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I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe?

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

r/Codependencypost4/11/2026
Questions on Seneca's Letters

Questions on Seneca's Letters — Hey everyone, I am working my way through Seneca's letters to Lucilius. The translation I have is by Margaret Graver and A. A. Long. I am a bit confused by what Seneca's views on feeling emotions ar…

r/Stoicismpost3/9/2026
The Tragedy Among Us

The Tragedy Among Us — To lose all hope or confidence. This is the definition of despair. I've had my share of all things good and bad, but I've never felt despair. I've seen it. Watching 9/11 unfold comes to mind. Seeing p…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/3/2026
Predator or Stupidity?

Predator or Stupidity? — \* trigger warning \* \*for adults \* sensitive topic I feel conflicted about something...and I wonder what others think... I went on a date with someone. it was pre-disclosed we were looking for…

r/Codependencypost4/5/2026
I feel like I'm too much for for my best friend and I don’t know if I should step back or try to fix it (31F / 29F)

I feel like I'm too much for for my best friend and I don’t know if I should step back or try to fix it (31F / 29F) — I’m trying to understand if this is an attachment mismatch or if I’m just… fundamentally too heavy for people. I’m 31, she’s 29, and we’ve known each other for over 10 years. She’s not a casual frien…

r/relationshipspost4/8/2026
Feeling super lost almost 4 months out, Have questions where I need help!

Feeling super lost almost 4 months out, Have questions where I need help! — I went through a breakup in December with the woman I genuinely thought I was going to marry. The weird part is that I was not even fully happy in the relationship near the end, and when it first end…

r/BreakUpspost4/9/2026
I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe?

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/11/2026
My mom gives tough love when I need to be comforted

My mom gives tough love when I need to be comforted — Since I was a kid, I always told my mom everything. However, as I grew up I started to feel uncomfortable telling her what was on my mind. My mom is supportive, however she can be brash when I need he…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/12/2026
Manifestation coaches have not refuted any anti-loa arguments

Anecdotally, I am good at getting admitted to all-funded conferences, I used to say it’s just because I believe in it. Later on, I realized it turned into a pattern as I was lucky for getting into the…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
Long road to dream job and instant healing.

Very inspirational. Thank you for this.

r/JosephMurphycomment4/10/2025
Services which don't quite mesh with devops

You apply as much as it makes sense for the people and time. Making those decisions for now while maintaining a long view is an important part of DevOps. It's a process that introduces people into th…

r/DevOpscomment5/6/2025
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation?

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

r/JosephMurphycomment5/14/2025
FA Ex who semi-ghosted me sent me this message 2 months later

Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/1/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I usually just try to focus on something or write down my feelings if it's too overwhelming. I don't really know why I'm like this, but I do tend to take a little while before feeling fully trusting a…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/7/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I finally unfollowed my ex today. He ghosted me a little over two months ago, and I never got a reason or explanation. We went from talking about me finally meeting his child to complete silence withi…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/13/2025
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner?

The key is to recognize when you are with someone who 1. Checks your legitimate boxes and 2. Does not make you feel excessively anxious You may not have ridiculously strong feelings off the bat and …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/20/2025
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story

I do understand, and like i said, great work so far. Not detracting from that all! Like i said though i think its hard to simply extrapolate these results into a relationship, because a relationship …

r/attachment_theorycomment12/30/2025
The pain of being unmet...

I get that. A miracle is a change in perception. And that can happen within any relational context you choose. And the balance of Do and Be you're describing sounds very healthy. Conciously choosing…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/11/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I'm an ADHD male. I'll be the first to admit we are difficult to date, how his brain works sounds like how my brain works. It's more so that if he had planned to do chores today, changing that plan …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/16/2026
Are pre-birthday discards the norm?

You won’t find a good reason. This will never make sense to you because it doesn’t make sense. People aren’t rational. This person’s actions are irrational because this isn’t how you act when you say …

r/attachment_theorycomment2/24/2026
Am I invisible to men as a woman in mid 40s? I'm not dealing with aging well.

