toxicity

"Philosophy is a poison if it pulls you into the abyss without a rope." — Just finished reading Bertrand Russell’s *The Problems of Philosophy* , and it sparked a thought about the "toxicity" of deep contemplation. I’ve started feeling that philosophy acts as a poison if i…

Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

destined for loneliness? — Hello all! I (27, female) feel like I have no luck when it comes to relationships.. friendships I have a very limited amount of people in my circle, and I’ve wanted it that way - the last few years I’…

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …

What makes someone decide a relationship can’t be repaired? — I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships and breakups, especially when they end poor communication or unhealthy patterns (not involving cheating or abuse). For people who are the ones to end a re…

Amicable mutual break up with an avoidant — Hi everyone, I’d really appreciate some outside perspective. My girlfriend (20F) and I (24M) broke up about a week ago after \~1.5 years together. The breakup was mutual, calm, and emotional—no toxic…

Friendship Toxicity — I used to have a friend of 10 years who would constantly put me down but then pass it off as a joke (she did this to no one else). I could never understand why she’d say the most backhanded things to …

Anyone so traumatized by their APs emotional abuse and toxicity that they have to fight thoughts of hurting themselves all the time? — This feeling comes in waves. When I’m stressed mostly. It goes from either feeling sad and angry at my parents or if I’m struggling I feel like a failure and feel like I don’t deserve anything good or…

Unsent letter — I'm sure there are plenty of unsent letters on this sub, but here's my version: STBXW, I know you, and who you really are. You're a vindictive, spiteful, jealous and manipulative person. You're a l…

Regular Dose LSD + Low Dose MDMA Candy Flip Neurotoxicity — LSD (or other HT2A agonists) increases neurotoxic effects of MDMA. I am trying to find out if this also applies to the above mentioned combination. Wondering if this could be a way to develop therapeu…

dumpers: what makes you regret breaking up? — this is specifically breakups that ended well where both parties were still in love with each other but it was a decision based outside factors. i dont want to hear about breakups from toxicity becau…

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED PART 2 AND 3 - GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESSSS!) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need y…

THE ONLY ANSWER TO ALL YOUR QUESTIONS! (manifestation and neville) // PART 1 — (YA'LL I DONE POSTED **PART 2 AND 3** \- GIVE IT A READ OR DONT -YOU DO YOU LOVELIEESS) Alright now ! it's gonna be some tough love so take it that way.' Also it's gonna be one long post so imma need…

I (49F)finally asked me spouse (50M) for a separation (after 20 years)and I am reeling a bit — My husband (50yo) has been an emotionally abusive and difficult partner for a very long time. I’ve (49F) been with him for over 20 years and have spent most of it trying to make it work with him but h…

Overcoming emotional trauma from abusive father, feeling scared — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…

My ex wanted me back — I'll start when it all started (last year when i was 17 and now I am 18) . So when my ex and I first met she had joined my friend group at college and we all were hanging out and just chilling walking…

The letter I will never send. — # I'm not looking for sympathy, I just need to get this out there. I’ve spent countless hours sitting, pacing the house, going for late night walks and drives, pondering my thoughts, feeling stuck, …

I feel I have CPTSD from emotional abuse by my father, need advice — Hi! Posting for the first time here, hoping I'm doing it right. I wanted to talk about my family trauma and seek advice about building a life on my own because my mind is so afraid to ever go back int…

Asian Parents complain like DPS shooters in a competitive game. — It's insane, AP complain, expect too much, never be accountable, lecturing like competitive shooter game. (Of course we are a healer/support role, who did everything we can, but can't heal stupid deci…

Confused and miss her — Broke up with my partner of 8 years a month ago We were at a point in our relationship where she expected me to give more to the relationship, specifically a lot more time she'd mentioned at least…

I(23F)cheated my bf(22M)!? — so before y'll start bashing me read my pov first. i was in relationship with a guy for 2 years almost. we both met online on a telegram group and we instantly clicked.He promised to marry me in the f…

My (25F) best friend (23F) isn't talking to me much after I blocked my ex-friend (23M). How do I broach the subject? — For the past year, my (25F) now ex-friend Dennis (23M) (fake names for anonymity) has made me feel horrible about myself. He made me feel like I had to hide my personal opinions for fear of judgment. …

Genuinely I do not what more methods to do to shift to my waiting room — I started shifting in 2022, when there was still a lot of misinformation and toxicity, but I never got rid of some limiting beliefs. I've had my wr's script for at least two years now and I've tried m…

My situationship — I lost a situationship and was one of my closest friends of 3 years about 2 months ago. At first, I used to think it was all her fault, that she caused the problems, her being the reasons arguments ha…

Ooga..."moderately obsessed" — The alleviation of the soul crushing toxicity from one's orbit while yet being immersed in moments-sometimes fleeting, sometimes lingering-in which heavy saturation of highlighted BEST memories envelo…

Struggling of letting go of someone while realizing what I truly want M28, F28, F27 — TL;DR - I’m caught between two women who seemingly love me and want to commit to me, but it’s messy and complicated. I’ve been in a really messy emotional spot lately. I’m realizing that my past rel…

I (F23) got randomly ghosted by my ex (M25) after talking everyday as friends, how am I supposed to process this? — I (F23) am going through a breakup with my ex (M25). We were together for close to 3 years and now suddenly after our breakup he has gone completely no contact with me. \\\[\*\*PRE-BREAKUP\*\*\* \*\…

Whelp, that about does it — I wanted to try everything and anything possible to save the marriage. After our last interaction I want nothing to do with my STBX. I can't believe I put up with that toxicity for so long.

