encouragement

You don't know what the truth is, he only told you after you asked AND the police said they didn't have enough evidence to prove a criminal charge. People are quick to say... "but he told her every…

Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…

Medium sized win I wanted to share — My wife has ran and operated a women’s boutique for 8 years and in March we purchased it from the parent company. She has two full time employees and 8 part time employees as well as an online store a…

My husband cheated and is now the meanest person I’ve ever met — I really just need to rant because I feel like I’m going to lose my mind. So my (30F) husband (38M) cheated on me 4 days after my 30th birthday. To go into more detail, he snuck out of our house while…

Understanding the parent who ‘did nothing’ has been really hard for me. My therapist recommended I share. — EDIT: Thank you for being a safe place to share. I feel seen, but also heartbroken that so many of us have this in common. Due to the kind encouragement I received, I have posted links to the three …

Had my first tiny experience! — Hi fellow dimensional travellers :D. Just wanted to share a small personal win here for personal and mutual encouragement. I've been practicing the first Gateway tape for a week or three, n…

A LOB analysis of an experience I had at 17; and some encouragement — # Long post, probably worth it to read: There was one certain manifestation (I don't say LOB yet on purpose, you'll know why) of mine when I was 17 which always gave me goosebumps at the time too, an…

BE OPEN TO RECIEVE! (Manifestation tips + encouragement.) — I'm going to cut right to the chase (forgive my English, I'm not native, and I refuse to use AI.) I've always been a natural optimistic person from myself. Even when life hit me with the worst situat…

F30 not sure what to do next, nowhere to go — Hi there, I broke up with my long term partner recently, I'm currently unemployed and looking for a new role, slowly running out of money, nowhere to go (no family and friends). I invested everything…

I’m always scared — Hey all. Don’t know that this is the right place for this but here we go. I did some psychedelics through the years. Experienced a bad(der) trip once where i fainted and i got to admit that I’m al…

First visit after going no contact. Support needed. — I (31f) went semi no contact with my narc mother in November 2024. What I mean by ‘semi’ no contact is that I had her blocked on everything except for email - which she of course utilised to the best …

It has to happen- some encouragement — This is the mentality I’ve been trying to stick to. This and “I always get what I want” It’s worked well for me, and this knowing feeling that I don’t need to worry because it has to happen has gotte…

My ex (M25) reached out me (F24) after a year and a half of no contact. — Long story short last week I got the text I never thought I’d get, my ex texted me to tell me he is going into the military and put me down as a reference. He then proceeded to say he’d like to see me…

Who's up for joining me in a manifestation challenge? — UPDATE: hey guys! I'm so happy so many people have wanted to join the challenge ❤️ just wanted to offer a quick update. I've seen some movement with my SP, we were no contact prior to this post. He's …

how the fuck do you do this — i wake up with the worst anxiety, shaking and trembling and i can’t eat or sleep, insane breakdowns at least 6 times a day, dealing with a range of emotions especially guilt. guilt for the whole relat…

Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters — [**Saved by Aliens! Twelve Benevolent Encounters**](https://youtu.be/aPMjZJDOfis) by Preston Dennett https://preview.redd.it/78ywlpbo7zsg1.jpg?width=1604&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bac3d50493e2b7125956…

Worried my mom will ruin my wedding — I'm getting married this year. I have done a lot of self reflection recently about how my childhood and the way my parents treat me. I had the realization that I was the golden child and my siblings w…

i learned something about my abuser and im really struggling…words of comfort + encouragement appreciated (if you’re in the space to do so) — TW FOR SI AND SUICIDE ATTEMPTS i’ve attempted suicide many times because of my abuser. she made me feel like i was nothing, i would always be nothing, and i was a “selfish manipulative thieving liar”…

Bf cheated F25 M21 — I’m 36 weeks pregnant and I just found out that my baby daddy cheated on me… with a man. I’m heartbroken, confused, and honestly feel so lost. I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m trying to foc…

Bf cheated on me with a man… — I’m 36 weeks pregnant and I just found out that my baby daddy cheated on me… with a man. I’m heartbroken, confused, and honestly feel so lost. I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m trying to foc…

Help — Hi everyone, I am looking for feedback and advice.. Here is some content: I have been married for 5 years, with my husband for a total of 7 years. I was 21 when we met and he was 29. He struggled with…

