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Hey, thanks for taking the time to support and share your experience, its really appreciated. Im glad you found someone healthy. Yeah, I will not reach out and mantain no contact forever. I know she c…
Think I found a secure woman, and almost immediately self-sabotaged. — In my social club, there’s a woman who had consistently shown signs that she was into me. I was direct and asked her out. She said she was interested but couldn’t date for a few months because her j…
In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…
How to deal with triggering situations — Life has been so rough lately when living with anxious attachment in a relationship. Everyday is a struggle. We had an explosive argument yesterday which left me even more on edge than normal. To put …
Girlfriend told me she was going to kill herself on my birthday. My attachment was almost healed or so i thought - all of that is in shambles now. — There were a lot of other red flags I have previously chosen to ignore, but this is what made me wake up. I suppose after hiding from people and feelings for so long, I felt like if I just broke it of…
Friend said something that shocked me and explained everything... — Edit: added an extra story to the bottom since this post seemed to resonate with people so much. Be strong folks, you're no one's NPC. You can go back and find a lot of my story on my page, but essen…
I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …
Divorce is Finalized BUT… WTF is wrong with me? — I’m 56 years old. My divorce was finalized in January. My wife was given three months by the mediator to move out of our home. I should say my home since I bought it and paid it off before we were mar…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
26[M] and my 23[F] me and her just recently cut things off. — Things were going really good in the beginning, she was sweet and nice but I realized she was a very different and strange. Like maturity wise, she had so many issues she was very controlling when I’d…
Relationship with a narcissist — Soooo… crazy story you might wanna get some popcorn! I met my ex boyfriend around 5 years ago. We met on Tinder! We went on several dates and really started liking each other but something about his …
3 months of no contact and I still can’t let go. What should I do? — I’m Mia (20 y.o) and I have clinical depression. My ex Daniel (19 y.o.) and has the same diagnosis. English is my second language, so sorry if something is hard to read, an also sorry for such a huge…
We broke up almost a year ago. I just found out she cheated on me — We dated for three years , she was horrible to me the last year. It wasn’t until she hit me that things changed . From then on I just knew this hatred wasn’t normal , something just felt off but becau…
I promise things get better! — Hello and thank you for coming to my TED talk……… If you just got broken up or you broke up with your partner. Or if you got cheated on let me tell you something…… you’ll be okay and everything happen…
Found out my 33M ex GF 31F is pregnant — We were together pretty healthy from 2020 to 2022 from 2022 to nov 2025 it was pretty toxic and on again off again. She would constantly dump me and block me then I would come chasing her bypassing th…
Plot Twist: He Never Changed — It’s been about 6–7 years since I last posted here. I actually left this sub in February because I truly believed that chapter of my life was behind me. After everything, my husband and I did 18 mon…
27 M my first gf left me for another man. — I don’t have my first relationship until I was 24. I met her (let’s call her Ashley) while working fast food after I stopped going to college due to Covid & tuition. She was a typical alternative type…
This is pivotal for getting over your Ex — I got over my Ex by: 1) Forgiving him 2) Forgiving myself And I mean, TRULY forgiving. Fully coming to peace with it. 3) Rewriting the story I rewrote the story for how everything worked out …
Fiance doesn't feel wanted/I am too friendly — TL;DR MY fiance thinks I'm too friendly and wants to feel more respected/desired sexually before showing me vulnerability. He is uncomfortable with me giving men so much attention ie talking too long,…
Facebook Cheating Compulsion — Last month, I \[M36\] caught my wife\[F38\] planning an affair on Facebook messenger. She has lost a bunch of weight recently and was being more active. Hanging out with friends, planning trips, and g…
Turbulent year. Opinions on the worst year of my life? — I got into a relationship at 16. Within the first two years of our relationship I discovered he was cheating by having sexual chats and sending explicit pictures online to other women. I forgave him a…
Limerence after infidelity — Backstory- husband and I got married early in 2015, have two kids (age 7 and 3), but we are both very different people now. He cheated on me back in 2024 , I forgave him, we continued living together.…
Hardest Struggle in my life — I had a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend, we had a really special connection. We had a really bonding and special connection from day one. I made a few mistakes in the relationship and destroye…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
I 25 F 7 month pregnant disappeared after i found out that My 34 M boyfriends cheated on me in the early relationship? — ​ i never thought that i would write such thing. sorry English is my 3 language. i met my ex when i was 18 i moved to the Usa on a scholarship. for me it was love at first sight. he was my fir…
