in our control

>But I would argue that Stoics divide life into what is within our control and what is not. Actually the (ancient) Stoics didn't do anything of the sort. What you describe is a complete misinterpret…

Question of virtue ethics: Proper Ambition, the golden mean between ambition and unambitiousness. — I like to identify through my actions as a stoic, and recently read an interesting quote that I would like to provide in hopes of assessing the opinions of like-minded people. I'm not sure who origina…

Welcome! Read Me First. — # Welcome to r/Stoicism. This community exists for serious discussion of Stoic philosophy. It is not a forum for general self-help, motivation, validation, or professional therapy. It is also not a p…

Shedding the fantasy around the emotional roller coaster is such important work. As avoidants recognizing that quiet doesn’t mean danger is vital but also choosing someone who has the emotional presen…

Great question! Firstly, I recommend listening to Michael Greenberg's podcast. Episode 252. Secondly, ask yourself, has rumination ever improved your relationships? And/or led to reconciliation w w…

Girl, don't feel any shame about this and don't apologize for it. imo men (especially black men) do this all the time, so I don't see why only women need to be shamed for it for having racial / aesthe…

The feeling is one of flow state. Sometimes that comes easily and sometimes it doesn’t come at all. It’s not 100% in our control, so we just need to show up and do our best. One thing to note is to…

A year of dating: a retrospective Today marks the first anniversary of my divorce and my subsequent foray into dating apps. It was a challenging year, with a lot of frustration and a lot of growth,…

Health negging is still negging, and your boyfriend is seriously ignorant. When I first started reading, I thought he had a pathological fear of you gaining weight. But just reading everything he’s sa…

Anyway, luck is not in our control,so no point fretting over it. Hard work is within our control, so the scales can be moved by us.

I never met anyone so good at manifesting desires exactly as they are in the mind, all of them. So many things are not in our control. When it happens, the unwanted things, or the non-manifestation of…

Honey child, you know why. It never gets easier, the best we can do is keep making people uncomfortable, succeeding and strengthen our community ties with other POC. I seldom see yt supremacy in the P…

I agree with what you say about the dichotomy of control (personally, I see it as an introduction, i.e. an over simplification to get us a bit closer to the actual concept) but… >What you choose to d…

Have you tried acceptance? When we try to control things that aren't in our control, it leads to more suffering. If you accept that it's not good, but it's happening. You can take a different path a…

"Impressions happen to you, not thoughts. Thoughts are verbal representations of impressions. You get the impression of light from your eyes. You create the thought "It is day". The thought is in your…

A lot of people complain here about other people’s actions rather than how their own actions can contribute to the problem. What is in our controls is our own actions. I’m not telling anyone to do any…

Thank you. I do see that in many ways and I understand the work Prosoche plays in how the epistemic chain plays out. I'm unsure if we are discussing pure technical terms or psychology of Stoicism in …

You’re an adult. Start acting like one. If you don’t set boundaries or learn how to put your parents on an info diet. They will do anything in their power to control you and the direction of your li…

Same for me, I begged in front of her aroundly for 1-2 months, but at the end she made her choice that like someone else now. So, for me it's also hard to digest it. So, now we are in no contact as at…

Honestly yeah, I see where you're coming from. From personal experience? I never thought my trauma made me stronger, in fact I always thought that *I* was the weak one because I had "small things" e…