focus on the present

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

Does anyone here consider cardio a form of meditation — When I start jogging or when I do cardio, it feels like meditation to me. My thoughts might start going rampant but then I have to focus on the present which is continuing to run while not getting tir…

How to focus on the present and not stress about the future? — **Is it even possible to live in the present without having to even think or worry about the future?** Seems impossible when you have goals in the short, mid and long term. I would like to have a l…

My Mother Who Turned My Mistakes Into My Identity — So I'm fully aware of the kind of person I'm and the kind of person I was and today I feel like sharing it because I had a bad fight with my mother & I'm feeling heavy on my chest. Basically I'm the…

I'm really confused regarding my career — hello, currently I'm feeling really stuck regarding my career, I should prepare for govt. job or join private job, on one hand in private job the culture and exposure attracts me... on the other hand …

I am trapped in a cycle of trauma, fawning, and complete emotional dependency: How do I survive when my past won't let me breathe? — **TL;DR:** I survived a horrific childhood witnessing my mother’s repeated sexual assault and suffered years of severe bullying. Today, I’m struggling with AuDHD, Bipolar, BPD, and what I suspect is s…

I think we cannot really move on faster but definitely will bring less baggage into a new relationship. I think it just makes us more likely to heal than to gain scars we have to live with. Their acti…

Hey. There's a lot there. It sounds like you just want more connection with your partner and also to know that they aren't going away. If the digital self harm is making you feel worse, perhaps try no…

If you ever “have to focus on the present” then I wouldn’t call that meditation. Meditation, to me, is when we choose to put our attention on the present and practice that.

u know in Mahabharata at 17th day when karna was fighting arjuna he had training from lord parshuram and he had bow given by lord parshuram , he was son Surya Dev ashirvad yet he loss and it all boile…

Hi, I'm not sure how much you know about Stoicism, so I'll assume not a lot. There are a couple of ideas that jump out from your post. First is you assume you won't enjoy the event because your ex m…

Im in the same situation. Its only been 2 weeks and im in withdrawal. She treated REALLY BADLY,with cheating being the final nail in the relationship coffin. I keep remembering the horrible way I was …

My friend, to be totally candid, I think you're in a dangerous place, and I sincerely hope that you can find your purpose. It might well be something other than having a family, however disappointing …

So she opened up to you and you judged her? Meanwhile she’s poured her love into you and your hardships? Focus on the present and what you guys have together or leave her, grow up (or don’t) and find …

I feel similarly sometimes because of some poor decisions I made a few years back. I heavily regret them, but it is an unnecessary burden to shoulder when you don't have to. I try to simply focus on t…

This sounds more like life coach territory to me - they don’t delve into the past but focus on the present and future and how to meet your goals. It is entirely solution-focused with very little analy…

Just focus on the present.

so if i keep on with my practice I will eventually enter samadhi but I can also just focus on the present while still having thoughts pass through my mind.

In a way, I kind of agree with her. Always talking about the future, brings a lot of pressure up in the moment. If all you two can connect over is the future stuff... Where is living in the present? …

Hi there, I love your question and I want you to know that it is possible. For me, a combination of various strategies applied consistently over the years has helped me to come so much closer to that…

Dear tuneless_carti, Your resolve and perseverance shine clearly in your words. It's commendable that you're facing your feelings openly and honestly. It takes a lot of courage to fight the urge to r…