so, what made you want to stop cheating on your wives? — I am 53F recently separated from my husband of 10 years. He was a serial cheater, where I’d forgive him but I finally had enough. I know I did the right thing. However, I hate the loneliness and quiet…

How do you deal with friendships that only partially match your values? — Hey, today I’ve been thinking about my new friends, and my older ones too to be honest, and a pattern has come to my attention. Many times when I get close to someone, or even a moderate friendship s…

Just need to get it out — i’ve never done this before so if this isn’t the purpose of this subject, I’m sorry. I am 20 years old and relatively speaking. I’d say I’m not in a bad position to be successful in both my personal l…

She called me - i didnt answered the phone — My ex friend just called me, i didnt answer the phone and she left a voice note on the answering machine. Told me she just wants to tell us (?) Happy birthday. I had my birthday a week ago and she h…

I still hold love for a version of them, sometimes. — I’m so grateful that it ended and that I no longer have to live through their abuse, but I did really love the person I thought they were. We all know the person was likely just a mask of who they wa…

Found out my 33M ex GF 31F is pregnant — We were together pretty healthy from 2020 to 2022 from 2022 to nov 2025 it was pretty toxic and on again off again. She would constantly dump me and block me then I would come chasing her bypassing th…

Found her kik and Discord profiles — My wife of 20 years (22 years together) and I separated in September last year. This was due to some if the most aggressive narcissistic abuse known to man. The arguing and screaming finally took it…

when does the missing them stop — I hate it so much. I know I’m so much better off without his loser ass. But the good times were just so fucking good I’d honestly do anything to have them back. The euphoric recall or whatever you cal…

I (M29) was in a 6.5 year relationship with woman(F26) who had dismissive-avoidant attachment + severe ADHD + bad PMDD. I thought I was the problem for years, but now I'm starting to see it differently. Am I the asshole for feeling like I 'won' even though I got dumped? — Hey everyone, I just got dumped after 6.5 years with my ex (let's call her A). I'm posting here because my head is spinning with mixed feelings — relief, sadness, guilt, and surprisingly, some real h…

A year of changes and effort and i still dont feel any less anxious — Long story short, my girlfriend and I have been together just a bit over a year. Within the first 4 months she lied to me about a party and hid that she went alone instead of with her sister as she …

This Is Hell — I have a lot of love for my husband. But at this point there’s more resentment than love. Married 8 years. Dated for 9 years before that. In the beginning he was very insistent about getting tested fo…

My best friend f25 ended our relationship with explaining why NB24 — Throwaway because mutual friends use Reddit. For context I '23NB' had a close friend I'll call Sage '24F' who I'd known for about two years. We were best friends and roommates for roughly a year. Sa…

I (28f) can’t tell if my anxiety is affecting my relationship or if something is actually wrong (Partner 28m) — TLDR: I don't trust my thoughts and feelings and want to know if what I'm going through is a normal couple emotional relationship bump. Summary: I’m in a generally loving relationship, but I struggle…

Am I (28F) overreacting or is my partner (28M) unsupportive? — TLDR: I don't trust my thoughts and feelings and want to know if what I'm going through is a normal couple emotional relationship bump. Summary: I’m in a generally loving relationship, but I struggle…

Is it finally time to break off and how can I (22F) bring it up with my boyfriend (22M) when I never once expressed any discontentment/resentment strongly and openly? — I really need some advice regarding my boyfriend. For context, we met abroad in a western country. I am Chinese and he is Japanese. This context kind of matters. Our relationship started poorly as a …

My mom basically told me to stop going to therapy — Context: I'm a 26F that finally broke down and called her a narcissist a few weeks ago. I had showed her the presentation my childhood best friend made in 2024 when I was dreading to see her over Chri…

Ex 18F unblocks me 19M just to tell me she fucked somebody else... — So her and I broke up about a month ago, but she kept hitting me up and then blocking me again, it was about a week since the last time she contacted me, and she sends me a friend request at 4 in the …

what if i was the narc between us and had it all wrong? how can i tell? — he was definitely avoidant, never took accountability, and would disappear, and give the silent treatment but i was the one that would chase, bombard his phone with calls and texts, go around his bloc…

i made a mistake — after a year and a few months, me and my gf broke up. i was the one to end things but i went about it all wrong and i absolutely in the wrong. i feel guilty and like an absolute piece of shit. we br…

