healing.

psychedelics keep telling Bryan Johnson to grow up and he doesn't — Hey everyone. I'm sure a lot of you have seen Bryan Johnson's psychedelic experiments by now. The Don't Die guy: 100 supplements a day, thousands of biomarkers, got blood plasma from his own son. Over…

Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…

Thank you — I'm in one of the healthiest relationships I've ever been in, and this subreddit—along with my therapist—has helped me in a big way. I still get triggered, but I'm better at self-soothing and have lea…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out. — For five months I was absolutely certain I was dismissive avoidant. Monthly attachment coaching—as a DA. Studied obsessively, could recite every AP/DA/FA trait. I even built this text analysis tool, a…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

chronic depressed and sad — I have been suffering from chronic depression for many years. Despite many attempts, it still persists and has become part of who I am. Sometimes, I have been able to cope with it. I used medication f…

Updated Rules — Hello, your mod here. The rules for this sub have been updated slightly, check them out at your earliest convenience. Basically: 1. Please remember this is not a space to make blanket statements…

Here's to an emotionally secure 2026! 🥳🎈🎉😎 (open thread) — Happy New Year everybody! Open thread to share your small or large intentions and steps for making 2026 a more emotionally secure year 😊 My commitment: I'm going to ask for help. I'm going to as…

AnxAtt healing group: Meeting #1! — **Thank you to everyone who joined our first Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting just now.** I really appreciate it. It was a great conversation with a thoughtful group of people from around th…

I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…

Avoidant wins! 🎉🎊 — Meant to put this in thr weekly vent but it's kind of late now. It's amazing what consistency of safety can do to your nervous system. So the main reason I have no real friends is because I fear the e…

Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain. — I didn't plan to go no contact. I just got to a point where I realized every time I reached out I felt worse for three days afterward. So I stopped. Day 1–7 was the worst week of my life. Worse than …

Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…

I ran into my ex and his new girlfriend. Crashing out. — So sad and discouraged in my healing. He and his new gf got together when we’d still been dating and the breakup was messy. I thought I was getting to a good place but seeing them together has me in a…

You've Tried Manifesting Them Back Multiple Times - Here's Why It's Not Working — **"I've manifested my SP back multiple times but it never works. Now it just feels draining."** **You're not failing at manifestation.** **You're failing at creating coherent field states.** And th…

If you're reading this, you're gonna make it. — Hey, you. yeah YOU. I know what you're going through. Nobody is on this sub because they're having a good time of it. I know that, because 4 years ago I was in the exact same place. Any advice you rea…

Just deleted her number — She left me for greener pastures in June of '25 and went no contact in July. I miss her dearly. I loved her with my whole soul, but she left regardless. She isn't the villian in my story. I am. I …

Have we reached a tipping point with generational trauma? — So many people are just… so traumatized man. I’ve met way too many people over the years that are obviously stuck in a 4F response. I can’t imagine it was this bad when my parents grew up. Maybe it wa…

After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…

Best tape for physical healing — I just got a meniscus repair on my knee and would like to use hemisync to aid my healing. I've only done up to advanced focus 10. Can you point me to the most appropriate tape(no matter from which wav…

If your ex blindsided you, no contact probably will make them come back. — This is long- but I hope someone in NC with their ex in hopes they’ll return will read this because this is reality. I had an ex I loved so so much. We were together for 6 years, from when I was a t…

I Changed Myself and Got it All — Hello, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a very long time. Grab a snack and come along for the ride! **The Beginning: April - October 2022** I discovered Neville 4 years ago; after a year of …

Gut issues during spiritual growth? — Hi I was seeking some advise regarding a health issue ife been experiencing for a few years which doesnt seem to be getting better. Ive been diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis. Over the last few yea…

Could use some compassion - I broke up with my ex of nearly two decades last fall. I was codependent on him for everything. — TW: a depressing and heavy post, self blame, neglect I left him last August after realizing we were holding each other back. I wanted to get married but he just… never proposed. At one point we did …