Cutting off my toxic mom right before my wedding? — I am a 32 year old woman and an only child to my mother. She is an adopted only child with a lifetime of trauma she never dealt with and has dumped onto me through my childhood until now. She is also …

My Husband’s Cheating – — I just need to get this off my chest and maybe hear from people who’ve been through something similar. I’ve been married since 2017. We have 4 daughters together. In May 2023, out of curiosity m…

I feel stuck — Hey hey, Im 25m, autistic and have experienced trauma my whole life. I struggle greatly with appreciating the amount of work and success I have achieved in the past, to still keep on going. Every li…

Anyone else’s nmom tell you they get weird texts from you? — Now and then my nmom (70s) will claim she got a text from my number that was so called “disturbing” like one time i texted her that I was gonna drive off a bridge and that I sounded really depressed —…

How do you grow out of feeling inferior in your own relationships? — I’ve been feeling really low lately and I’m trying to understand how to help myself grow out of this. In most of my close relationships, I end up feeling inferior. It often feels like I’m not someone…

My partner (27f) cheated on me (32m) and I kicked her out today. — A week ago that I found messages on IG of her and another guy we know sexting each other. I work full time and take care of our family financially while she stays on home with our 2yr old daughter. Th…

BD cheated on me with a man — ’m 36 weeks pregnant and I just found out that my baby daddy cheated on me… with a man. I’m heartbroken, confused, and honestly feel so lost. I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m trying to focu…

How do I help my partner with his phone addiction? — TL;DR - How do you best support your partner who is struggling to break out of his phone addiction, around which he is self-aware and feels a lot of shame? I (38F) and my partner (34M) have been tog…

On and off for 2+ years, I want this to be the end — \*needing advice & encouragement We had an awfully traumatic relationship - trauma bond, mental health issues (I have complex PTSD from him, and an array of other MH issues like bipolar, and social …

[Discussion] 42 year old wife and mama. Looking for suggestions, encouragement, insight, resources, or for someone to just come kick me in the as* and tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself. Kidding, kind of... :) — As mentioned above, I am a 42 year old mama of two boys (12 and 13) and a wife of 17 years. I have always been a pretty self motivated, optimistic, positive person. Staying in shape, weight training a…

Manifesting your dream house tips! — Hi everyone! So I fell in love with this apartment close to the beach and I'd love to move in but it's a bit out of my budget... I recognize I'm feeling a bit scared and you know, some limitant belief…

I'm spiraling, in need of encouragement — Husband cheated. He's not home and hasn't contacted me for 2 days. I keep replaying everything in my head. I almost lost my cool and sent him some messages. I didn't, but I was so close. I gave myself…

I’m tired. — I (32F) have been married (32M) for 4 years and change. During our marriage I have endured domestic violence, isolation, the worst in laws with religious psychosis, and verbal abuse. Our finances cons…

I think my mind is improsioning me — I have been aware of this forum since I was around 16 years old. I am now 25F. I have really suffered at the hands of my parents. Them never saying I am good enough growing up, taking my phone away f…

I’m in a codependent marriage… — I’m about to be 41,f and my husband is about to be 35, m. We’ve been married seven years, together ten. To say that these years have been rife with trauma is an understatement. I married him two years…

My Dad hit me frequently as a child, I've never been able to identify my emotions — I was born mid-90s so around this time it was still considered "normal" to hit your kids. Disgusting, I know, but that was that. My Dad used to spank me as a young child (like under the age of 8 or …

A Few Words of Encouragement — Obviously most of these posts consist of people telling their stories (including my first post, which is [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/1ryb479/i_stayed_for_way_too_long/…

How to become a leaver? — This I guess I’m writing this for advice? I wrote on here a while back about finding out my husband had cheated right after our wedding, along with other inappropriate instances. I know I should have…

Is my guilt actually more harmful than my shame?? — Added NSFW just in case, also touches on abuse related to religion and references SI Hi all, and apologies in advance if this gets lengthy. I am struggling to organize my thoughts and have been going…

A year and several days of no contact I’ve moved on: Ask me anything — It’s been a year since I started no contact and a year since the breakup I went through hell and back but I have moved on and want to help anyone who might need a little encouragement or motivation. I…

I (24F) am a chronic relationship seeker and I want to break the cycle — I have not been properly single for the last 5 years of my life. Ever since leaving highschool I'm embarrassed to admit I've gotten myself into relationship after relationship with a maximum of a two …