22F 26M need advice — I (22F) just broke up with my boyfriend (26M) and I feel completely shattered, even though I know deep down it was probably the right decision. Over the course of our relationship, I went through bot…

Not sure what to do — Me 44m and wife 36f - married 11 years 6 months ago my wife filed for divorce. We both had lawyers and I had pretty much given up hope. We were living in separate rooms and not talking. One night…

How does the honeymoon phase end? I feel like mine was so forceful. — TL;DR I’m 24(F) who’s been with my boyfriend 26(M) since October 2024. Close friends to lovers type of story. A few months of trying to date, dating then official on Oct. We were well into the honey…

Guess it’s time to move on.. — It ended bad. Very badly. Don’t want to talk about it. I’m not sure if it can ever be fixed. I guess only time can tell. So for now, I need to move on. But I don’t know where to start. I feel like I c…

I (26F) paused my engagement/broke up with my fiancee (28M) because he didnt stand up for me against his racist family. now i want to either leave the UK, is that a bad idea? — Hallo everyone. I (26F) posted about this a few days ago on AITAH but my post was deleted :/ I explained how I'm Polish and have been in the UK for 4 years with ex (28M), he's from here. this is shor…

I'm spiraling because of my upstairs neighbors — My girlfriend of 2 years and I broke up a month ago, and I've been completely fucked up, as most of us are who end up posting here. I'm about to be 28, but it was my first real relationship, so this i…

How do I stay mad? — I’m 2 months out of an almost 2 year relationship. I was the dumpee. Right now I’m going between phases of anger and wanting them back. Like one day I’ll be angry at all the things they did and didn…

Control your thoughts — Hey. So many people here are spiraling in grief and sadness. You must control your thoughts. If you let your mind focus on your ex or wayward spouse, your emotions will kick in. You'll spiral thin…

Not missing my wife after 1 month of separation — is this normal? — It’s been about a month since my wife and I separated after 5 years of marriage. In the beginning, I was all over the place emotionally — sadness, anxiety, overthinking, the usual. I kept expecting t…

Advice needed in relationship — I need to share something, i sometimes doubt if i see things clearly or not. Im feeling very hurt and confused. And i dont know what to do. Thankyou for reading it. I met my boyfriend 3 years ago. W…

My girlfriend is going to breakup with me next week — Hey y’all I really just need some reassurance here, sorry. I’m 23m just last week. Me and my girlfriend met in college and have been dating 3 years and are just a year out of college. Ever since we g…

awful heartbreak — i had this relationship with this girl i really loved, it started freshman year when she invited me to her quince (birthday party), we had 9th period together and she sat next to me and talked to me, …

So it's been 4 months... — Currently this morning I'm reminiscing on the good times we had. Specially the sex and yeah, it sucks! we aren't together anymore and I'm here thinking about some of our best and most fun times togeth…

We broke up. Opinions about reconcile? — He left me week ago. We had some rough time for about a year and 2 weeks before the break up he tried had a fight and he tried to break up but I was able to convince to try again one more time. The 2 …

40 active and looking for a spark — I'm 40 and at a stage where I know exactly what I want. I’m looking for a girlfriend who enjoys good conversation, laughs easily, and is looking for a fun, adventurous physical connection. I value hon…

Getting past your ex — Ive been stuck feeling like my soon to be ex wife was the ultimate partner for me. Like no one could ever live up who she was. I’m not remotely close to dating, it’s not at all appealing to even think…

How do I (18M) make my girlfriend (20F) see herself as beautiful as I see her? — Sorry if the title is oddly worded, wasn't sure how to phrase it and that was my best attempt at making it sound coherent. Anyways, me and my girlfriend have been together just shy of 1 year as I writ…