Need to get this off my chest — I’m a 23-year-old woman living with my family(my parents and my 29-year-old brother). Things at home have always been tense, but lately it’s become unbearable. I’ve always felt like the “last kid” to …

what would you do in my situation? — i’m a 20 year old girl that is clueless about how to think/ what to feel etc. I’m studying a very demanding healthcare course so i’m suppressing my feelings all the time but i think its eating me up. …

NMom sabotaged vacation, attacked my wife, showed no interest in 9mo grandson — A few months ago, we went on vacation with my mother when our son was 9 months old, and her behavior was extremely stressful. She constantly made jabs at my wife, showed hardly any interest in her gra…

I don't know where to start, it's been a long time since we last talk. I know we both know that you want to moved on from the relationship we once had, and we both know i am the only one who's been taking advantage of what once we had. I'd always see you as my future but never the present. — You and i were the same, we're just the opposite of each other but you always find a way to survive while me? I have to cry and tell everything to you so that I could lean to you. I'd never be dominan…

I'm really confused about my breakup and it feels unfair for both of us — My bf (18M) and I (17F) recently broke up after a few months of dating. And im kind of unsure of what to think, as its my first breakup and a lot more complex than what I would have thought. So here…

Accusations and projections — Today my ex accused me of being too poor to pay our daughter's daycare bill, out of the blue. I am struggling financially right now, this is true. I did not bring this up and don't want to discuss thi…

Thanks for the encouragement, and yes, I know it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. I have scheduled an appointment with a therapist and am trying to be mindful of any potential toxicity in my own be…

Thanks! Crazy how we are conditioned to think this anxiety and nervousness as genuine attraction and love. I've calmed down since then and getting to know this person with clear mind. Yes, the wrong…

Maybe (as an FA) I can offer some insight… I was raised by a narcissist. In spite of my best efforts (15 years in therapy), I still have a high risk of ending up in a relationship with one. The mom…

I wondered about that myself. I don’t have experience with it, but after the breakup started researching, and concluded that he’s very avoidant, very afraid of any type of confrontation, something bet…

I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …

>While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant attachment, I don't think it's intentional. …

I wouldn’t send it. If you’re anything like me it will send you into an anxious shame spiral of overthinking, fretting, and self-doubt. If you’re in the midst of a breakup with some other avoidant the…

That's how i felt about my ex for the longest until i learned she had had sex with her dancing coach before me, one she still was training with. She didnt tell me until we were already dating and it…

you said she wasn't doing anything wrong and the toxicity sprang from your jealous insecurity and yet you think she is the one who should take a lesson from the scenario? interesting

Okay so what I am seeing is that your work culture has become toxic. And her changing the status of the friendship was a breaking point or maybe just when it all came to a head and was brought more pa…

I’m 22 this month and had to breakup with the only person I’ve been in love with back in September. I originally ended the relationship due to too much toxicity and fighting, the usual bs At first I …

My ex broke up with me a month ago. We had a powerful connection but life goals and bad timing meant it likely wouldn't work, there was zero toxicity. We'll talk again sometime in the future, it proba…

I (38M) divorced a few years ago. Married for 10 years, had three kids, and it was toxic. I feel I kicked out my coverage and married an 8 or 9 while I’m a 5 or 6. Part of the toxicity was constantly …

You walked away because you love yourself. There's someone out there for you who will be way better. You can acknowledge the good times too but also know that their toxicity wasn't aligned with you. G…

Look, just because I'm empathic and a good listener doesn't mean I want to listen to you vent every single day about the toxic situation ship you refuse to leave because you're addicted to toxicity. B…

The medical angle and pharmaceuticals is right on time with the Saturn Neptune conjunction. Neptune can be toxicity, pharmaceuticals, things you can’t see…

You are doing the right thing by ignoring her. Block her number. Delete her messages so you aren't reminded of her. Block her email address. Block everywhere and delete everything. Her toxicity will p…

The toxicity created a trauma bond cemented by sex. Honestly, I hope you can find a therapist to help you with this. When he finds out you know. It’s not going to be good. He may feel threatened and …

you were led on by a groomer and you’re just NOW figuring out hes married. And dont git me up about 18 being legal. A lot of yall say that bc yall dont mind dating kids. ANYWAY You knew he didnt mea…

