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I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

Finally sober, but I bedrot every day and can't do anything... need help — Hey all, 31F with ADHD and struggling to get out of bed lately. It takes so much energy just to survive. To eat. To go to work. I used to be a drunk, and I drank all of my 20s away. I was an ugly drun…

how I dream journal - pls read and share with me how u journal! — sharing it here because i don't have anyone to talk to about this, i tell my family but they think its super lame one of earliest entries was in 2016 when i was just 10 years old but ive only been co…

Near death and OBE's are not Hallucinations — Near death and OBE's are not Hallucinations Somebody who is able to recall accurate details during their resuscitation which many doctors have confirmed is clearly not a hallucination if they are des…

Is it common for narc parents to care more about pets than their kids? — So my mom has a dog, 3 years old now. She worships the ground the dog walks on, feeds it 2 times a day with treats in between, whenever it has tummy issues or doesn't eat she monitors and takes it to …

A green elf in a purple hat told me to stop smoking, Logic vs Hallucination — Hello, first i apologize for a slightly long post and that the logic flow is not perfect, I am still thinking a lot about what happened. I am really looking for someone who could talk to me about thei…

anyone else feel like their mind is always “on” no matter what? — I don’t think my problem is just overthinking, it’s more like my brain never actually switches off, even when there’s nothing going on I’ll be sitting quietly and suddenly I’m thinking about someth…

Parent wants to kick me out for my disabilities — throwaway for anonymity, I’m 21F, i live with my mom and brother, we lived in this bought house for about 3 years now. I grew up in an abusive household, which i helped my mother escape the abuse of …

I (27F) feel stuck in a relationship with my (28M) husband because he doesn't want to move to my country after saying that he wanted to — **TL;DR:** Married quickly to get a green card, now resent my life in the US, have no intimacy with my partner, and am conflicted because I still have feelings for an ex. This is a lot, and I’ve neve…

I can't get myself to trust a man again, did anyone ever get over this? (how ?) TRIGGER WARNING — this touches on fatherly issues, child predatory behaviour, and sexual assult/harrasment I can't commit/trust/believe/allow myself to love a man again. I've moved a bit throughout my childhood, th…

Huge realization today-- I'm a betta fish. TW EDs. — So, I've had a really rough few days. In reality a rough year. I'm currently recovering from having a spontaneous CSF leak repaired, so my brain is...vulnerable and more dysregulated than usual. I've…

I think my parents get off on bullying me every week — I (20F) feel trapped in a toxic/abusive household and don’t know how to get out I’m 20F and I live with my parents (both 53), and we get into fights basically every single week. I’m so mentally drain…

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

I (27M) and texting a girl (23F) at the moment and she dry texts but then always replies fast? — So, I am currently texting this girl I've been on one date with (where we kissed a lot) and since then, she's not as engaged in texting anymore? Her texts feel pretty dry (although not to the level o…

My mom treats my life like her "story" while withholding any actual love in private. — I’m 17 (M) and I’m counting down the days until I turn 18 in November so I can go No Contact. I’ve realized my mother doesn’t see me as a person, but as a minion or a puppet. When we are around other …

"regret is a poison that can't be cured" — I've been no contact with my parents for almost a decade now. During that time, they've tried repeatedly to reach out to friends and family to get my info. Thankfully they haven't had any luck. But re…

I (33m) just got broken up with by an extreme avoidant the day before Thanksgiving. She was supposed to come with me to my Thanksgiving, but created a fight out of nowhere seemingly to avoid going to …

As we are going through couples therapy that's getting steered towards Trauma therapy for my partners, this hits well. What we are struggling with is my wife constantly switches focus. One day she b…

I feel the need to weigh in again, otherwise you’d walk away thinking you were so right. No, you are the opposite of right. My points were concrete from the start. You’re the one who made up ridiculou…

It's because they are extremely shallow. I have one currently at work that will go around and tell 3 different people what he cooked for dinner and what his dogs did last week and what games he watch…

Don't try to do that over text because the vibe could be (and usually is) much different in person.  As someone who used to get trapped in endless text conversations with women when I was younger, I p…

I sent my bestie a song the other day because I couldn’t stop laughing when it came on shuffle, the winning lyrics for me were: [Must stop](https://open.spotify.com/track/1H5fevectHtb7m72WWxwzs?si=fV…

Im going to give you the advice you need but probably not the validation you want other than to say your husband could do more to find a solution rather than gripe. My own partner is immunocompromis…

In general she will continue seeing him too because affair sex is amazing compared to marriage sex and so why not? It gets more exciting when she knows she has to hide it better. So many guys think t…

I’m reality sorry to hear you’re going through this. Next to death it’s the most painful part of being a human. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re anything but normal to feel this way. Sometimes people’…

Congratulations to you both ❤️ You need to protect your partner and your child from your mom. Even if she switches it up and is nice all of sudden, it won’t last. They are your first priority now, n…

I failed at this and have no advice. When someone switches off on you it is a very special skill that can being them back. I had that skill and exhausted myself reeling avoidants back into our relatio…

My hottest take is that I listen to English for accessibility, both for myself and for others. I'd listen to Mandarin if I could go back and replay the scene. Otherwise, anyone who switches to Japanes…