Do we still have a chance? — So back in July my wife 22f asked for a divorce. Im 28m. I went through her phone and found she’d been cheating with someone for about a month. She said it was emotional but she was sending him explic…

I finally broke up with my boyfriend of one year and I feel so guilty — It hasn't been a day even and I've lost count of how many times I've cried. I want to reach out to him, tell him I miss him and give him a hug cause I know he's hurting a lot, cause I know he didn't w…

Thanks for posting this. It's been 6 months post break up and I have been having random peroids of ruminating on the good times even though I know they treated me badly for a couple of months leading…

One of the most powerful things the "and" theory / method does, it stop you from suppressing negative emotions. Feel them. Say them. Write them down. Your brain is programmed to remember the good tim…

I was literally just discussing this with my therapist yesterday. The balancing act of navigating knowing two truths can exist at the same time is hard af. But it does help so much processing emotions…

>So remember the good times, but, speak the reasons you shouldn’t be back there. You mean “and”! ;)

Great observation. Ever since I've had a situationship with an avoidant, I came to notice this a lot in songs. I've heard them written seemingly from the perspective of each side... more commonly anx…

No, not at all. But perhaps it’s also because I have BPD, so I have a black and white thinking. I’d feel anxious during the relationship because they might leave me for being hot and cold — not delibe…

Just went through this. She has a crush on a guy, who's in a relationship, 1.5 weeks after breaking up with me. She clearly wants him and it's so sad seeing how messed up she is. I could never try wit…

I'm going to challenge you for a moment. Imagine your life without him and how you'd find happiness. Imagine what it would be like being with a partner that can truly show up for you. What that would…

Yes. I just thought about this recently. As of 2 days ago. And I figured I would start trying to see my romantic interests as friends as well. That way a lot of the pressure is off. I am dating a guy …

I don't resist those thoughts. When you try not to think of an elephant, you're going to think of an elephant. Just let them come and go. Have some things you say to yourself when they do come, like "…

I'm (23f) currently a few days post broke up and naturally it has been devastating. I broke up with my boyfriend (23m) because after 7 months ultimately because he didn't love me. He said he was …

I'm in a miniature version of your dynamic with a guy who makes me feel on top of the world sometimes and forgotten about others. The hot and cold is exhausting and the good times are just enough to …

Great for you to have this realization! It isn't easy! I sat on my decision the evening before ending it for many hours, cycling through the data and seeking support. It will be unfamiliar at first wh…

I've been there. I could have written this three years ago - the second guessing that you feel someone is inconsistent and not safe, but you fixate on the times that feel good. With closer inspection …

\- You can absolutely fully break down in front of someone. Yes, people are fully breaking down in front of the people close to them - just not, like, all the time. Most people cry a little bit regula…

Thank you for such a detailed answer! I have a follow up question. You said "My close friends are the ones I can rely on, in good times and bad." How do you know you can rely on them? Or are your clos…

I actually tried to move on. But I really really love her. I’m not some weird person, I am attractive and have an awesome career and focus on those things. So I’m not obsessing about her. But for what…

The bad times will unfortunately continue to outweigh the good times, because she has no incentive to be better. You have shown her that she can treat you and your children as poorly as she likes, and…

I’m feeling super unregulated and sad about the ex-situationship-giving-it-a-last-fair-shot-dating-2-years-later being done because he feels there’s no “consistent spark” and has a “gut feeling”, desp…

I've always enjoyed being a bit of a loner as a child, coming from a big family. I absolutely love being in relationships but I also thrive when single. I've lived with boyfriends in the past, but po…

>I started dating rather late, at 28, but since then I've been a major avoidant. Every time I find myself getting close to someone, I overthink it, and feel like I can find someone better. >Also, the…

# I, 37F, am struggling with boundaries, jealousy, and my 48M partner’s friendship I’m wrestling with complicated feelings about a medicine retreat my partner of 6 months wants me to attend this summ…

>Very affectionate in summer and possessive if she felt I was seeing anyone else She probably was and thats why she was worried about you doing the same lol >I would never, those are intimacy behavi…

