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Firstly, I am sorry if anything is out of step with your current situation, and if you have questions feel free to ask or even read the FAQ contained in this sub-reddit, filled with valuable informati…
We live in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and punishes inter-dependence and needs. That impacts what we start labelling as anxious attachment, and how we are encouraged to heal. — Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we cannot ignore that cultural norms have *always* di…
I wanted to discuss letters 3 to 5 of Moral Letters. — I just finished letters 3 to 5 of Letters From a Stoic by Seneca. I wanted to summarise what I got from them, and talk with y'all about the parts I didn’t fully understand. If I misrepresented or mis…
How do I deal with a non-virtuous past that led to a good and comfortable present? — Hello everyone, In the past months I have been studying Stoicism (I have read the Discourses, Meditations, and now I’m on my way through the Seneca letters). I, however, wanted to have an opinion on s…
Is it inevitable that one arrives at stoicism with non-virtuous intent? — Not to get religious. But I remember reading a sermon years ago - CH Spurgeon I think - where he was describing true and false faith. He described that there would be a genuine love for Christ himself…
What are your thoughts on providence? — I can agree with stoic theology up to a point. I believe that it is within human nature to be spiritual, and that believing in providence might also be natural to us because it can be a source of grea…
Stoic free will versus determinism — I recently posted this comment on a question regarding free will in Stoicism. I’d like any refinements or corrections to improve my understanding of free will and determinism in Stoic thought. The St…
How do I sort between feeling bothered by injustice, versus not feeling bothered by injustice? — In a situation where someone is being "hurt" (only in the sense that the individuals care about such things), i.e., having a physical item stolen from them, how can you care about having that item ret…
How do you deal with the virtue signaling? — I wrote this in another narc sub the other day but I’ll try here as well: My cluster B ex (his SD-3 score is 3.9 machiavellinism, 3.8 narcissism, 3.2 psychopathy if that helps) has a habit of using h…
Hypocrisy is the tribute vice pays to virtue (Politics) — \> “Hypocrisy is the tribute vice pays to virtue” What does this actually mean? La Rochefoucauld wrote this in the 1600s but the idea goes back to ancient Greece. Here’s how it works mechanically. …
Text of original post by u/pineconewashington: Disclaimer - anxious attachment style is real, it creates distress in those who have it, and causes real strain to relationships. That being said, we can…
I have a few different things to say in response: First, I should answer your direct question: # What is Kindness I'd say that's just a semantic thing. The real question is what you think is the ri…
I teach adults and teens to create a line of energy from the bottom of their first chakra to the chakras at the center of the planet. This is powerful and solves a lot of energy problems. Whatever s…
If you are needing to "control" a judgement then the judgement itself is probably not in accordance with virtue, and should be corrected. Emotional discipline, unlike some modern views of stoicism, …
No, they don't. But do the Stoics abide by all four virtues even at their own peril? The example I gave in my post, certainly doesn't involve 'peril'. But if there was a situation where acting virtu…
> Personally, what I do is weigh the cost of my actions on myself and others, and when there is a net gain that's what I do. So I hold the door open for a stranger whose arms are full, because it cost…
Okay, that is fascinating. History is full of pockets of ignorance we simply fill in to the best of our expectation, and the trick is in challenging that expectation, and challenging it well. This is …
These concerns aren't exclusive to stoicism. The 4th century Cynics rejected social conventions and material possessions while embracing the notion of living virtuously with nature. In the 17th centur…
So there's a couple of things to consider. It's usually not just one energy that causes what you're experiencing. It's also usually not just one mechanism that causes what you're experiencing. Human…
>I love all body types. How virtuous!