Writing about my experience with Iboga medicine 🌱 — Earlier I made a post and someone commented that they didn't want to watch a video. Understood! Here is an account of what I saw during my time with ceremony number one with iboga. It was not what I i…

Something I wished I had heard about sooner when I struggled leaving my now nex that would've made me leave a lot earlier. — Why we stay is because of trauma bond and hope even though they play on that and say to you "if I am abusive why don't you leave", unhealed empaths stay because we delude themselves on what they could…

TV, Movies, and Novels — While I appreciate a good workbook or self-help book, such as Facing Codependency or Boundaries or the Big Book. I find there is something wonderful about just hearing a healing story and drawing my o…

Addiction, traumas, healing? — Hi, I am not really interested in OBE, but my goal is more like healing... not only on the level of the physical body, but also other layers - mind, addiction, trauma, and similar things. Does anyone…

I’m starting to heal all by myself — I went no contact after a very toxic situation a couple of days back. I’ve started following a couple of YouTubers who preach self-love and healing. I’ve started aggressively trying to glow up these …

How do you actually stick to no contact? (building something to help) — I’m building an app to help people get through breakups, specifically to survive the hardest part: not breaking no contact The idea is pretty simple, but (I hope) powerful: 1. It tracks your emotion…

The impact of Mother / Daughter SA - People don’t talk about it — People don’t talk about MDSA (mother daughter sexual abuse) much. They do more than they used to though. There’s also Janette McCurdys Memoir *I’m Glad my Mom Died*, which discusses this type of abuse…

For everyone on this subreddit going through heartbreak, never give up on yourself — It’s been 8 months of depression now. I miss her more than ever even though I don’t want to date her. I just miss my best friend. There is an immense amount of heartbreak on here. We’re all together …

Just broke up with partner because we were becoming codependent — Hello, I (26F) broke up with my girlfriend (25F) earlier this week. I’m really struggling because I did really care for her and we cared about each other, but ultimately, I could see our relationship …

Would this make sense? — I am still in love with someone, so ethically don’t think I can say I am looking for serious relationship. But I have a good libido and was in a sexless commitment for 3 years and I don’t want to wai…

My ex (30F) and I (30nb) broke up 6 months ago and I want to vent about it — After dating for almost 2 years and living together for 6 months my ex broke it off and I had to move out. I am a trans nonbinary person (AFAB) and the day we met my ex knew I would be pursuing gender…

I built an AI from my ex's chat history and it's helping me process the breakup in ways I didn't expect — My relationship ended about 8 months ago and I was completely wrecked. I couldn't stop going through our old messages, replaying conversations in my head, wondering what I could have said differently.…

I still love him after he cheated - should I stay or give him a chance? — I’m having a hard time processing my breakup. My ex and I were together for three years, and it ended because he cheated. He never became physical with anyone else, but he talked to people on a dating…

I finally did it — It took a few weeks but I finally did it. We've been nc since the breakup (about a month now). But we still kept eachother added on a multitude of apps. Never interacted, but for some reason we never …

1 year since D-Day, and I didn’t cry. — 1 April marked a year since my then boyfriend cheated on me. I found out a month later, so I guess I was bracing myself for both dates. One down. I spent nearly 9 months after that absolutely crying m…

My best friend turned lover ghosted me last year, but turns out he was cheating — He was my best friend, my rock, my lover, my support system. We had been friends for 7 years. He asked for space last March to deal with some grief, and I obliged, but he told me to wait for him. He t…

My mom called me on my birthday to apologize for taking me to the hospital instead of bruising me when I was sick as a kid. — My parents are in a cult that believes in bruising=healing. They are in china. In traditional Chinese medicine, some branch believe that the color of bruises are a sign of toxins, and by bruising your…

Process - Month 2-3 Experiences — This will be shorter than the last one. You can read the last one but mine is relatively easy (no children) and we are on good terms with no financial ties. The legal process is going quite smoothly. …

Why you should not check their social media - 4 scenarios — There are basically four scenarios that could play out when you check their social media: **Scenario 1:** Nothing has changed. They haven't posted anything, shared anything, etc. You get a tempora…

By God’s grace, I’m free 🎉 — After a long and painful journey through abuse, the Lord has brought me through. I’m officially divorced and stepping into freedom, peace, and healing.