Hey, I'm guilty of that too but I learned that I can look on the good times fondly and know I that deserve better at the same time. Give yourself time and be kind to yourself. Learning new habits isn'…

I’m still feeling this way almost a year after leaving my ex of 3.5 years :( been no contact for 7, almost 8 months. i miss the good times and our connection so much, my brain completely downplays all…

You walked away because you love yourself. There's someone out there for you who will be way better. You can acknowledge the good times too but also know that their toxicity wasn't aligned with you. G…

>it seems like trying to reason with her about all the things she engaged in with me is futile. YUP absolutely correct she not only will not care but also percieve you as pathethic and desperate whil…

Venting cause idk. 32M just moved to a new city 5 months ago. Never had a serious relationship, last “official girlfriend” was back in high school. So I move here and within a month I meet a girl and…

Don’t let her mess with your head, bc that’s what she’s doing. She wants to break up, doesn’t have the spine to do it, so she’s pushing you away and looking to blame it on you…so she doesn’t have to …

I completely understand what you're going through. I just got out of one myself.10 years, all of the good times and bad times and then trying to manipulate you and convince you that your trying to con…

Of course a lot of us have. Ten years to an addict. The highs and the lows the cycle that got worse and worse and worse. But the good times, man he was my other half I was never and I think never will…

The way to let go of the guilt is to understand that he might have given it to you. There is no way to know for sure. You took blame for something unnecessarily, because it’s is *possible* he had it…

Yea real glitch in the matrix type stuff starts happening regularly. I was watching some geese, glanced away from the sky for a second and looked back, all 8-10 geese had just disappeared. Was cooki…

Tale as old as time: Dad makes new friend (NF).  NF is great!  So much better than previous friends (PF).  Cue a couple years of good times.  Then, you know what?  NF is actually a bad person!  NF h…

So sorry to hear about your dog, they are so special to us and leave a hole in your heart when they leave. I hope you remember all the good times and how this soul enriched your life <3 Thanks for you…

Did that and wasted over a decade on the second try. Would not recommend. Might be different for you though.... But why were you broken up to begin with? Are you sure they should not be in the past?…

Yes, I’ve been going through that too. The toxic relationship we’re both of us were wrong and I also miss the good times. God I miss him so much but I also have to remind myself of the bad times the m…

And leave him with a mustache full of memories. Good times.

“Whenever you think about me remember the good times and I’m not a bad guy”

It's extremely hard, especially when you know that they have it in them to choose you, and in the moments they've shown you, they are an amazing person, but unfortunately they just don't choose you, r…

Please take her off the pedestal you have her on. She has made the conscious decisions 1000's of times to continue to lie to you, to sleep with him, spend your money in pursuit of it. You are over he…

Wow i am so sorry. I understand you, my relationship fucked me up so bad that I am really struggling to move on. I cry everyday, no exceptions. I just wish my mind would shut up for a while, I truly c…

Idt it’s even possible to lose the weight you gain due to hypothyroidism. This man was not gonna be with you in the good times and in the bad times

1000% relate and used to think that to myself a lot. Something else I think that’s similar in nature to this is it always feels empty and emotionless is “I miss my mom.” She >!died!< when I was 15, b…

I’m sorry i totally get it. I felt empowered when I first filed divorce. (Serial cheater during my pregnancy). However, he’d love bomb me and around holidays or bdays I’d question or miss the good tim…

Soooo much pee. And other questionable flotsam. It takes a lot of energy, optimism and enthusiasm to keep dusting yourself off and trying again, time after time. I've had some good times off the app…

Can confirm on the hate list. Single most helpful advice I ever received going through my divorce. The good times were good, but the bad times heavily outweighed the good. The written reminder of th…

We tend to remember and miss the good times. But I think it's important to remember those bad times. So you don't romanticise a relationship that ended for good reasons.

First off, how long were you two dating? If it was several months, and took you "a few weeks" to realize you messed up, was that really the right relationship for you? If you didn't immediately miss …

you're holding onto the high she gave you, but remember the reasons you split. it's easy to miss the good times, but true growth happens when you embrace the lessons learned. keep moving forward, my f…