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In Stoicism, it's definitely the judgements that you're making that are causing you the anguish. In fact, the Stoics say that hanging onto incorrect judgements about things that are categorised by the…

Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…

Become Indifferent Neville says. But it's easier said than done. My Tips. — If you want to be in charge of your creations you have to become indifferent to your own reactions. And it sounds easy until someone triggers the bejeezus out of you. Politics, your mother in law, pe…

The only thing you'll ever need to manifest ANYTHING. — *And it's so clearly is the internalisation of the idea — "being good with it and without it".* *I'd Like to quote Nero Knowledge here who perfectly describes what manifestation truly is, "Manifestat…

Avoidance and not being able to access emotions when deactivating — Wondering if this is something other avoidants have felt and how to deal with it. I’m in therapy but I don’t know that it’s helping that much with my attachment stuff. I’m in a relationship with a wo…

Fear of being judged — Today I've messed up a tiny bit, catastrophizing a bit. I've just finished renovating my room with my parents. I love them and I've expressed that multiple times, and often times I feel it's reciproc…

I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca.  I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…

Coming to terms with the fact that I am a stalker, and I'm not sure where to go from here — I met a girl online about 4-5 months ago, and she basically love bombed me. Was super into me, kept pushing to meet, and told me she loved me. I was initially really indifferent about the whole thing …

No reaction/indifference really is the best reply - 3 months on — It's been almost 3 months since I was treated horribly by a narcissist Ex. I was away, blocked on ig and dumped by text. I found multiple intimate posts a week before I was dumped, including videos of…

Don't take, but give. Don't want, but be. — **“Do not waste one moment in regret, for to think feelingly of the mistakes of the past is to re-infect yourself. Turn from appearances and assume the feeling that would be yours were you already the…

Blocked by ex — My ex broke up with me 6 days ago. Before that she had like a week in which she didn't feel like herself. She was hot and cold towards me but mostly distant. The day of the breakup she was very angry …

A luminous all-seeing eye has been watching me — I've seen it now through a few types of experiences - one vision, at least one dream (though it might've been closer to astral projection as I was sent back to my body, and something like a combinatio…

WTF happened — Hello Reddit, I think I just need to get this off my chest. Because I don't get it. Today I shook my head while walking home, because I realised that I never actually took a chance in my life and I …

I'm fourteen and I've been in a really weird situation my entire life. I don't know what to do. — trigger warning for sensitive content such as abuse (only financial abuse is really explicitly stated), alcoholism, s icidality (in the past, censoring in case it gets the post removed or something)?…

What can I do to suppress loneliness and emotional neediness? — I’ve been very alone lately. I don’t have a social life and I’ve been trying to build one for 10 years. I feel very lonely, like my life is gray and empty. When I go out and see other groups of peop…

Welcome! Read Me First. — # Welcome to r/Stoicism. This community exists for serious discussion of Stoic philosophy. It is not a forum for general self-help, motivation, validation, or professional therapy. It is also not a p…

Case 4: Did Michael Jackson die? — **Case 4: Did Michael Jackson die?** Age \[redacted for privacy concerns\]. I am with one of my parents on a business trip. For the past couple of days we have been visiting various landmarks such …

My 30/F Boyfriend 34/M asked us to get married and my parents want an engagement. Is it necessary? — My 30/F Boyfriend 34/M asked us to get married and my parents want an engagement My boyfriend and I have dated for a year and are plan to get married. We had a very serious conversation about it and…

Did my brothers manipulate or abuse me? — In short, my siblings emotionally neglected me while I was in a state of extreme exhaustion for about a year, and they didn't let me stop until six months later. They pushed me until my psyche began t…

ive become obsessed with my "ex" boyfriend — my ex (20m) and i (20f) were together for almost 2 years (and living together for about a year and a half), and broke up about a month ago. it was a mutual agreement due to both of us feeling like the…

How to not take it personally when your ex sleeps with you the in 2 days with somebody else and acts indifferent towards you. — I cant stop taking it personally, she says she loved me as much as her dead mother and cant talk causally since it breaks her but all i see is her feeling indifferent towards me and going arond sleepi…

He's having a baby with the affair partner — It's been three years since my ex left for his AP. It was a shock, but I thought, "he's had a vasectomy, at least there won't be any other kids". Today he informs me that our son will have a new ba…

Feeling better after staying busy — Idk how to write this, but I realized that I feel better when I’m actually busy doing something else with my life. I think now when I think about my ex, I sorta forget what he looks like now. I even k…

The grief that I’m actually moving on for real — I just dreamt about me and being happy with my life, like I am today. Being with genuine connections, family, God, and then achieving something. Then I saw he was looking at me from afar. He used to b…

My weed smoking story — This is the story of how I started and then quit weed. I've kept it real and raw. Take what you will from it. For me I'm hoping to get some kind of therapeutic value out of talking about something I b…