Am I overreacting or is it time to call it quits? — My partner of 10+ years and I are on a “let’s try again” phase after a they had broken up with me a few days ago and I begged to give it another go. When things are good, they are pretty amazing, and…
Should I apologize? — this girl lied to me about what she looks like and just some details about herself for 3 months then when I found out she blocked me so I texted her on another app and she apologized and said that I d…
My boyfriend doesn’t make me feel heard — I (F18) have met my boyfriend (M19) about a year ago through our mutual friends. When we first saw each other we both were in a relationship. My relationship of that time ended after two weeks of know…
She came back but I didn’t care — ( Any questions feel free to ask ) So, I’ve been in this server for quite some time, and it started getting heavier once my ex and I broke up. Long story short, it reached the stage where we couldn’t…
Help — I’m 32. I lived in an abusive family until I was 25, when I got married and moved out of my parents’ house. Both of my parents physically abused me since I was about 4 years old. They sent me to a pr…
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned my into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) She works at a shoe store. From whe…
Is it finally time to break off and how can I (22F) bring it up with my boyfriend (22M) when I never once expressed any discontentment/resentment strongly and openly? — I really need some advice regarding my boyfriend. For context, we met abroad in a western country. I am Chinese and he is Japanese. This context kind of matters. Our relationship started poorly as a …
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
My mom defends my brother no matter what—even after he hurt me while I was pregnant — (24F) have started to feel like my mom (50F) doesn’t love me, and that realization has been growing stronger over the past year or two. I guess I’ll start in February 2025, when I found out my boyfri…
i want kids and most likely will not have them — I'm 15 and I've really wanted to be a mother my entire life. I was neglected in various ways and I decided because of that I will most likely never have kids. I wanted kids so I could make them feel …
Living with my best friend (27) and her boyfriend (29) is making me (27)feel deeply unhappy, am I being unreasonable? — TL;DR *Living with my best friend and her boyfriend makes me feel like a third wheel and an outsider in my own home. There are still nice moments, but overall I feel lonely and like I’m orbiting thei…
My gf [f29] is keeping me [m34] in a weird limbo — so long story short, we've been together 12 years, had relatively normal ups and downs for the most part. we definitely had some intimacy issues. then she cheated emotionally years ago, but I took her…
Wounds Reopened — I was so fine for about 2 years, but something happened recently that just has left me raw. My dad is a textbook narcissist, and I won’t get in the weeds bc it’s a lot. But everyone was on his side …
My bf cheated on me with some other girl and I forgave him — all this started with, me and him meeting on a social platform. we were chill at first but then feeling slowly started creeping in as you all know most of the people just sext around. and we did that …
Still works!!! Every once in a while I test myself and abilities with random objects/animals — My main technique to test my abilities is "butterfly technique" every once in a while I test myself with this technique. I developed this first in 2023 when I started read about Neville. Next day I w…
i feel like i got replaced and i don’t know how to deal with this — i don’t even know where to start. everything feels like too much right now. i was in a relationship and yeah, i messed up. i know i did and i’m not even trying to deny that. i apologized, i took resp…
[36M] struggling with emotional burnout vs incompatibility in a 10–11 month relationship with [33F] after repeated small conflicts — I’m writing this because I genuinely need outside perspective. I’ve been going in circles in my own head for a long time and I don’t trust my own judgment anymore. I’m 36M, she’s 33F. We’ve been toge…
I (24F) want to breakup with my boyfriend (24M) — I need advice on how or what I need to do. We have been together for 5 years now, and we've been through a lot together. We've had arguments about a lot of things like him not celebrating special occa…
Boyfriend cheated once, I forgave, and now he did it again — I just feel numb. The entire first month we dated he was talking to other women on Facebook dating and even brought it to Snapchat. Only stopped when caught. Cried and swore it would never happen agai…
Grieving — TW: Depression, emotional abuse, pet loss, and grief mentioned. \*Edited for clarification and to add paragraphs, because major wall of text. I have been completely no contact with my mother since M…
awful heartbreak — i had this relationship with this girl i really loved, it started freshman year when she invited me to her quince (birthday party), we had 9th period together and she sat next to me and talked to me, …
My bf is a gambler — My boyfriend (24M) and I (23F) were together for almost five years. We started dating when I was 17 and he was 18. Because of the war, we moved to another country together. About a year later, there …
From when I was younger, my mother ruined my life and turned me into an ungrateful bastard. — ​ the peak of everything is my mother, where she has always been the one trying to hold everything together, (and didnt accomplish. So, its all her fault.) From when I was really small, she’d…