Break up story. — Hello Fellow People, I would like some support with my breakup. If I will be okay. And if what I am feeling about the situation is accurate. A few days after my birthday I decided to go out with a f…

Suffering from anxiety and many other issues since more than 5 years. How do I get better? Please read. I have no one to talk with. — Hello everyone, As the title says, I have been to therapy before but had to stop due to financial difficulties and rising bills, as it became too expensive for me to continue. I struggle a lot with …

Suffering from anxiety and many other issues since more than 5 years. How do I get better? Please read. I have no one to talk with. — Hello everyone, As the title says, I have been to therapy before but had to stop due to financial difficulties and rising bills, as it became too expensive for me to continue. I struggle a lot with …

Soon to be divorced. — Wife is diagnosed with ADHD, she's been over using her adderal for several years. When she runs out she crashes and can't work and calls in. She basically had a mutual separation from 1 job about 2 ye…

How do I move forward on this situation? — Hello, I struggle with cptsd from childhood emotional abuse and neglect. From the outside I look put together. One of my struggles is not knowing how to handle emotions because I was either shamed, d…

Anyone else suffer from stress induced seizures? — My seizures don’t affect my brain. It’s kinda like an extreme panic attack. I’ve been tested and my doctor told me I had conversion disorder from extreme stress and trauma. Made sense bc my childhood …

Just over a year out from the worst breakup of my life. I'm okay. — Quick vent and then some words of encouragement for you all. A year ago I had a falling out with a woman I genuinely thought I would marry, at 33 I had never felt that way before about anyone. I hav…

I’ll check this out and thank you so much for the encouragement! I’m definitely continuing with the self hypnosis then.

Thanks for the encouragement, and yes, I know it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution. I have scheduled an appointment with a therapist and am trying to be mindful of any potential toxicity in my own be…

Aw mate. No, it doesn't seem pathetic at all. Makes sense why it's still in your head after 2 years, then. That sounds really difficult. I feel for you. Your solution is a good one... but can I add…

I appreciate that, nice to have encouragement!!  My sister is in a fight for her life, but making some incremental progress everyday... and thankfully I do have good friends & family around me as a su…

It may depend on the root of the preoccupation or rumination. Things like limerence, codependency, working on self esteem, generalized anxiety, ROCD, or OCD etc etc. All of these things may have other…

I finally unfollowed my ex today. He ghosted me a little over two months ago, and I never got a reason or explanation. We went from talking about me finally meeting his child to complete silence withi…

Hi, (18M) sorry for the long story: For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for around 7 months now. Her and I both have avoidant tendencies but she talked to me about my avoidant tendencies…

I know this is an old post, I was searching FA on this sub and yours really piqued my interest. I don’t think I was ever that much of a FA except for when I was a teenager, I had childhood trauma and …

I err on the side that believing it is what makes it impossible. My mother was DA and now “earned secure” - she was only 17 shy of 18 when I was delivered into the world. She got diagnosed with DID w…

FAs can be so sweet and strong. I bet your family adores you. Sending full encouragement.

Everyone in the my core friend groups at church or from college is now either married with kids, DINKing or engaged. And the worst thing is that I am started to get encouragement rooted in concerns. T…

*Should this be a post or here? I am seeking support and encouragement towards a secure/healthy response, not just validating my withdrawal!* I just put myself in spooked horse mode. Been talking t…

You are absolutely right. It only takes one yes, which is what I’ve been telling myself. Strangely enough, her being so kind in her rejection made it sting more 😂 Thank you for the kind words and enc…

I'll keep an eye out 😂 I appreciate the encouragement!

Thanks a lot for the encouragement. I definitely think #2 is mixing me up with other Hinge matches. Which, I'd understand more if I hadn't given a very memorable/distinct answer to this line of questi…

I love this sub. The glow ups are amazing. The encouragement and compliments are amazing! Everyone just hypes everyone up. It’s very uplifting

Aw thank you for the words of encouragement :)

I would say I tend to be a pretty reserved person when I start dating someone new. I’m a bit of a paradox. I love dressing up when I go out and getting all done up, I’ve even modeled. So people expect…

Appreciate the words of encouragement! Yeah that seems to be the general consensus. It’s just something I’m going to have to get over if I ever want to get swole! 💪🏼😬

You make great points and I do agree with being careful about giving up on a potential match to quickly. I usually have a minimum two date rule if there's any potential. Unfortunately in her particul…

Thanks for your words of encouragement! I was so crushed and embarrassed at first, but I felt really good after we were able to talk it out. I think us guys get in our heads so much when we're with a …

I’ve been having trouble fully jumping back on the apps. I made my profile visible again but I can’t hit the match button on anyone, for some reason starting that first convo is always hard for me. An…

I don't have advice, just encouragement. You can do it. Be confident in yourself (and kind to the other person). Ultimately we have to do what is best for us. It'll be hard but if you think it's the r…

I could use some words of encouragement.

