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Spiralling please help me

You're not "not a very good person." You're not "a horrible person." You're not overly emotional. You are in a toxic fucking cycle (so am I, but I'm on day 9 of no contact). I'm also ND - and I'v…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
i dont know what to do (relationship)

i dont know what to do (relationship) — Im 22 and my dating history is very sparse because i always suffered with rather low self esteem and mental issues. Over the past years ive been opening up and evolving personally, also trying out the…

r/AvoidantAttachmentpost3/8/2026
How do you end an engagement when you both live together, share a lot of expenses, and the wedding is less than a year out.

How do you end an engagement when you both live together, share a lot of expenses, and the wedding is less than a year out. — i’ll start this off my saying i truly feel like a horrible person. I (22M), have been engaged to my girlfriend (23F) for about a year now. I rushed into the engagement in our first year of dating and …

r/relationshipspost3/18/2026
society pushing the "your parents did their best" nerrative

society pushing the "your parents did their best" nerrative — I grew up in a dysfunctional home to say the least. I do not remember my parents caring for me and they taught me nothing - not academic nor necessary stuff (like laundry, period, showering etc.) and …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/25/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores. — My husband 37M and I 34F have been married 5 years, together 8 and we have 3 kids (I have a 13 year old and 10 year old from a prior relationship ship and my husband and I have a 3 year old). I have p…

r/relationship_advicepost4/2/2026
It’s probably not appropriate to say I was traumatised by my housemate who was possibly toxic (probably too far to say emotionally abusive)

It’s probably not appropriate to say I was traumatised by my housemate who was possibly toxic (probably too far to say emotionally abusive) — TL;DR: I was a lazy roommate who drank a lot. She would get very angry at me and I know I’m not great in this, but it would also be over accidents that physically hurt me. I feel terrible a lot of the…

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
What’s wrong with me?

What’s wrong with me? — First time posting so not sure if I’m doing this right but here we go.. I’m pretty much losing it and idk what to do to fix myself. I feel like a nervous wreck pretty much all the time even though I’…

r/selfhelppost4/7/2026
My ex is lying to me

My ex is lying to me — So I’ve been single for about a month almost and she decided we should be friends after she broke up with me. After a few days she went back on dating apps which didn’t bug me but then within the same…

r/BreakUpspost4/10/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I lost my best friend due my anxious attachment style. How do I cope? We were really close, could be compared more to a relationship but we were (long-distance) best friends (for about 1,5 years). I’…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/8/2025
r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
Does anyone else find that exposure therapy and putting yourself in social situations literally fries your brain instead of making you stronger?

i feel this but with general stress tolerance. i’m autistic. it literally physically pains me sometimes to “push it down”. i was taught from childhood (by a mother that claims to have known i’ve been…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/11/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

No, intellectual gaps are real. And it doesn't make you a horrible person. Similar ability and education are almost a necessity for compatibility.  I've stopped seeing people I had to explain EVERYT…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Is it normal to hate your nparents? and To what extend do you hate them?

Sorry for the trauma dump that is coming. The two things that bother me the most is that she would never get my autism, ADHD, and Tourette's checked out, and instead she punished me for them, and als…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/21/2026
My N mom started therapy and her first update made me sick

My mom has gone to therapy and *lied* for 20+ years. I went with her sometimes, and she was so enraged that the therapist "took my side" every time. She would say, "You charmed him!", like I tricked …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/23/2026
I cheated on my husband (online) and want to leave this behind me.

I'm going to be very blunt here and it may come off as rude, but coming from a man whose (now ex) wife cheated on me with several men online and in person, and tried to make it work for several years,…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/28/2026
My Boyfriend (28M) thinks the reason why he can't finish is because I'm (20F) too big from the inside.

Classic narcissist reaction right there. It’s so text book. My ex followed the same pattern, if i pointed out something that made me upset or feel bad he would flip it around where it was my fault or …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
Letting someone you love go

Exactly how I feel. It’s not like we ended on bad terms cuz one of us was a horrible person. We both had communication issues that none of us denied. We were both mature and honest and realized that w…

r/BreakUpscomment3/29/2026
My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this?

this is over. he is a horrible person. you cant give into that. he would never talk to you back then and would make fun of you.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
Told my husband (37M) my life (34F) would be easier without him following a disagreement about household chores.

Yeah your husband is a horrible person. He literally just wanted to ruin your good mood. Letting him treat you like that is bad enough, but you are not protecting your children. 

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
My (M33) wife (F28) cannot accept that I dated a, on what she calls a "low class" woman (F30).

For sure he chose wrong, she must be completely crazy about other things you had to have seen. someone like this isn’t just normal than does something so downright mean. This has to be the most unatt…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/5/2026
Any Golden Child Gone No Contact?

My brother was the scapegoat. When I was in college and exposed to many psychology classes I recognized my family for both of my parents are narcissistic. I realized the pattern of how my parents ende…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
50F, 0M… Is it too late to want something real again?

People of every age are out there looking and dating. My dad got remarried when he was 70. And he’s a horrible person. If he can do it, anyone can.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
Is it just me or I started to not find anyone attractive anymore

I didn’t say I was unhappy. I’ve been in a 13 yr marriage which was incredibly unhappy and being single is FAR beneficial to being tied to a horrible person. So yeah… There are many men who could also…

r/datingoverfortycomment4/8/2026
My (28M) girlfriend (28F) is pregnant with twins. We had an arguement today and she was mad and showed me a video on her phone sucking off her ex. Now what?

@ThrowRAVulture216 : DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT bc it's time to consult legal advice bc there are so many red flags here. On a side note, as a person that had horrible 28w straight of all-day "morni…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/10/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment4/11/2026
Update #2 of Wife Cheated on me in Jamaica.

The good old rug sweeping. She is a horrible person. But it makes sense. You lived in a dysfunctional family and she is dysfunctional. I recommend divorce and then you need to really get therapy. Find…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/12/2026
Update #2 of Wife Cheated on me in Jamaica.

So sorry OP, but she is a horrible person. Do not believe alcohol caused her to cheat. She was planning that activity for a long time, without being drunk. My guess her family she traveled with knew…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment4/12/2026