They’re aware of what they’re doing, but why? — A few months into my awakening of the neglect and I KNOW it’s my childhood self seeking answers as to why they’re like this. For the most part- they’re aware. A conscious grown adult who goes against…

How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…

1 year ago today. — Making this post moreso for myself, most of the proper details can be found on this profile if anyone is interested. On this day, a year ago, my ex girlfriend broke up with me after a couple days of b…

Tip on how you can report your abuse when you have "easily triggered" parents which makes it difficult to tell secrets to parents? — How to tell someone about abuse safely if you have social anxiety If you have social anxiety, selective mutism, or just find talking about serious stuff terrifying, here’s a step-by-step way to tell …

no, you are missing the HUGE part of what I said "and not do any of those things enough to want to get back together". It is almost UNIVERSAL unless you did truly heinous shit like rape / abuse, etc. …

I can, evidently, post that info in r/energy_healing.

If you read the Power of your Subconscious Mind, you will know about Lourdes and one particular fascinating healing.

I don’t understand your take on this. No contact has time and time again been proven to be the best thing you can do for mutual healing if the breakup was bad or not mutual. Giving eachother time an…

maybe if that's like ALL you're doing, but the occasional vent can be healing.

They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…

It can help you by managing your triggers, but it does not mean healing. Years of exposure to emotional turbulence sounds like a disruption to your nervous system, your attachment style. In fearful …

There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…

I don’t relate to attaching to my therapist, but I certainly was blindsided by some of the anxious traits that have popped up after I started healing. It was pretty disconcerting until I read in a boo…

Like others already pointed out, this is a good thing! My best friend's mom is a psychotherapist who does long therapies with demanding clients and she says that going from avoidance to attachment anx…

My therapist pointed out actually that withdrawing emotionally while still feeling emotionally connected or retaining symbols of connection as a part of push and pull dynamics. It is not a manipulatio…

It's absolutely true that the outcome is you getting hurt. I just don't think you understand how terrifying it actually is. If you were that scared, you'd do the same. It is a survival instinct. Idk.…

Thanks for your answer it really helps. My therapist told me I was leaning towards secure she also said I made such an enormous growth when I put an end to the situationship I was in. She also said I …

There's no reason anyone needs to know that you see a therapist. If you don't tell people, they won't know right? Depending on your health insurance, a session usually only costs a copy ($20-40) fo…

Some thoughts - this is rushed, so not nicely written: \- Anxious-preoccupied: preoccupied with attachment figures and attachment relationships, anxious about possible unavailability of attachment fi…

This is such a great comment, thank you for adding it. This sentence: >those of us who spent our childhood begging our caregivers to love us and constantly trying to convince them we are worthy of th…

In general, whenever someone uses attachment theory to blame others and externalize their response to bad relationships, I get icked. It’s a very very useful tool for self reflection but it’s quickly …

Wait, what do you do for work? I have not looked at the regression rate. I’m a couples and individual therapist, so I work with many insecurely-attached clients. The core corrective experiences and e…

Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…

No, that's what I'm saying. And I didn't say 'fully healed', I said 'healed'. Or healing.