As a 42M also having trouble dealing with aging, a liberal/progressive/social dem, living in a very small, conservative, evangelical town, in a conservative state, who would gladly date 30’s, 40’s, po…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/9/2026
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath

If my partner was getting threatening and abusive messages that were coming from my number and he was convinced it was me, I would move heaven and earth to prove to him that it wasn't. It completely m…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/9/2026
Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it?

Your previous post had so, so, so many instances of how incompatible you guys were that I am relieved about this update. You're 20 and this is your first relationship and first love. It's always har…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/10/2026
tried dating sites at 41/42 and only get messages from 20 year olds

Ha ha ha! True, prefrontal cortex must be fully operational. Looks like some of the other things you are looking for mean skewing younger makes sense for you. I am not saying that in the wild I wo…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
Revision is where it's at.

that was inspirational. I'm 31 and also struggle with height, but not for long.

r/nevillegoddardcomment3/11/2026
Weekly Rant/Vent Thread

I have very similar issues about not feeling. I found through some intense therapy that when I’m not feeling anything it’s because if I did, the feelings would be too overwhelming, so, I feel nothing.…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment3/12/2026
Saturn-Neptune conjunctions have preceded every major financial restructuring in recorded history. Here's the data.

So here's what happened at each conjunction specifically: 1917 (Saturn-Neptune conjunct in Leo): Russian Revolution. The entire Tsarist economic system was dismantled. Banks nationalized. Private …

r/astrologycomment3/12/2026
My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society.

1. My teachers are what i call, a colony of light essentially. 2. They morph a lot, but the majority of the time they look human but i've noticed some alien looking intelligences as well that definite…

r/experiencerscomment3/12/2026
Understanding Infidelity

Honestly, I don't think anyone will be able to understand. It's irrational. Many people here have already tried. It will never make sense or add up. I think the betrayed person just needs to accept th…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/13/2026
Why am I so insecure now that i'm skinny?

Big body changes can take a while to get used to. Because it's a change to you, you can feel hyper aware of how other people see you. Why not talk to your partner about your feelings of insecurity? Yo…

r/therapycomment3/14/2026
Why do some parents expect you to take care of them(because that's why they made you after all) and at the same time try to fuck over your life so that you have no resources with which to help them?

The same way that drug addicts continue to do drugs even though they risk losing their job and experiencing serious consequences. Addicts aren't rational.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/14/2026
What can I do when my (20F) husband (20M) is convinced I cheated on him because I’m pregnant again and refuses to listen to me.

But, a condom isn’t 100%. He should know this. Dude’s so irrational. Paternity test. Plain and simple.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
This book has been phenomenal.

“An abusive man operates from a belief system in which he is justified in how he treats his partner. When something goes wrong, he does not look inward for the cause; instead, he scans for what she di…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/17/2026
Gambling Epidemic Among Asians in North America

Banking was a major issue for early waves of immigrants. They couldn’t find institutions that would allow them to invest and make returns on savings. By design they were excluded so as to prevent them…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/17/2026
How does a rational universe produce people who are irrational?

Rational often means implicitly rational and correct, while humans are simply rational. It doesn't mean we will always be correct, but the fact that we are even using the logical form of 2+2=orangutan…

r/Stoicismcomment3/18/2026
Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread | March 15, 2026

I'm not pinoy but as an asian tennis and nba fan, I thought this is a neat moment. AF simping to AM jokes. Glad to see at least in some subculture, younger celeb show reverence even if it's cross spo…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/18/2026
How does a rational universe produce people who are irrational?

Rationality is a human construct projected onto the universe. It’s not intrinsically rational.

r/Stoicismcomment3/19/2026
How does a rational universe produce people who are irrational?

The universe, the laws of physics, etc are rational. Human's thoughts, opinions and actions can be irrational.

r/Stoicismcomment3/19/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Nooo no no 😭 You are setting yourself on the path to fix him. Please get into therapy yourself instead! You are taking on your partner as a project to fix, you want to change his entire worldview be…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
The one trait that predicts narcissism more reliably than anything else

There are at least two types of empathy, emotional and rational. I think some of them are capable of rational one.