I(25M) caught my GF(23F) with a "just a friend" again. She promised transparency until I recovered the deleted photos. — I’m struggling with what to do because we both love each other a lot, but I’ve hit a breaking point. I’ve trusted my girlfriend with a guy she claimed was "just a friend" for a long time. She broke …
My [32F] husband [37M] asked for naked pics from another woman [37F] — Reposted from 2022 to include update. I (f32) have been married to my husband (37) for 6 years, together for 7. The last year has been a rough patch for marital and life problems. About mid Aug 2022…
She is so mean and cruel. am never breaking no contact again. — I literally sent her a 2 second video of our cat Sunshine. Our first cat. And she blocked me. I forgave her for cheating on me and breaking my heart in the worst possible way. How could I be so dumb…
The issue is, I hurt him unintentionally by crossing an unspoken boundary..and im left reeling and in pain because he ghosted. I begged for forgiveness..even not fully knowing for what, but he just re…
Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …
Hi, I’m 22F and was in a relationship for over 3 years with an avoidant male. In June, I decided to leave the place we shared together and move home because of his emotional regulation that presented …
Text of original post by u/Moonk1ssed: Life has been so rough lately when living with anxious attachment in a relationship. Everyday is a struggle. We had an explosive argument yesterday which left me…
When we were dating, I gave my husband an STD. He was mortified (and so was I!) and it almost broke us up. But he forgave me, and we’ve been married 40+ years now. So don’t fret it too much.
That’s exactly how it was! He always asked if i was going to leave him, stopped loving him..etc But after i forgave him for cheating he realized i wouldn’t leave him. And started saying things like th…
Just saw your comment that mentions he also cheated on you and you forgave him!? It sounds like you have a people pleasing, anxious attachment style. I think you need to work on being secure. It wi…
For Christians who weaponize spirituality, I tell them forgiveness is equivalent to cancelling a debt… bc sinning against someone incurs a debt (hence, the whole sacrifice of Jesus and all)… as eviden…
Right, you are a victim of the abusers, it is counterproductive to deny it. at the same time, the fact that you are a victim is not the entirety of you, you got this! on the topic of forgiving, I th…
This isn’t necessarily true. Sometimes you can love someone to death but you know it’s not healthy. For instance. Caught my ex cheating. Still love her to death though and I forgave her. But I couldn’…
Thank you for pointing this out "there's no such a thing like meant for us, or not meant for us". I clarified that I didn't need the apology, I think my original comment wasn't explicit enough. I just…
Thank you for your comment. I had an uncomfortable conversation with a friend who told me I’d feel better if I forgave him. I replied with the names of 3 others he had assaulted and asked if she thoug…
OP, I’m so very sorry. Me and my WH and you & your WW are the same ages, will be married 20 years this May. Like you I had a hard time believing this was my reality when the truth came out, but my hus…
So some contacts this is me coming from a place of having feelings for another person. And not acting on them. And actively resisting them. And still living knowing that there are things in my marria…
While she was ending it I was so hurt and stupidly asked if she was going to go sleep with her ex, (who she had cheated on me with during the relationship but I forgave her and stayed) and she said ye…
I was in your exact situation with the same woman twice. The first time she had an affair we were young. I forgave her too quickly and I didn't do what was truly best for me. While I don't regret our …
It's funny. There's so many parallels. i feel exactly the same way with my exwife. My exwife also had her first affair in Telegram that I forgave her for, before she went to a physical affair as wel…
I was you. I forgave, married my cheater. She got my 20’s, 30’s and 40’s and after 20+ years turns out she never stopped, just got better at hiding even more vile things. If you are still considerin…
One time I saw a nephilim with a lopsided crown on form out of a shadow and grow until it was about 20 feet tall and it reached out its long lanky arms, and it's long pointy fingers emitted strings fr…
>If you really understood her thought processes, you wouldn’t be the person you are with the moral compass you have. She didn’t have any trouble potentially hurting you as long as HER needs were met. …
You go seek professional treatment. It sounds like you have a copious amount of self hate and self loathing, and a lot of times that can stem from unresolved trauma (childhood or adult) and not being …
I'm that ex that said never again because she was cheating on me and lying to me (I forgave everything and she still sabotaged my trust deliberately) but now we're talking like we're friends but only …
OP - here's the problem: you were already rugsweeping this toxic relationship. You said: >"I’m walking on eggshells around him. He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives silen…
During our relationship there were ups and downs, but our “problems” weren’t necessarily tied to our point of views. Thing is, I felt like she changed a lot during these past months. She was the attac…
I forgave my abusers,but refuse to forget. When they want to talk to me or have a relationship I say you had a chance and you shit the bed. Thanks but I'm good.
