fawning,

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

Idealization vs Devaluation: how it looked like for me — Tldr: Just read the Idealization and devaluation parts.  ## Idealization * You're a king! * You sexy tiger, handsome god of a man * You're the best!  * Gives gifts early on in the relationship * On…

Single-incident trauma not perpetrated by family - anyone else? Feeling a bit out of place — Nothing wrong with people who were abused by their parents expressing their pain, obviously, but my brain has stupidly been comparatively minimizing my own trauma because I had lovely parents :( Just …

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

Unsure how to approach first contact after a traumatic breakup and structured no-contact — I’m looking for an outside perspective because I’m feeling really emotionally overwhelmed and I’m struggling to reality-check myself. I recently went through a breakup with someone who was both one o…

I was raped in my 20s by my friend’s husband. I was pinned down and then finally gave into fawning when I couldn’t escape. I didn’t realize it was rape for a long time because of the fawning, and beca…

Oh, whatever the situation calls for, but usually fight. I stopped fawning, though. It comes out to the same end eventually, and even though I've known dignity was a lie since my infant daughter vomit…

It’s a step. I went from absolute freeze where I was numb and would agree to things I couldn’t even remember, to fawning, now trying to set boundaries. It does suck. But it’s a healing process. Th…

Yup, it's a lot, like worthlessness just completely taking over in every cell of my body. Bring compassion to these fawning parts of you, and the parts that are so ashamed of the fawning. Bring comp…

For me it wasn't only about stopping the fawning, but actually learning to feel and express all kinds of emotions. What you said about maybe being unrefined really resonates. I get quite overwhelmed (…

I’m not sure if this is really the same or if this helps, but there was a certain tone and type of quietness that my mother would use that was always successful in scaring me into submission or worryi…

It's so normal. I do this too. I think it was helpful for me to stop trying to change it. It's how I'm reacting to the trauma. And minimizing, making jokes, fawning, all of those are normal reactions…

whoa! sometimes it's seriously like i'm looking into a mirror in this community. i am in my early twenties. my mother was just like yours, and i had the same mindset as soon as i reached 13. that i m…

This is really good. Thank you. I struggle with fawning, too. And you're right, every tiny little act of self-love, and making a decision, even, and maybe especially, small ones, that may not be what …

That sounds kind people pleasing which is a form of fawning, yes.