Dang! I really felt this post. I've been working on becoming secure for over five years now. Met a great guy and leaned in to any initial discomfort, because I recognized it was not him/us, it was me.…

Gave me what I wanted? Lol I didn’t ask you for anything, I merely stated my different view. Whether u agree with me or not is irrelevant. It’s Reddit and ur a stranger. Ur desire to “give me what I w…

Okay, this is long and it might sound harsh, but I relate to a lot of what you're going through and acted much in the same way as you did, and I've gone from anxiously attached within a friendship to …

I know, for sure. It took me a while to learn my own terrible habits and a lot of it came from dating avoidants who were uninterested in healing. It’s a scary thing to feel and some (like me) see the …

Not everyone heals the same way and depending on what someone is healing from, a romantic relationship is the last thing that will promote forward movement on healing. Not everyone should be in a rel…

It’s never easy when it’s that early especially with other major life events like moving. That being said, sometimes the language we use about our exes can get in the way of our healing. I used to say…

I had like a 4 month intense long distance situationship with a severe FA, he deactivated and broke up after meeting for the first time from the increase in intimacy and our first conflicts. I could s…

OP your self-insight is great and this on/off again pattern (while unique to each individual relationship in its own way) is reassuring to read because of just how many similarities we all share. Th…

You just described my BPD ex wife. FA, would ignore me instead of addressing concerns. Emotionally unstable. Wouldn’t talk about something until it was time for WW3. Blame shifted. Justified her actio…

For me, understanding is key for my healing. Having this community and its members (like you) helps with the other parts that are a bit too sharp to handle on my own.❤️ Therapy helps, but this firs…

Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…

Im purposely single for a year now and that has done its part in my healing. But the second part would be in the relationship, because learning the relationship outside of the relationship is like lea…

Are you seeing a therapist? There might be more going on than just anxious attachment. That can only be addressed by a professional. Side note: lack of self acceptance, self love, low self esteem an…

I'm really proud of your journey to healing. On an unrelated note, it always surprises me how FAs can just bring up such intense feelings in other people. Anyways, focusing on your healing journey, …

I'm leaning towards secure now, but was mostly anxious attachment with some very strong avoidant tendencies as well. All of my exes were avoidant. 2-3. You're missing a key component of avoidance, wh…

I think you need to do the work to dig into the root of why you would even want to go back to someone that treats you like that. How does that not turn you off to that person? Is your self worth that …

Being a man has nothing to do with any of this. Subscribing to toxic masculinity ideals will only do more harm to you. Odds are you are experiencing limerence which is not uncommon with anxious atta…

If you are healing from a previous toxic relationship, I’m guessing that whatever happened triggered something that the past and that is what you are feeling. You need to take the time to soothe yours…

Yes. I just thought about this recently. As of 2 days ago. And I figured I would start trying to see my romantic interests as friends as well. That way a lot of the pressure is off. I am dating a guy …

Aside from seeing a therapist there are plenty of books out there that could be helpful. Getting to the root of why you shutdown and what limited beliefs you are operating under can help you know wher…

Doing things in place of limerence is coping. Coping helps in the immediate/short-term, but not the long term.  I'd recommend using an IFS style approach when you catch the limerence happening and t…

You have posted before about this and have gotten some great advice. I think you are being too hard on yourself. Progression is not linear. It takes time and practice. There are a lot of layers to hea…

5 months post discard. Nervous system is healing. Missing them / crying etc often, but it is what it is. This too shall pass.

For me, anxiety and antidepressant meds got me to the point to even think about healing. After that, when it’s at the worst, I still have to physically remove myself from their presence. Then I gather…

I think setting down some rules while you're still calm and not spiralling can help. If you broke, no contact in 1 month you probably wanted to get something back.. I think for most people, healing in…

I think the answer to your questions is "not yet"... At least, not in a secure way (because i can always take anything as a red flag and bolt before anything even starts). I think a big reason of…

First off good for you for working on healing. My question is what were you like with secure people would you more likely stay or leave

Sending love to you. I recommend finding an attachment informed therapist and doing inner child work, that’s what really helped me, I also really like DBT and compassion focused healing. I talk to my …

I feel that this is a good sign! I see it that way too - behind the dismissive walls sits an anxious little kid who's been trapped for a long time and gone a bit feral. Once we let that kid out, we …

I think you have found an amazing partner, and that you are finding your healing. I don’t know your journey, and I don’t know what you’ve been through, but I’m proud of you. I’m proud of you for maki…