Thanks so much for the encouragement. Everything you wrote is powerful and true. I’ve had this heartbreaking conversation with her so many times but I find she always eventually circles back acting li…

I’m six months post-breakup, and it has helped me a lot. I’ve been using it mainly as a tool to understand my grief and to reflect on what the breakup revealed about me things I hadn’t fully seen bef…

Thank you for the encouragement, I like that analogy of filtering through the weeds. I appreciate your thoughtful response.

Thank you for taking the time to write all of that. I really appreciate the perspective from someone who has been through it and come out the other side. Right now everything still feels pretty raw an…

I’m Gen Z and my friends and I grew up not really embracing our culture because: 1. Lack of positive representation and encouragement from our parents. 2. Consumed pop culture that largely excluded A…

This was the first moment I realized my mom wasn’t “normal.” I honestly couldn’t fathom a mom being this way to her child but I was angry inside because things didn’t ever make much sense. I was comp…

Thank you for taking the time to write all of that. I really appreciate the thought and experience behind what you said. I think you made a really good point about safe people being the ones who help…

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. No matter where you are in your self-improvement journey, r/selfhelp is here to offer support, encouragement, and shared wisdom from those who have walked …

"You didn't show any interest in it!" That's very familiar to me too, and covered learning to write, household tasks, learning to cook etc etc. The truth is I would have been interested if there had b…

I'm guessing here, but I imagine that since your girls were best friend for such a long time, your partner must have known (and been friendly with?) your late husband? Is it possible he's dealing with…

If you still want to give tge relationship another try, maybe try properly teach them, as if they were a kid. For real. That's what my boyfriend did for me. Every couple has a different dynamic and I …

My heart stings reading this because I’ve felt it too. No matter how you pivot, they still center you as the problem. Frightening and humiliating, yes! I also need someone encouraging, which I think …

I've also loved singing ever since I was little. My parents thought it was just a hobby, even when I expressed interest in that I wanted it as a career. I started teaching myself when I was 9 years ol…

The only “encouragement” I think I got was my mother who was largely absent and only visited annually wanting my drawings so she can bring it back overseas to show people she knew. It actually resulte…

I got excessive support, interest, hype, excitement, interest, encouragement. Basically mom made a huge huge huge deal out of absolutely everything.

I caught myself rehearsing through 3 or 4 different non-existent potential future confrontations where I might need to fight for and prove my innocence while I was fixing myself some post-bedtime ice …

Thank you , I appreciate your encouragement more than I can express.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. No matter where you are in your self-improvement journey, r/selfhelp is here to offer support, encouragement, and shared wisdom from those who have walked …

Well I have other reasons to hate my school but yeah teachers being like this part reason to why I hate school. And it's actually really great to hear that adults care about kids. And thank you so mu…

Anything I showed an interest in got a dismissal, “don’t touch that”, or “we’re just not into that”. I’ve described it to other family members as a death by a thousand cuts of your self esteem and wit…

Agree, it does take time to develop a new habit. It also helps to have a strategy for developing that new habit, as well as some type of support, encouragement, and accountability. Something helpful…

I can really understand how painful it feels when the comfort you used to get from someone is no longer there. That kind of emptiness is heavy, and reaching out here already shows courage. Please know…

EDIT: sorry, if you didnt want encouragement.... Feel free to ignore.... I totally get this. I could have been something too. A bf once called me a diamond in the rough. Guess what? Great news. Its a…

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. No matter where you are in your self-improvement journey, r/selfhelp is here to offer support, encouragement, and shared wisdom from those who have walked …

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. No matter where you are in your self-improvement journey, r/selfhelp is here to offer support, encouragement, and shared wisdom from those who have walked …

Wow! I’m so sorry for your experience. That’s so awful. And thank you for the words of encouragement 🥰