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/19/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Point out where I'm upset. This ain't about me or you. All I did was point out the fallacy of a truism that invalidates the right of any individual to complain because of their gender, a truism that *…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Women are different than men biologically in terms of body types, reproductive systems, and some hormones. There is nothing in science that actually proves or even supports the argument that men are …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
My (21F) girlfriend had a complete meltdown when I (23M) tried to use her phone

Terrible people are not “perfect for each other other” I hate this take. They need to individually grow, and us just letting them off the hook as if being terrible is in their DNA doesn’t fly. They d…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
How do you stop giving a fuck?

That's not what Stoicism is. It's about focusing on the things you can control, and then caring about those things only. The thing you can control is your attitude. Also, this isn't a solution or com…

r/Stoicismcomment3/20/2026
I asked my T what she thinks about me, I wish I didn‘t

I don't want to have a discussion about transphobia with you because I highly suspect it won't go anywhere. What I will say: no matter if you understand/agree that the joke is transphobic or not, you …

r/therapycomment3/20/2026
He's deleted pics of me from his insta

Youre never an idiot for caring, never feel bad about having feelings. Its what you choice to do with those feelings. If he left the door open of course youre going to keep a foot in it. That’s tota…

r/BreakUpscomment3/21/2026
My husband (39M) is annoyed that I (31F) always get sick after him. How can we find a solution?

Your husband is being kind of a jerk. You get sick because you are around kids a lot, and if your husband gets sick first, then HE gave it to you. Tell him you don't want to be sick, and would prefe…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
I did it again.

Hello LowCryptographer3650, First and foremost, it's important to recognize that the courage and honesty you have shown in sharing your feelings here is nothing short of admirable. These feelings of …

r/ExNoContactcomment3/23/2026
I 27f pregnant can barley eat and my partner 31m didnt sleep because I ate McDonald’s

Which is so wild to me, bc not only is their original statement incorrect or irrational, but their justification for believing it is *also* irrational. They’re ready to die on a hill that they’ve alre…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/24/2026
As an ardent follower of Astrology - I now find it very dehumanising.

No, mantras are not affirmations, not even close. The west has modernized the word mantra and use them both interchangeably. Mantras are a set of syllables put carefully put together which directly …

r/vedicastrologycomment3/25/2026
Struggling and not sure the next step

so you literally had to fight a doctor to get tested for something that turned out to be dangerous. and then you're supposed to just trust the next doctor who says "you're fine"? of course your brain …

r/Anxietyhelpcomment3/26/2026
5th house stellium yet unlucky?

Saturn retrograde in 2nd house of money = broke Saturn square moon = depression Intercepted Sagittarius and Gemini / 5th (self expression) and 11th house (friends and social circles) = fomo Becaus…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/27/2026
My (32M) wife’s (29F) jealousy is getting worse and is affecting my friendships and work. What should I do to help her get real help without losing myself?

Yeah sounds like it and now she's terrified that you'll do the same, but she's only going to push you away which proves her correct (in her mind) self fulfilling prophecy. I'm no expert and your the…

r/relationshipscomment3/28/2026
People with CPTSD what are things that people just don’t get about it?

That makes sense! I think I heard that somewhere myself. I am sure that is a contributor. It's just weird because my morning anger is very irrational. I mean I get angry over/about stuff that is likel…

r/CPTSDcomment3/28/2026
My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open

She barely knows this person. Of course she's going to be concerned that the situation could turn hostile. Their roommate is already sexually harassing them. Roommate's behaviour is not normal in any …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Cheating Husbands: Did You Ever Stop Cheating Completely? If so, what made you want to stop cheating on your wives?

Lots of people don’t acknowledge the cheating and don’t realize it’s kind of like a mushroom, where you see the little mushroom at the top of the ground, but the actual pathology is underground and it…

r/Divorcecomment3/30/2026
M26 F24 How do I move past my boyfriend ruining sex for me?

I want to say something carefully because I think you need to hear it clearly what he did while you were asleep is a consent violation. not a miscommunication, not a habit from a past relationship, n…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/30/2026
I think I need to leave my marriage

My gosh, I feel so close to this. It’s like reading my own thoughts and experiences. I think it’s difficult as a man to leave when your partner has brought more money into the relationship, whether th…

r/Divorcecomment3/31/2026