I have loved partners and family that way… the truth is something over all toxic to your higher self… your I want to work on me and my anger learn the lessons self may have been aware of toxicity.. it…

Yes. I would recommend both people healing first, which takes time. My most recent ex and I broke up and got back together a total of four times in almost 3 years. Each time it was ~2 to 3 months apar…

You need to remember that a lot of the profiles you see are there because these folks can’t get a relationship due to whatever toxicity they display, while the “good catches” are off the apps quickly.…

Had a roommate like this, they are DEEPLY troubled individuals, they put a LOT of effort into creating narratives and realities and will protect their delusions at all costs, often supported by addict…

The way you’re writing makes it sound like you’re still with them. You won’t find yourself while you’re trapped in their toxicity. You won’t see who you really are in this relationship because you hav…

Ignorance is bliss. Sure, I'd love to give into my curiosity but all it will do is hurt me. So I'll stay ignorant for as long as possible, hopefully, ignorant long enough to get over her. Because I …

Sometimes it takes an outside perspective to see the toxicity of the system. The partner often gets blamed because they’re close enough to see it and invested enough to engage.

I regret staying in contact. I thought it was worth it because I feared losing relatives and I felt deeply sorry for my nmother. My mother never stopped being absolutely vile right to the end. She …

Honestly, go see a divorce attorney for a FREE consultation. Regarding a divorce, find out: * approx. how long it would take * approx. how much money it would cost * how custody/visitation is usually…

Sadly toxicity is gender neutral. Men and women do this. But youre in a rut bc youre letting him live in your head rent free. Go full incontrovertible No Contact. Best way to heal. Best way to show…

I was no contact with my entire bio family until they all sort of died one after another. My stepfather first, then my bio father, followed less than a year later by my bio mother. I'd been NC at that…

I went from the golden child to the black sheep at 14yo. Apologized and went back to the golden child. Back to the black sheep at 16yo. Apologized again and went back to golden child (with caveats thi…

I think she is not doing anything maliciously-- I think your sacrifice had afforded her the privilege of being self centered and inconsiderate because she has not struggled like you have. She takes y…

Dump him, sister. What a pathetic fucking loser. And so what if you have to start all over again? I'm sure your life would be so much better without that toxicity.

> The mystery is the size and dedication of the audience. I do wonder how much of it is being caused by more traditional negative factors (e.g. bad fathers) versus a more male version of social media…

I have a friend in exactly the same situation. Exactly the same. And his wife uses the same arguments, too. All I can say is that I just love modern (pseudo)feminist order of things. Full on, trendy…

Paternity test, couples therapy, individual therapy. He needs to be open and willing though to admit his toxicity and aberrant worldview and be willing to do his inner work.

A wise old man in my church group told me that your kids don’t forget. Someday, when they’re grown up, they’ll remember how much mom talked shit on dad, and they’ll probably have a solid relationship…

Be carful Mugwort contains thujone a neurotoxin and can be dangerous in large doses. (It also brings on periods for women and can cause abortions if they are pregnant) Convulsions and Seizures: The…

I found the article. The first page starts with "Real harm deserves acknowledgment and accountability, full stop. Parents who were cruel, violent, emotionally sadistic, or truly neglectful caused dam…

I am genuinely enjoying this exchange, thank you! You don’t often find real conversation from a place of openness online. I would like to also validate your perspective and agree that there are deep-s…

The conversation you had with your therapist actually perfectly summarizes a recent session I had with mine. “Waking up” is a very good way of putting it. When I told my T it somehow felt lonely, and …

People have the right to be cautious and there is in fairness significant dysfunction in many communities centred around drugs. However there is an unfair stigma to psychedelics, as they can be used i…

Thanks for your thoughts, I feel the same, the high pressure of ranked games just leaves more room for potential toxicity. But, he keeps inviting me so I’m really not sure if he can make that boundary…

You could be my ex… I like to believe my ex would remember the feelings of true joy and love and connection we shared so often. I like to think she would remember the growth. Despite the toxicity and …

I see the same thing: all the Asian men I know are competent liberal adults. I do my own chores and have solid boundaries with my parents. But a stereotype doesn't have to be true for it to be harmful…

Absolutely. Always thought mother 'was the nice one'. It was only relative, in being nicer/better then nFather is a very low bar to exceed. Turns out she had been enabling him my entire life. In…

That is understandable. I’m sorry you are going through this. I was only asking because it’s usually completely impossible to have a relationship with them that isn’t actively making your life worse…

I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s awful but you will come out of it better. Would you please look at the fact that you are now looking at yourself, your alcohol addiction, your children and…

I think the manosphere is somewhat of a self fulfilling prophecy at times. A young man may gravitate to it from a feeling of disenfranchisement, and if they stumble upon the any toxic routes it leads …

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