I get a random feeling a few times a day where I feel like I'm being watched. It happens all of a sudden. Then the feeling goes away as quick as it comes. Same with the ringing in my ear (singular - a…

I'm not married, and don't think I will get married until my nmom is dead. But It's a strange feeling once you see the switches and the pathology just be there in front of you. It's like a bad rogue a…

Plus, he’s been in three different schools in 1 and a half years. Every time there’s an intervention my mom switches my brother’s school

Carlos Castaneda writes about this in his books. I think he calls it The Spirit. Back then I had a friend and he often used to make fun of me and there was an oil radiator that was making a sound when…

I think it's more like saying if someone invited you into their house and let you touch all the light switches, it's silly to not bring up in conversation the fact that at some point, they might come …

This is basically that loop where your brain grabs a normal body sensation and turns it into a scan everything 24/7 mode, and once that switches on your body starts feeling 10x weirder because you’re …

Hi, personnally I use Notion. I write an entry with the date everytime I have to write a dream. I don't think it's the best way to do it because of the light of the phone in the morning but I don't li…

Fight. Unfortunately, this just causes people to believe I am belligerent. I don't want to fight, but the way a lot of people act, especially those with power in a situation, instantly switches me. I …

I’m so sorry, I can relate to that too. My wife does try to understand and we have watched some documentaries and stuff together but as soon as it switches off there’s no more thinking about it. She s…

I relate, but in a slightly different light. My partners younger sister is kind of all over the place emotionally and still gets a lot of support from their parents. It feels like their mom favors the…

It’s a step. I went from absolute freeze where I was numb and would agree to things I couldn’t even remember, to fawning, now trying to set boundaries. It does suck. But it’s a healing process. Th…

If you can afford it, the normal Ozempic type weightloss options are a good idea to block food noise. What really helped me was finding low calorie options to foods that I normally love and just havin…

Oh my god, I’m so sorry. This sounds so traumatic. A lot of what you’re describing sounds familiar, but somehow more scary, maybe because these people weren’t even related. (I can’t decide if it would…

He acted all into me up through the 10th date, and some of our dates were at least 5 hours long, and then switches up on the 11th date especially when I rightfully stated a boundary even if it a bit p…

This is really good. So identification with Awareness is what switches it?

You check to see if the lights actually turn off or not. Bc in dream- light switches dont work consistently. Or look at your hand, some ppl count their fingers. I just look- if it looks trippy im drea…

If you didn’t try to demand or even ask that he change, you’re not being controlling. But you can’t help that you don’t love it. Mine grows out his soul patch like 2 times a year for a week or so. I…

Well it’s a red flag, but maybe he just works really hard and is legit exhausted a lot. You don’t really say anything about that possibility. It’s fair to mention it, though I’d suggest doing so car…

Strong Gemini and mercury influence makes you fast learner and curious but downside is overanalysis, indecisiveness and restlessness. In career you must have done switches, went through not so good ph…

You feel this urge because Mars in Cancer with Rahu creates restlessness and Mercury in Gemini makes you mentally bored fast. You are in Jupiter dasha until June 2037 which actually prefers stability.…

My psychotherapist says it's derealization/depersonalisation - where the brain switches itself off to protect us. I suppose it gets stuck in a loop. If I'm honest, I'd say the main time I don't feel…

Mine switches between red, when I'm unwanted, and another color when I feel more loved and safe, living indoors. Most times, even when indoors, I don't feel loved and safe. When I tell so-called 'spir…

Are you happy with yourself? Your choices? Here's why I ask. Cognitive dissonance can be a major player in the judgement space. Someone makes a choice like going vegan, just as an example. Maybe you f…

I think what it is people miss the most is the routine. You have someone to text when something good or bad happens. They're your "go to". You learn to do everything together. Some people lose their i…

I think that's pretty standard. Any time I feel like crying, I start smiling and laughing. In my case, I think a big part of it comes from not wanting to be "too much". So my emotions have no space in…

THANK YOU. "External euphoric-inducing copes" is exactly it. Like ... there's NO MEANING, NO GROWTH, NOTHING!! Just a big black VOID!! Both of my parents are the most pathetic people I have ever …

I wasn’t saying everyone should go on park dates. And while you say you don’t sympathize with people that threaten violence…but…you do (?)because you somehow moralized violence against me because youv…

it always does continue , unless there is 100% no contact and she switches Gym’s.

Thank you for great answers! How does one fix a "tear in one's aura?" This might be what is happening with me? I feel unclear about what is happening with me. I feel unclear why, the described situa…

idk man from what you're describing it seems like your partner just makes unilateral decisions without caring about how it affects you. that's not really how partnerships are supposed to work the …

I had to Google it earlier why I'm suddenly in the mood when I watch my bf push the hoover round he does the edges to switches the attachment to get in corners, cleans the entire kitchen not just putt…

> Then the letter switches tracks and talks about how regret is a poison, and I'll never get back the time I spend separated from them. That these feelings will consume me and make my life miserable. …

They all do this. Tell him you aren’t taking him back and his tears mean nothing. Then watch how fast he switches up and becomes angry & shows his true self.

I agree with 21stNow. If he is as logical as you say, he certainly should know by now. TBH some guys would just simply give in to the marriage talk just for funsies even if they’re probably not that s…