I (28 M) need advice, my gf (26 F) began to love me more for the last year or so after I told I would move states when I land my dream role. Not sure on what to do next — I (28 M) met my gf (26 F) three years ago and have been dating her for the last 2.5 years. At first, I didn't have much hope for a LTR as did she but for different reasons, of course. I am a bit of …

Ex said she loves me but isn’t in love, then sent mixed signals after breakup — trying to understand what’s going on — I (27M) recently went through a breakup with my ex (26F), and I’m trying to make sense of the situation without getting pulled back into something confusing. For context, she studied veterinary medic…

Anyone adult daughters move their family away? — I am. 36 yr old mother to a baby girl. My family is similar to everyone’s on this sub. I was a scapegoat to an Nmom and indifferent father, with a GC heroin addict older brother. I have suffered immen…

Updated Cheat Sheet — 4 Years ago I posted my daily cheat sheet, and I've been off Reddit ever since. Here is my updated version! I have a list of 10 concepts or principles that I read every day to help me along my St…

Why are so many people absolute jerks/POS? — I am not talking even entitled or lacking self awareness... like actual ASSHOLES. Like, will actively and consciously go out of their way to make others miserable almost to the point of being sadisti…

Is it a valid for me to be concerned by my partner’s cultural knowlege? — I (21F) have been with my partner (21M) for 4 years. I love him and he’s a great person. He's patient, so kind, and I've grown up with him. But I’m starting to be bothered by a certain level of "intel…

what’s harder? being dumped by someone who was indifferent by the end or dumping someone you truly loved? — i wanna know your thoughts. because i’ve gone through both. and i cannot tell you what’s harder.

After about a month of breakup, anyone goes through the phase where you actually realize how incompatible you two were and you'd probably resented him/her if ended up staying together? — I think I started resenting my partner well before the breakup happened due to his extreme frugality, even though I wanted to fix it while in it. Every fight he made me feel so shitty about myself ju…

People would happily watch you die instead of help at all — Let me summarize my life to you in one sentence. Screaming for help when I’m dying (my breakdowns feel like dying+ suicidal ideation) as people are completely indifferent or dismiss and invalidate or …

People will happily watch you die instead of help — Tw: >!suicide, suicidal ideation!< Let me summarize my life to you in one sentence. Screaming for help when I’m dying (my breakdowns feel like dying+ suicidal ideation) as people are completely indif…

I honestly am indifferent, but I would never want him back. He's someone else's problem now. I can breathe!!

Oh believe me, I spend a lot of time talking to them. They only answer rarely. My latest thing is to take each part and work to understand wehre it's coming from, what it's movtivations are, how it …

All insecurely attached people tend to show up the same early on in relationships. They're usually all persistent at the start, which is a sign of someone that is insecure. Secure people don't priorit…

I think that’s totally possible. Emotional blunting or solving your depression by making you just not really care about most things is how some antidepressants work. And seeming indifferent over your …

I don't resent any of my exes. When exes would reach out to me I was pretty aloof/indifferent towards them. Which is typical avoidant behavior strategies. Usually the one's that have resentment toward…

Yeah. I was used to my mom being not loving but when she got busy with other stuff or my cousins and was just indifferent to me, I think that really damaged me, I still remember how that felt, like yo…

Delete their number and block them on everything. It's like a self-imposed boundary to keep you in check. You reached out to salve your anxiety, but that decision has only led to feelings of shame.…

>It’s also worth wondering WHY I want to even try to be friends in the first place. Must be an anxious thing Grief avoidance is common in both anxious and avoidant attachment systems. My advice, as …

When my last relationship ended and caught me blind-sided, I was going through the same thing. After a month or so of nonstop crying and ruminating, one day I just woke up feeling lots of anger and re…

How sad. To be honest I wouldn't rather stay single than be with someone who is indifferent to my problems.

Saturn in Aries is Saturn in fall, meaning the restriction is pushing against a sign that fundamentally resists being contained. That tension is exactly what makes these periods feel extreme rather th…

I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…

To begin with, actually suppressing emotions is impossible. In ancient texts, Seneca tells this so many times. Another important premise: emotions are NOT a bad thing for a stoic. There are positive …

Not OP, but I wanted to weigh in because this is a really common point of confusion, especially for people who are new to Neville’s teachings. Letting go does not mean forgetting the desire or becomi…

Its happened to me a bunch. Its nothing to do with them either, its all me. I'm just very apathetic to everything right now with basically the world being what it is. I might be fine and excited to …

As a cat person, I have a strong preference for cats. It doesn't mean that a cat in a profile / photo is an automatic like from me, but the chance of me liking a profile of a cat owner is higher. I d…

The Stoics would actually say you don't need to get rid of nihilism so much as pass through it. There's this idea in Chrysippus about preferred indifferents, things that have practical value but aren'…