I can’t get over how that message was from a YEAR ago, and now all I keep thinking is how much more cheating he’s done within that one year time span that you don’t know about. How did you guys get …
You already "tried" and "forgave" at least once, and look how well that worked. It didn't. It rarely does. In your case it clearly didn't and isn't going to. Cheater gonna cheat. What you decide to do…
My mom forgave my dad his cheating for YEARS. I can tell you, she is miserable now and lost her best years and in some aspects her life to this fault. Also it was a lesson for us kids. Kids know more …
You can emotionally recover from this. You have already. You don't want to leave. You forgave him. In a cheaters mind that means you're okay with it as long as he apologies, cries, swears his undying …
Each time you forgave him, he just learned to get better at hiding. You should have left the first time.
I took my ex back a handful of times, and always thought we were good and we weren't (stupid, I know). The last time, when I gave up, we had been together 19yrs and married for 15, 2 kids. It gets bet…
>He has a history of cheating and before you ask no I have never thought about leaving him, we worked through everything. I thought we were good and here it is again. >Can people be saved? If you've…
I was in a relationship with someone who had an avoidant personality, and loving him changed me in ways I didn’t expect. We broke up the first time because he left me to date his best friend. I waite…
Oh my god, I am so sorry. I know exactly how that feels, though it’s not related to my nparent. It was a horrible situation where I was trying to support a friend going through a mental health crisis…
I know I won’t cry when she passes away, I will feel free. I suppose I might cry tears of joy? I do feel bad about not feeling bad that one day, hopefully soon, she will be gone. The whole family’s …
Trigger warning, violence. I was emotionally abused by an older brother. When we moved away from the family and got on with our lives, I assumed that he had reformed, chalking it up to being a childh…
I forgave her but I have not forgotten . The anger and sadness you carry alone because of her was too much and I had to let go so I can start rebuilding. I have no interest in fixing things, working t…
The only thing to understand is that he’s an asshole. I say that as a woman who dealt with something similar, but forgave it and moved past it. Wrong move - it’s disrespectful, gross, and things only…
You and I have very similar situations. The only difference is that I 54M was 22 years(10married), to another guy, that had a long term affair. I forgave him and was the nice guy. The main difference…
10 years of psychological and physical abuse, and with the divorce I lost my house, and lost 40 pounds in 6 months to anxiety and depression. 18 months later I have my own house, a new job, and a heal…
No one is perfect! I forgave him time and time again why couldn't he give me the same grace? But dont worry I am working on not lashing out as well haha
i can tell you about it since i lived it with my fiance. whatever you do, listen to your heart and morals and don't listen to people wanting you to get back together if you aren't happy with it. I tri…
Maybe this is a case where you have both a bright side and a dark side and you can consciously CHOOSE which to enrich and focus on. IT sounds like the darker aspects are currently flooding your mind, …
He is old enough to know what he wants. He doesn’t want to propose. If he did, he would. I know someone who went through this exact scenario. He even cheated on her once and she eventually forgave h…
Mine cheated repeatedly I forgave everytime cause “I didn’t want to break up the home” he left me for a woman he met on an app. Known her for only three days and moved in with her and her kid. Hates m…
I’m staying but I don’t consider myself a victim. My focus is on my kids(10,6&5) and working on myself until they are older. I forgave but I’m not interested in reconciliation. True, there are days I …
Well it complicated, it wasn't a bad break. When I met her she wasnt in the best place mentally. She put in alot of work and I was always there to support her. Never forced her to change anything jus…
I would disagree. Her actions at the end is what really irked me. She said how i was the best bf ever (not a surprise compared to her previous ex), and yet still ghosted. I did things i shouldn't h…
You did the right thing! My husband and I were together for over 20 years. Caught him cheating 7 years after we were together. We got counseling, he sweared that he’d changed, I forgave him and we mov…
I would’ve totally if they reached out in time. I was spending the entire breakup working on myself just incase that happened and/or if she didn’t come back I’d be better for my new person. She reache…