Hi fellow stoics. I want to share this first book I've written. Hope you find it useful if reading it and helps you on your journey to a virtuous life [https://kdp.amazon.com/amazon-dp-action/us/du…
It can be extremely hard to forgive yourself if you've done something bad or unforgivable. Some can do it, others never get over it. You won't know if you can do it until it happens, so the best th…
Someone who cannot take accountability. Inability to meet expectation is not their fault. Never apologize for what they did. Someone who loves talking about themselves. Someone who is deemed as “cha…
I’d rather make new last moments and find new experiences. All of those experiences—both mistakes and successes—have made me who I am today. I can continue to have more experiences—good and bad—and be…
From the stoic perspective there are no mistakes. Everything that happened in your life is viewed as necessary. Regardless of how you view the event and your emotional impression of it, good bad or in…
I wish you all the best on your journey. > but in the hope that my words of comfort can find you and others I've been fortunate to know impossibly virtuous people. I think this that you said places…
It depends on which age you want an opinion on. (The below is using non-Wittgensteinien language for ease of discussion) I like his later idea that expressions have no objective meaning and that the…
Here’s a entirely different perspective: It’s your family, and dude, we don’t get to pick’em. My Mom died, and my 40f. Cousin started banging my step dad who was like 72m. I was incensed, my sainte…
Socrates was saying that you need to apply the Socratic method to your life and determine the extent of your own ignorance. To Socrates, ignorance is vice and wisdom is virtue. If you live an unexam…
I think that would be a sensible way of looking at it - at least for "bad fortune". Other commenters here have mentioned a mapping onto indifferents, so "bad fortune" would be indifferents wrongly int…
> how Stoicism deals with the feeling that your current life is built on a non-virtuous/irrational foundation - and how to act accordingly. No one is born wise. Therefore, all lives - without excepti…
Love the username. I watched a movie by the same name back in the 50s or 60s when I was a wee boy, LOL! Sounds like you're ready for a change, eh? Since you know a little about tarot, that could be…
Certainly the "manosphere" club contains people who would fit a broad definition of bad, but I think many of them (perhaps more-so the followers than the leaders) have simply been sold a bill of goods…
A big part of Stoicism is about forming good judgments in order to avoid suffering. In this case, you've made a judgement that "regret is holding you back". This probably isn't a good judgment. Many…
Try looking at this not from the perspective of emotion, but the perspective of value. Emotion doesn't lead us, it doesn't influence us, it provides a mental perception of the judgment already made. M…
Try a different style of meditation. The following has a progression that enables you to do this at work without being in a trance (meditative state). Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take …
I don't fully understand what you're trying to ask? You're either trying to live a more virtuous life, or you're not. I'm not sure that someone's motivation matters if the end result is virtue. Stoi…
From a Stoic perspective, we are all striving for virtue, some of us just have a better understanding of it than others. For example, someone who studies Stoicism because they think it will make them…
Much like altruism, I would argue there's also no such thing as pure stoicism. Try as we might, emotion, doubt, self-interest etc. will always seep into our day-to-day lives. We can only attempt to ma…
Stoicism isn't a religion, what you believe doesn't matter only your actions do. To be virtuous you act virtuous, why you act virtuous doesn't matter
It seems to me your question is, within the scope of Stoicism, how can I know I'm doing the right things for the right reasons? This is a fantastic question. There's so much to this, but I will offer …
Oh my friend, the level of deception and disrespect she levied on you is tremendous. You cannot start healing until you are out of her presence. I want to make a couple recommendations. First, plea…
I watched it, and it further proved to me that it's a lot easier to make money on the internet if you have no morals. These guys target vulnerable young men and women and profit from it. There's nothi…
It is is helpful to acknowledge but just remember context is king. If you were talking to Alex originally it would be one case but what you offered to the contextual audience was good for the scope. T…
Stoicism is more about being virtuous than a step by step way to live. Be honest, do the thing that is in front of you. Do right by others. Do the good that you can. Do not judge without understanding…
Stoicism does not encourage self sufficiency, or if it does, only in an ethical sense (i.e., only you can decide to seek virtue). In practical affairs the Stoics actually preach the opposite, in the s…
It's a little unclear: are your obaessive thoughts about getting married to fill a void in your life? Or about something else? A lot of stoicism is about managing your impressions to respond to tho…
https://www.reddit.com/r/gatewaytapes/s/sgLTr4zf30 Here is a written step by step guide. I’m still animating and drawing the other stuff. Eventually I can make my studies full time and share with th…
Covert Ns, ime, have a foot on the "dark tetrad". They're high in sadism, they coldly plan their acts to hurt you, or even more than "simply" hurt. They quietly, for example, poison you/your bel…
hahahahaha i can answer this question. in fact i did answer this exact question myself. Virtue is not a prescription society can give you. it's a lesson you must take upon yourself. are you at this c…
No, you are not meant to be alone. That's one explanation you're considering, but it's not the only explanation that fits your experiences. You are sensitive to energy. You have one technique that yo…
The logos wants us to be virtuous as it is the greatest good. When we take responsibility, act with virtue, and focus on what we can control, we live with “arête” - a Greek word for a type of Nirvana.…
So is happiness only wanting what you have? Is that contentment or happiness? Is happiness found through that mindshift by all persons, or only those who have their basic needs met? How does one defin…
I'm sorry you're going through this. We were going to couples counseling, but after the second session we got in a fight and I broke down. The weight of it all just came crashing down on me and I crie…
.1.How can a virtuous action cause suffering? Through ignorance. We should only look for the good and the bad in our own actions, not the actions of others. This teaching is meant to keep us high-min…
Yes, by letting things come up and be seen, they aren't being repressed (which doesn't work). By not obsessing over them you allowed them their appropriate amount of space and time and attention (bei…
I am taking this from Keimpe Algra's chapter on theology in [The Cambridge Companion to the Stoics](https://www.cambridge.org/core/books/cambridge-companion-to-the-stoics/01BCAA241D1D6569C70230A7CA594…
I think we all present ourselves as part of a performance. That's not derogatory, it's just the nature of human interaction. You play the part at your job or at home of the person you want to be. You …
For the Stoic the only good and bad are found in a person's moral character. Do you make your choices and judgments using reason being consistent with nature, and filtered through the lens of wisdom, …