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My wife of 10 years physically attacked me. I’ve built a successful life from nothing, but the abuse and isolation are life-threatening. Need an exit strategy. — **The Background:** I am 29 Years old man . I married in 2016 while I was a student with zero income. My father supported us, and my wife chose to stay with me in the city during my university years. …
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
I just watched a video on how ADHD makes us prime targets for abusive/narcissistic behavior, and I feel so defeated. — Hey everyone, I’m writing this because I really need to vent and see if anyone else here with CPTSD and ADHD has experienced this. I just finished watching a video by a creator named Danish Bashir a…
When do the dreams stop? — Last night I had a dream that she came back into my life. We were sitting on the couch, looking through the photo album I had thrown away. We were happy, and laughing, and holding each other. I could …
My (31F) boyfriend (28M) has not invited me to his home after two years of dating, and I don't know how to talk about it. — Hi all! After avoiding "serious" dating in favor of school and career, I met a great guy online just over two years ago. This is the most serious relationship for both of us, and we both have historie…
Yeah I don't really agree with their point at all. There’s a big difference between a slow burn that feels a bit boring and something that stirs up anxiety, usually because someone’s bringing anxious …
I see your point, but another watchout is my recent ex did go to therapy (which I took as a green flag) but he ended up having a fling with the therapist afterward (huge red flag) and the only takeawa…
Maybe not :). For me,, in-between 'love bombing' and 'healthy attraction" is "infatuation ". Infatuation and love bombing can be very difficult to distinguish but infatuation can still be healthy and…
Hi. I’m looking for perspective from people who’ve fallen in love quickly, especially after trauma. I’ve been seeing someone for a little while now, and what we’re building feels unlike anything I’ve…
Yeah I second this. I don't think you did anything wrong. I think two things are true about this situation. 1) You two basically did a mutual love-bombing (well, not love-bombing because that infers …
Pro life tip: you don't have to stay in a partnership with a selfish person. Another pro life tip: you need neither his agreement nor his permission to end the relationship at any time. You simply t…
A follow up on my last daily sticky! Wednesday’s date went unbelievably well. Better than I could have even hoped. We’re still texting daily and planning to meet next week. We’ve covered so many bot…
The eyes. Look at the eyes. The lack of empathy. The reptilian fake smiles that aren’t mirrored in their eyes - like they *think* they should smile but they aren’t sharing the emotions. The whiplash t…
Good idea. I had thought about that, I probably should have done that. Instead I stayed home and played the new Resident Evil all day lol. I'm probably going to head to the gym to feel productive. B…
Agreed. I do get what OP is saying to a degree - but they lost me when they said their codependent partner left them to do all the emotional labour. That's uh.... Not a people pleaser then. A people p…
Absolutely. I’m sorry for your abuse. [Signs of Manipulation - WebMD](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-manipulation) Signs of Manipulation Manipulation can take many forms. In fact, even ac…
I would be so flattered to get daffodils on a first date. For me personally, I’ve never received daffodils from someone so I think it’s a sweet gesture. For sure not love-bombing, unless it’s like a d…
And be careful once baby is here, your mother may suddenly lose her fucking mind like mine did. She obviously doesn’t care about your child now - don’t forget that. She. Does. Not. Care. And once th…
I went through something very similar, though I don't think I was treatly as poorly as you were. But the love-bombing was intense. It lasted for most of the relationship - about 5 months - and I reall…
My nMother is similar in that when I was living with her, she was very abusive towards me. She constantly harassed me about non-issues and picked fights with me over nothing. Then after I moved out, a…
Yes you’re right I think it’s love-bombing or manipulation to make me question everything and feel guilty for leaving.
I'm sorry you went through that too. Yours was more intense than mine. She has a mix of both, however she has severe mood swings and insane fear of abandonment too. Like, she projected relationship …
This happened to me - exactly like all the points you listed above. And the relationship turned out to be (of course) a marriage of domestic violence which then became more horrible abuse via the Cour…
OMG … this is so true. I hope that OP understands and doesn’t capitulate to the forthcoming love-bombing once she tells him she’s out.
TLDR is its complicated, and if you want to read a fantastic book on abuse, its causes, and how to spot the warning signs instead of this rambling, read “Why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. The bo…
So, there’s a guy I’ve met through a social group in a bar setting a couple times and we’ve been talking some. I had signaled interest by saying I’d like to talk to him more, which he followed up on …
When i was about 17, this is how i felt as well, i forgot about the more serious abuse, or didn’t realise it wasn’t normal… there are always ups and downs in a narcs relationship. I recommend you look…
This really sounds like love-bombing plus control: he used fake “serious commitment” to keep you invested and afraid to leave or push back. Your discomfort is valid. One small thing that might help fo…
this is so crushing, i'm sorry you're going through this. the way he lied to your face first and then tried comparing it with porn... that's not same thing at all and he knows it you deserve time …
It feels like he's mixing negging and love-bombing at the same time, which is a first for me.
That sounds really difficult to navigate, I'm so sorry. The switch between love-bombing and not being in the mood for affection is really rough. Consistency and communication are important to any rela…