I am a liberal man. I will not date a woman who is into maga, or someone who is indifferent about maga. That means I will only date a woman who is opposed to maga completely. And OP is looking …

She doesn't like you. This is the thing I really wish I understood sooner. It feels incomprehensible that a person you've devoted so much to, cared so much for, put up with so much for... doesn't like…

Honestly that’s pretty common. A good conversation or a fun night doesn’t automatically translate into real curiosity about someone, sometimes it just means you had a pleasant evening with a stranger.…

We weren't ever designed to live by ourselves. That goes against our nature. It would be nearly impossible for you to function. We can certainly bear it if must be that way, but you couldn't build a h…

I understand you so much. I was a child who learned quickly and had an easy time at school. I thought I would pursue scientific studies, meet kind and interesting people, and live an intellectually st…

The best thing that happened to me with my cheating ex/w was when I realized I had become indifferent towards her and the guy she left me for. 

« As we all know, how Neville emphasised on imagination and it is what shapes our outward realities but that can only happen when you are in a state of flow. » That’s not exactly true. 😉 I and many…

I always assumed deattachment referred to the undesired reality. 😅 so ignoring/indifferent to the 3D

Every individual is a group project. Life isn't unfair, it's indifferent. *Society* is unfair.

This is an excellent post, especially when you talk about safety and protection. It was not there. When the choice is made to go towards safety by individuating internally from the trauma bond, whic…

So I asked ChatGPT if this post aligns with Neville's teachings. This was its answer, which I think is actually quite interesting and helpful: Short answer: **it overlaps with Neville Goddard’s teach…

Such an important point... The lack of justice can also hinder healing. It's not cool that survivors are the only ones responsible for fixing what they never broke in the first place. And no one sho…

Ugh as someone that had been mostly avoidant and flipped to anxious, I relate so much to what you wrote. I’m so sorry you experience this insanely frustrating cycle too. I used to describe the feeling…

This is spot on. Nice and considerate to others but completely indifferent when it comes to me. Its comedic atp. I even volunteer to wait in the car sometimes or make up another earned to run so she c…

At least it happened now than years later. These are all red flags (if you’ve been in this sub before). Intense immediate connection is almost always a red flag; they will dump and move on as quickly …

This is something I'm trying to navigate too. I've been isolating for the last few years because of shit like this. The same people that tell me that I am too quiet and passive are the same ones who s…

i don't think you "gave up" after a year. i think you were indifferent to it.

I find guys like this act like the choice of having children is taken on their behalf. He'll passively agree to kids but never actively contribute to child raising as a result as it was something he i…

I don't really remember, but I remember feeling tired of not seeing any movement for the past year and that day I told myself I'm gonna move on, and from then on at school whenever I saw him during br…

Such a bummer that he didn’t speak up about it earlier and isn’t making up his mind either about whether it’s a deal breaker for him! Even if it’s not a dealbreaker, it became one for me after havin…

From the stoic perspective there are no mistakes. Everything that happened in your life is viewed as necessary. Regardless of how you view the event and your emotional impression of it, good bad or in…

Sounds like this is her kink, she’s likely done it before with other partners to behave so indifferently, but she needs your consent to be doing any kinks to you. There was no prior discussion, walk a…

I guess I'm just scared that if he comes back I would grow indifferent. And thank you, I'll definitely try doing that. Has your ex reached out?

I definitely do, but I'm getting to the point where I just try my best and move on. There's only so much you can do, and if you're doing what you're comfortable with then all you can do is hope that …

That would just mean you fully healed from that experience. As for me, I was the one who reached out almost 5 months ago. Our split ended up messy so I owned up to my mistakes and apologized for my …

If you're getting more indifferent every day, will you take him back if he one day takes accountability and asks for the relationship back? I feel like I wont, and that's what I'm scared about.

Which I would say just proves how indifferent and unloving they are because if you at least cared a bit, you would be very aware that you failed.

The Stoic universe operates as a singular, rational organism governed by Pneuma, a divine breath or reason that structures all matter. This universal reason, or Logos, is perfect and consistent. Howev…

There are 60 plus NHI that have been to Earth. They are generally divided up into the Orion Alliance, generally considered to be indifferent or malicious, (not my personal opinion but that’s typically…

the objective isnt to stop caring but to stop being controlled by your emotions. In general you deal in virtue. to give a quick google quote: In Stoicism, **virtue** is the highest good and the sol…

You stop giving a fuck about how things ultimately turn out by actually realizing that absolutely everything happens according to cause and effect, not the mind’s wishes. You start noticing the steep …

I think the first two years after my accident may have been the most challenging of my life.  However, from a Stoic perspective these events were still all indifferents - not good or bad. The only…

Yeah, once I stopped “assuming good intent” for things that couldn’t possibly have a good reason, everything kind of came into focus. The person I thought loved me, actually hated me. I thought he was…